Aigh
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Been thinking of some problems. I and my friend get to know a gal at a same time. He can tell that I'm quite interested with her. Sometimes after knocking off from work, three of us together with her friends will go for a drink and chat about everything.
Lately I suspected that my friend is going steady with her. I did ask him about it and he denied it flatly saying that he will never do anything to hurt his friend. Since he tell me this, I forget the entire issue and just take things easily.
A week ago, when I'm on my way home, I saw him and the girl together and they are holding hands. When they saw me, they quickly let go and pretend nothing has happen. I was mad at first as I'm thinking why should he lie to me about everything. I treat him as a best friend and he treat me this way.
But after some thought, I tell myself that I should move on and pretend that nothing has happen.
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Originally posted by BLIM:Been thinking of some problems. I and my friend get to know a gal at a same time. He can tell that I'm quite interested with her. Sometimes after knocking off from work, three of us together with her friends will go for a drink and chat about everything.
Lately I suspected that my friend is going steady with her. I did ask him about it and he denied it flatly saying that he will never do anything to hurt his friend. Since he tell me this, I forget the entire issue and just take things easily.
A week ago, when I'm on my way home, I saw him and the girl together and they are holding hands. When they saw me, they quickly let go and pretend nothing has happen. I was mad at first as I'm thinking why should he lie to me about everything. I treat him as a best friend and he treat me this way.
But after some thought, I tell myself that I should move on and pretend that nothing has happen.
Has anything like this happen on your side. Pls share it. Thanks!
Seriously speaking, if such thing happens, you can forget about the girl because since he is now your good friends 'underground' gf, let them be. What's more important is that you should be extra caution when dealing with this good friend of yours. I don't believe in deception like this: if you can have the maturity and wisdom to move on your life from then, I don't see why he cannot have the honesty to tell you frankly.
In face of a woman, friendship/s can render into nothingness. Been there, done that.
Personal: CloUdiSm 2000 issue states: These people are born in the world to kill me.
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bo shi ba?!?!? like that then we all either kill the world or commit sucide suan leOriginally posted by Yunhaier:[b]In face of a woman, friendship/s can render into nothingness. Been there, done that.
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wah laos.. u use one bamboo and kill all in the boat?
there are woman who treasure true frenships loh
[quote]Originally posted by Yunhaier:
Personal: CloUdiSm 2000 issue states: These people are born in the world to kill me.
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Aigh? i think you mean sigh.
^----genius post of the day
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Originally posted by the_don:bo shi ba?!?!? like that then we all either kill the world or commit sucide suan le No lar, not saying woman not treasuring friends; just that the theory when there is a girl involved, it could potentially break-up friendships between guy and their friends. Man works in a way of a hunter; in love, majority sees in a straight line view.
Think about why one of the 36 strategem is beauty trap (Mei ren ji)?
When Mars is afflicted by Neptune - action is delude by illusion.
Just like my 6-7 years of old friendship wanna walk up to me and slap me for another girl, who have absolutely no BGR connection with...
Just like my 6-7 years of friendship stabbed my back with all my things he knew about me for another girl, who have absolutely no feeling and BGR connection with him...
Just like a group of close knitted friends break up because of a particular woman...
Just like two good friend of mine fighting over a woman who choses none and have their friendship broken up - in the first place, she didn't even have love for either...
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Man...
Hopeless in face of the Art of Seduction.
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mei ren ji is used to bring a whole country down, those girls use mei ren ji what what the heck??Originally posted by Yunhaier: No lar, not saying woman not treasuring friends; just that the theory when there is a girl involved, it could potentially break-up friendships between guy and their friends. Man works in a way of a hunter; in love, majority sees in a straight line view.
Think about why one of the 36 strategem is beauty trap (Mei ren ji)?
When Mars is afflicted by Neptune - action is delude by illusion.
Just like my 6-7 years of old friendship wanna walk up to me and slap me for another girl, who have absolutely no BGR connection with...
Just like my 6-7 years of friendship stabbed my back with all my things he knew about me for another girl, who have absolutely no feeling and BGR connection with him...
Just like a group of close knitted friends break up because of a particular woman...
Just like two good friend of mine fighting over a woman who choses none and have their friendship broken up - in the first place, she didn't even have love for either...
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Man...
Hopeless in face of the Art of Seduction.
Cheer and they have no BGR connection...
and what is Mars afflicted by Neptune?? why so chim? -
Originally posted by the.raven:mei ren ji is used to bring a whole country down, those girls use mei ren ji what what the heck?? and they have no BGR connection...
and what is Mars afflicted by Neptune?? why so chim? And the fate of the whole country usually lies within a single man.
