i feel so sad

freestyle

31 Jul 04, 08:10

haiz i feel damn sad now. my gf lied to me as she rather go out wiv her frds than wiv me. smoked 30+ ciggs in 3-4 hrs damn pek chek n sad now.

~Lyn~

31 Jul 04, 10:33

Maybe she juz want to spend some time wif her frens? though she's in a relationship wif u doesn't mean she has to abandon her own social circle. she lied perhaps she noes u'll be upset if u had known the truth. think positively.. unless she had lied quite a couple of time, den something might be wrong..

jazzy13

31 Jul 04, 10:45

learn to give her freedom, otherwise you will end up like me.
break up relationship, i m sure thats not wat you want.

give her time to spend with her friends and show that you care about that. personal space is impt too....take it easy.

sgboy2004

31 Jul 04, 10:45

is it a white lie???

He77AnGeL

31 Jul 04, 12:56

i dunno whether i m in the same situation anot..cos i suspect he lie to mi oso but i dun wanna confront him. i jus keep quiet.but i m v sad...mayb i m jus over suspicious ba...sob sob...i m crazy...

Yunhaier

31 Jul 04, 13:05

Not so much about the lies - its about about WHY and WHAT causes her to display such behavior and tendency? No point smoking 30 sticks of ciggs and cloud your mind with tobacco - do you even understand why is this happening?

Spend time trying to understand your plight and situation than to wallop in self-pity.

Cheers

Kennerve

31 Jul 04, 13:29

Was in the same situation with you before.. Ask yourself this:

1) You controlled her till she can'ts stand you controlling her?
2) She finds that going out with her frens more enjoying?
3) Why is that she wants to go out withe her frens and not with you? What did you do with her/him when both parties are out together?

Maybe there are things when they go out, they do, they don find it comfortable with you around.. Advice is try knowing her friends and talk to her abt what she does outside.. It helps.

barkhide

31 Jul 04, 13:34

Wah....you better watch it...my friend last time also pia hun ki like you like that until he vomit blood...

DXuan

31 Jul 04, 13:38

hun ki expensive, don't pia until like this... Loosen the reins on your girl. Let her know you trust her. She'll reciprocate if she understands your intention. IF not we're just in the same boat... hai...

freestyle

1 Aug 04, 23:07

hey thanks guys. ive sort of resolved it already. u guys facing similar problems?

I-like-flings(m)

1 Aug 04, 23:12

wow.. so fast settled already?? wow..... Mr. Green

hopy

1 Aug 04, 23:13

used to

Ito_^

1 Aug 04, 23:16

juz smile and tell her nicely and briefly, next time, tell me beforehand and go out and enjoy herself, den maybe give u a call when she returns home.

parn

2 Aug 04, 00:36

Hmm...be more confident of yourself. She is your gf for goodness sake, believe in her. If you have no confidence in her, there is no point in carrying on a relationship with her...it will eventually spark off multiple troubles and confrontations.

Relax and always think on the good side. Be positive towards her actions...view them positively and you will have a healthier relationship. If she wants to leave you, there is no way you can prevent or do something about it if she really wants to do that. Always view her actions positively and she will love you even more.

It is natural for people to think negatively of other people. But a wise person would choose not to do so as he/she knows that it will bring them pain and sadness. Just don't go towards there or you will be sorry. Trust me. Smile

heavenTears

2 Aug 04, 01:29

find out the reason first....if she really feels tat it pointless to be together. then u should consider giving up. no point holding back to a failed relationship.
the longer u hold....the harder to give up.

just like me & me ex

i dun mean to be rude...but a lot of time bo bian one. Confused

Forever84

2 Aug 04, 13:05

Jus because she went out wif her frens u had to smoke 30 sticks?
thats an excuse and to people feel bad
wat u goin to do if she leaves you
smoke 30 sticks at the same time?

go talk to her
ask her to be honest abt it if she wants to go out wif her frens

gerrykoh

3 Aug 04, 10:30

Let her have her fun once in a while. It is more healthy for the relationship. She probably lies cos she is afraid u won't like it.
U should also go out with yr friends to show her u can be independent

yinjie

3 Aug 04, 11:05

Not always the case... i trusted her... give her all freedom she wants... end up got 3rd party... sigh... while i wait for her below her house with her fav chicken wings... she is in the arms of other man... fate la... sometimes doesn't pay to be faithful... trust and faithful end up with a broken heart... but still trust is important in a relationship... Crying or Very sad

A Beautiful Mind

3 Aug 04, 15:36

It really depends in this type of case
It'll be forgivable if she's lying cause

1) She's afaid u may be unhappy
2) It happens once in a while..no i mean, aft this, shld nv happen again
3) U controlling her too tight

It means u nd to do some thinking or talking to her if
1) This happens often
2) She rely values her friends & social life more ... but this hard to "tell"

For my case, my ex-gf actually tells me abt most of her outings with her friends, but it happens so often that i get veri discouraged. And even though she tells me, it doesn't mean she won't go if i am unhappy. She was jus TELLING me.

For another relationship, she actually lied to me but it was like she did that to prevent any misunderstanding & she rely cared for me.

So it all Depends right?

For the 1 who told the truth, she went out with her friends like 90% of the time.
For the 1 who lied, she was with me like 80% of her time.

freestyle

3 Aug 04, 18:15

thats y beautiful mind. Girls are troublesome haiz... thanks anyways.