So sad...
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Nowadays the divorce rate really high hor...
In my class... Got 3 of them are married, 2 of them wif kids... 2 females, n 1 male...
Only the male is still happily married...
One of the gal, she has an 8 yr old son... But then they gettin divorce... Haiz... So sad...
Worst is tis friend... My other friend, i don really know much about her... But tis friend, A... We know more lor... N we know her hubby too... We called him telly tubby...
Telly tubby is a real nice guy lor!!! He treats A very gd... Though they r slightly older than us by about 6yrs... But we all can get along quite well... Usually when we go out, telly tubby also would join us... N soon, we all become aquainted lor... It was kinda of surprisin, coz they older than us, n then her hubby so very sociable... Can mix wif us lor...
That time we went chalet tog lor... Then hor, coz the chalet quite Oolu... Aloha resort... Need shuttle bus to go there de lor... So quite troublesome... He drives mah... So hor, he chauffer many of us... To n fro leh... He go fetch 2 gals stayin near by to the chalet... Then send them home again... Then very late in the nite, about 3am, one of them need to go home in AMK n he send her all the way home lor... Then the next dae he still got to go to work...
HIs wife, A, said she wanted to go eat supper... is bout 1am liao... He quickly drove her n we all go eat supper at changi... Then hor... Haiz... they quarreled over little things... Of coz, he kept quiet lor... Only A makes noise...
HOw it started leh... Is coz we at nite go 7- 11... A findin chocolate voka, cannnot find... The next dae, we at supermarket, the 1st thing he went to look for his choco voka for A lor... So sweet hor! Then coz she didn bring her wallet wif her... She went to pay first, so called him, but he didn ans the phone, coz he takin somethin n comin soon... A got very furious liao lor... N she scolded him lik anythin...
Then she infront of all of us... Lik quite no give face to her hubby we all feel... She insist tat he massage her feet for her till she sleeps lor... If he don massage for her, she cannot slp...
She also got couple of bf - so called her flings lor... N i think telly tubby also knows about it... They now slp seperate rooms... He somemore to the extend, say miss we all... So tat we all can have chance go out tog, coz is the only time he can spend wif A lor... Haiz...
I heard tat last time he didn lik her de... She lik him first... Then she promised herself to make him lik her, then she will break off wif him... Now is comin true liao lor... Actually from the dae she married him, she already planned to marry him for 5 yrs, then divorce him... Ai yo...
Telly tubby also for the sake of her, commited suicide b4 lor... He really cannot do without her lik tat... He is the kind, can see her at home in the mornin b4 he go work, n b4 he slp, he happy liao... Though he knows she don lik him liao lor...
If we only know A, we will surely support her, thinkin tat she should fight for her happiness... No pt tat u in a relationship, but u not happy...
But then me n my grp of friends, we know both parties... So haiz... So sad lor... Really hop things don end up tis way, but wat can we do... Poor telly tubby... Jus hop tat he stays strong lor...
Such a nice guy... Really so hard to find liao... Haha... -
wa so chim ar..
need more info of what is going on -
sadly, he loves her and will forgive anything..
she will probably not know what she has until she's lost it...
and if someone treats her like she treats him, she'll... nevermind...
see it often.. sadly
don't it always seem to go
that you don't know what you've got
'til it's gone
they paved paradise
and put up a parking lot
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"she will probably not know what she has until she's lost it..." mm... agreed.. my not gal like that.. they lost it, they find others straight to fill the empty slotOriginally posted by the Bear:sadly, he loves her and will forgive anything..
she will probably not know what she has until she's lost it...
and if someone treats her like she treats him, she'll... nevermind...
see it often.. sadly
don't it always seem to go
that you don't know what you've got
'til it's gone
they paved paradise
and put up a parking lot -
I so dunno much...Originally posted by SibeiSuayKia:wa so chim ar..
need more info of what is going on
So far, tis is all i know... -
True lor...
Is only when u lose it, then mayb u will learn to appreciate it... Hop all goes well for the both of them despite the outcome... -
ahkico...don't feel sad about it. There are still some good guys and gals avaliable around. Think telly-tubby is a nice guy, but just too overly nice. That's is probably why A has so much power over him, cos she knows that he wouldn't dare to offend her. And I also felt that telly-tubby is too weak as a guy, not man enough to take the reins in the relationship.
Either way, I wish them all the best. -
Originally posted by ahkico:Nowadays the divorce rate really high hor...
In my class... Got 3 of them are married, 2 of them wif kids... 2 females, n 1 male...
Only the male is still happily married...
One of the gal, she has an 8 yr old son... But then they gettin divorce... Haiz... So sad...
Worst is tis friend... My other friend, i don really know much about her... But tis friend, A... We know more lor... N we know her hubby too... We called him telly tubby...
Telly tubby is a real nice guy lor!!! He treats A very gd... Though they r slightly older than us by about 6yrs... But we all can get along quite well... Usually when we go out, telly tubby also would join us... N soon, we all become aquainted lor... It was kinda of surprisin, coz they older than us, n then her hubby so very sociable... Can mix wif us lor...
