She's making my skool life hell. Help!
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I'm no longer talking to my friend but she likes my other friends. She is always asking them if they want to go to dinner with her and if they wana go to town on saturdays, even tho she knows i've already asked them. She told them that i was using them so i wouldn't have to be on my own in skool time.She's taking all my friends from me. Wot can i do? Every1 I talk to, she does. The other day she got her sister to send me an answer phone message calling me a baby. it cost me loads. She just won't leave me alone to get on with my life. She's making it hell. Wot can i do? :-(
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huh?
what's going on?
both of you cannot have the same friends? -
I'm not jealous it's just she is trying to get them to not be friends with me by saying i'm using them. She wants me to be on my own & doesnt like it that i'm friends with the people she's friends with.
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to be brutally frank, one or both of you need to grow up a little.. no.. a lot..
face value, from what you wrote, she needs to grow up a little more than you.. -
y do i need to grow up? She's the one that sent me a message b4 calling me an anorexic bitch and a loner and a load of other stuff. And she's the 1 that got her sister to leave me an answer phone message calling me a baby.
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you're the worried one..
try ignoring her or just asking her what the heck is going on?
bring either a really trusted friend and a total stranger to the both of you as witnesses..Originally posted by worried:y do i need to grow up? She's the one that sent me a message b4 calling me an anorexic bitch and a loner and a load of other stuff. And she's the 1 that got her sister to leave me an answer phone message calling me a baby. -
wot's the point in writing a quote if ur not gona answer the question? Y do i need to grow up?
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because you're letting someone scare you with childish behaviour..
p.s.
sorry for being brutal but being scared and giving into panic is when you lose.. in some things, there are winners and losers.. win by being a good friend to your friends you have now... so much so that they will scoff at her if she tries anything malicious..
most of all, try to solve the problem by figuring out what triggered her lunacy... then do what is necessary..Originally posted by worried:wot's the point in writing a quote if ur not gona answer the question? Y do i need to grow up? -
because you are in panic, calm down, if those r your friends, they won't leave you alone, if they do, well, you know how much they value you.Originally posted by worried:wot's the point in writing a quote if ur not gona answer the question? Y do i need to grow up?
besides, if you want revenge, you can do the same to her, its a fair world, for example, y she so despo, and crap. but please don't because what different you are from her if you do that? im just telling you that because thats to prove that earth is round, it will end up the same spot. (i still need to convince myself though, so we're all working hard in growing up hehe.)
dun think too much on the issue, the more you feel affected, the more reasons she will gloat over you. just screw them and enjoy your life, den maybe laugh at her when u feel like it.
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Try not to be afraid of losing your friends to her. If u are sincere & caring, your friends will not abandon u. No use fighting with her & letting her make your life miserable. Go & get to know new friends
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she is the one that is actually afraid of lonely.. and no friends.. NOT YOU! That's why she doing all these.. she doesn't wan to be left out.. she wants to have all the friends.. She's jealous of you.. she feels that you are always the limelight.. the main "actress" where as she's always the supporting "actress"..Originally posted by worried:I'm no longer talking to my friend but she likes my other friends. She is always asking them if they want to go to dinner with her and if they wana go to town on saturdays, even tho she knows i've already asked them. She told them that i was using them so i wouldn't have to be on my own in skool time.She's taking all my friends from me. Wot can i do? Every1 I talk to, she does. The other day she got her sister to send me an answer phone message calling me a baby. it cost me loads. She just won't leave me alone to get on with my life. She's making it hell. Wot can i do? :-(
Now that she wanna step above you.. but doing such things to hurt your friendship between you and your friends.. this is the DOG-EAT-DOG world.. from here you can know what kind of person she is... her real character.. her real personality.. If she can do this to you.. she will do it again on another friend..
However.. if your friends chose to believe her.. let them go.. you know how much they actually treaaure the friendship you all have.. you know how much trust they have in you.. They listen to only one side of her story and not yours.. These kind of friends i rather u dun wan oso no lost! If they are your true friends.. they will listen to your side of story.. and see if there's anythin they can help.. or solve for you.. Afterall.. everyone is still friends..
Jus continue your life.. no matter how much she torture you.. or make a nuisance out of herself.. jus don't bother... Your conscience is clear.. not HER! she's always living in fear.. cos one day ppl.. will knw that she's actually out to do such things.. jus to get rid of you.. Live as per normal everyday.. SHow her that you aren't afraid of her.. The more you become more coward and frightened.. the more she will eat you up.. and thinks that she won!!
