I think I'm turning gay

• The Den

  18 Jul 04, 02:21

  
  Had a bad r/s in the past with a lady, she left me couple of years ago
  
  Entered army, some how I had developed a liking for my platoon mate. He is affectionate and has the qualities I want in a partner.
  
  We hang out wif each other alot, and to be truthful, I like to look at him when he sleeps (we sleep side of each other)
  
  Wat are the symptons that u r gay? can share a little?
  
  Or can some one just offer some good advice?
  
  
• ditzy

  18 Jul 04, 02:23

  I think you're just lonely. Sounds more like just good buddies to me.
• I-like-flings(m)

  18 Jul 04, 02:24

  think sexually lor.... if u can accept being sexually involved with a guy.. then i think u are a gay already lor.. if not..... maybe u are just to lonely nowadays and since u in camp everyday and face him alot... then... some special brotherhood can be formed what...
• wuming78

  18 Jul 04, 02:27

  Originally posted by The Den:

  Had a bad r/s in the past with a lady, she left me couple of years ago
  
  Entered army, some how I had developed a liking for my platoon mate. He is affectionate and has the qualities I want in a partner.
  
  We hang out wif each other alot, and to be truthful, I like to look at him when he sleeps (we sleep side of each other)
  
  Wat are the symptons that u r gay? can share a little?
  
  Or can some one just offer some good advice?
  
  

  how old r u? perhaps u r jus at the height of ur sexual development and hence developed some curiousity.
  
  and as mentioned, being together with ur plt mate for most of the time adds to this.
  
  can only say I dont think this means conclusively that u r gay. u may just need attention and love, and ur plt mate was able to satisfy ur needs at this current moment.
• The Den

  18 Jul 04, 02:52

  Originally posted by wuming78:

  I'm reaching 22 this yr. Maybe u guys are right, I might be just lonely. But the other day when we hugged I felt so good..
  
  I cant picture having sex wif him, but I did dreamt of kissing him once...
  
  how old r u? perhaps u r jus at the height of ur sexual development and hence developed some curiousity.
  
  and as mentioned, being together with ur plt mate for most of the time adds to this.
  
  can only say I dont think this means conclusively that u r gay. u may just need attention and love, and ur plt mate was able to satisfy ur needs at this current moment.

• Axelheat755

  18 Jul 04, 04:31

  go see MO!! can get down graded!
• mushigen

  18 Jul 04, 04:41

  Originally posted by wuming78:

  can only say I dont think this means conclusively that u r gay. u may just need attention and love, and ur plt mate was able to satisfy ur needs at this current moment.

  Oh please! If a guy needs attention, he could still get from men/women. No problem with that. However, to get LOVE (as in the love we all know, not those parental/friendly) from another man clearly indicates he is attracted sexually to same sex.
  
  
• amuletgurl

  18 Jul 04, 04:49

  if u lust after men,sexual thoughts etc other than abt LOVE,then its quite clear ur turning gay
  if no lust involve,maybe u just admire the qualities he have ,hoping to find the woman who have the similarities to ur fren...
• Magnus

  18 Jul 04, 08:22

  Do u ever have a guy 'best friend' before?
  
• Patrik

  18 Jul 04, 10:16

  Why turn to gay?
  One girl hurt u doesn't mean all girls will hurt u..
  I noe u are afraid to get hurt again...
  I once in fact also considered turning gay when all the girls i liked dun like me...lucky i din...
  Cos now i have found the girl of my life(Thou she aint mine yet) ...
  Dun give up lah..There are alwaz better girls out there u have yet to discover...
• patri_cia

  18 Jul 04, 10:26

  go to gay pubs to test ground. if u have feelings for the ppl there, think more or less you are already
  
• wuming78

  18 Jul 04, 10:35

  Originally posted by mushigen:

  Oh please! If a guy needs attention, he could still get from men/women. No problem with that. However, to get LOVE (as in the love we all know, not those parental/friendly) from another man clearly indicates he is attracted sexually to same sex.
  
  

  there is a difference betw love and lust
• wuming78

  18 Jul 04, 10:36

  Originally posted by The Den:

  I'm reaching 22 this yr. Maybe u guys are right, I might be just lonely. But the other day when we hugged I felt so good..
  
  I cant picture having sex wif him, but I did dreamt of kissing him once...
  
