$ian ah! alway$ fight over thi$ kind of thing
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just now my parents fought the moment my mum came back from gym after work. over money of course, reason being 1 party is taking money from the other and the 'other' is feeling stressed out.
frankly speaking, seeing this kind of things happening the moment 1 comes home really makes me sian of going home loh. so waht if i have a com and a nice room home. so waht ? -
I live in the same type of family, dad leeches off mum
What can we do? Ask her divorce for 6 years liao she tell me no. blah blah blah... A lot of excuses la...Originally posted by bismarck:just now my parents fought the moment my mum came back from gym after work. over money of course, reason being 1 party is taking money from the other and the 'other' is feeling stressed out.
frankly speaking, seeing this kind of things happening the moment 1 comes home really makes me sian of going home loh. so waht if i have a com and a nice room home. so waht ? -
bis, listen to me. your role as a child is to study hard. hope a family problem doesn't affect you.Originally posted by bismarck:just now my parents fought the moment my mum came back from gym after work. over money of course, reason being 1 party is taking money from the other and the 'other' is feeling stressed out.
frankly speaking, seeing this kind of things happening the moment 1 comes home really makes me sian of going home loh. so waht if i have a com and a nice room home. so waht ?
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frankly speaking, i dont feel like getting married even if my r/s with my gf is stable.
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Mayb is coz of ur parents tat mak u think tis way...Originally posted by bismarck:frankly speaking, i dont feel like getting married even if my r/s with my gf is stable.
But then think positive... U can mak the difference... By not repeatin the mistake ur parents mak... By ensurin tat ur childen have the love n warmth of a family tat u both could provide...
Cheer up... Don be too affected by ur parents... though is hard, but is btw them... N isn ur fault... -
bis my family also facing w/ such probs, but it only serve to spur me to wanna break free fr such nonsense... at times, when we really can do nothing abt it, juz talk to frds? go out? coz ultimately they r still ur family, n u hv to be there for ur mum, she needs u...
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i dunno lah. just that if i want love or warmth, i can find it in a gf and no need a wife. not that i am afraid of commitment, i just fear that she will turn 180deg after it. and the laws dont seem to favour an unhappy marriage. u divorce, u crash and burn. in r/s, u break up, born free.Originally posted by ahkico:Mayb is coz of ur parents tat mak u think tis way...
But then think positive... U can mak the difference... By not repeatin the mistake ur parents mak... By ensurin tat ur childen have the love n warmth of a family tat u both could provide...
Cheer up... Don be too affected by ur parents... though is hard, but is btw them... N isn ur fault... -
True lor...Originally posted by bismarck:i dunno lah. just that if i want love or warmth, i can find it in a gf and no need a wife. not that i am afraid of commitment, i just fear that she will turn 180deg after it. and the laws dont seem to favour an unhappy marriage. u divorce, u crash and burn. in r/s, u break up, born free.
The commitment thingy really kinda of turns people off... But then gals... They always want commitment de... Lik tat doesn seems fair unless tat is wat she wants too...
For me also the same... Once married, i wouldn accept divorce, etc... Mayb i too old fashion liao... But i belive marriage is forever...
Mayb now is tat coz u r goin thru a rough patch... So tat makes u uncertain... Tak ur time, and tak things as it comes along...
Who knows, mayb when u get older... U may start to yearn to start a family... Mayb a lot of thing we say now we tot it would be wat we want in the future... But as we grow each day, month, yr... I belive tat our thinkin will soon differs...
Relax... N jus tak things as it comes along... Don force urself to do things tat u don lik...
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remember the money i told u i got ? at times i feel my own money isnt impt and i want to give up my savings to her, not much in all. just small change to waht they owe. but the feeling hurts.Originally posted by hopy:bis my family also facing w/ such probs, but it only serve to spur me to wanna break free fr such nonsense... at times, when we really can do nothing abt it, juz talk to frds? go out? coz ultimately they r still ur family, n u hv to be there for ur mum, she needs u...
i just simply hate things ard. -
feeling hurts as in? care to elaborate?Originally posted by bismarck:remember the money i told u i got ? at times i feel my own money isnt impt and i want to give up my savings to her, not much in all. just small change to waht they owe. but the feeling hurts.
i just simply hate things ard. -
as in, heart ache to give up all the money i've saved or something all these years..Originally posted by hopy:feeling hurts as in? care to elaborate? -
ic... well its rather normal to feel the heartache if u hv to give up something which u hv saved over the yrs... but trust me, in time of crisis, u wld give it all up willing juz to save ur luv onesOriginally posted by bismarck:as in, heart ache to give up all the money i've saved or something all these years..
as for ur family prob now, more or less me hv been thru it b4, distrust, hurt, money matters etc... but wat can we do abt it? our parents are old enuff to think, its their life, if they chose things this way wat can we say abt it? nothing... so for now, juz do wat u can n tt is to study hard, n be there for ur mum (i believe she needs all the support tt she can get now fr u children)
as for ur dad (or shld i say for my dad) i already gave up hope on him, but tt doesn't me i dun care for him.. if he dunno how to plan ffor his future, i wld.. if he dun do the financial planning, i wld.. no pt fuss over things tt r not w/in our ctrl, might as well use tt energy to think of ways to solve it instead? -
the greatest miserly is that, that person still doesnt know waht went wrong and stubbornly insists on continuing the mistake...
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Used to it liao... cupboard also break liao... mirror also break liao.
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my parents always leech each other's money but the biggest leecher in the family is me. hehe. they take money matters too highly le, but thats not the reason why you should hate yr home.Originally posted by bismarck:just now my parents fought the moment my mum came back from gym after work. over money of course, reason being 1 party is taking money from the other and the 'other' is feeling stressed out.
frankly speaking, seeing this kind of things happening the moment 1 comes home really makes me sian of going home loh. so waht if i have a com and a nice room home. so waht ? -
When Ideals collides with Reality, value changes, perspective changes and decisions changes.Originally posted by ahkico:True lor...
The commitment thingy really kinda of turns people off... But then gals... They always want commitment de... Lik tat doesn seems fair unless tat is wat she wants too...
For me also the same... Once married, i wouldn accept divorce, etc... Mayb i too old fashion liao... But i belive marriage is forever... -
scold them both!!!Originally posted by bismarck:just now my parents fought the moment my mum came back from gym after work. over money of course, reason being 1 party is taking money from the other and the 'other' is feeling stressed out.
frankly speaking, seeing this kind of things happening the moment 1 comes home really makes me sian of going home loh. so waht if i have a com and a nice room home. so waht ?
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scold them both!!!
wait they 2 paka.. scold us back... 2:1.. wah.. beri bo hua leh
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Getting BETTER each day?Originally posted by M©+square:When Ideals collides with Reality, value changes, perspective changes and decisions changes. -
hahaha....Originally posted by Devil1976:Getting BETTER each day? 
In the mood maybe -
Nay... It can't be sunny days MOST of the time..?Originally posted by M©+square:hahaha....
In the mood maybe