Have you ever struggled to conform to what others expect of
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Have you ever struggled to conform to what others expect of .....
... Perhaps youÂ’ve struggled to meet your parentÂ’s expectations
for you, educationally or career-wise, because you simply
wanted to do something else? Perhaps your spouse or lover
likes you to behave in a certain way and you donÂ’t like it?
Sometimes, we can feel trapped by someone or a situation,
but in reality we have created the situation ourselves by
denying what we really want or who we really are. -
i m who,what i m i will nv change to conform to ppl expectations....
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Most of us do have the struggles that you've mentioned. I did have the struggles of reaching my parents' expectations of my behaivour, grades and stuff. Not to mention, peer pressure on which uni to attend to, and the earnings that we made. But I believe that these could all be reduced by being contented with what I have.
To my parents, I have been ok to them, so that's pretty much settled. How did I know? My family have family conferences every now and then.
My friends? If your friend compares his/her pay and disses you about it? Do you consider that a friend? I think a friend is someone who supports you in spiritually and mentally. Someone who is standing next to you no matter what happens.
In the end, at this point of time, my struggles are greatly minimised. All boils down to mindcept and thinking. The struggles are always difficult, but a phrase that will pass.
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It's your life & u decide how u want to lead it. Study what u like, rather than what yr parents or friends tell u. If u don't have the interest, u will be very miserable, same goes for relationships.
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By the way, don't let anyone (either spouse or boyfriend) tell u how to behave or must do. If he doesn't like it, then too bad. He has to accept u for what u are.
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WORK... Do you have a CHOICE? Either you WORK or you QUIT...Originally posted by Jazzytunez:Have you ever struggled to conform to what others expect of .....
... Perhaps youÂ’ve struggled to meet your parentÂ’s expectations
for you, educationally or career-wise, because you simply
wanted to do something else? Perhaps your spouse or lover
likes you to behave in a certain way and you donÂ’t like it?
Sometimes, we can feel trapped by someone or a situation,
but in reality we have created the situation ourselves by
denying what we really want or who we really are.
Hmm.. Now I'm beginning to understand why so many people go into suicide business noadays... Luckily for me, my mind's CLEAR..
Re-create the situation? Well.. I CERTAINLY CAN...?
HATE to do it but...
OH HELL...? -
YES I AM BUT USELESS
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When you get older and starting working and fending for yourself, you will heck care what others say. Juz endure this current growing up phrase. Your freedom will come someday.
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nope
im supra dupra self-centered
and no one can penetrate or influence my principle and philosphy -
....and thick-skin also ?Originally posted by FireIce:nope
im supra dupra self-centered
and no one can penetrate or influence my principle and philosphy
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thick fatsOriginally posted by tspg:....and thick-skin also ? 
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Of course, there are expectations expected of everyone. that's normal... but what's most important is you have your priorities and goals.
It's a matter of choice whether you wish to conform or not. Sometimes the pressure can get too intense but sort out your priorities, hang on in there and you shd come to a decision.
Try and remain cool n relax... -
Jus be yourself.. Noone or anybody can force you to do anything you dun like.. Be sure of yourself..Originally posted by Jazzytunez:Have you ever struggled to conform to what others expect of .....
... Perhaps youÂ’ve struggled to meet your parentÂ’s expectations
for you, educationally or career-wise, because you simply
wanted to do something else? Perhaps your spouse or lover
likes you to behave in a certain way and you donÂ’t like it?
Sometimes, we can feel trapped by someone or a situation,
but in reality we have created the situation ourselves by
denying what we really want or who we really are. -
Ask Jason to re-write your program.Originally posted by FireIce:nope
im supra dupra self-centered
and no one can penetrate or influence my principle and philosphy -
yeh can feel what u r feelin now.Originally posted by Jazzytunez:Have you ever struggled to conform to what others expect of .....
... Perhaps youÂ’ve struggled to meet your parentÂ’s expectations
for you, educationally or career-wise, because you simply
wanted to do something else? Perhaps your spouse or lover
likes you to behave in a certain way and you donÂ’t like it?
Sometimes, we can feel trapped by someone or a situation,
but in reality we have created the situation ourselves by
denying what we really want or who we really are.
u are fighting between your own goals (or sometimes maybe your own ego)
and satisfying the ppl around you.
in my case, 10 years ago when i first stepped into a full time workin adult phase, i was enthused about everything that is anything at all. now i have long realised my shortcomings and is taking my work life as it is. a little stress is good for me but i try not to stress myself out when things do not go my way. i tends to just let it be coz no man is an island.
i am just glad that i am seeing the light while some ppl more senior than me are not seeing what went wrong with their jobs. take for example i have got this one colleague who has stay on with the company for many years but is still goin nowhere. she is very interested in ECNs (Engineering Change Order) and reads it everyday for the latest updates. my company has an Engineering update system whereby all engineers will access and update whatever changes via this platform. however, it takes time to really keep oneself abreast and informed of all changes. this foolish colleague of mine happened to be the 24 hours-a-day watch dog whom everyone who is anyone at all will call and ask of the latest Engineering changes. she still thinks that for this service one day she can get promoted and do real engineering stuff. for someone her age, she really has got the mind of a kid!
if she got promoted, then who will be the next watchdog to monitor engineering changes and answer phone calls whenever someone needed enquiries?
my conclusion is-
dun take things too hard on yourself, learn to let go.
sometimes u win, sometimes ther ppl has to win -
my parents have no expectations of me and my peer think i will breeze through life, so i am unable to confirm to what others expect of me. its actually more pressurizing because i often end up giving myself stress trying to reach the goals i set out for myself. i sometimes really envy those who have a role model to look upon, someone to guide them or whom they can base their life on, as for me, i have no idea how that feels like.
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it my life nothin will gonna change it