DUn ever let her feel that.. brace up yourself.. stand on your both feet.. be firm.. be agressive.. but no VIOLENT!! Be sure and confidence that you never do such things to your friends.. Make known to them that all these isn't true.. If they still chose to believe on the rumours.. let them be.. One day they will suffer the same fate as you.. Warn them and give advices to them if possible.. had them watch out for this girl.. she can do anything within her means..
Lastly.. this rather kind of childish... to play such a game.. in my opinion.. i guess only pri sch kids will ever do that.. if both of you are old enough.. then see how immature both are... *sorry if i offend* this is a small problem.. you still can get your friends.. out of school.. join outside activities you definitely make friends.. then she cant interfere oso.. cos.. she no longer know your friends..
Cheers..
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errr....did you try praying?
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Reminds me of the movie 'POISON IVY'...?Originally posted by worried:I'm no longer talking to my friend but she likes my other friends. She is always asking them if they want to go to dinner with her and if they wana go to town on saturdays, even tho she knows i've already asked them. She told them that i was using them so i wouldn't have to be on my own in skool time.She's taking all my friends from me. Wot can i do? Every1 I talk to, she does. The other day she got her sister to send me an answer phone message calling me a baby. it cost me loads. She just won't leave me alone to get on with my life. She's making it hell. Wot can i do? :-( -
There're bound to be a few of such people in this world... Just that you happens to bump into one of them...Originally posted by worried:I'm not jealous it's just she is trying to get them to not be friends with me by saying i'm using them. She wants me to be on my own & doesnt like it that i'm friends with the people she's friends with.
So how old are you and her? -
Yah sound really childish the behaviour. Thought this kind of don't friend u don't friend me kind of thing only occur in primary schools?
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wot does that mean?Originally posted by Ole:Thought this kind of don't friend u don't friend me kind of thing only occur in primary schools? -
use this word,
ig·nore ( P ) Pronunciation Key (g-nôr, -nr)
tr.v. ig·nored, ig·nor·ing, ig·nores
To refuse to pay attention to; disregard
Life would be so much easier ~~
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One advice, Ignore HER and her childish behaviour.Originally posted by worried:I'm no longer talking to my friend but she likes my other friends. She is always asking them if they want to go to dinner with her and if they wana go to town on saturdays, even tho she knows i've already asked them. She told them that i was using them so i wouldn't have to be on my own in skool time.She's taking all my friends from me. Wot can i do? Every1 I talk to, she does. The other day she got her sister to send me an answer phone message calling me a baby. it cost me loads. She just won't leave me alone to get on with my life. She's making it hell. Wot can i do? :-(
Continue the friendship with your other friends, if your other friends start to despise you because of her...then I must say that your other friends are so not worth your time and attention. Dump those friends if they ever despise you after being influenced by your friend.
Stay happy and be confident in yourself. Once your friend know that she cannot piss you off, she will stop it eventually. Never allow your peace to be disturbed by anyone and you must be firm in your mind and heart to achieve this.
I know it will not be easy for you, so I wish you all the best and good luck to maintain your peace and self confident and find happiness within yourself. -
Hey i really empathise with you. I kena the same thing when i was in primary one! There was really a shitty thing to happen.
Doooooooooooooooooon't get bother with such people. The more you get bothered, the more you are letting her succeed in her schemes. If you know you have nothing to fear or hide, no matter how much she bad-mouthing can't really affect you in the long-run. In the end, people will know the truth.
You can try explaining this problem with your friends and tell them what really happen. I don't think it's wise to make enemies with your classmates openly if you think you are at the losing ground. Do it discreetly! watch mean girl liao?
See how those girls bitch!! Don't be afraid of her k. Sometime you need to stand up on your own when you are being attacked.
I really pity your that friend. she is a loser! But why she has to do this to you? -
whats wrong
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damn this happened to me before. it didnt turn out well for me though. loss all my close friends because tt sltu went about telling shit about me.
i feel for you. all i think u shld do is go up to her and give her a real tight slap .
sorry.. got a bit emotionally uptight.. still cant forget what happened to me... but ignoring or not bothering about her is the last thing you should do. because even if you ignore her, it doesnt mean your friends will. and if she goes around saying shit about you to your friends, one day you'll lose all your friends like what happened to me.
good luck to u. all the best and best for you. -
Be sincere towards your friends...
Just be yourself.
I believe your friends will truely know what type of person u r...
If everything really turns out badly, at the most look for some other friends...
join more activities to get new friends...