That time we went chalet tog lor... Then hor, coz the chalet quite Oolu... Aloha resort... Need shuttle bus to go there de lor... So quite troublesome... He drives mah... So hor, he chauffer many of us... To n fro leh... He go fetch 2 gals stayin near by to the chalet... Then send them home again... Then very late in the nite, about 3am, one of them need to go home in AMK n he send her all the way home lor... Then the next dae he still got to go to work...
HIs wife, A, said she wanted to go eat supper... is bout 1am liao... He quickly drove her n we all go eat supper at changi... Then hor... Haiz... they quarreled over little things... Of coz, he kept quiet lor... Only A makes noise...
HOw it started leh... Is coz we at nite go 7- 11... A findin chocolate voka, cannnot find... The next dae, we at supermarket, the 1st thing he went to look for his choco voka for A lor... So sweet hor! Then coz she didn bring her wallet wif her... She went to pay first, so called him, but he didn ans the phone, coz he takin somethin n comin soon... A got very furious liao lor... N she scolded him lik anythin...
Then she infront of all of us... Lik quite no give face to her hubby we all feel... She insist tat he massage her feet for her till she sleeps lor... If he don massage for her, she cannot slp...
She also got couple of bf - so called her flings lor... N i think telly tubby also knows about it... They now slp seperate rooms... He somemore to the extend, say miss we all... So tat we all can have chance go out tog, coz is the only time he can spend wif A lor... Haiz...
I heard tat last time he didn lik her de... She lik him first... Then she promised herself to make him lik her, then she will break off wif him... Now is comin true liao lor... Actually from the dae she married him, she already planned to marry him for 5 yrs, then divorce him... Ai yo...
Telly tubby also for the sake of her, commited suicide b4 lor... He really cannot do without her lik tat... He is the kind, can see her at home in the mornin b4 he go work, n b4 he slp, he happy liao... Though he knows she don lik him liao lor...
If we only know A, we will surely support her, thinkin tat she should fight for her happiness... No pt tat u in a relationship, but u not happy...
But then me n my grp of friends, we know both parties... So haiz... So sad lor... Really hop things don end up tis way, but wat can we do... Poor telly tubby... Jus hop tat he stays strong lor...
Such a nice guy... Really so hard to find liao... Haha...
Divorce rate has always been so high - people registering marriage for the wrong reasons account for the main factor why. The underlying reason for all these bad marriages/relationship are nothing but relationship born of karmic bonds.
He has probably knew about these bad traits/characteristics throughout the course of their relationship way before the actual marriage take place. One's love definitions and personality carries forward into their marriage, therefore if the BGR relationship were torn with holes, marriage will prove to be difficult if they don't evolve their wisdom in love.
Stay strong for Telly? I say he will do much better without her? Seriously, what kind of wife will she make by charting the years prior before marriage and decide when to end her marriage for her own self-absorbed goals? Why waste more years clinging onto a sinking ship when you know it will SINK irrevocably?
P.S: Ninth Law of Love states: Marriage is not forever. CloUdiSm Remix III states: Marriage without love is like a body without the soul. Think about it.
Cheers -
sad story but tink the guy too gd to wife liao...
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Is it simply that it doesn't pay to be a 'Good man'?
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She is taking advantage over telly's niceness..
1 word to describe her manz .... Bitch!!
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Well.. since you know bnoth sides story.. and you jolly-well know that A was more of using him... in the first place.. Telly tubby doesn't like her.. But A does.. and she made a pact to herself saying that no matter wat.. she must get him...Originally posted by ahkico:Nowadays the divorce rate really high hor...
In my class... Got 3 of them are married, 2 of them wif kids... 2 females, n 1 male...
Only the male is still happily married...
One of the gal, she has an 8 yr old son... But then they gettin divorce... Haiz... So sad...
Worst is tis friend... My other friend, i don really know much about her... But tis friend, A... We know more lor... N we know her hubby too... We called him telly tubby...
Telly tubby is a real nice guy lor!!! He treats A very gd... Though they r slightly older than us by about 6yrs... But we all can get along quite well... Usually when we go out, telly tubby also would join us... N soon, we all become aquainted lor... It was kinda of surprisin, coz they older than us, n then her hubby so very sociable... Can mix wif us lor...
That time we went chalet tog lor... Then hor, coz the chalet quite Oolu... Aloha resort... Need shuttle bus to go there de lor... So quite troublesome... He drives mah... So hor, he chauffer many of us... To n fro leh... He go fetch 2 gals stayin near by to the chalet... Then send them home again... Then very late in the nite, about 3am, one of them need to go home in AMK n he send her all the way home lor... Then the next dae he still got to go to work...
HIs wife, A, said she wanted to go eat supper... is bout 1am liao... He quickly drove her n we all go eat supper at changi... Then hor... Haiz... they quarreled over little things... Of coz, he kept quiet lor... Only A makes noise...