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Originally posted by Yunhaier:
I'll take that as much of a personal preference..? Seriously speaking, if such thing happens, you can forget about the girl because since he is now your good friends 'underground' gf, let them be. What's more important is that you should be extra caution when dealing with this good friend of yours. I don't believe in deception like this: if you can have the maturity and wisdom to move on your life from then, I don't see why he cannot have the honesty to tell you frankly.
[b]In face of a woman, friendship/s can render into nothingness. Been there, done that.
Personal: CloUdiSm 2000 issue states: These people are born in the world to kill me.
Cheers [/b]
The 'deception' from a good friend as you've put it... It's really all a matter of how you see it as opposed to what might really be in store for you in reality...
Some people who find that there's nothing to hide would just be as OPEN as you've suggested to a friend... While others who might feel that they're done a great wrong to a good friend.. Might just choose to hide the truth, be cautious and not wanna hurt this friend... It's all a matter of a person's way of handling the situation... Though I can also agree with you that the chance of this 'good friend' being a cunning (selfish?) person is there...
All in all, love should not be forced... Just accept it as it is... And if it's really a case of deception..? All that shall not be should fall apart eventually...
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Note that she probably don't make much of the choices more than they do... It's really very much of their choices and doings in most normal cases...Originally posted by Yunhaier: No lar, not saying woman not treasuring friends; just that the theory when there is a girl involved, it could potentially break-up friendships between guy and their friends. Man works in a way of a hunter; in love, majority sees in a straight line view.
Think about why one of the 36 strategem is beauty trap (Mei ren ji)?
When Mars is afflicted by Neptune - action is delude by illusion.
Just like my 6-7 years of old friendship wanna walk up to me and slap me for another girl, who have absolutely no BGR connection with...
Just like my 6-7 years of friendship stabbed my back with all my things he knew about me for another girl, who have absolutely no feeling and BGR connection with him...
Just like a group of close knitted friends break up because of a particular woman...
Just like two good friend of mine fighting over a woman who choses none and have their friendship broken up - in the first place, she didn't even have love for either...
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Man...
Hopeless in face of the Art of Seduction.
Cheer
You can lose a girl, but you don't have to lose a friendship... Something's always better than nothing... Besides.. You can always learn from it...
PS. 'Backache'? Sometimes the scar is there but the wound don't really hurt no more... Be GLAD ya SURVIVED... Learn to live with the SCAR... -
Actually it's not a matter of personal preference; rather what you have replied is what I thought as well. The high chance of this good friend being cunning/selfish and of course, if it was born of deception, all shall fall apart eventually.Originally posted by Devil1976:I'll take that as much of a personal preference..?
The 'deception' from a good friend as you've put it... It's really all a matter of how you see it as opposed to what might really be in store for you in reality...
Some people who find that there's nothing to hide would just be as OPEN as you've suggested to a friend... While others who might feel that they're done a great wrong to a good friend.. Might just choose to hide the truth, be cautious and not wanna hurt this friend... It's all a matter of a person's way of handling the situation... Though I can also agree with you that the chance of this 'good friend' being a cunning (selfish?) person is there...
All in all, love should not be forced... Just accept it as it is... And if it's really a case of deception..? All that shall not be should fall apart eventually...
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Haha, I understand devil, though that ONE example is not a personal one.Originally posted by Devil1976:Note that she probably don't make much of the choices more than they do... It's really very much of their choices and doings in most normal cases...
You can lose a girl, but you don't have to lose a friendship... Something's always better than nothing... Besides.. You can always learn from it...
PS. 'Backache'? Sometimes the scar is there but the wound don't really hurt no more... Be GLAD ya SURVIVED... Learn to live with the SCAR... 
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Think you've misunderstood me? I don't suggest a high chance of him being deceived by his friend... In fact, in plainly stated facts... There're no strong evidence to suggest that one has any higher likelihood than the other possibilities....Originally posted by Yunhaier:Actually it's not a matter of personal preference; rather what you have replied is what I thought as well. The high chance of this good friend being cunning/selfish and of course, if it was born of deception, all shall fall apart eventually.
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I know... But you've pretty much similar experiences yourself?Originally posted by Yunhaier:Haha, I understand devil, though that ONE example is not a personal one.
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Nah, not this scenario.Originally posted by Devil1976:I know... But you've pretty much similar experiences yourself?
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If a fren falls out over a woman.. their friendship is simply not strong enough...
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i Know who you taling about!!! ahahahha!!!!Originally posted by Yunhaier: No lar, not saying woman not treasuring friends; just that the theory when there is a girl involved, it could potentially break-up friendships between guy and their friends. Man works in a way of a hunter; in love, majority sees in a straight line view.
Think about why one of the 36 strategem is beauty trap (Mei ren ji)?
When Mars is afflicted by Neptune - action is delude by illusion.
Just like my 6-7 years of old friendship wanna walk up to me and slap me for another girl, who have absolutely no BGR connection with...
Just like my 6-7 years of friendship stabbed my back with all my things he knew about me for another girl, who have absolutely no feeling and BGR connection with him...