  

  err.. why were u hugging that other day?
• mushigen

  18 Jul 04, 10:45

  Originally posted by wuming78:

  there is a difference betw love and lust

  Agree! But loving and lusting after someone of the same sex have the same meaning.
• wuming78

  18 Jul 04, 10:48

  Originally posted by mushigen:

  Agree! But loving and lusting after someone of the same sex have the same meaning.

  den u dun understand what is love.
  
  in any case its pointless arguing about this, since we all have our own definitions of love, and in the end, "love" is jus a word that tries hard but represent a whole complex suite of feelings we humans have for one another. whether it is love or not does not matter in the sense of the word. what matters is the true feelings.
  
  
• 'm back

  18 Jul 04, 14:28

  
  
  as long as u dun poke his a ss he dun poke ur a ss still okay.
  
  fyi i am worse......i get turned on when i see cats and dogs
• foga

  18 Jul 04, 14:30

  u are not alone.....
• dumbdumb!

  18 Jul 04, 14:39

  Originally posted by 'm back:

  
  
  as long as u dun poke his a ss he dun poke ur a ss still okay.
  
  fyi i am worse......i get turned on when i see cats and dogs

  rofl, yep. definitely worse.
  
  
  hmm.. first off.. forgive the girl who hurt u.
  
  nothing will happen, unless u forgive her from your heart.
  
  forgiveness isn't a feeling, its a will. you must forgive her, regardless of your feelings. we usually dun feel like forgiving ppl wan. so if u wait until feeling come, u most prolly wun forgive her.
  
  2ndly, know you are loved.. sure, some girls hurt u, but doesn't mean you aren't loved. there will be a girl you will love, and will love you for who you are.
  
  this is something i am still struggling, plenty of girls hurt me. but just waiting for the right one
  
• torx

  18 Jul 04, 18:08

  i have a gay friend and ya.. they poke each other a ss . okay back to point, i dun think you are gay since you liked a girl before. maybe you are bisexual?
  
  if you are happy wif a guy, i dun see whats wrong about it. but just make sure you marry a girl in the future.
• motdedog

  19 Jul 04, 03:02

  Originally posted by The Den:
  
  Had a bad r/s in the past with a lady, she left me couple of years ago
  
  Entered army, some how I had developed a liking for my platoon mate. He is affectionate and has the qualities I want in a partner.
  
  We hang out wif each other alot, and to be truthful, I like to look at him when he sleeps (we sleep side of each other)
  
  Wat are the symptons that u r gay? can share a little?
  
  Or can some one just offer some good advice?
  
  

  There you go. You found ur prospective mate.. just not in the *intended* gender that society would prod you towards.
  
  Don't think about ur ability to accept him sleeping with you.
  Instead, consider: Is this the person I wanna share my life with?
  Just my 2cents~
• red_tide24

  19 Jul 04, 14:15

  Originally posted by amuletgurl:

  if u lust after men,sexual thoughts etc other than abt LOVE,then its quite clear ur turning gay
  if no lust involve,maybe u just admire the qualities he have ,hoping to find the woman who have the similarities to ur fren...

  x2
• AzRaeL

  19 Jul 04, 14:23

  welcome to the fabulous sisterhood *LOL*
  look on the bright side, you won't have to waste money on women and perhaps you can find yourself a sugardaddy Stickyrice Queen *LOL*
• Devil1976

  19 Jul 04, 18:58

  Originally posted by The Den:

  Had a bad r/s in the past with a lady, she left me couple of years ago
  
  Entered army, some how I had developed a liking for my platoon mate. He is affectionate and has the qualities I want in a partner.
  
  We hang out wif each other alot, and to be truthful, I like to look at him when he sleeps (we sleep side of each other)
  
  Wat are the symptons that u r gay? can share a little?
  
  Or can some one just offer some good advice?
  
  

  It can be NORMAL, it can be NOT... Depends on how FAR ya go..?
  
  I think FOR YOU... It's really a CHOICE...
  
  THINK FRIENDSHIP... You'll have SO MUCH MORE to GAIN...
  
  Think OTHERWISE... CHANCES are, you'll be BANGING INTO THE WALL SOON...
• drawer

  19 Jul 04, 22:53

  Originally posted by The Den:

  Had a bad r/s in the past with a lady, she left me couple of years ago
  
  Entered army, some how I had developed a liking for my platoon mate. He is affectionate and has the qualities I want in a partner.
  
  We hang out wif each other alot, and to be truthful, I like to look at him when he sleeps (we sleep side of each other)
  
  Wat are the symptons that u r gay? can share a little?
  
  Or can some one just offer some good advice?
  
  

  GAY!!! ....................(Just kidding)
• Axelheat755

  19 Jul 04, 23:02

  go get some pics of naked man. if u can get turn on by those, u r on ur way to gayness. if not then u r just confused of ur own sexuality. it happens to some ppl. u like ur platoon mate probably cos he's friendly, handsome? maybe u idolise him?