shocking discovery, need advice
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Testing my dad HP, i got to read some mushy sent smses....to another lady...Not as saucy like the Beckham Saga, but something i would never expect to hear coming out of the dad i know. The recipent seem like a younger lady. Seem to not just normal speak, but do have some sex involve from outlook of hotel mentioned...
What to do?
1)Leave everything alone as normal. So far family is going fine. Maybe i too suspicious over those smses?
2)Tell mom, that will be quite sad to her, but then at least i wil not be unfair?
3)Tell dad, very funny speaking to him about this kind of thing, but what can do?
I cannot say both are lovey dovey couple nor have great sex life, but as parents they did great and exhibit great responsibilities and nice family, as husband wife also no problem cept not too much communication.
Is it true that older guys do get a bit horny? mid 60s crisis. I feel maybe just close one eye and let this phase pass.
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Hmm.. being caught in the middle of both parents. Ahh.. it is a bad position to be in.
But i suggest...
Talking to your dad about it.
Just say.. erm.. I'm sorry that i fiddled with your mobile (private property -> how would you feel if they did the same to your stuff) and ask who those messages are for.
I guess...
Which reminds me that i gotta clear my outbox memory.. just in case! -
I think you should bring up to your dad in a mature manner la. Telling yr mum might just get things too emotional.
Anyway what are you doing going thru yr dad's smses? He will definately blow his top as it is an invasion of privacy la.
I guess only thing is that apologize you're wrong first and say you found this and it is of concern to you as it got you worried la. Plus you might add that it has (if it did) affect the respect and image you had of him and such. Might get a pt across too especially coming from his son. -
Bring your dad to church or whatever your religion is..
bring towards closer family bond..
get ur mum to dress up..act more chio..
call up the person..using another HP..to find out more.. -
perhaps you can ask your dad and mum, when they think they wanna go for a trip to spend some quality time together away.... maybe from here you can fish something out. remember don't be rash....!
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4 Call the women and tell her not to break up your family ?
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I'm not sure if this is advisable, but this is what I will do if I were in your situation.Originally posted by boyish love:Testing my dad HP, i got to read some mushy sent smses....to another lady...Not as saucy like the Beckham Saga, but something i would never expect to hear coming out of the dad i know. The recipent seem like a younger lady. Seem to not just normal speak, but do have some sex involve from outlook of hotel mentioned...
What to do?
1)Leave everything alone as normal. So far family is going fine. Maybe i too suspicious over those smses?
2)Tell mom, that will be quite sad to her, but then at least i wil not be unfair?
3)Tell dad, very funny speaking to him about this kind of thing, but what can do?
I cannot say both are lovey dovey couple nor have great sex life, but as parents they did great and exhibit great responsibilities and nice family, as husband wife also no problem cept not too much communication.
Is it true that older guys do get a bit horny? mid 60s crisis. I feel maybe just close one eye and let this phase pass.
I will keep a close tab on my Dad's phone for a longer time instead. To see whether there is really something fishy. And of course, keep a closer observation on how he is behaving towards Mom.
I am quite sensitive, and I always trust my intuition. So, if there's really something amiss, I will then approach Dad. -
Originally posted by boyish love:Testing my dad HP, i got to read some mushy sent smses....to another lady...Not as saucy like the Beckham Saga, but something i would never expect to hear coming out of the dad i know. The recipent seem like a younger lady. Seem to not just normal speak, but do have some sex involve from outlook of hotel mentioned...
What to do?
1)Leave everything alone as normal. So far family is going fine. Maybe i too suspicious over those smses?
2)Tell mom, that will be quite sad to her, but then at least i wil not be unfair?
3)Tell dad, very funny speaking to him about this kind of thing, but what can do?
I cannot say both are lovey dovey couple nor have great sex life, but as parents they did great and exhibit great responsibilities and nice family, as husband wife also no problem cept not too much communication.
Is it true that older guys do get a bit horny? mid 60s crisis. I feel maybe just close one eye and let this phase pass. 
Seriously, I won't bother to do anything. Its their love life afterall. The lack of wisdom is something NOT simple talking-about-it could help in anyway. I long made my choice if my parents were to have their marriage break up in anyway - I will live myself (or with my mum. - Moon in 4th house contribute that influence).
However, in your case, your only direct approach would be to speak to him personally and privately first before you gauge your other moves. My dad can't lie to me for I would detect it through my own means - you have to focus on the body language and see how much information you can squeeze from the first confrontation because don't expect anything much after this.
Cheers -
Dear boyish love,Originally posted by boyish love:Testing my dad HP, i got to read some mushy sent smses....to another lady...Not as saucy like the Beckham Saga, but something i would never expect to hear coming out of the dad i know. The recipent seem like a younger lady. Seem to not just normal speak, but do have some sex involve from outlook of hotel mentioned...
What to do?
1)Leave everything alone as normal. So far family is going fine. Maybe i too suspicious over those smses?
2)Tell mom, that will be quite sad to her, but then at least i wil not be unfair?
3)Tell dad, very funny speaking to him about this kind of thing, but what can do?
I cannot say both are lovey dovey couple nor have great sex life, but as parents they did great and exhibit great responsibilities and nice family, as husband wife also no problem cept not too much communication.
Is it true that older guys do get a bit horny? mid 60s crisis. I feel maybe just close one eye and let this phase pass.