Just like a group of close knitted friends break up because of a particular woman...
Just like two good friend of mine fighting over a woman who choses none and have their friendship broken up - in the first place, she didn't even have love for either...
***
Man...
Hopeless in face of the Art of Seduction.
Cheer
Don't worry.. me will never do this to you!!! 
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Dear BLIM,Originally posted by BLIM:Been thinking of some problems. I and my friend get to know a gal at a same time. He can tell that I'm quite interested with her. Sometimes after knocking off from work, three of us together with her friends will go for a drink and chat about everything.
Lately I suspected that my friend is going steady with her. I did ask him about it and he denied it flatly saying that he will never do anything to hurt his friend. Since he tell me this, I forget the entire issue and just take things easily.
A week ago, when I'm on my way home, I saw him and the girl together and they are holding hands. When they saw me, they quickly let go and pretend nothing has happen. I was mad at first as I'm thinking why should he lie to me about everything. I treat him as a best friend and he treat me this way.
But after some thought, I tell myself that I should move on and pretend that nothing has happen.
Has anything like this happen on your side. Pls share it. Thanks!
You learn your lesson.. how to judge and see through the ppl around you.. They are shallow. let them be.. that girl isn't worthy of you.. that so-called good friend will jus be a friend.. Don't want to declare to the world they are together,,, cos they know that you like the girl.. scared that you might get hurt when you know about it.. but then again.. when you so happen to see them holding hands together.. wouldn't it be more hurtful than honestly telly ou the truth..
"Bu yao bei zhe liang xin shou xia hua" If in the first place the friend told you that he also likes the girl then it would be a fair competition.. at lest you knwo about it.. whether the girl choses who i'm sure you give your beat wishes to them.. And if they ever tell you about their r/s.. however you know that they are friends that can be trusted and to be honest with you.. and who knows.. you guys maybe really good friends afterall..
Well, friends come and go.. next time open your eyes big big.. and see! hehehhe
Cheers..
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Originally posted by Yunhaier:Nah, not this scenario.
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REALLY..??Originally posted by Yunhaier:Nah, not this scenario.
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hahahahaha...Originally posted by Devil1976:REALLY..??
Hmm... Come to think of it.. You can still be quite 'you'...? -
Hmm...BLIM, next time if you like a girl...keep it to yourself. If you like her, then you should take the initiative to go after her. My guess is you probably took too much time to go after her at your own pace. Another reason is probably the girl herself is actually interested in your friend and the both of them are mutually attracted to each other. Good friends and girl-that-you-like simply don't mix, and friendship and love are both entirely different things. Say if you like this girl and your best friend is also interested in her, will you give her up just because your best friend openly declared his interest in her to you? The answer is no, because you fight for your own happiness and so does your best friend. And if you really like the girl, wouldn't you feel much better/assure if she hooks up with your best friend rather than other strangers whose character credibility is a huge question mark?Originally posted by BLIM:Been thinking of some problems. I and my friend get to know a gal at a same time. He can tell that I'm quite interested with her. Sometimes after knocking off from work, three of us together with her friends will go for a drink and chat about everything.
Lately I suspected that my friend is going steady with her. I did ask him about it and he denied it flatly saying that he will never do anything to hurt his friend. Since he tell me this, I forget the entire issue and just take things easily.
A week ago, when I'm on my way home, I saw him and the girl together and they are holding hands. When they saw me, they quickly let go and pretend nothing has happen. I was mad at first as I'm thinking why should he lie to me about everything. I treat him as a best friend and he treat me this way.
But after some thought, I tell myself that I should move on and pretend that nothing has happen.
Has anything like this happen on your side. Pls share it. Thanks!
You are probably feeling more sour from the fact that you didn't win her heart rather than the ''betrayal'' which comes from your friend. And your friend is actually not even close to you...so he has no obligations in whatever way to step aside and open up a freeway for you to go after the girl that he might also be interested in.
If you find somebody that you really like in the future, make haste because you don't get this kind of feelings often and once you missed her, you will never know when you might meet another girl that you really like again.
Good luck.
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Yes LAR... NOT ME!Originally posted by Devil1976:REALLY..??
Hmm... Come to think of it.. You can still be quite 'you'...? 
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you jump into yellow river oso cannot wash away! aahhahhaha..Originally posted by Yunhaier:Yes LAR... NOT ME!
Hey! devil dun believe i believe is not you..!! cos i know know who the hell you toking about!!!! AHHHAHHHAHAHHHhahAhh
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Yeah... Not you, but taken too presonally.... 'Quite you'Originally posted by Yunhaier:Yes LAR... NOT ME! Your character and tendency to be so... -
Originally posted by Devil1976:Yeah... Not you, but taken too presonally.... 'Quite you' Your character and tendency to be so...