Would you???
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Would you try starting a relationship that is mostly doom to fail?
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wat do u mean
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Yes. Only if both parties can accept failures as part of life...Originally posted by pete98:Would you try starting a relationship that is mostly doom to fail? -
No.If you are so sure its doomed,why bother?
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if u never try, u never know
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you provide too few details for us to make a judgement
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Give us more details... not all of us have ESP...Originally posted by pete98:Would you try starting a relationship that is mostly doom to fail?
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Since already doomed 2 fail...y d heck wori ?
Go 4 it & make it in2 a lastin memory......
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now how would anyone know that the r/s will be a failure in the very beginning?most ppl will be so inlove wif each other at the start to even worry abt the future leh,the feelings at the present is wat matters most,thats how i feel lar
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sometimes U know even before strt a relationship dat U would not be happy wif this person....but sometimes U like that someone U simply just go into it liddat. Even if it fails in the end at least U went thru U noe. So y not if U like dat person...give it a shot.
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X2Originally posted by FireIce:if u never try, u never know -
its true that if you dont try you dont know but I am wondering, since you are already quite sure - sometimes many of us just knows it in our gut - then I would suggest that you do not. Why go out on a limp to try sometime that will ultimately hurt both of you?
Every relationship will leave some scars big and small depending on how involved you are.
As several of the posters here already pointed out there is next to no details so its difficult to make a judgement call. But since I assume you know it yourself, and you are fairly convinced that it will fail for whatever reason, then please spare yourself some grief and pass this one on. your heart will thank you for it.
Imagine what would happen while you are nursing the grief and this cool cutie came along... (most people including yourself ) will not be healthy enogh emotionally to give your best for this new one that has better potential. It takes time to heal. psychological studies shows that it takes at least 6 months to clear your system of the relationship and if you are really invloved it can be anywhere from 2 to 5 years to fully recover.
So please do not think that this little doomed relationship will have little or no effect on your life, it has and it will be painful to a certain degree.
I have seen enough short term relatioinships in friends to know how damaging it can be - Yes its true that if you dont try you dont know but please spare a tot for yourself and your well being as well. If you want to try, try it with someone that you know you stand a better longer term chance than a short term one.
One question, if you think that its doomed to fail, why are you still thinking of starting one? what is the reason? -
i have to agree with you only on the recovering parts but the psych statistics don't cover all. some more than 5 years.Originally posted by franzx:its true that if you dont try you dont know but I am wondering, since you are already quite sure - sometimes many of us just knows it in our gut - then I would suggest that you do not. Why go out on a limp to try sometime that will ultimately hurt both of you?
Every relationship will leave some scars big and small depending on how involved you are.
As several of the posters here already pointed out there is next to no details so its difficult to make a judgement call. But since I assume you know it yourself, and you are fairly convinced that it will fail for whatever reason, then please spare yourself some grief and pass this one on. your heart will thank you for it.
Imagine what would happen while you are nursing the grief and this cool cutie came along... (most people including yourself ) will not be healthy enogh emotionally to give your best for this new one that has better potential. It takes time to heal. psychological studies shows that it takes at least 6 months to clear your system of the relationship and if you are really invloved it can be anywhere from 2 to 5 years to fully recover.
So please do not think that this little doomed relationship will have little or no effect on your life, it has and it will be painful to a certain degree.
I have seen enough short term relatioinships in friends to know how damaging it can be - Yes its true that if you dont try you dont know but please spare a tot for yourself and your well being as well. If you want to try, try it with someone that you know you stand a better longer term chance than a short term one.
One question, if you think that its doomed to fail, why are you still thinking of starting one? what is the reason?
as for the qn,
- why think of starting is becos of love.
- Reason?hope or "You dun need one" -
Too little details, son.Originally posted by pete98:Would you try starting a relationship that is mostly doom to fail?
It's very hard for judgements to fulfill your requests.
Anyway, from your statement, why think of starting a relationship when you are so pessimistic about it turning out right? I'm sure all of us wants to get near optimistic people, not some who barely thinks that something is bound to fail without a single trial. Am I right?
Think about it. Then post again. See ya. -
well, for the sex* i guess...Originally posted by pete98:Would you try starting a relationship that is mostly doom to fail? -
Originally posted by pete98:Would you try starting a relationship that is mostly doom to fail?
Define doom.
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Examples:Originally posted by Yunhaier: Define doom.
Cheers
Asking ur sister to be ur girlfriend?
Asking ur best friend (same sex) to be ur lover? -
Usually, you can't even start a relationship with example like this; so what's there to worry?Originally posted by Troy437:Examples:
Asking ur sister to be ur girlfriend?
Asking ur best friend (same sex) to be ur lover?
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I would... cos I live for the journey & not the destination; the moment & not the eternity.
http://www.sgforums.com/?action=thread_display&thread_id=89942 -
agree... if u try it out, it may have a chance to work out.. but if u dun try, dere is ABSOLUTELY NO chance to work out.. but prepare to suffer emotional trauma if it really dun work out...Originally posted by FireIce:if u never try, u never know
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I really like the way you put it.Originally posted by dream_ing:I would... cos I live for the journey & not the destination; the moment & not the eternity.
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if both has individual relationship, then breaking up and go for each other wuld definitely hurt 4 not 2..
Sesh, but then, u never if u never try..maybe it'll turn out to be a better choice (like in blueprints : chase)
I'm sort of in this suituation now, but I guess its not easy... me n the other party both agreed that things would be easier if we were single but the fact is, both of us are attached... and till now, I can't realy have the chance to talk it out...
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aiyah if there's sex involved WHY NOT~~
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Originally posted by DarrenWong:aiyah if there's sex involved WHY NOT~~
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Yes.Originally posted by pete98:Would you try starting a relationship that is mostly doom to fail?
Cause, we will be definitely tempted to. And when we are tempted, we won't be rational enough to think anymore.
And so, we will HOPE for miracles to appear, and then we will be in love FOREVER, have kids, and maybe a big house, and everything.
Of course, all these won't happen. And humans, will always refuse to see facts.