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here's e situation...
A is my gf.. we juz gone steady..meetonly 1-2 times a wEek due to her busy sch schedule..at first..we had so much joy together...but recently..i juz had tat fEeling tat she's unhappy...e feeling isn't e same as before..she's seems so moody nowadays..whnever i ask her wat's wrong..she juz say nothin....then we always ran out of topics to chat while chatting...in e past it wasn't like tat...we could chat for hrs....feels tat she started to dun hav fEelings for me le..sometimes i juz dun Feel anything...
then there is my colleague, B.. noe her 1yr+ le... can get along really well wif her.. at first i treated her as very gd fren...but as times go by..i started to develop feelings for her...i noe its wrong coz me attached le.. but some how..i feel more comfy when i wif her...we always squabble wif each other...suaning each other non stop...we can chat on abt any topics.. then recently when we went clubbing wif our frenz...juz feel like sitting down wif her n chat..although i hyperactive type..normally prefer dancing.. dunno y.. she told me b4 tat she likes me...but i presumed tat she juz joking wif me...considering e fact tat we always joke ard...but some how..now i tink its true..
now i having a dilemma..whether to continue my r/s wif A n remains as gd frenz wif B..or break off wif A..n start pursueing B.....help help -
Ask yourself who you loves most...
No point staying on if you no longer loves her...the longer you drag the more painful it would be for both of you...
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GROW UP.Originally posted by JuNW3i:here's e situation...
A is my gf.. we juz gone steady..meetonly 1-2 times a wEek due to her busy sch schedule..at first..we had so much joy together...but recently..i juz had tat fEeling tat she's unhappy...e feeling isn't e same as before..she's seems so moody nowadays..whnever i ask her wat's wrong..she juz say nothin....then we always ran out of topics to chat while chatting...in e past it wasn't like tat...we could chat for hrs....feels tat she started to dun hav fEelings for me le..sometimes i juz dun Feel anything...
then there is my colleague, B.. noe her 1yr+ le... can get along really well wif her.. at first i treated her as very gd fren...but as times go by..i started to develop feelings for her...i noe its wrong coz me attached le.. but some how..i feel more comfy when i wif her...we always squabble wif each other...suaning each other non stop...we can chat on abt any topics.. then recently when we went clubbing wif our frenz...juz feel like sitting down wif her n chat..although i hyperactive type..normally prefer dancing.. dunno y.. she told me b4 tat she likes me...but i presumed tat she juz joking wif me...considering e fact tat we always joke ard...but some how..now i tink its true..
now i having a dilemma..whether to continue my r/s wif A n remains as gd frenz wif B..or break off wif A..n start pursueing B.....help help -
Well.. follow ur heart.. but minimize the damage
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Dear JuNW3i,Originally posted by JuNW3i:here's e situation...
A is my gf.. we juz gone steady..meetonly 1-2 times a wEek due to her busy sch schedule..at first..we had so much joy together...but recently..i juz had tat fEeling tat she's unhappy...e feeling isn't e same as before..she's seems so moody nowadays..whnever i ask her wat's wrong..she juz say nothin....then we always ran out of topics to chat while chatting...in e past it wasn't like tat...we could chat for hrs....feels tat she started to dun hav fEelings for me le..sometimes i juz dun Feel anything...
then there is my colleague, B.. noe her 1yr+ le... can get along really well wif her.. at first i treated her as very gd fren...but as times go by..i started to develop feelings for her...i noe its wrong coz me attached le.. but some how..i feel more comfy when i wif her...we always squabble wif each other...suaning each other non stop...we can chat on abt any topics.. then recently when we went clubbing wif our frenz...juz feel like sitting down wif her n chat..although i hyperactive type..normally prefer dancing.. dunno y.. she told me b4 tat she likes me...but i presumed tat she juz joking wif me...considering e fact tat we always joke ard...but some how..now i tink its true..
now i having a dilemma..whether to continue my r/s wif A n remains as gd frenz wif B..or break off wif A..n start pursueing B.....help help
How long have you been with A in the r/s?? Firstly, find out whats wrong in your r/s.. what has changed the laughter and the enjoyment, the companion, the communication and everything... Secondly, you are so down and feel emptiness in you that this girl B appears in time.. to let you have the feeling like what you had for your gf, A, when you first started dating.. Are you sure that you realli like her?? oR jus out to get a companion be cos of the r/s you are in now that causes it??
You are in dilemma? I jus feel that you dunno what you wan! Indecisive!! Inferior!! Insecurity!!! If you end with girl A becos of girl B who can give you more fun and enjoyment in the r/s then go ahead.. Well.. i bet this will happen again with girl B if the flame dies down in her n you.. No communications.. no feelings.. no chemistry.. the cycle will go on and on.. from one girl to another..
