this girl i like..
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i know this girl since my poly days, but never really go after her then..and she was attached also..
recently, meet her in my work place and realised she is single..but due to job commitment, i didnt enough time to go after her..only managed to chat up several times..
but now, i just found out she is attached to another guy liao..and it only took place recently..
wat should i do? im thinking of confessing to her despite the fact that she is already attached...am i doing the right thing? or should i just leave her alone with her new bf?..
not really feeling sad lar, but i feel a bit of dissappointed as she seems so near but some other guy managed to snatch her away at the last moment... -
she's attached...
then it's "hands off" already right? -
Private property. Do not trespass. Do not collect $200. Next better player.
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juz let her know my feelings only mah..
if she no feelling for me..nothing will happen also -
monopoly...vs oligopolyOriginally posted by ditzy:Private property. Do not trespass. Do not collect $200. Next better player.
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left it as it would
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wat u wanna achieve in letting her know?Originally posted by soulness:juz let her know my feelings only mah..
if she no feelling for me..nothing will happen also -
you're a guy.. keep it to yourself...
she's attached.. she does not need to know this... knowing all this will only be a burden to her...
be a gentleman.. keep it to yourself..Originally posted by soulness:juz let her know my feelings only mah..
if she no feelling for me..nothing will happen also -
Theres this possibility that she'll tell her bf, and her bf will come over and slap you with a warning letter. Not saying that might happen, but some guys don't go down too well with others.
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Originally posted by ditzy:Theres this possibility that she'll tell her bf, and her bf will come over and slap you with a warning letter. Not saying that might happen, but some guys don't go down too well with others.
oh btw, i know this guy too..not really close friends but we know each other existance -
will be a burden? how come?Originally posted by the Bear:you're a guy.. keep it to yourself...
she's attached.. she does not need to know this... knowing all this will only be a burden to her...
be a gentleman.. keep it to yourself..
if she has no feeling for me, the burden wont exist right? -
Acquaintences can turn real nasty too. I'm one living example and I'm still regretting it.Originally posted by soulness:
oh btw, i know this guy too..not really close friends but we know each other existance
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it will be thereOriginally posted by soulness:will be a burden? how come?
if she has no feeling for me, the burden wont exist right?
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u slapped someone??Originally posted by ditzy:Acquaintences can turn real nasty too. I'm one living example and I'm still regretting it. -
here's a brutal suggestion:
stop thinking for yourself for a while! think about her if you say you like her..
stop being selfish.. -
I wish I had that option. I wish i didn't held back.Originally posted by soulness:u slapped someone?? -
hehe but i thought ppl say love is selfish?Originally posted by the Bear:here's a brutal suggestion:
stop thinking for yourself for a while! think about her if you say you like her..
stop being selfish..
actually i really in dilemma, thats why i posted this
i would like to hear opinions from ppl who has more experience and of coz ur opinion is appreciated
btw, i havent make my decision yet..dont treat me like sinner pls
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love is never selfish...
if you love that woman, you'd be happy when she's happy.. even when she's not with you... -
sigh i guess so.....
thats why i had many failed relationships
coz im never selfish
after i get enough from the relationship, i pass it on to the others -
Soulness, from what I understand from your earlier replies, I believe that you are just not happy that your "love interest" has been snatched from you. But do think about it again, were you running in contention in the first place (were you actively chasing her)?
I guess your current intention to confess your feelings to her at this point of time (she's happily attached) is to hope that she would reject your interest and you can convince yourself that you should give up dreaming of becoming her bf. Like what others had advised, it would be a burden for her no matter she had feelings for you or not. Please think over your decision carefully, your "answer" would result in an unnecessary burden for her. The least you could do is to tell her when she's single (if you think it's worth being on the waiting list again).
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Sidetrack abit, I recently told a former classmate back in sec sch (late 1990s) that i actually liked her in the past and confessed that i did not had the courage to tell her. Btw,she is single now but she's already overseas (a foreigner), by telling her, I do not expect anything to happen but just to let her know that i find her really special in the past and was glad that our paths met once in a lifetime. I hope that will make her day as she knows that there is at least someone in this world who finds her adoring and for me, I managed to let go of my "emotional baggage". Btw, I'm happily attached to my gf now. No regrets but without any dire consequences. -
Originally posted by soulness:i know this girl since my poly days, but never really go after her then..and she was attached also..
recently, meet her in my work place and realised she is single..but due to job commitment, i didnt enough time to go after her..only managed to chat up several times..
but now, i just found out she is attached to another guy liao..and it only took place recently..
wat should i do? im thinking of confessing to her despite the fact that she is already attached...am i doing the right thing? or should i just leave her alone with her new bf?..
not really feeling sad lar, but i feel a bit of dissappointed as she seems so near but some other guy managed to snatch her away at the last moment...
What's your objective?
To release that pressure and reveal your liking?
Or you hope to capture her attention and she would probably spare you more focus? Or hope?
No point expressing to her since you didn't exactly chase her or came anywhere near. You are merely someone she knew - of course, therefore the consideration for other guys is logical on her side. Learn to be a good friend first and act when you ought to. As for now, one good advice would be to lead your own life, first.
You acted passive, now you face the full impact of being one. But your situation wouldn't change if you act otherwise now.
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A SIMPLE yet VERY GOOD question...Originally posted by sgboy2004:wat u wanna achieve in letting her know? -
it'll affect her one somehow. Just keep it to yourself. It'll be good for both of you. What's meant to be is meant to be.Originally posted by soulness:will be a burden? how come?
if she has no feeling for me, the burden wont exist right?
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1 needle see a lot of blood.Originally posted by sgboy2004:wat u wanna achieve in letting her know? -
forget it dude, dun tink too much, if shes reali a must jz keep contact as frens n wait... otherwise give other gals a chance...