dating a gal out...
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hi,
i need some advice on dating a gal out. i got to know a gal about 4 months back. i went out with her for about 3 times and thereafter, she kinda stopped going out with me. we lost contact after i sms her telling her that i like her. she avoided replying to my sms and rejected my calls.
2 months back, we got in touch again after i introduced a customer to her business. thereafter, i have been helping her run small errands in her office. we did went out a few times thereafter. last week, i was with her and we started talking about our previous bf and gf respectively.
i tried to ask her out again this week and she asked what will we be doing when we meet up. my reply was dinner. she seemed hesitant to meet up because dinner is like quite a routine thing for her as she meets up her friends for dinner regularly, if not daily (her parents are not in singapore)
me being a "not so exciting person" and without a car, i have problem suggesting places to go to and things to do. i usually ask her for dinner and movies.
i do not have any idea as to where are good places to ask her out to. can anyone help by giving me suggestions (i do not own a car)
also, is she trying to sound me out by finding out about my past relationships? -
mayb to the beach??? or star n moon gazing ???
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how about drink kopi, go chill out at a jazz bar or weekend see where got events, suggest go with her loh, gals especially love warehouse sales
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Dun necessary have to go dinner..
Go coffee bean, go movies, go cycling, fly kite (real kite) etc also can..or go for some concerts, performances lor.. -
Find out what she like to do and where she likes to go... (note. not where she would usually like to go / hang out)Originally posted by superworm99:hi,
i need some advice on dating a gal out. i got to know a gal about 4 months back. i went out with her for about 3 times and thereafter, she kinda stopped going out with me. we lost contact after i sms her telling her that i like her. she avoided replying to my sms and rejected my calls.
2 months back, we got in touch again after i introduced a customer to her business. thereafter, i have been helping her run small errands in her office. we did went out a few times thereafter. last week, i was with her and we started talking about our previous bf and gf respectively.
i tried to ask her out again this week and she asked what will we be doing when we meet up. my reply was dinner. she seemed hesitant to meet up because dinner is like quite a routine thing for her as she meets up her friends for dinner regularly, if not daily (her parents are not in singapore)
me being a "not so exciting person" and without a car, i have problem suggesting places to go to and things to do. i usually ask her for dinner and movies.
i do not have any idea as to where are good places to ask her out to. can anyone help by giving me suggestions (i do not own a car)
also, is she trying to sound me out by finding out about my past relationships?
ULTIMATELY, it'll probabaly still be YOU, HER and the CONVERSATION you're having with her... Don't worry too much about the 'superficials' (not that you should totally ignore them), as a lady who's too much into 'superficials' would probabaly give you an EQUALLY 'superficial' relationship... -
MAN!! Dammit you had a good opportunity to be SLICK dammit. I wish i had that chance. Ok. Whenever a babe asks you anything like "what are we gonna be doing?" or "what do you propose", you musn't sound BORING, even though u may be, u must give her the impression your not.
You should have said, "you wanna know what i'd really like us to do?" (BTW, talk about anyting EXCEPT SEX, but not something as mundane as a movie either, use your imagination for a fanatastic NIGHT out to show her your not a dullard by choice), then afterwards you go back to reality with something like "but alas, we outta see a movie or something simple like that." -
sorry to tell you this... really...
1. she decided she didnt like you after going out with you initially, that's why she stopped going out with you after you sms her you liked her.
2. she went out the second time round with you to as a friend, and possibly grateful that you introduced the customers and ran errands in her office.
3. sharing about ex is only sharing, need not be interested in you or wanting to know more. friends, sometimes strangers also talk about the ex.
4. she is not hesitant about dinner, she is hesitant about meeting you. everybody has to eat, what is there to be hesitant about?
5. you have inferior complex - because you dont have a car. dont conveniently blame the car, do some soul searching.
6. if she likes you enough, she just to go where ever you are. even if she has to sit at macs and listen to you talk all night, she would.
7. she isnt interested in you. you probably would have known that. you are in denial because you dont want a reason to give her up.
BE BRAVE and move on. dont waste anymore of your time and effort on her. go find someone who will want to be with you, care for you and most of all, worthy of your love and affection.
you can do it. just do it. -
Originally posted by Devil1976:Find out what she like to do and where she likes to go... (note. not where she would usually like to go / hang out)
ULTIMATELY, it'll probabaly still be YOU, HER and the CONVERSATION you're having with her... Don't worry too much about the 'superficials' (not that you should totally ignore them), as a lady who's too much into 'superficials' would probabaly give you an EQUALLY 'superficial' relationship...
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Its truely about you, her and the conversation. You can go boring place, but if you hold good conversation that keep her interest going - you will still be doing fine. Please lar, don't talk about the 'benefit' of a car when it is not neccessary.
Sorry for the tone but guys have this fcuking thinking that they could get any woman with car and money. Sure, you can get s|uts - as many as you wished. But if you wanna chase someone who doesn't belong to that category - you don't have to emphasise such qualities. It's like the topic of 'No degree cannot survive in Singapore' kind - we know it's not true, however somewhere along the road, we have people rooted down to such thoughts.
Don't get me wrong, finance is important - but to flash them in face of a chase is superficial like what Devil had mentioned.
Focus on your strength and not something that the society wants you to believe in.
Cheers -
got car no car == no diff.
got car but dunno the roads well u end up embrassing urself infront of her.
got car but skill not v pro yet, again embrass urself.
no car take mrt take bus lor. so reliable. can even send her home, walk down some park tok something heart to heart, so romantic haha.
good luck
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good company, good coffee and good conversation.. what more do you need for a great date?
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i guess u are right...Originally posted by nuchio:sorry to tell you this... really...
1. she decided she didnt like you after going out with you initially, that's why she stopped going out with you after you sms her you liked her.
2. she went out the second time round with you to as a friend, and possibly grateful that you introduced the customers and ran errands in her office.
3. sharing about ex is only sharing, need not be interested in you or wanting to know more. friends, sometimes strangers also talk about the ex.
4. she is not hesitant about dinner, she is hesitant about meeting you. everybody has to eat, what is there to be hesitant about?
5. you have inferior complex - because you dont have a car. dont conveniently blame the car, do some soul searching.
6. if she likes you enough, she just to go where ever you are. even if she has to sit at macs and listen to you talk all night, she would.
7. she isnt interested in you. you probably would have known that. you are in denial because you dont want a reason to give her up.
BE BRAVE and move on. dont waste anymore of your time and effort on her. go find someone who will want to be with you, care for you and most of all, worthy of your love and affection.
you can do it. just do it. -
i finally had the opportunity to confess to her my feelings again. she said not to waste her time and that i have been pressurizing her. i was too pushy in my approach. she further added that everytime she is out with me, she feels that i am expecting something from her and that pressurized her.
in any case, her birthday is coming, anyone has any suggestions on wat to get for her for her birthday?
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You should modify your technique:
I find you are giving a damn about her too much. You should at least leave her alone for a while, or at least not care about her birthday. Coz she is obviously not responding to your "charms" or you "being nice" by displaying interest in her, she finds ur approaches (ur charms) "pressurizing". So u should lay off. -
same old story.. gals playing hard-to-get....
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Guess maybe u rushed things too quickly, after a few dates u are expecting her to be yr gf. Nowadays the girls dun want to commit so fast!