My Dilema
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Hi, I am new here. Just making a short introduction of myself.
Recently, I find myself in a dilema. I know two guys both who are very close and dear to me.
The first guy I love has always treated me as a sister. We hardly talk on the phone and he never dates me out. However, he makes an effort everyday to wake me up for school so that I'll not be late and is very generous in giving me what I wanted. He is not rich, but he is willing to spend to make me happy. He has never made a move but I'm thinking about him nearly all the time in school.
The second guy I love is a friendly guy. He is a shy guy but he makes constant efforts to date me out. He argues with me at times and denies his promises. I feel comfortable with him and always chat with him. He never say anything but I am sure he will pop the question one day. Everytime I am with him, I am happy and rather sad that we have to part.
Now, here's the dilema:
The first guy treated the second guy like his younger brother and I'm not sure if I should confess my love or wait for their advances. Two very decent guys but I don't know which to choose. I am also afraid that if I held out too long, I'll lose both guys. They are both very nice to me and if only they were one person. -
if u nt sure then mayb u haven noe them well enuff to make the decision... buy urself more time b4 deciding...
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The last time I waited on love, it vanished without a trace. It took me so long to forget my past. I don't want it to happen again.
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then choose one.. u've to make a decision.. jus make sure that it is what u want..
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Personal advice. Rather you lost both guys then complicate things and hurt everyone in the end... Unless that is what you want?Originally posted by Otingocni:Hi, I am new here. Just making a short introduction of myself.
Recently, I find myself in a dilema. I know two guys both who are very close and dear to me.
The first guy I love has always treated me as a sister. We hardly talk on the phone and he never dates me out. However, he makes an effort everyday to wake me up for school so that I'll not be late and is very generous in giving me what I wanted. He is not rich, but he is willing to spend to make me happy. He has never made a move but I'm thinking about him nearly all the time in school.
The second guy I love is a friendly guy. He is a shy guy but he makes constant efforts to date me out. He argues with me at times and denies his promises. I feel comfortable with him and always chat with him. He never say anything but I am sure he will pop the question one day. Everytime I am with him, I am happy and rather sad that we have to part.
Now, here's the dilema:
The first guy treated the second guy like his younger brother and I'm not sure if I should confess my love or wait for their advances. Two very decent guys but I don't know which to choose. I am also afraid that if I held out too long, I'll lose both guys. They are both very nice to me and if only they were one person.
At least know what you want before you start on anything... A movement without direction is just a motion... -
hmm, it's not uncommon to have such dilemma... most of us wants the best of both world.. but in reality, we can choose only one mate, the special one whom you feel comfortable with, and he's the one you know you're looking for...
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You got to be sure you choose the person you really want...
It might be too late to regret if you choose the wrong person... -
Dilemma not Dilema.
Okay back on the topic. My favorite piece of advice, follow your heart not the voices. Give it more time. -
You should go out with both, ofcourse not together. But date them each. Because one of them is BOUND to piss you off by being a rotten egg, so then when you know them better you can choose. Same thing for guys, keep your options open.
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Originally posted by Otingocni:Hi, I am new here. Just making a short introduction of myself.
Recently, I find myself in a dilema. I know two guys both who are very close and dear to me.
The first guy I love has always treated me as a sister. We hardly talk on the phone and he never dates me out. However, he makes an effort everyday to wake me up for school so that I'll not be late and is very generous in giving me what I wanted. He is not rich, but he is willing to spend to make me happy. He has never made a move but I'm thinking about him nearly all the time in school.
The second guy I love is a friendly guy. He is a shy guy but he makes constant efforts to date me out. He argues with me at times and denies his promises. I feel comfortable with him and always chat with him. He never say anything but I am sure he will pop the question one day. Everytime I am with him, I am happy and rather sad that we have to part.
Now, here's the dilema:
The first guy treated the second guy like his younger brother and I'm not sure if I should confess my love or wait for their advances. Two very decent guys but I don't know which to choose. I am also afraid that if I held out too long, I'll lose both guys. They are both very nice to me and if only they were one person.
There are NO win-win solution to this case. I repeat - there are NO win-win solution here, so you can forget about trying to maintain the best of both world and keep everyone happy. Your situation only promises an eventual hurt to either one, two or three parties and it is up to you to make that choice ultimately.
You stall because you are unable to make the decision regarding the birth of a relationship and waits for them to pop out the question. But seriously, do not be led by the nose and be fooled in thinking that since you loved the both of them - either one of them doesn't matter. In fact, it does matter. We are given freewill in relationship and that allows us to make a decent choice. Do not sit back and let circumstances lead the way. You will NOT prepared for what is going to throw into your path and would be slaughtered by how quick pace and vicious this possible triangle is.
Since the feelings about mutual and about the same - check suitability and compatiability. Everyone is DIFFERENT in this aspect and from there, you know which one is better for you together in a relationship. Of course, only if you are on for a serious relationship (this is not applicable if you are NOT looking for a serious relationship) - for the two of them will likely to fall out (Or at least reduce one level of friendship with to one another) because of this.
Drop both if you feel neither of them suits you. Remember, you don't neccessary have to make a choice between the two of them.
Cheers