i have a problem
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i can't really figure out wat is wrong wid me. I'm a 20 yr old gal, who wishes to have a normal life like any others. but it seems that i can't walk out of my own world. i do have guys asking me out for dates. but i get jitters or become very bothered by it. my 1st date was a movie cum dinner wid my senior. i wouldn't say i dislike him, but i was trying to prove to myself i can do it. but that date ended up quite disastrious. coz i didn't dare to look at him in the face and even when we're walking, i keep a straight face and was looking infront, instead of having eye contact.
now i have a guy who wants to date me out for coffee or something, but i feel weird. we known each other 2 yrs back, during an exchange programme. it was thru tis programme we knew each other existed and after tt we went our separate ways. and tt means we only saw each other for 3-4 days only! we still keep in contact but somehow, he will msg me out of the blue moon asking for a date. in the beginning, he even called me 'darling', which i felt very awkward. he also asked me for my home no, so he can call and tok to me. but after some thoughts, i told him i dun hav the habit of friends calling my home, esp guys. but i told him its ok for him to msg or call me on my hp.
sometimes i think i have low self esteem, in the sense that i'm a little plump. but my friends all convinced me that i'm ok. i do have a joyful personality. but sometimes i think i'm just not rite for them. sometimes i even think guys who like me have their eyes stuck onto their butt, meaning they have low taste.
is there something wrong with me? or am i just not ready for a relationship? wat shld i do? i'm really very confused and bothered. -
I think you're just shy, everyone starts off that foot or another. Maybe you're just a little too concious about yourself at times which gives you that feelings. But its really nice don't you think, having people ask you out on dates?
Just go with the flow, be yourself. Once you found the comfort zone, you'll know how to get there no matter what it takes. -
I agree with ditzy.Originally posted by ditzy:I think you're just shy, everyone starts off that foot or another. Maybe you're just a little too concious about yourself at times which gives you that feelings. But its really nice don't you think, having people ask you out on dates? Just go with the flow, be yourself. Once you found the comfort zone, you'll know how to get there no matter what it takes.
If you go out with ppl and you are very conscious or very concern abt how ppl look at you, you will be very stressed out.
Outing are meant to be fun, not stressful.
Its just an outing, not a life-affecting meeting.
Take it like you are going out with a long time fd or classmate. -
Try go out with groups of friends----> Then go with groups of 4 ppl if can (2 guys 2 girls ) ---> Then when u feel more faith in yourselves try it to 2 ppl only. (U and that guy)Originally posted by waterdropletz:i can't really figure out wat is wrong wid me. I'm a 20 yr old gal, who wishes to have a normal life like any others. but it seems that i can't walk out of my own world. i do have guys asking me out for dates. but i get jitters or become very bothered by it. my 1st date was a movie cum dinner wid my senior. i wouldn't say i dislike him, but i was trying to prove to myself i can do it. but that date ended up quite disastrious. coz i didn't dare to look at him in the face and even when we're walking, i keep a straight face and was looking infront, instead of having eye contact.
now i have a guy who wants to date me out for coffee or something, but i feel weird. we known each other 2 yrs back, during an exchange programme. it was thru tis programme we knew each other existed and after tt we went our separate ways. and tt means we only saw each other for 3-4 days only! we still keep in contact but somehow, he will msg me out of the blue moon asking for a date. in the beginning, he even called me 'darling', which i felt very awkward. he also asked me for my home no, so he can call and tok to me. but after some thoughts, i told him i dun hav the habit of friends calling my home, esp guys. but i told him its ok for him to msg or call me on my hp.
sometimes i think i have low self esteem, in the sense that i'm a little plump. but my friends all convinced me that i'm ok. i do have a joyful personality. but sometimes i think i'm just not rite for them. sometimes i even think guys who like me have their eyes stuck onto their butt, meaning they have low taste.
is there something wrong with me? or am i just not ready for a relationship? wat shld i do? i'm really very confused and bothered. -
dun treat the date like a date... treat it as a normal outing wif a close fren, or a brother? slowly u'll get used to it....
