Give me some advise pls...
-
I have already liked this girl 4 seven months now. I always fail when trying to arrange a date with her. Now i noe why, she's already attached to a guy from another sch I'm very depressed everyday and hardly talk to anyone. I'm in a very heavy cca which requires me to be more alive. I want to start talking with my friends again but i find it very hard to do tat.
I still love her a lot and i want to cont waiting for her but i noe i cant afford to do tat. I'm afraid of goin to sch and everyone asking me if i'm ok and i juz tao them. But i cant help it. Afraid pple will start disliking me. I still think of her day n night. I noe the best way is to bury myself in work but i am in no mood to do tat.
I'm a very emotional kind of guy so i find it very hard to get over tis, i there any other thing i can do? -
Originally posted by BoA_fan:I have already liked this girl 4 seven months now. I always fail when trying to arrange a date with her. Now i noe why, she's already attached to a guy from another sch I'm very depressed everyday and hardly talk to anyone. I'm in a very heavy cca which requires me to be more alive. I want to start talking with my friends again but i find it very hard to do tat.
I still love her a lot and i want to cont waiting for her but i noe i cant afford to do tat. I'm afraid of goin to sch and everyone asking me if i'm ok and i juz tao them. But i cant help it. Afraid pple will start disliking me. I still think of her day n night. I noe the best way is to bury myself in work but i am in no mood to do tat.
I'm a very emotional kind of guy so i find it very hard to get over tis, i there any other thing i can do?
You have tried and probably failed, so isn't better for you since you could find reason to move on and get on with your life? Remember, she didn't even lead you on or similar, it was a one-sided affair. So you are finding it difficult to be yourself?
To bury yourself in work is not the best way in fact. You have to subdue your mind and convince them that it probably impossible right in the beginning. She wasn't meant to be.
P.S: To be hanging in the air is the most DIFFICULT to move - to know that your chapter has close is the easiest. Yours belong to the latter.
Cheers -
U r still young, n studies should be placed as ur first priority rather than datin...Originally posted by BoA_fan:I have already liked this girl 4 seven months now. I always fail when trying to arrange a date with her. Now i noe why, she's already attached to a guy from another sch I'm very depressed everyday and hardly talk to anyone. I'm in a very heavy cca which requires me to be more alive. I want to start talking with my friends again but i find it very hard to do tat.
I still love her a lot and i want to cont waiting for her but i noe i cant afford to do tat. I'm afraid of goin to sch and everyone asking me if i'm ok and i juz tao them. But i cant help it. Afraid pple will start disliking me. I still think of her day n night. I noe the best way is to bury myself in work but i am in no mood to do tat.
I'm a very emotional kind of guy so i find it very hard to get over tis, i there any other thing i can do?
Sorry, no offence taken, but i feel tat if u r unable to cope wif the distress of not bein able to woo tis gal, i feel tat u r not matured n ready enough to handle a relationship... When one is in a relationship... U got to be able to handle many aspects... Ur prob wif ur gf, ur studies or work etc. Coz, sometimes, there are bound to be friction or unhappiness btw the both of u... Then if u r unable to control ur feelins, how r u able to cope wif ur studies or work?
u have a very gd grp of friends who r very concerned about u... U shouldn't avoid them or give them tao tao attitude... Think of urself in their shoes... One of ur gd friend is in the worst of mood, N he sorta of tak it out on his gd friends wif his moody attitude... Tis already kinda of hard to tak it, yet, all of u all are concerned about him, his studies n his happiness... Hop tat he will buck up, n be his normal self... Yet their concern is not appreciated n yet, is sorta of given the cold shoulder...
Rejection is part n parcel of life... If she is meant to be urs, she will be urs... No pt forcin things... Mayb if u really can get tog, but tat doesn meant tat u will be happy both tog... It doesn mean tat u will be happy all along... U may think tat u both can get along very well... But surely, there is no perfect relationship in the world...
U r still young, studyin i presume... U still got a long way to go... Immersing urself in studies n cca is a gd thing, but don over tire urself, or neglect ur friends... Sometimes, if things get too overboard, u may jus lose not only the gal u lik, but a bunch of gd friends too...
People changed rapidly, esp in ur adolescent yrs... She may seems to be the perfect gal in ur eye... But few yrs down the road, i think tat ur likin of gals will changed totally...
Rather, u should focus on ur studies, get gd grades, gd degrees... In the future, get a gd job... U will be flooded by bountiful of gals! U willl have no lack of suitors...
Try to forget her... It is hard, but u should try, ur best to slowly forget her... concentrate on other things... Even if u wanna think, u shouldn't let it affects ur mood... Eg, i usually put on a front, no matter how sad or unhappy i am... Usually in my private moments, b4 goin to slp, etc, then i start thinkin of watever tat hunts me or hurts me...
i wish u all the best...
-
Should i tell my problems to my friends if they were to ask?
-
Originally posted by BoA_fan:Should i tell my problems to my friends if they were to ask? Is that exactly a problem? There is nothing to solve!
In fact, its about you.
If it makes you feel better, please do.
Cheers -
Be glad you have friend around you. And if you are comfortable in sharing your situation, do so. Nothing beats sharing your sad moments or pain with a group of good friends. That is the amazing thing of a friendship!! It will help you get over her too!
Good luck. -
If u tink it is worth it den wait for her.
If not dun waste ur time just like i did..i waited 4 years
-
I have indeed thought of it. Isit really tat hard to get over someone?Originally posted by Patrik:If u tink it is worth it den wait for her.If not dun waste ur time just like i did..i waited 4 years
-
Originally posted by BoA_fan:I have indeed thought of it. Isit really tat hard to get over someone? You don't exactly forget - you learn to get used.
Cheers -
She's the first girl you are trying to chase i presume... Can see you are still in secondary school i think? Open up your circle of frens more.. There are more people out there who wanna noe you or you will get to know. Who knows that particular someone is out there waiting for you? Don't just stick to what your mind thinks.. There are better ones out there.Originally posted by BoA_fan:I have indeed thought of it. Isit really tat hard to get over someone? -
Wow, haiz.... Used to got a girl I like same class for 2 years, same CCA for 3 years somemore. But I didnt have the guts... now gone liao lor. Although still can her HP from my friend easily but hor... so what. Haiz... I even worse off then you. Anyway got Bf so what? Snatch, fight! You must always get what you want no matter what!
-
'Originally posted by Ayukat:Wow, haiz.... Used to got a girl I like same class for 2 years, same CCA for 3 years somemore. But I didnt have the guts... now gone liao lor. Although still can her HP from my friend easily but hor... so what. Haiz... I even worse off then you. Anyway got Bf so what? Snatch, fight! You must always get what you want no matter what!
'
im a BoA Fan as well! , faced same problem as you.
the gal at first abit interested but due to some nasty rumours by pple in the school..the gal started to hate me.. -
Thats why you SibeiSwayKia mah?Originally posted by SibeiSuayKia:'
'
im a BoA Fan as well! , faced same problem as you.
the gal at first abit interested but due to some nasty rumours by pple in the school..the gal started to hate me.. -
wah cham lor, muz fight! fight-o!Originally posted by SibeiSuayKia:'
'
im a BoA Fan as well! , faced same problem as you.
the gal at first abit interested but due to some nasty rumours by pple in the school..the gal started to hate me..
-
Share with your close friends if u feel better getting it off your chest. Let them know why u are feeling moody & they will help u. No point thinking of that girl since her feelings are with someone else.
Concentrate on your studies & hang out with your friends. U are still young so plenty of time for girlfriends later -
wat ur is urs ,love cant b order so if u hav patient wait then u wait loh