Originally posted by Jazzytunez:
Have you ever struggled to conform to what others expect of .....
... Perhaps youÂ’ve struggled to meet your parentÂ’s expectations
for you, educationally or career-wise, because you simply
wanted to do something else? Perhaps your spouse or lover
likes you to behave in a certain way and you donÂ’t like it?
Sometimes, we can feel trapped by someone or a situation,
but in reality we have created the situation ourselves by
denying what we really want or who we really are.
yeh can feel what u r feelin now.
u are fighting between your own goals (or sometimes maybe your own ego)
and satisfying the ppl around you.
in my case, 10 years ago when i first stepped into a full time workin adult phase, i was enthused about everything that is anything at all. now i have long realised my shortcomings and is taking my work life as it is. a little stress is good for me but i try not to stress myself out when things do not go my way. i tends to just let it be coz no man is an island.
i am just glad that i am seeing the light while some ppl more senior than me are not seeing what went wrong with their jobs. take for example i have got this one colleague who has stay on with the company for many years but is still goin nowhere. she is very interested in ECNs (Engineering Change Order) and reads it everyday for the latest updates. my company has an Engineering update system whereby all engineers will access and update whatever changes via this platform. however, it takes time to really keep oneself abreast and informed of all changes. this foolish colleague of mine happened to be the 24 hours-a-day watch dog whom everyone who is anyone at all will call and ask of the latest Engineering changes. she still thinks that for this service one day she can get promoted and do real engineering stuff. for someone her age, she really has got the mind of a kid!

if she got promoted, then who will be the next watchdog to monitor engineering changes and answer phone calls whenever someone needed enquiries?

my conclusion is-
dun take things too hard on yourself, learn to let go.
sometimes u win, sometimes ther ppl has to win