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Dear waterdropletz,Originally posted by waterdropletz:i can't really figure out wat is wrong wid me. I'm a 20 yr old gal, who wishes to have a normal life like any others. but it seems that i can't walk out of my own world. i do have guys asking me out for dates. but i get jitters or become very bothered by it. my 1st date was a movie cum dinner wid my senior. i wouldn't say i dislike him, but i was trying to prove to myself i can do it. but that date ended up quite disastrious. coz i didn't dare to look at him in the face and even when we're walking, i keep a straight face and was looking infront, instead of having eye contact.
now i have a guy who wants to date me out for coffee or something, but i feel weird. we known each other 2 yrs back, during an exchange programme. it was thru tis programme we knew each other existed and after tt we went our separate ways. and tt means we only saw each other for 3-4 days only! we still keep in contact but somehow, he will msg me out of the blue moon asking for a date. in the beginning, he even called me 'darling', which i felt very awkward. he also asked me for my home no, so he can call and tok to me. but after some thoughts, i told him i dun hav the habit of friends calling my home, esp guys. but i told him its ok for him to msg or call me on my hp.
sometimes i think i have low self esteem, in the sense that i'm a little plump. but my friends all convinced me that i'm ok. i do have a joyful personality. but sometimes i think i'm just not rite for them. sometimes i even think guys who like me have their eyes stuck onto their butt, meaning they have low taste.
is there something wrong with me? or am i just not ready for a relationship? wat shld i do? i'm really very confused and bothered.
You are trying and searching for your real self.. You are indecisive of what you want.. even for short-term or long-term.. Too conscious and too much attention put in yourself.. that you neglected ppl around you.. You think you are plump.. and ugly.. but then again.. if you are.. no guys will date you out also.. Give yourself more confidence and faith.. However if oyu really think they had their eyes stamped.. then is it a good thing also.. at least you know these guys ain't out to look for pretty-faces or good figure girls..
Dun treat it as if is a date! Take it as a normal gathering.. Get yourself more comfortable.. Going out 1 v 1 doesn't mean you have to start a relationship from there or straight away... is jus to let you know each other better.. Dun feel inferior.. All you need is to build up your confidence, and your security! Get to know wat you want first!! Relationship this kind of thing.. take it easy.. there;s no rush.. you're still young!! If you still weird on goin out dates with guys alone.. call a few friends along if he dun mind.. or go out as a group.. maybe slowly you feel much better.. then go for a 1v1 date!
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Originally posted by waterdropletz:i can't really figure out wat is wrong wid me. I'm a 20 yr old gal, who wishes to have a normal life like any others. but it seems that i can't walk out of my own world. i do have guys asking me out for dates. but i get jitters or become very bothered by it. my 1st date was a movie cum dinner wid my senior. i wouldn't say i dislike him, but i was trying to prove to myself i can do it. but that date ended up quite disastrious. coz i didn't dare to look at him in the face and even when we're walking, i keep a straight face and was looking infront, instead of having eye contact.
now i have a guy who wants to date me out for coffee or something, but i feel weird. we known each other 2 yrs back, during an exchange programme. it was thru tis programme we knew each other existed and after tt we went our separate ways. and tt means we only saw each other for 3-4 days only! we still keep in contact but somehow, he will msg me out of the blue moon asking for a date. in the beginning, he even called me 'darling', which i felt very awkward. he also asked me for my home no, so he can call and tok to me. but after some thoughts, i told him i dun hav the habit of friends calling my home, esp guys. but i told him its ok for him to msg or call me on my hp.
sometimes i think i have low self esteem, in the sense that i'm a little plump. but my friends all convinced me that i'm ok. i do have a joyful personality. but sometimes i think i'm just not rite for them. sometimes i even think guys who like me have their eyes stuck onto their butt, meaning they have low taste.
is there something wrong with me? or am i just not ready for a relationship? wat shld i do? i'm really very confused and bothered.
Low self esteem produce false imaginary in your mind, making you believe that you are unlovable. And because of this psychological hinders, it is difficult for you to maintain close intimate distance with any other guys around you. Such informations must have fed from you since young and now when reality is changing, you still stick to this old thought.
Dump it aside and learn a new way of preception. You practice caution, for an unseen fear circled around your mind. Until the day when you can be at ease with yourself, can you be able to related to another's interest better. You think you are not right for them? However, they think they are right for you - if not, they wouldn't want to know you better in the first place right? Strengthen yourself - for an inferior person tends to attract partners that abuse them.
Do not ALWAYS presume that by accepting private dates, advancement by another - is a must for you to enter into a relationship. Nobody force - you make the choice. Keep an open mind - there is NO obligation.
P.S: Are you a Taurus, Virgo or Capricorn?
