Originally posted by Si|verGa|:
if i rem rightly, it's virgo. ya she told me the guy is quite shy, so i think he shld be quite reserved type.
well, my fren told me is dat they guy actually say he like her but said want to be together but be in secret coz he dun12 let other knw. i find tis really abit weird.. den after, i think the frenxs ard them knw dat my fren like him so the frenxs tease them bah, i guess dat make the guy uneasy den began to avoid my fren & say my fren break her promise.
my fren was puzzled so after asking, the guy say it supposed to be a secret btw them but nw the frenxs knw so he quite upset abt it. he say ppl will gossip abt them coz the wide age differ. in my view, i think tis guy care abit 2 much abt others' views..
so nw since the guy is avoiding her, wad shld my fren do? act blur or wad?
i dun get wad u mean abt alternate?
I think your friend's thinking is more unique. A litte more open and readily accept such ideas. The guy on the other hand probably might have a little bit of generation gap?
Anyway you can find out the horoscope of the guy? Not sure about his initial thinkings... But main possibilities may be...
1. He wants it to be an 'underground' relationship. Meaning he might not really be into a proper relationship. (this is hard to judge for now if he's this type as such mentality would really varies among different people)
2. Consciously or subconsciously, he's applying
'age gap pull technique'. Meaning he love your friend and don't wanna let go. Somehow figuring that though things might not be so readily accepted by the society now, in about 5 years' time or so when your friend matures even more, their age gap would appear relatively smaller? By then the relationship can develop into a more open one. Now he perhaps is thinking of nurturing it 1st.
'Alternate' is a method for your friend to give up on him? But guess both of you don't want that huh?
The guy's avoiding her might be out of fear (in case 1 mentioned above) of his intentions leaking out / guilt of such a thought. OR just a MINDSET that such a form of relationship won't be accepted (especially now that case 2 is exposed and lost).
MINDSET is something which is usually HARD to change. Especially as you AGE. Especially if you're someone who's not used to such.
Do you think your friend can CHANGE his MINDSET? From here... I figured that one of the best chances would be to OVERWHELM him with LOVE... So that it'll become a HEART over MIND situation. The rest can slowly work on it...