Does she love me?
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I love this girl and I noe her thru working together but I never had the chance to talk and interact much with her before that. Then one day i pluck up my courage and ask her out during the school vacations and she agreed. I was damn happy. All the time I spent with her was really awesome and keeps me yearning for more and more. I've asked her out for 7 times, and i will be meeting her tomorrow for the 8th time. I need to do something about it, I just wanna tell her I love her and wanna be more than friends. I don't wanna waste so much time and pain. She's like avoiding me a little after the 7th date as she knows what my intensions are. I believe that she feels for me a little but something is really stopping her. I aint sure what they are. Perhaps she fears of something? Studies or whatsoever? I have no idea and I wanna know so badly... I sms her sweet messages telling her how much i miss her and she gave me neutral responses which keeps me figuring out whether she likes me. You know something, I've a hard time asking her out again after the 7th date, and finally I will get to see her again tomorrow. Before that, she rejected me a couple of times I guess claiming she's really busy and stuffs. All i want to do is to let her know how i feel. I'll be lying if i say i m not afraid of rejection but i gotta take a risk. I don't know what she's really thinking and I believe she doesnt have any relationships before. I'm damn confused and I really really love her. Wad should I really do tomorrow? It's like a make or break day. And after tomorrow I think its harder to ask her out again as the tests are round the corner...
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Originally posted by aintbrave:I have been dating this girl for about a month. My dreams came true when i finally find the courage to ask her out. I noe her thru working but never had the chance to talk and interact much with her before that. Then one day i pluck up my courage and ask her out during the school vacations and she agreed. I was damn happy. The time spent with her was really great. I've asked her out for 7 times, and i will be meeting her tomorrow for the 8th time. I need to do something about it, I just wanna tell her I Love Her and wanna be more than friends. I don't wanna waste so much time and pain. She's like avoiding me a little after the 7th date as she knows what my intensions are. I believe that she feels for me a little but something is really stopping her. I dont know what they are. Perhaps she fears of something? Studies or whatsoever? I have no idea and I wanna know... I sms her sweet messages telling her how much i miss her and she gave me neutral responses. I've a hard time asking her out after the 7th date, I was lucky as she never reject me to meet tomorrow. Before that, she rejected me twice or thrice I guess claiming she's really busy and stuffs. All i want to do is to let her know how i feel. I'll be lying if i say i m not afraid of rejection but i gotta take a risk. I don't know what she's really thinking and I believe she doesnt have any relationships before. I'm damn confused and I really really love her. Wad should I really do tomorrow? It's like a make or break day. And after tomorrow I think its harder to ask her out again as the tests are round the corner...
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Pls dnt be funny... i m really stressed....
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1 month is really too short a time to know...
seriously...
give it time, date her, develop a relationship and friendship with her and try not to be too stressed... -
thanks for the advice. it's true...
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ppl always say that: "Wat's urs will be urs"
But but but, if u dont even try, how do u know whether it belongs to u..... find the right time and moment to express ur undying loVe for her!!!
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if you are going to express your "undying love" make sure you mean it and you're not just saying it...
remember.. forever is a mighty long time! -
study hard my child and be good.
the days ahead are far, wide and long.
u will have your chance with her...
if she is meant to be with you.
love is not only about giving and sharing.....
its about freedom and choice....
something she has to make before accepting you.
you making such a move now what u wan her to fail exam issit? -
so i will just go out with her tomorrow doing nothing special coz I have decided not to come into conclusion so fast. I really cant imagine if she rejected me and I just gotta make our friendship grow further first. I will make it to another level. i really love her but after hearing al of your advices, I decided not to let her noe how i feel for the time being.... thanks guys..
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attaboy...
just be her friend at the moment... until you figure can let her know
Originally posted by aintbrave:so i will just go out with her tomorrow doing nothing special coz I have decided not to come into conclusion so fast. I really cant imagine if she rejected me and I just gotta make our friendship grow further first. I will make it to another level. i really love her but after hearing al of your advices, I decided not to let her noe how i feel for the time being.... thanks guys.. -
wow in 1 month, u asked her out 7 times... That's almost twice a week... well... i dunno about some, but i'll be damn bored to go out with the same person all the time?
All i can say is, u should tell her u like her, BUT DO NOT ASK HER TO BE UR GF YET... tell her u like her. If she still goes out with u after that, then should be no problem le -
I'd agree...
