Dating partner wif same surname?

• The Den

  1 Sep 04, 12:07

  
  Met a gal and dated her, onli to find out we share the same surname... Can we marry and have kids?
  
  Are we allowed to get married or anythink? Stressed out over this...
• borgkilla

  1 Sep 04, 12:15

  well i have no issue about it as family trees are huge and probably goes back a few dozen generations.. so if you are concerned about the shrinking gene pool I would think it ok...
  well thats my own opinion
  I would think mr chan from Clementi and a miss chan from las vegas are ok.. if in singapore I would try and do a background check at some of the associations just to verify you arent like first cousins or something like that
• The Den

  1 Sep 04, 12:33

  
  
  U c... she dont know yet... We dated for ard 1 month plus...
  
  So I tell her we have the same surname? She may stop seeing me, or should I tell her honestly we have the same surname and hope for the best?
• Kenashi

  1 Sep 04, 12:36

  Originally posted by The Den:

  U c... she dont know yet... We dated for ard 1 month plus...
  
  So I tell her we have the same surname? She may stop seeing me, or should I tell her honestly we have the same surname and hope for the best?

  Don't be so kia si.
  Nobody really cares.
  Same surnames only what, if yr surname is a common surname then die lah, no need to get marry.
  Take it easy.
• Me0w Me0w

  1 Sep 04, 12:44

  Originally posted by Kenashi:

  Don't be so kia si.
  Nobody really cares.
  Same surnames only what, if yr surname is a common surname then die lah, no need to get marry.
  Take it easy.

  x 2
• Qitai

  1 Sep 04, 12:48

  Wah Still got people so stuck with this kind of thinking
  
  Same surname does not mean a thing lah! Just don't marry a close relative, proven to be bad for your offspring.
• Kenashi

  1 Sep 04, 12:50

  Correct, might produced deformed baby if they are blood relative.
• Coco_Coco

  1 Sep 04, 14:18

  Originally posted by The Den:

  Met a gal and dated her, onli to find out we share the same surname... Can we marry and have kids?
  
  Are we allowed to get married or anythink? Stressed out over this...

  why not... she will get to keep her maiden family name. isnt it gd?
• xking

  1 Sep 04, 14:22

  Originally posted by The Den:

  U c... she dont know yet... We dated for ard 1 month plus...
  
  So I tell her we have the same surname? She may stop seeing me, or should I tell her honestly we have the same surname and hope for the best?

  tong xing lian????
• huiz

  1 Sep 04, 14:24

  its ok as long as the person is not a close relative.
• paperchicken

  1 Sep 04, 14:39

  No problem at all.
• men_@_arms

  1 Sep 04, 15:09

  lucky i don't know my chinese surname, or it keeps changing, some relatives tell me its zhang, others say its cheong or leong or watever...
  
• foxwalk

  1 Sep 04, 19:45

  Date outside your race, then you won't encounter this problem if you believe in it so much. Alternatively you can always go and review family health history together to see if you have common killing genes that you will end up passing to your kid, causing some form of deformity..
• SnowFlag

  1 Sep 04, 20:05

  Originally posted by The Den:

  Met a gal and dated her, onli to find out we share the same surname... Can we marry and have kids?
  
  Are we allowed to get married or anythink? Stressed out over this...

  Well, generally it isn't advisable, because both of you may come from the same ancestor.
• baybey

  1 Sep 04, 21:29

  If same surname can't, then same sex can? Duhz.
• SnowFlag

  1 Sep 04, 21:33

  Originally posted by baybey:

  If same surname can't, then same sex can? Duhz.

  You obviously don't know why I am saying all this.
• sgFish

  1 Sep 04, 22:43

  haiya..don't have children la..
• JWorld

  2 Sep 04, 02:11

  Originally posted by The Den:

  Met a gal and dated her, onli to find out we share the same surname... Can we marry and have kids?
  
  Are we allowed to get married or anythink? Stressed out over this...

  It is not a problem. My parents have same surname too.
  
  A good friend of mine also has a same surname as her husband. Before married, she was Miss Tan. Now she is Mrs Tan.
  
  If still in doubt, see http://app.rom.gov.sg/internet/reg_info/rom_special.asp#special_cases
  
  and
  
  http://app.rom.gov.sg/internet/efile/prohibited.htm
• The Den

  2 Sep 04, 11:35

  Thanks... think I'll try to preserve... and c how...
• L@gSoN

  2 Sep 04, 11:55

  my couz married a guy with the same surname as her, parents ok wif it, grandparents ok wif it too, i think so long as come from different great grand parents can liao...
• Qoo`~`

  2 Sep 04, 12:01

  basically i have no issues over that.
  
  Its not really a big problem right?