Well.. she jus wanna be friends with you.. though both can't be lover.. It's good that she don't mind and still wnna be friends afterall..Originally posted by simulacrum:i was rejected and because i still had some of her cds with me, i sms her to tell her that i would just drop them outside her place. at least i feel that though im rude, at least none of us has to deal with the possible awkwardness if we see each other..(and really because i still like her and i thought if i don't see her, it will be less painful). however she replied that she does not mind meeting up with me. it's up to me to decide whether to meet up or not.
i really feel that im such a failure because she can be so magnanimous whereas im so narrow minded and at the same time, i was kinda surprised by her response because i thought she would try to keep a distance from me..
can anyone tell me why im such a failure???![]()
if they make it very clear to you that.. is impossible for both.. then she won't lead you on in any way.. you jus have to find and source for your own life again..Originally posted by simulacrum:i also feel that i'm a failure because i do not how how to reply her.. should i try to be more magnanimous and meet up with her (and try to bear with the possible awkwardness and pain) or should i just simply leave the stuffs at her place and not see her at all? i had thought about it the whole nite and i still do not have an answer!!!
why do girls still wanna be friends with guys they had rejected?
do they really get such a kick from looking at the guys' dejected looks?
arent they even worried about leading the guy on, especially if they know that the guy likes her?
I feel tat mayb is coz u still lik her, tat's why u feel tat it is hard to meet up wif her lor... Nope, i dun think tat u R a failure lor,,, It is really hard to accept a rejection.Originally posted by simulacrum:i also feel that i'm a failure because i do not how how to reply her.. should i try to be more magnanimous and meet up with her (and try to bear with the possible awkwardness and pain) or should i just simply leave the stuffs at her place and not see her at all? i had thought about it the whole nite and i still do not have an answer!!!
why do girls still wanna be friends with guys they had rejected?
do they really get such a kick from looking at the guys' dejected looks?
arent they even worried about leading the guy on, especially if they know that the guy likes her?
No you're not a failure! Come on, I mean look guys are always at an advantage when it comes to courting a relationship. Yes, some of us might have more rejections than others but you win some and you lose some, you can't win them all... most impt, is to keep trying!Originally posted by simulacrum:i was rejected and because i still had some of her cds with me, i sms her to tell her that i would just drop them outside her place. at least i feel that though im rude, at least none of us has to deal with the possible awkwardness if we see each other..(and really because i still like her and i thought if i don't see her, it will be less painful). however she replied that she does not mind meeting up with me. it's up to me to decide whether to meet up or not.
i really feel that im such a failure because she can be so magnanimous whereas im so narrow minded and at the same time, i was kinda surprised by her response because i thought she would try to keep a distance from me..
can anyone tell me why im such a failure???![]()
Originally posted by SunRisE:if they make it very clear to you that.. is impossible for both.. then she won't lead you on in any way.. you jus have to find and source for your own life again..
rather than dwelling into this.. be brave and face it..
you are running away... she's not the only girl around..
you find another better one.. you seems very reluctant to be friends with her..
your concept is.. cannot get her.. mean bye bye for good.. and forever.. is obviously.. that you jus wan her to be your gf.. and that's it..
cannot get.. mean the end..
Some people can accept it, some people can't... If you belong to one who can't accept such, then don't make things difficult for yourself... Just leave the things by her doors...Originally posted by simulacrum:i also feel that i'm a failure because i do not how how to reply her.. should i try to be more magnanimous and meet up with her (and try to bear with the possible awkwardness and pain) or should i just simply leave the stuffs at her place and not see her at all? i had thought about it the whole nite and i still do not have an answer!!!
my signature already tells you my gender!!Originally posted by simulacrum:thanks for the replies so far..i guess you are a gal and i really appreciate the alternate views from the opposite gender..
i guess im being very mao2 dun4 all these while. we started out as friends and i had feelings for her after some time down the road. on one hand i do not wish to lose her as a friend but on the other, i also feel that after telling her how i feel about her and got rejected, it is not possible to pretend nothing happened and continue our friendship in the same way..
i guess "i don't want the friendship to be affected. you get what i mean?" statment from her means that she had already made things very clear to me.. it must be my narrow-minded nature to think that there might be any misunderstandings in the future..
Originally posted by simulacrum:i was rejected and because i still had some of her cds with me, i sms her to tell her that i would just drop them outside her place. at least i feel that though im rude, at least none of us has to deal with the possible awkwardness if we see each other..(and really because i still like her and i thought if i don't see her, it will be less painful). however she replied that she does not mind meeting up with me. it's up to me to decide whether to meet up or not.
i really feel that im such a failure because she can be so magnanimous whereas im so narrow minded and at the same time, i was kinda surprised by her response because i thought she would try to keep a distance from me..
can anyone tell me why im such a failure???![]()