How fast is fast???
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As they always say...
We have to know someone for certain amount of
time and to know them better
before getting into a relationship.
And to some....they know each other for like a month or two then
they started a relationship together.
Some are even faster, 1-3 days and they are together.
Is it the spark that started it off, love at first sight.
When we do not know each other well and get together.,
is there a certain amount of risk? Yes or no? Or maybe after
getting together and start learning about each other and slowly
proceed to next level?
What are the views of the forumers here? -
case to case basis leh.
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IMOH
time and age are of minimal importance to LOVE.
it`s the feelings that count
however the purest of love are all tested w time to show it`s brightest glamour -
Originally posted by Seventh_Son:As they always say...
We have to know someone for certain amount of
time and to know them better
before getting into a relationship.
And to some....they know each other for like a month or two then
they started a relationship together.
Some are even faster, 1-3 days and they are together.
Is it the spark that started it off, love at first sight.
When we do not know each other well and get together.,
is there a certain amount of risk? Yes or no? Or maybe after
getting together and start learning about each other and slowly
proceed to next level?
What are the views of the forumers here?
At least, three months would be nice. Anything within one month is a risk. Of course, it doesn't mean relationship don't last or whatsoever if that happens. Think it as a net - the big chunk are caught in the net, although smaller rubbish slip through. Then, during the relationship, you have to clear them manually.
Cheers -
Well..true case on case basis.
Some fall in love the moment they met and it lasted forever.
Some fall in love the moment they met and it lasted just a few months.
Some knew each other for a long time and get together they lasted forever.
Some knew each other for a long time and get together and never lasted.
Some knew each other for a short time and get together and lasted forever.
Some knew each other for a short time and get together and never lasted.
I think its more of like a Risk taking.
I think every relationship is a Risk.
For my case...i had 3 relationship.
1st - knew for a month and got together last 3 years.
2nd - Knew for a month get together and last for 2 months
3rd Knew for around a year, never really contacted each other until one fine day and started to go after her and it last for 3 months.
Hmm...Whats next? -
All my past relationships r short lived,all traumatic ,i've had enuff!i kept thinking y i had to go thru all that shIt,enuf is enuf! i want to be more heartless...
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Maybe i think have to go thru more.Originally posted by amuletgurl:All my past relationships r short lived,all traumatic ,i've had enuff!i kept thinking y i had to go thru all that shIt,enuf is enuf! i want to be more heartless...
like cats and dogs. They will naturally find a good spot at home to sleep.
all they do is sleep, get petted and a good spot to sleep.
Do we want to end up in this animal relam? I dun want to.
so as human we have to go throught alot of things in order to get stronger
and wiser.
my views lah hehehe -
i know theres more to come,im just 19,experinenced so much,i think even if i get a bf next time,my heart will not be there ,may it take yrs to convince me to trust him 100% of me,but i think i'll holdback alot more each time i witness a new relationship.i really do want to believe theres such thing as real love,u know the old fashion love??? meant to be together n such,but ppl r now up for multiple sex partners,ONS and other kinky stuff,yes yes,it sounds fun,but....lately i've been woken up wif real thoughts abt life and love. i know "the one" will be my last partner of my life,before i die,and lately i got really scared .Cant help thinking so much coz at the moment coz im living on my own away from my family n frens.No one to really advise me when i encounter some hardships.Originally posted by Seventh_Son:Maybe i think have to go thru more.
like cats and dogs. They will naturally find a good spot at home to sleep.
all they do is sleep, get petted and a good spot to sleep.
Do we want to end up in this animal relam? I dun want to.
so as human we have to go throught alot of things in order to get stronger
and wiser.
my views lah hehehe -
i think it takes time to over come it..
me just broke off with my gf last nite..
now i dun feel really hurt but feel like i have lost
something....
now we are friends... -
more cases which got together in a short period are usually LUST in first sight.. but i believe there are LOVE at first sight cases too, but few...
time is not a factor... is how u treasure each other after the initial honeymoon period
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its true....Originally posted by audlenelee:more cases which got together in a short period are usually LUST in first sight.. but i believe there are LOVE at first sight cases too, but few...
time is not a factor... is how u treasure each other after the initial honeymoon period
after the honeymood period is how much one cherished each other. -
Of course... Getting to 'know' each other for months or a certain period of time would sound like a good thing before getting into a relationship... But sometimes it's still 'restricted'... For what you 'know' of someone may not be the same as if you're with him / her... Reasons being that some people choose to treat their friends (or people around them) differently from a bf / gf... And some people don't usually show their true color in front of others... And the period when you're together and 'hot' like honey glue? What do you expect to 'see'...?Originally posted by Seventh_Son:As they always say...
We have to know someone for certain amount of
time and to know them better
before getting into a relationship.
And to some....they know each other for like a month or two then
they started a relationship together.
Some are even faster, 1-3 days and they are together.
Is it the spark that started it off, love at first sight.
When we do not know each other well and get together.,
is there a certain amount of risk? Yes or no? Or maybe after
getting together and start learning about each other and slowly
proceed to next level?
What are the views of the forumers here?
And 'sparks'...? It's a feeling... 'Feeling' can be right at times and at others, they could be wrong...