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but that could be shooting himself in the foot, if the gal is shocked at this sudden relevation.
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Originally posted by aintbrave:I love this girl and I noe her thru working together but I never had the chance to talk and interact much with her before that. Then one day i pluck up my courage and ask her out during the school vacations and she agreed. I was damn happy. All the time I spent with her was really awesome and keeps me yearning for more and more. I've asked her out for 7 times, and i will be meeting her tomorrow for the 8th time. I need to do something about it, I just wanna tell her I love her and wanna be more than friends. I don't wanna waste so much time and pain. She's like avoiding me a little after the 7th date as she knows what my intensions are. I believe that she feels for me a little but something is really stopping her. I aint sure what they are. Perhaps she fears of something? Studies or whatsoever? I have no idea and I wanna know so badly... I sms her sweet messages telling her how much i miss her and she gave me neutral responses which keeps me figuring out whether she likes me. You know something, I've a hard time asking her out again after the 7th date, and finally I will get to see her again tomorrow. Before that, she rejected me a couple of times I guess claiming she's really busy and stuffs. All i want to do is to let her know how i feel. I'll be lying if i say i m not afraid of rejection but i gotta take a risk. I don't know what she's really thinking and I believe she doesnt have any relationships before. I'm damn confused and I really really love her. Wad should I really do tomorrow? It's like a make or break day. And after tomorrow I think its harder to ask her out again as the tests are round the corner...
Take haste and your speed would probably ignite flames on your 'wheels'. You are likely to fail if do exactly what you planned to do or if you successful and enters a relationship with her - if she has evolved mindsets previously (wisdom from past relationship experience), it will be difficult to last anything more than 6 - 8 months of relationship.
What you are showing me is how much you wanna possess her, not love her. Think about it.
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give her more time.. this is too rush and hasty for anything to start.. you only talk to you not long.. met her only 7 times.. how much you really understand her.. you see you have asked yourself so much questions about her.. everything is you "think" you are not confident and sure of her even as a friend.. not saying other than that..Originally posted by aintbrave:I love this girl and I noe her thru working together but I never had the chance to talk and interact much with her before that. Then one day i pluck up my courage and ask her out during the school vacations and she agreed. I was damn happy. All the time I spent with her was really awesome and keeps me yearning for more and more. I've asked her out for 7 times, and i will be meeting her tomorrow for the 8th time. I need to do something about it, I just wanna tell her I love her and wanna be more than friends. I don't wanna waste so much time and pain. She's like avoiding me a little after the 7th date as she knows what my intensions are. I believe that she feels for me a little but something is really stopping her. I aint sure what they are. Perhaps she fears of something? Studies or whatsoever? I have no idea and I wanna know so badly... I sms her sweet messages telling her how much i miss her and she gave me neutral responses which keeps me figuring out whether she likes me. You know something, I've a hard time asking her out again after the 7th date, and finally I will get to see her again tomorrow. Before that, she rejected me a couple of times I guess claiming she's really busy and stuffs. All i want to do is to let her know how i feel. I'll be lying if i say i m not afraid of rejection but i gotta take a risk. I don't know what she's really thinking and I believe she doesnt have any relationships before. I'm damn confused and I really really love her. Wad should I really do tomorrow? It's like a make or break day. And after tomorrow I think its harder to ask her out again as the tests are round the corner...
She feels that this might be moving too fast.. that she couldn't accept it.. You have already acknowlegde to her how you feel already.. there's no need for you to declare your love to her.. Unless you are sure of getting her into your hands... then there's where you pop the ultimate one and for all quenstion.. that's the beginning of a new r/s..
Jus be normal.. treat as a friend.. since you already hinted her.. that you kinda of have feelings for her.. let her be more comfortable with you.. whenever you are out together.. dun ever let her feel so stressed so tensed up.. cos in her heart, her mind she knows that she's goin out with someone that likes her.. or she likes too.. she might feel pressurized on that..
if this you can even do it properly.. and you wan to ask her to be more than jus friends.. i guess.. the probability of you failing to get her will be great.. Take it easy.. Feed her slowly.. no point rushing.. you choke her to death.. till she cannot breathe and pass out... is that wat oyu wan?? i believe not..
So like what yunhaier said.. you show possessiveness and not love.. even before the r/s you are being like this.. i reeally wonder what will happen when you both are in the r/s.. will you still be so possessive over her.. this r/s might not long last...
Take care pal.. be sure of yourself.. be confident and have trust!
