I'm vexed!
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Hi Everyone,
I have a problem lately that I can't solved! I think I'm in love but mine is consider secret love. I like a girl and been thinking about her. Lately, I went out with her as she need someone to accompany her to shop for a pair of sandals as hers has already gave way. While walking with her, my heart beat beats very fast. Before i left for home, I said goodbye to her. The feeling is very unbearable. I really wanted to accompany her longer but scared that she will feel embarrassed.
She has a bf and there's some problems with him lately. She will talk to me about these problems. I will advise her to have a good talk and see other alternatives to solve their problems. But on the other hand, I really wanted to tell her that I like her very much! But somehow dun have the courage to do so. Been asking myself whether should I go after her or should I give her up since she already has a bf.
Pls advise! Thanks! -
only when she has gone clean with the bf then should u make known to her your intentions and your affections for her... not the other way round.
Loving someone is about seeing her happy... not necessary owning her nia.
Let things takes its course... -
That's why I've been doing but sometimes feeling can be very strange. I'm controlling my emotions for her. Been thinking of her almost everyday. She did consider of having a clean break with her bf but no matter what happens or her bf did something bad, she will keep quiet.Originally posted by sgboy2004:only when she has gone clean with the bf then should u make known to her your intentions and your affections for her... not the other way round.
Loving someone is about seeing her happy... not necessary owning her nia.
Let things takes its course...
I feel very relax and happy with her. But can't control my feelings for her. -
Originally posted by BLIM:
Dun "cheng ren zi wei" when girls are at the most vunerable times dun strike it when it's hot.. cos she probably may fall for your trap and say "yes" due to emotional side and not her rational side.. when you pop that question out of nowhere.. Cos now.. she's having a bad time with her bf.. and moreover.. she tells you about it.. Dun bang your head against it first.. is a 50-50 chance.. she might say yes she might say no..
Hi Everyone,
I have a problem lately that I can't solved! I think I'm in love but mine is consider secret love. I like a girl and been thinking about her. Lately, I went out with her as she need someone to accompany her to shop for a pair of sandals as hers has already gave way. While walking with her, my heart beat beats very fast. Before i left for home, I said goodbye to her. The feeling is very unbearable. I really wanted to accompany her longer but scared that she will feel embarrassed.
She has a bf and there's some problems with him lately. She will talk to me about these problems. I will advise her to have a good talk and see other alternatives to solve their problems. But on the other hand, I really wanted to tell her that I like her very much! But somehow dun have the courage to do so. Been asking myself whether should I go after her or should I give her up since she already has a bf.
Pls advise! Thanks! [b][/b]
Yes : is the reason i have given above.. No : she only treat you as a very good friend..
Dun act rush.. Let her settle her problems first.. if she's staying with her bf.. then wish her best of luck.. know that's gonna hurt.. but still you wan to be happy right?? loving someone need not need to have her by your side..
If she decided to break-up with her bf.. then take your time and slowly understand her more.. go out often.. then when time is ripe.. you know she has fallen for you.. has feeling for you.. then you pop your question.. must be comfirm and guarantee that you get her.. if you hinted her in any way.. and let her know in anyway that you like her.. maybe she feel awkward.. let her be comfortable with you.. when both are out together alone.. Control your feelings.. HOld back first.. if you jsut wana let her know how you feel.. then jus say.. if not.. you wan her to be by your side.. then this time not the time to do it..
Cheers..
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Originally posted by BLIM:
Tell her how you feel for her...
Hi Everyone,
I have a problem lately that I can't solved! I think I'm in love but mine is consider secret love. I like a girl and been thinking about her. Lately, I went out with her as she need someone to accompany her to shop for a pair of sandals as hers has already gave way. While walking with her, my heart beat beats very fast. Before i left for home, I said goodbye to her. The feeling is very unbearable. I really wanted to accompany her longer but scared that she will feel embarrassed.
She has a bf and there's some problems with him lately. She will talk to me about these problems. I will advise her to have a good talk and see other alternatives to solve their problems. But on the other hand, I really wanted to tell her that I like her very much! But somehow dun have the courage to do so. Been asking myself whether should I go after her or should I give her up since she already has a bf.
Pls advise! Thanks! [b][/b]
Hmm... That should about settles everything...?