Risk? Any relationship would involves a certain amount of risk.. It's all just about how ya look at them? -
So do we have to do risk anlysis before getting into a relationship?Originally posted by Devil1976:Of course... Getting to 'know' each other for months or a certain period of time would sound like a good thing before getting into a relationship... But sometimes it's still 'restricted'... For what you 'know' of someone may not be the same as if you're with him / her... Reasons being that some people choose to treat their friends (or people around them) differently from a bf / gf... And some people don't usually show their true color in front of others... And the period when you're together and 'hot' like honey glue? What do you expect to 'see'...?
And 'sparks'...? It's a feeling... 'Feeling' can be right at times and at others, they could be wrong...
Risk? Any relationship would involves a certain amount of risk.. It's all just about how ya look at them?
haha
Well...I think....spending more time to know each other is a good idea.
But sometimes...one will just want to act as fast as possible and get their prey and make them his trophy.
For I believed, Fast Love or Slow Love.
The most important thing is that when getting
together one have to learn about the other party slowly.
Well its just my view
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What is yours...no matter what it will still be yours....
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i feel that in order for a relationship to last long need two hands to clapOriginally posted by Seventh_Son:As they always say...
We have to know someone for certain amount of
time and to know them better
before getting into a relationship.
And to some....they know each other for like a month or two then
they started a relationship together.
Some are even faster, 1-3 days and they are together.
Is it the spark that started it off, love at first sight.
When we do not know each other well and get together.,
is there a certain amount of risk? Yes or no? Or maybe after
getting together and start learning about each other and slowly
proceed to next level?
What are the views of the forumers here?
both of them need to contributes and it takes time to get to know tt person well
sometimes u may know tt person for donkey years but u mat not know him/her tt well time and environment surrounding could easily change a person so there's gd n bad to start a relationship fast. the foundation of the relationship must be firm not easily been blown away -
i believe it takes time de, no time, bye bye. anyways, my classmate stead is like 2 days noe le, den stead le. but they both happy go lucky type, now all nice and curdly, bt i wonder how long will they last.
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Risk analysis? Well.. Many things are much not expectable when it happens... But of course, if you're heading for a relationship with a very slim chance of survival, you're just involving yourself more work? Plus and minus, worth or not.. Up to individuals to judge for themselves...Originally posted by Seventh_Son:So do we have to do risk anlysis before getting into a relationship?
haha
Well...I think....spending more time to know each other is a good idea.
But sometimes...one will just want to act as fast as possible and get their prey and make them his trophy.
For I believed, Fast Love or Slow Love.
The most important thing is that when getting
together one have to learn about the other party slowly.
Well its just my view
As for getting to know each other slowly...
That's always the story.... And people at times change... So try to know your partner.. CONSTANTLY... Ya... It can be a tiring job... But someone would still have to foot the bill yeah? And besides... It's quite equivalent to the amount of interest you've got in her....? 
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A few days to 1-2 mths is too fast. U don't really get to know the person well. It is just physical attraction. Better to go slow, start as friends, date as a group or single for 1 yr. before even considering on going steady. Check whether he shares the same values/compatibility/religion/family backgrd as u + whether he has the qualities of a good bf.
U rush into a relationship too soon, u end up with a break up. -
thanksOriginally posted by gerrykoh:A few days to 1-2 mths is too fast. U don't really get to know the person well. It is just physical attraction. Better to go slow, start as friends, date as a group or single for 1 yr. before even considering on going steady. Check whether he shares the same values/compatibility/religion/family backgrd as u + whether he has the qualities of a good bf.
U rush into a relationship too soon, u end up with a break up.
it makes sense.
But nothing is certain in this world.
So fast or slow...it really depends on what has been programmed for u -
For me i din really noe my bf when we first started. It's is just the feeling dat make the relationship started. Initially was the honeymoon period, it's as time goes when i start to learn more abt him.
Frankly i dislike many of his habits when i first learn abt them(even till now i still dislike some of them) but as the relationship grows deeper, i learnt to accept them. guess that's wat love is abt to accept the person for who that person is.
It's been 5 yrs plus and our relationship still last so dat prove time isn't really a factor. but u do need time to understand and accommodate each other. Also a relationship is definitely not smooth sailing always, it's thru all the "storms" when u realise how deep is the love in between. -
i feel the same way..me having alot of problems with my gf..Originally posted by ~Lyn~:
For me i din really noe my bf when we first started. It's is just the feeling dat make the relationship started. Initially was the honeymoon period, it's as time goes when i start to learn more abt him.
Frankly i dislike many of his habits when i first learn abt them(even till now i still dislike some of them) but as the relationship grows deeper, i learnt to accept them. guess that's wat love is abt to accept the person for who that person is.
It's been 5 yrs plus and our relationship still last so dat prove time isn't really a factor. but u do need time to understand and accommodate each other. Also a relationship is definitely not smooth sailing always, it's thru all the "storms" when u realise how deep is the love in between.
and now for the moment i just wished for my gf to be half as understanding enough as you gd enuff le.. -
As they said....nothing it smooth or easy.
too much easy life makes you a weak person. -
Dun worry so much.. i believe she will one day.. give her some time to learn.. i learnt it the hard way too. It's not easy to compromise always. i'm still hoping for the better though. Cos my bf have yet to really settle down. juz waiting for the day to come.. Cheer up ya? look at things frm the brighter side of view. all the best!Originally posted by agk_titan:i feel the same way..me having alot of problems with my gf..
and now for the moment i just wished for my gf to be half as understanding enough as you gd enuff le..