HOw it started leh... Is coz we at nite go 7- 11... A findin chocolate voka, cannnot find... The next dae, we at supermarket, the 1st thing he went to look for his choco voka for A lor... So sweet hor! Then coz she didn bring her wallet wif her... She went to pay first, so called him, but he didn ans the phone, coz he takin somethin n comin soon... A got very furious liao lor... N she scolded him lik anythin...
Then she infront of all of us... Lik quite no give face to her hubby we all feel... She insist tat he massage her feet for her till she sleeps lor... If he don massage for her, she cannot slp...
She also got couple of bf - so called her flings lor... N i think telly tubby also knows about it... They now slp seperate rooms... He somemore to the extend, say miss we all... So tat we all can have chance go out tog, coz is the only time he can spend wif A lor... Haiz...
I heard tat last time he didn lik her de... She lik him first... Then she promised herself to make him lik her, then she will break off wif him... Now is comin true liao lor... Actually from the dae she married him, she already planned to marry him for 5 yrs, then divorce him... Ai yo...
Telly tubby also for the sake of her, commited suicide b4 lor... He really cannot do without her lik tat... He is the kind, can see her at home in the mornin b4 he go work, n b4 he slp, he happy liao... Though he knows she don lik him liao lor...
If we only know A, we will surely support her, thinkin tat she should fight for her happiness... No pt tat u in a relationship, but u not happy...
But then me n my grp of friends, we know both parties... So haiz... So sad lor... Really hop things don end up tis way, but wat can we do... Poor telly tubby... Jus hop tat he stays strong lor...
Such a nice guy... Really so hard to find liao... Haha...
In the end.. she got him.. jus to prove to herself... that she can even made a guy who doesn't even lke her at first.. could actually fell in love with her and get married.. This boost her ego.. and proudness... that she can do such things.. and prove to herself..
She already voiced it out so clearly that.. after 5 years.. she will divorces with him.. all these are planned even before they even get married.. Wat's marriage to her in the first place?? Is not a kid playing with toy.. dun like it liao.. jus dump it aside.. she's selfish.. wasting telly time and effort.. toying his feelings around.. *sorry if i sounded rough*
Poor telly.. all he wanted is so simple.. he knows that this is getting no where.. but he still hangs on to it.. thinking that one day she might changed and come back to him.. If her mind is set.. nothing can change... she doesn't appreciate what he does for her..
People doesn't consider marriage as a serious matter.. they get married for many reasons.. but how many end up happy?? is that wat they wan?? Only status and in name of husband and wife.. other than that there's nothing ese more to it...
In that case.. ppl always end up divorcing.. cos both cannot compromise to each other.. marriage is about commitment.. howmuch can you give to this family.. not only thinking for yourself.. but now you have to think for your spouse too! is not only one person.. it becomes 2 now..
Tell telly what he really wants.. if he only wants to see her happy and that it.. living with someone who she doesn't really love me now. why not let her go.. dun waste anymore time.. maybe like this.. this will do both good.. but of cos. as a friend.. it hard to suggest a divorce to them.. cos there's always a better alternative to it.. beside signing papers... talk to telly tubby.. let him understand the real situation.. he more like running and avoiding the reality.. that's wat you can do.. other than that.. the both parties have to talk about this oso..
Cheers...
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True lor... But dunno how talk to him so... Coz after all, telly tubby is jus our acquantiance, and A is our classmates... We met out only few times...
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Originally posted by Yunhaier:
Divorce rate has always been so high - people registering marriage for the wrong reasons account for the main factor why. The underlying reason for all these bad marriages/relationship are nothing but relationship born of karmic bonds.
He has probably knew about these bad traits/characteristics throughout the course of their relationship way before the actual marriage take place. One's love definitions and personality carries forward into their marriage, therefore if the BGR relationship were torn with holes, marriage will prove to be difficult if they don't evolve their wisdom in love.
Stay strong for Telly? I say he will do much better without her? Seriously, what kind of wife will she make by charting the years prior before marriage and decide when to end her marriage for her own self-absorbed goals? Why waste more years clinging onto a sinking ship when you know it will SINK irrevocably?
P.S: Ninth Law of Love states: Marriage is not forever. CloUdiSm Remix III states: Marriage without love is like a body [b]without the soul. Think about it.
Cheers [/b]
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Sad but true, no doubt telly tubby is too much of a nice guy nt to help. But you should have known that things might get tricky or complicated given the position you are in.Originally posted by ahkico:True lor... But dunno how talk to him so... Coz after all, telly tubby is jus our acquantiance, and A is our classmates... We met out only few times...
a) Tell him, he might nt believe (given tt his sucide attempts history shows how much he loves her) and if A found out, accuse you of betrayal.
b) Dun tell him, feel sorry for him for he is really a nice guy.
Here's one perspective - they must sort it out themselves (just between two of them only) as marriage is a two-persons affair (unless if they have kid/s, they might play a role as well). Moreover, A is divorcing him anyway,just a matter of time, so it's actually her loss and telly tubby deserves someone better and suitable for him.
Have my say, it's all up to you.
P.S: If I were you, I will tell him straight and knock the sense out of him. I dun mind losing frens like your fren A. Heck it man!!! But I am a guy, so might be diff.