how to overcome jealousy and insecurity in love?
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i realise alot ppl in here have tis kinda problem..it happens to mi oso..can anyone give advise on tat? i think i need to overcome all tis if not i will not b the real mi again..
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Firstly, you need to have trust. Remember, if you love the person, trust him/her wholeheartedly. I know its hard to put it into action, but if you don't trust him/her, this relationship is a no-no right from the start. On the other hand, the problem might not lie in you. It might be that your partner has a alot of friends of the opposite sex. Get his/her assurance and again, trust him. Unless you see it with your own eyes, don't doubt him/her as that will definately strain the relationship. TRUST is the word, good luck to you.Originally posted by tissue:i realise alot ppl in here have tis kinda problem..it happens to mi oso..can anyone give advise on tat? i think i need to overcome all tis if not i will not b the real mi again.. 
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If you don't love yourself.. or have confidence in yourself..
There will always be insecurites etc. The problem is in you. I reckon you should be focusing on what would make you feel better about yourself? -
so how do i make myself to feel better? build up my confidence?Originally posted by Lingos:If you don't love yourself.. or have confidence in yourself..
There will always be insecurites etc. The problem is in you. I reckon you should be focusing on what would make you feel better about yourself? -
Build up your trust and confidence level...Originally posted by tissue:i realise alot ppl in here have tis kinda problem..it happens to mi oso..can anyone give advise on tat? i think i need to overcome all tis if not i will not b the real mi again..
Lead your life as usual.. Love yourself more..
Don't only jus see your partner as your bf/gf..
see him/her as a very best friend of yours.. someone who you can always turn to and talk to...
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Jealousy is usually quite a normal part of a human's nature... Some people simply can't push it out of their system... And suppressing it might not really be such a wise choice neither.... Afterall, it's a feeling...Originally posted by tissue:i realise alot ppl in here have tis kinda problem..it happens to mi oso..can anyone give advise on tat? i think i need to overcome all tis if not i will not b the real mi again..
What you can do instead is to avoid turning your jealousy into nasty actions, outburst of emotions or harsh wildful exchange of words.... Just remember. What done CANNOT be undone.
Regarding insecurity in love... It's really quite a vast topic which would probably not be so simply covered in here. It would depends on the kinda relationship and situation you're in. The mentality of both parties and maybe even close ones around you...
Some have suggested low confidence in yourself... Well.. It could very well be one of them? Seek around and hear more on this topic... See if they fit into your own picture... This problem would usually take such a fair amount of experience and maturity in thinking... Do lots of reviews and soul-search... Try to involve the other party (not in a demanding and forceful way) if possible...
Hope things shall get better for you in time to come?
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Actually jealousy & insercurity exists in everyone, jus tat such emtions are hightlighted when one is in a relationship..Originally posted by tissue:i realise alot ppl in here have tis kinda problem..it happens to mi oso..can anyone give advise on tat? i think i need to overcome all tis if not i will not b the real mi again..
As for being prone to certain emotions, i actually hate the type of comments ppl usually giv.. ur insercurity & jealousy is a result of ur low confidence/esteem; hence its actually UR problem, not the other party..
who knows.. being prone to certain feelings/emotions cld be a result of genetic inclinations. Yrs ago, ppl also thought depression was usually an indication of character weakness or simply lunancy.
for ur case, it may help by having a heart-to-heart talk with ur Bf.. voice out all the issues that hav been troubling u, the thks that hav been causing u to feel insercure..
the tone of ur conversation, however, has to be 1 of serious but not argumentative or accusing; let him rely feel tat u are nt trying to pick a fight, but resolving certain issues because u rely care for tis relationship.
gd luck -
Look for a trustworthy guy, one who is not a flirt, not so good looking as not to attract girls
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when u met the (true)love of ur life
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Go and read the book "Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus". It will give you insight into the different stages of a relationship, and suggestions on how to deal with it.
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in a relationship, there are two parties.
u, being one of the 2 parties, only have ONE duty, which is to love the other half whole heartedly. the other half, only has ONE duty as well, which is to love you whole heartedly. in this way, the relationship can be balanced and stress-free..
but often, people end up doing double jobs. what do i mean by that? it simply means that besides doing the duty of loving the other half, you worry if the other half is doing his/her part of loving you anot. this causes stress and ultimately insecurity and jealousy.
so, think simple. jus love each other! -
Have you realised being emotional could bring trouble to self and in turn hurt love ones around?Originally posted by Infernal Affairs:Actually jealousy & insercurity exists in everyone, jus tat such emtions are hightlighted when one is in a relationship..
As for being prone to certain emotions, i actually hate the type of comments ppl usually giv.. ur insercurity & jealousy is a result of ur low confidence/esteem; hence its actually UR problem, not the other party..
who knows.. being prone to certain feelings/emotions cld be a result of genetic inclinations. Yrs ago, ppl also thought depression was usually an indication of character weakness or simply lunancy.
for ur case, it may help by having a heart-to-heart talk with ur Bf.. voice out all the issues that hav been troubling u, the thks that hav been causing u to feel insercure..
the tone of ur conversation, however, has to be 1 of serious but not argumentative or accusing; let him rely feel tat u are nt trying to pick a fight, but resolving certain issues because u rely care for tis relationship.
gd luck
Insecurities and Jealousy
Could be caused by
-bad experience and learnt only the negetive (most people have this)
-Possessiveness
-Build up of dependance
-Values
-Idealistic
-Lack of social Circle
-Low Esteem (being low esteem could hinder many social issues hence leads to small circle of friends.)
I agree that the fault doesn't entirely lies on her.
But she could have done something about it then to ponder so much. I've experienced that before and that person just freaked me out.
The guy is insensitive or maybe have took her for granted.
As of my values, i always believe that it's a choice to love to sort things out and retain the relationship.
May i also suggest you read this thread up? (click on them)
Relationship Issue #3 - Find Out Woman With Excess Baggage Vicious Cycle -
tissue i know ur condition here..
the best way to make ur BF feel secure abt ur dates w ur frens is to COMPLAIN ur fren to HIM
at least he`ll feel that u enjoy bein w him most