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Not all guys are bothered by how you look... Pls note that.Originally posted by waterdropletz:i can't really figure out wat is wrong wid me. I'm a 20 yr old gal, who wishes to have a normal life like any others. but it seems that i can't walk out of my own world. i do have guys asking me out for dates. but i get jitters or become very bothered by it. my 1st date was a movie cum dinner wid my senior. i wouldn't say i dislike him, but i was trying to prove to myself i can do it. but that date ended up quite disastrious. coz i didn't dare to look at him in the face and even when we're walking, i keep a straight face and was looking infront, instead of having eye contact.
now i have a guy who wants to date me out for coffee or something, but i feel weird. we known each other 2 yrs back, during an exchange programme. it was thru tis programme we knew each other existed and after tt we went our separate ways. and tt means we only saw each other for 3-4 days only! we still keep in contact but somehow, he will msg me out of the blue moon asking for a date. in the beginning, he even called me 'darling', which i felt very awkward. he also asked me for my home no, so he can call and tok to me. but after some thoughts, i told him i dun hav the habit of friends calling my home, esp guys. but i told him its ok for him to msg or call me on my hp.
sometimes i think i have low self esteem, in the sense that i'm a little plump. but my friends all convinced me that i'm ok. i do have a joyful personality. but sometimes i think i'm just not rite for them. sometimes i even think guys who like me have their eyes stuck onto their butt, meaning they have low taste.
is there something wrong with me? or am i just not ready for a relationship? wat shld i do? i'm really very confused and bothered.
Be yourself. Don't always hang the idea of a 'date' on your mind. Be comfortable with your life style so that things would be easier on you.
Do read up on the other advices above... Most of them does make their point to an extent? -
low self-esteem is not wrong but bad. Because of that, you are not ready for any relationship. Not that there's any other inherent problem within you. In fact, your joyful personality is a beauty itself. Not everyone has it!! But your thinking hid this beauty of yours and is depriving people around you who sees that and ppl who likes you.Originally posted by waterdropletz:i can't really figure out wat is wrong wid me. I'm a 20 yr old gal, who wishes to have a normal life like any others. but it seems that i can't walk out of my own world. i do have guys asking me out for dates. but i get jitters or become very bothered by it. my 1st date was a movie cum dinner wid my senior. i wouldn't say i dislike him, but i was trying to prove to myself i can do it. but that date ended up quite disastrious. coz i didn't dare to look at him in the face and even when we're walking, i keep a straight face and was looking infront, instead of having eye contact.
now i have a guy who wants to date me out for coffee or something, but i feel weird. we known each other 2 yrs back, during an exchange programme. it was thru tis programme we knew each other existed and after tt we went our separate ways. and tt means we only saw each other for 3-4 days only! we still keep in contact but somehow, he will msg me out of the blue moon asking for a date. in the beginning, he even called me 'darling', which i felt very awkward. he also asked me for my home no, so he can call and tok to me. but after some thoughts, i told him i dun hav the habit of friends calling my home, esp guys. but i told him its ok for him to msg or call me on my hp.
sometimes i think i have low self esteem, in the sense that i'm a little plump. but my friends all convinced me that i'm ok. i do have a joyful personality. but sometimes i think i'm just not rite for them. sometimes i even think guys who like me have their eyes stuck onto their butt, meaning they have low taste.
is there something wrong with me? or am i just not ready for a relationship? wat shld i do? i'm really very confused and bothered.
I was plump once...and I know how you feel right now.
Sometimes, one may overlook their strong points when they are preoccupied with something which might not last forever. That's what I realise about life in the real world.
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well... im a saggitarius... but what has this got to do with how i feel or act?
haha... yeah thanx.. i'll seriously remember wat u guys said. -
Nay... You shouldn't be behaving this year...? Think you should come out and join us for outings...??Originally posted by waterdropletz:well... im a saggitarius... but what has this got to do with how i feel or act?
haha... yeah thanx.. i'll seriously remember wat u guys said. 
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Originally posted by waterdropletz:well... im a saggitarius... but what has this got to do with how i feel or act?
haha... yeah thanx.. i'll seriously remember wat u guys said. There are two kinds of sagittarius - the first kind is the one who all know: super-social, hyper active, loves fun and adventure kind. The second type is the one not commonly known to others without some form of astrological knowledge: the innate, quiet, deep thinker kind. In a pack of tarot, a good card to represent you would be the hermit.
Astrological mode: On
Your ruling planet - Jupiter is likely to be afflicted by Saturn in some ways or you have poor placing and Saturn having hard aspects to other personal planets.
Cheers