Talk to girl A about the r/s.. discuss on what's the problem.. what's the cause of all these.. must resolve even if yo planned not to be with her.. at least.. you wanna "sentenced her to death" at least.. you give both you and herself.. a good explanation or reasons.. for this! And still can be friends..
Cheers..
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You should keep both. Keep your options open. Wait for one of them to ask you to commit. If none of them asks your committment, you are still in the green zone which is good. GIrls do it too.Originally posted by JuNW3i:here's e situation...
A is my gf.. we juz gone steady..meetonly 1-2 times a wEek due to her busy sch schedule..at first..we had so much joy together...but recently..i juz had tat fEeling tat she's unhappy...e feeling isn't e same as before..she's seems so moody nowadays..whnever i ask her wat's wrong..she juz say nothin....then we always ran out of topics to chat while chatting...in e past it wasn't like tat...we could chat for hrs....feels tat she started to dun hav fEelings for me le..sometimes i juz dun Feel anything...
then there is my colleague, B.. noe her 1yr+ le... can get along really well wif her.. at first i treated her as very gd fren...but as times go by..i started to develop feelings for her...i noe its wrong coz me attached le.. but some how..i feel more comfy when i wif her...we always squabble wif each other...suaning each other non stop...we can chat on abt any topics.. then recently when we went clubbing wif our frenz...juz feel like sitting down wif her n chat..although i hyperactive type..normally prefer dancing.. dunno y.. she told me b4 tat she likes me...but i presumed tat she juz joking wif me...considering e fact tat we always joke ard...but some how..now i tink its true..
now i having a dilemma..whether to continue my r/s wif A n remains as gd frenz wif B..or break off wif A..n start pursueing B.....help help -
intro A to me. go start wif B.Originally posted by JuNW3i:here's e situation...
A is my gf.. we juz gone steady..meetonly 1-2 times a wEek due to her busy sch schedule..at first..we had so much joy together...but recently..i juz had tat fEeling tat she's unhappy...e feeling isn't e same as before..she's seems so moody nowadays..whnever i ask her wat's wrong..she juz say nothin....then we always ran out of topics to chat while chatting...in e past it wasn't like tat...we could chat for hrs....feels tat she started to dun hav fEelings for me le..sometimes i juz dun Feel anything...
then there is my colleague, B.. noe her 1yr+ le... can get along really well wif her.. at first i treated her as very gd fren...but as times go by..i started to develop feelings for her...i noe its wrong coz me attached le.. but some how..i feel more comfy when i wif her...we always squabble wif each other...suaning each other non stop...we can chat on abt any topics.. then recently when we went clubbing wif our frenz...juz feel like sitting down wif her n chat..although i hyperactive type..normally prefer dancing.. dunno y.. she told me b4 tat she likes me...but i presumed tat she juz joking wif me...considering e fact tat we always joke ard...but some how..now i tink its true..
now i having a dilemma..whether to continue my r/s wif A n remains as gd frenz wif B..or break off wif A..n start pursueing B.....help help -
Originally posted by JuNW3i:here's e situation...
A is my gf.. we juz gone steady..meetonly 1-2 times a wEek due to her busy sch schedule..at first..we had so much joy together...but recently..i juz had tat fEeling tat she's unhappy...e feeling isn't e same as before..she's seems so moody nowadays..whnever i ask her wat's wrong..she juz say nothin....then we always ran out of topics to chat while chatting...in e past it wasn't like tat...we could chat for hrs....feels tat she started to dun hav fEelings for me le..sometimes i juz dun Feel anything...
then there is my colleague, B.. noe her 1yr+ le... can get along really well wif her.. at first i treated her as very gd fren...but as times go by..i started to develop feelings for her...i noe its wrong coz me attached le.. but some how..i feel more comfy when i wif her...we always squabble wif each other...suaning each other non stop...we can chat on abt any topics.. then recently when we went clubbing wif our frenz...juz feel like sitting down wif her n chat..although i hyperactive type..normally prefer dancing.. dunno y.. she told me b4 tat she likes me...but i presumed tat she juz joking wif me...considering e fact tat we always joke ard...but some how..now i tink its true..
now i having a dilemma..whether to continue my r/s wif A n remains as gd frenz wif B..or break off wif A..n start pursueing B.....help help
Your leap-ship approach will eventually cause the two of them to leave you.
You didn't even find out what's wrong with the relationship and attempts to source for this void from external source.
Maybe the flame in your relationship has gone, but still that doesn't give you an excuse to become lazy and seek for the 'line of least resistance'
You probably end up learning nothing from your current relationship if that happens.
Cheers