Love or infatuation.
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Right people, please give me some comments and advice about this problem of mine.
I fell for this guy at my school this year. It has been around 7 months. Indeed, i have confessed to him few months back, he did too. We've then remain as really close friends, to get to know each other better. There have been the days when we were constantly messaging each other, chats on the phone and msn. Some group outings. Things seemed rather hopeful and oh-so-sweet. We then started to drift a little. But we got back too. But chats on the phone and outings stopped. Mostly it was just casual chats online or a few smses here and there.
Maybe I had been dreaming too much or I was just too hopeful, but why can one change his mind so fast? And yes, i forgot to add, he was in love with another girl before he confessed to me, but the girl kind of rejected him. Did he treat me as a back-up?
As for now? Things seem to be getting worst. Whenever i go online, he sets to away mode. And when i sms him, i don't get replies. Why, why, why ... If there was an explanation or something, yes, i would go away silently, forgetting everything slowly. But now, its just like having someone tell you he loves you one moment and the next, he just slips away.
I still believe it isn't on purpose as he is just not such a jerk. But still i feel so upset. He told me he was busy and will get back to me at night, I was really excited and i couldn't get to sleep. I never heard from him since. Not even when he woke up, i had sent him a "Asleep? Okay, good night and rest well." sms at 2am.
This isn't the first time I have a problem with a guy. Things always end up like that. Come and go. I feel like forgetting everything about love. It just seems so meaningless to me. Sigh... -
Forget abt him & move on with ur life.
From an outsider's point of view, he's obviously avoiding u.
Learn to love urself & how to live on ur own.
When u grow older, u'll realise tt u've less & less friends.
And life will still go own, irregardless of whether u r single or attached.
Be happy always. -
He dun love you.
I know it's hurting. Sorry for being blunt. -
Face it...Forget him...
Dun be like me...
I wasted 4 years...
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reality is cruel...
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Hey friend, take it easy. Don't allow yourself to be upset over such an incident. Give yourself some time to sort yourself out and don't start looking out for another relationship because you are not ready for one. Study hard, keep yourself fit by exercising and playing outdoor games with your friends, and do anything to enjoy life. Love is not meaningless, it has to do with giving and sacrifice. Don't confuse romance with love. Once again, don't give up on yourself. Although you may fail hundreds of times, but it's okay to fail. Everyone fails. But if only you can start picking yourself up each time you fall, there'll surely be a light at the end of the tunnel. Be strong!Originally posted by Promises:Right people, please give me some comments and advice about this problem of mine.
I fell for this guy at my school this year. It has been around 7 months. Indeed, i have confessed to him few months back, he did too. We've then remain as really close friends, to get to know each other better. There have been the days when we were constantly messaging each other, chats on the phone and msn. Some group outings. Things seemed rather hopeful and oh-so-sweet. We then started to drift a little. But we got back too. But chats on the phone and outings stopped. Mostly it was just casual chats online or a few smses here and there.
Maybe I had been dreaming too much or I was just too hopeful, but why can one change his mind so fast? And yes, i forgot to add, he was in love with another girl before he confessed to me, but the girl kind of rejected him. Did he treat me as a back-up?
As for now? Things seem to be getting worst. Whenever i go online, he sets to away mode. And when i sms him, i don't get replies. Why, why, why ... If there was an explanation or something, yes, i would go away silently, forgetting everything slowly. But now, its just like having someone tell you he loves you one moment and the next, he just slips away.
I still believe it isn't on purpose as he is just not such a jerk. But still i feel so upset. He told me he was busy and will get back to me at night, I was really excited and i couldn't get to sleep. I never heard from him since. Not even when he woke up, i had sent him a "Asleep? Okay, good night and rest well." sms at 2am.
This isn't the first time I have a problem with a guy. Things always end up like that. Come and go. I feel like forgetting everything about love. It just seems so meaningless to me. Sigh...
Good luck.
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hihiOriginally posted by Promises:Right people, please give me some comments and advice about this problem of mine.
I fell for this guy at my school this year. It has been around 7 months. Indeed, i have confessed to him few months back, he did too. We've then remain as really close friends, to get to know each other better. There have been the days when we were constantly messaging each other, chats on the phone and msn. Some group outings. Things seemed rather hopeful and oh-so-sweet. We then started to drift a little. But we got back too. But chats on the phone and outings stopped. Mostly it was just casual chats online or a few smses here and there.
Maybe I had been dreaming too much or I was just too hopeful, but why can one change his mind so fast? And yes, i forgot to add, he was in love with another girl before he confessed to me, but the girl kind of rejected him. Did he treat me as a back-up?
As for now? Things seem to be getting worst. Whenever i go online, he sets to away mode. And when i sms him, i don't get replies. Why, why, why ... If there was an explanation or something, yes, i would go away silently, forgetting everything slowly. But now, its just like having someone tell you he loves you one moment and the next, he just slips away.
I still believe it isn't on purpose as he is just not such a jerk. But still i feel so upset. He told me he was busy and will get back to me at night, I was really excited and i couldn't get to sleep. I never heard from him since. Not even when he woke up, i had sent him a "Asleep? Okay, good night and rest well." sms at 2am.
This isn't the first time I have a problem with a guy. Things always end up like that. Come and go. I feel like forgetting everything about love. It just seems so meaningless to me. Sigh...
Firstly, come and go is part and parcel of life, be it yours or slips away from you.. got to face it... what comes ard goes ard...