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could it be u are pushing too hard? try to give her some breathing space, dun think too much on your part and a good and long lasting relationship doesn't come easy and it takes time to develop... seriously
take it easy pal
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Originally posted by Yunhaier:
Not bad...? Take haste and your speed would probably ignite flames on your 'wheels'. You are likely to fail if do exactly what you planned to do or if you successful and enters a relationship with her - if she has evolved mindsets previously (wisdom from past relationship experience), it will be difficult to last anything more than 6 - 8 months of relationship.
[b]What you are showing me is how much you wanna possess her, not love her. Think about it.
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all of u r very right. i did not did anything special today. just watch movie and chill out. yea, i shouldnt rush, i dnt wanna fail...
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Never learn...Originally posted by aintbrave:all of u r very right. i did not did anything special today. just watch movie and chill out. yea, i shouldnt rush, i dnt wanna fail... -
Argh!!... why didn't u tell her u kinda like her???!!! haiz...Originally posted by aintbrave:all of u r very right. i did not did anything special today. just watch movie and chill out. yea, i shouldnt rush, i dnt wanna fail... -
Treasure ur chance...
Dun look back and see this missed opportunity... -
whoa..you're in about the same situation as me..cept that i knew e girl for 3 years and seen and talked to her countless times..but one on one only twice..i guess the advice in this thread applies to me as well eh..
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Girls ain't stupid. She definitely knows ur intentions and if shes ready to accept u she would be giving u hints already. Having doubts means u are highly likely to be rejected. But of course theres nothing wrong with taking that risk if shes worth it. Just take it like a man if u get rejected and she would appreciate u more.
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Yo dude,Originally posted by aintbrave:I love this girl and I noe her thru working together but I never had the chance to talk and interact much with her before that. Then one day i pluck up my courage and ask her out during the school vacations and she agreed. I was damn happy. All the time I spent with her was really awesome and keeps me yearning for more and more. I've asked her out for 7 times, and i will be meeting her tomorrow for the 8th time. I need to do something about it, I just wanna tell her I love her and wanna be more than friends. I don't wanna waste so much time and pain. She's like avoiding me a little after the 7th date as she knows what my intensions are. I believe that she feels for me a little but something is really stopping her. I aint sure what they are. Perhaps she fears of something? Studies or whatsoever? I have no idea and I wanna know so badly... I sms her sweet messages telling her how much i miss her and she gave me neutral responses which keeps me figuring out whether she likes me. You know something, I've a hard time asking her out again after the 7th date, and finally I will get to see her again tomorrow. Before that, she rejected me a couple of times I guess claiming she's really busy and stuffs. All i want to do is to let her know how i feel. I'll be lying if i say i m not afraid of rejection but i gotta take a risk. I don't know what she's really thinking and I believe she doesnt have any relationships before. I'm damn confused and I really really love her. Wad should I really do tomorrow? It's like a make or break day. And after tomorrow I think its harder to ask her out again as the tests are round the corner...
I went thru this b4. Around last yr October, I dated some girl. I brought this girl out a few times, sms her nice things and all that interested guy would do. Then suddenly, she no longer reply back my smses or answering my calls. When I was dating her, she told me that she's single and now I found out that she will be getting engaged to some joker NEXT MONTH. She invited me to come over for some ceremony VIA 3RD PARTY and I will not attend it... cos I'm NOT SINCERE to attend the function. For what?! Shite.. I'm still pissed off abt it
I had a shock when i first found out abt the engagement. It's quite fast cos the gap btwn the time i date her and her engagement is like less than a year and I'm sure that she has been seeing this joker for quite sometime. Why can't she jus be truthful to me??
Regarding abt yr problem, I can safely say that by this time, she knows yr intentions and i'm sure she's no longer sincere with you. Pull out and don't waste time on her but instead, widen yr social circle and I'm sure there are loads of girls who are sincere knowing u and all. If u go on.. it may cause u damage. Chances are that she may have a guy in mind. To change a girl's mind when she already aimed for a guy is very difficult.
Girls are like that one... always insincere and will not tell you her real intentions. All the best in yr aspirations.. -
U guys must learn that u need patience when courting girls. I'm sure she is aware of your feelings from your SMS & she must like u or she won't be going out with u right? Just take it slowly, enjoy each other's company first. This is a chance to get to know each other better. Don't rush her or she will run away. If she is ready, I'm sure she will let u know