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That's what I've been doing. But sometimes feelings can't be controlled. Many times I just wanted to tell her my feelings for her and see how it goes but after consideration, I decided not to go ahead with it.Originally posted by SunRisE:Dun "cheng ren zi wei" when girls are at the most vunerable times dun strike it when it's hot.. cos she probably may fall for your trap and say "yes" due to emotional side and not her rational side.. when you pop that question out of nowhere.. Cos now.. she's having a bad time with her bf.. and moreover.. she tells you about it.. Dun bang your head against it first.. is a 50-50 chance.. she might say yes she might say no.. Yes : is the reason i have given above.. No : she only treat you as a very good friend..
Dun act rush.. Let her settle her problems first.. if she's staying with her bf.. then wish her best of luck.. know that's gonna hurt.. but still you wan to be happy right?? loving someone need not need to have her by your side..
If she decided to break-up with her bf.. then take your time and slowly understand her more.. go out often.. then when time is ripe.. you know she has fallen for you.. has feeling for you.. then you pop your question.. must be comfirm and guarantee that you get her.. if you hinted her in any way.. and let her know in anyway that you like her.. maybe she feel awkward.. let her be comfortable with you.. when both are out together alone.. Control your feelings.. HOld back first.. if you jsut wana let her know how you feel.. then jus say.. if not.. you wan her to be by your side.. then this time not the time to do it..
Cheers..
But I'll see how the situation goes first before i make any move. I'll stay by her side to help her in anyway that she needs. -
Thats what you should be doing.. But speaking of your feelings.. Even u cannot control, you gotta control.. I believe u don wan to cause a break up just because of ur un controllable feelings right?Originally posted by BLIM:That's what I've been doing. But sometimes feelings can't be controlled. Many times I just wanted to tell her my feelings for her and see how it goes but after consideration, I decided not to go ahead with it.
But I'll see how the situation goes first before i make any move. I'll stay by her side to help her in anyway that she needs.
See how things are getting on.. Should they break up, make sure its nothing to do with u causing the break up.. I guess u don wanna feel guilty too? -
Originally posted by BLIM:
Hi Everyone,
I have a problem lately that I can't solved! I think I'm in love but mine is consider secret love. I like a girl and been thinking about her. Lately, I went out with her as she need someone to accompany her to shop for a pair of sandals as hers has already gave way. While walking with her, my heart beat beats very fast. Before i left for home, I said goodbye to her. The feeling is very unbearable. I really wanted to accompany her longer but scared that she will feel embarrassed.
She has a bf and there's some problems with him lately. She will talk to me about these problems. I will advise her to have a good talk and see other alternatives to solve their problems. But on the other hand, I really wanted to tell her that I like her very much! But somehow dun have the courage to do so. Been asking myself whether should I go after her or should I give her up since she already has a bf.
Pls advise! Thanks! [b][/b] You had a crush on her no though, but do you happen to realise that you are feeding false hope towards your situation because it seemed that she had a rough period with her bf and it may apparantly 'place' you in 'better' position? And to make matter worst; moral clashes with emotions - You don't want step into the picture, yet you can't help it.
To reveal your feelings now would be the worst of all time - regardless of intention. You will be fueling additional burden onto her emotional baggage and she would probably avoid or keep a temporary distance if she feels invaded and need that personal space.
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Let her walk through this phrase first. Then later, you can consider your option of expressing your inner feelings. However, after that declaration, if your overall intention is to become her bf, then the timing need to be revised again. If your objective is merely to blast out your feelings and release that tension, then go ahead.
Cheers -
My 1000000 cents...
I feel tt u shld tell her now, not during the time when she broke up with her bf, as she will definetely say yes not because she really likes u, but because of a small liking for u as a fren and due to the emotional prob she is going thru now, she will think tt she actually has a crush on u. Tell her now, let her think abt stuff. if it does not work, move on.. if it works, well, gratz
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like i say.. if you jus wanna make known to her that you like her.. then jus do it...Originally posted by BLIM:That's what I've been doing. But sometimes feelings can't be controlled. Many times I just wanted to tell her my feelings for her and see how it goes but after consideration, I decided not to go ahead with it.
But I'll see how the situation goes first before i make any move. I'll stay by her side to help her in anyway that she needs.
but if not.. then stay put and see how things go like.. if the bf of hers is really that bad.. then i'm sure you do stand a better chance in chasing her.. provided you planned and worked your way well..