Secondly, have you ever think of why he's doing this? im kind of certain you din do anything wrong or hurt him in anyway rite? cant be. So lets zoom in onto him. What sort of person is he? do you and him share common interests and stuffs? hmmm... can the frienship bet you and him weather ups and downs?
though you like him and he also confesses that he likes you, but how accurate and how certain is he, on his part? maybe he's uncertain at that point and don't know exactly what he wants.. that's why now the repurcussions arise.. if he's really fallen for you, then he wouldnt have keep you waiting and waiting.. like fishing you know... throw out the bait, yet pull back the line// .. or meybe this is just the way he is? it's just that you din noe? coz some times, different ppl will have diferent "attitude" and it's only after a while it becomes more apparent to the other party... well, all these are just my personal views.. for your reference nia...
cum on, dont be disheartened... you'll definitely find your mr nice and right guy yea?!.... why hurry? you should instead concentrate on your studies, achieve good grades, parents happy, you happy, everybody happy..
also, dun let your emotional mind overrides your conscious reasoning mind... do constantly tell yourself not to dwell on it so much, though it's inevitable you'll think of it... minimise the thinking and move on with your studies...
cheers... -
Originally posted by Promises:Right people, please give me some comments and advice about this problem of mine.
I fell for this guy at my school this year. It has been around 7 months. Indeed, i have confessed to him few months back, he did too. We've then remain as really close friends, to get to know each other better. There have been the days when we were constantly messaging each other, chats on the phone and msn. Some group outings. Things seemed rather hopeful and oh-so-sweet. We then started to drift a little. But we got back too. But chats on the phone and outings stopped. Mostly it was just casual chats online or a few smses here and there.
Maybe I had been dreaming too much or I was just too hopeful, but why can one change his mind so fast? And yes, i forgot to add, he was in love with another girl before he confessed to me, but the girl kind of rejected him. Did he treat me as a back-up?
As for now? Things seem to be getting worst. Whenever i go online, he sets to away mode. And when i sms him, i don't get replies. Why, why, why ... If there was an explanation or something, yes, i would go away silently, forgetting everything slowly. But now, its just like having someone tell you he loves you one moment and the next, he just slips away.
I still believe it isn't on purpose as he is just not such a jerk. But still i feel so upset. He told me he was busy and will get back to me at night, I was really excited and i couldn't get to sleep. I never heard from him since. Not even when he woke up, i had sent him a "Asleep? Okay, good night and rest well." sms at 2am.
This isn't the first time I have a problem with a guy. Things always end up like that. Come and go. I feel like forgetting everything about love. It just seems so meaningless to me. Sigh...
CloUdiSm Remix III states: people knows about getting to know one another better, knows about trying to be good friends first. This is great; but a sad thing is that a portion of these people doesn't know how to seal a BGR relationship after that. It is like a salesman knowing how to talk and convince you about his/her product, but unable to do the proper closure of the business deal - this boils down to nothing.
Every chase has a life chart - the actual relationship should start when it hit the climax of the line chart because interest will gradually die down unless Art of Seduction is involved for another purpose; then it will be a complelely different thing.
You are probably a lady who doesn't fear revealing your own feelings to a guy, but still prefer to wait for his initiative on the decision to be together. Asking if you are on the rebound, it's a possibility. But I am pretty sure that you stand exactly on the line - you are a potential, but lack one small, yet important element that prevents him from making his final move. So near, yet so far kind.
You may wished to date him out privately and speak to him. Cease group outing and focus more on private dates - afterall, the personal attention is greater. You may want to communicate and make things clearer since most of the conclusion are purely blind thoughts from your side.
Cheers -
well well, sometimes, ppl tend to enj n forget..although i am not a r/s expert but i know wat guys thking abt..guys afraid of loneliness..normally they wun rej gals' date..they would be "close" to u for a period of time n forget..they can like a few gals at a time, they lik to choose the "best" out of it..sigh..they even confess tat they like to have "sparetyres"...gals r different, normally they r more loyal n willing to contribute alot more than themselves yet guys tend to tak thg for granted..wat to do, so i suggest u to tak time slowly, guys dun really lik gals to be too direct, so dun spend too much time of thking of him..let thgs go naturely..if he really fonds of u , he defintely contact u soon..jus giv himn more time..guys a bit slow in sorting thg out.k
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Give him some time...Originally posted by Promises:Right people, please give me some comments and advice about this problem of mine.
I fell for this guy at my school this year. It has been around 7 months. Indeed, i have confessed to him few months back, he did too. We've then remain as really close friends, to get to know each other better. There have been the days when we were constantly messaging each other, chats on the phone and msn. Some group outings. Things seemed rather hopeful and oh-so-sweet. We then started to drift a little. But we got back too. But chats on the phone and outings stopped. Mostly it was just casual chats online or a few smses here and there.
Maybe I had been dreaming too much or I was just too hopeful, but why can one change his mind so fast? And yes, i forgot to add, he was in love with another girl before he confessed to me, but the girl kind of rejected him. Did he treat me as a back-up?
As for now? Things seem to be getting worst. Whenever i go online, he sets to away mode. And when i sms him, i don't get replies. Why, why, why ... If there was an explanation or something, yes, i would go away silently, forgetting everything slowly. But now, its just like having someone tell you he loves you one moment and the next, he just slips away.
I still believe it isn't on purpose as he is just not such a jerk. But still i feel so upset. He told me he was busy and will get back to me at night, I was really excited and i couldn't get to sleep. I never heard from him since. Not even when he woke up, i had sent him a "Asleep? Okay, good night and rest well." sms at 2am.
This isn't the first time I have a problem with a guy. Things always end up like that. Come and go. I feel like forgetting everything about love. It just seems so meaningless to me. Sigh...
Give yourself some space.. To breathe...
Whatever's the reasons behind to have caused him to act in such a way... His mind's probably not made up and drifting... And one of the last things you would wanna do probably is to enter a relationship in such a state... I'm not saying that it's not possible... To clarify things and such... I'm just saying that simply put... It places most things in an disadvantaged position...