First thing, why did you use your dad and test out something? And somehoiw you intruded his privacy by lookin at his SMSes.. I'm sure some will always have the curiosity to check out what kind of messages they do keep... But if you dad really does something wrong... he might not even let you touches his phone at all.. Cos of the mushy messages.. and maybe some of his love life revolving another person..
But i oso cannot say that he isn't involved in this.. this is jus a assumption.. Have a talk with your dad first.. there's nothing you can do about it.. Let the invovled parties settle on their own.. But meanwhile talk to him.. first before you really spill out anything to your mum without clarifications..
You had a good family.. jus that you mentioned that there's not much communication at home.. Maybe someday.. you had a family outing..... or engage in some activities that can bring the whole family back together.. and work together.. Communication is rather or simply very important in any r/s whether married or not... if communication break down.. you dun share any more with each other... you do your own.. i go my way.. then why get together??
Go for some family event.. bring your parents or siblings.. or maybe some gathering like someone in the family bday.. or maybe your parent's anniversary.. planned something.. and bring the family back.. strengthen the bonds... that would help.. DOn't worry too much.. Your dad is in his 60s .. he has spent all his time n youth with your mum.. no matter what.. he still loves her afterall...
Cheer...
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talk to yr dad.
Who knows MAYBE someone else might be testing with his hp and send such messages. -
Have a pte. talk with yr dad without yr mum knowing. Hear his explanation abt the sms. If he is really fooling around, remind him abt his responsibility & how u feel abt. it. Monitor him. If he still persist, then let yr mum handle it.
Don't ignore it cos it is not right of him to fool around even though he is yr dad. -
Don't go and find out, leave the matter . Just make sure you all have family day and are together most of the time, your dad will come back at the end after he had fun.Originally posted by boyish love:Testing my dad HP, i got to read some mushy sent smses....to another lady...Not as saucy like the Beckham Saga, but something i would never expect to hear coming out of the dad i know. The recipent seem like a younger lady. Seem to not just normal speak, but do have some sex involve from outlook of hotel mentioned...
What to do?
1)Leave everything alone as normal. So far family is going fine. Maybe i too suspicious over those smses?
2)Tell mom, that will be quite sad to her, but then at least i wil not be unfair?
3)Tell dad, very funny speaking to him about this kind of thing, but what can do?
I cannot say both are lovey dovey couple nor have great sex life, but as parents they did great and exhibit great responsibilities and nice family, as husband wife also no problem cept not too much communication.
Is it true that older guys do get a bit horny? mid 60s crisis. I feel maybe just close one eye and let this phase pass.
family is always the winner if all knows how to close 1 eye. Bring it out only make the problem go worst. -
Nice..Originally posted by elindra:I think you should bring up to your dad in a mature manner la. Telling yr mum might just get things too emotional.
Anyway what are you doing going thru yr dad's smses? He will definately blow his top as it is an invasion of privacy la.
I guess only thing is that apologize you're wrong first and say you found this and it is of concern to you as it got you worried la. Plus you might add that it has (if it did) affect the respect and image you had of him and such. Might get a pt across too especially coming from his son. -
This is good too...Originally posted by SunRisE:Dear boyish love,
First thing, why did you use your dad and test out something? And somehoiw you intruded his privacy by lookin at his SMSes.. I'm sure some will always have the curiosity to check out what kind of messages they do keep... But if you dad really does something wrong... he might not even let you touches his phone at all.. Cos of the mushy messages.. and maybe some of his love life revolving another person..
But i oso cannot say that he isn't involved in this.. this is jus a assumption.. Have a talk with your dad first.. there's nothing you can do about it.. Let the invovled parties settle on their own.. But meanwhile talk to him.. first before you really spill out anything to your mum without clarifications..
You had a good family.. jus that you mentioned that there's not much communication at home.. Maybe someday.. you had a family outing..... or engage in some activities that can bring the whole family back together.. and work together.. Communication is rather or simply very important in any r/s whether married or not... if communication break down.. you dun share any more with each other... you do your own.. i go my way.. then why get together??
Go for some family event.. bring your parents or siblings.. or maybe some gathering like someone in the family bday.. or maybe your parent's anniversary.. planned something.. and bring the family back.. strengthen the bonds... that would help.. DOn't worry too much.. Your dad is in his 60s .. he has spent all his time n youth with your mum.. no matter what.. he still loves her afterall...
Cheer... -
This has something to do with a point I wish to bring up...Originally posted by F.O.S:Don't go and find out, leave the matter . Just make sure you all have family day and are together most of the time, your dad will come back at the end after he had fun.
family is always the winner if all knows how to close 1 eye. Bring it out only make the problem go worst.
INTERFERENCE. Sometimes things happen and everybody just pretends nothing happens.. Sometimes they genuinely don't know.. With the situation dragging, there might be a chance that things might blow the cover one thing (if there's really anything to begin with...)...
By speaking to your dad, what are your chances of convincing him to 'turn over' from the situation? Though no doubt it's usually better to know a bit more of the situation...
Some things are better left untouched.. 'Balancing' off the pros and cons is a decision you should be in a better position to make... -
Originally posted by Devil1976:This is good too...
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haha alternatively you could get chaar123 and his gangster to beat up this girl and say "STAY away from my DADDY!"
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Nice advise people.
I feel i will stick to my first action, also reccomended by many, that is, to keep one eye shut. No point poking private affairs, not until i noticed any "bad" things taking place. some guys just need a fling. ..