Okay Gentlemen, have u ever......?

• keuriseudo

  6 Sep 04, 19:20

  Have you ever had this experience whereby deep down you love this person. And you love her so much even though u know that it's a very slim chance for 2 of u to be together due to certain factors, for instance 'age', 'status'..or whatever u can name of. What would u do?
  
  For me, I think I'll still remain friends with her and at the same time being there for her whenever she's in need and continue to be kind. I feel that this is the only way I could shower my love in this situation.
• Kennerve

  6 Sep 04, 20:54

  Ditto.
• paperchicken

  6 Sep 04, 21:12

  Stay as frens and be nice to her loh like you say.
• men_@_arms

  7 Sep 04, 00:48

  Errrr yeah then things will be unchanged and ok, as long as both of us are happy knowing one of us is happy,, or something like tat heh. Yeah if she's happy with another, fine with me.
  
  Haha if this were 18th century, we as gentlemen could challenge our girl's bf to a duel and kill him to win back the girl
  
  Not that i wanna go back though, its fine here
• sgFish

  7 Sep 04, 08:46

  Originally posted by keuriseudo:

  Have you ever had this experience whereby deep down you love this person. And you love her so much even though u know that it's a very slim chance for 2 of u to be together due to certain factors, for instance 'age', 'status'..or whatever u can name of. What would u do?
  
  For me, I think I'll still remain friends with her and at the same time being there for her whenever she's in need and continue to be kind. I feel that this is the only way I could shower my love in this situation.

  yeah...but love conquers all doesn't it? transcends all barriers etc etc.
  
  so i'd go all out too
• Kenashi

  7 Sep 04, 08:50

  If u love her make her happy.
  Even if she is not interested in u.
  Nowaday I practise that, I rather be able to care for the one I love than to have her avoid me like a pest...
  
• pete98

  7 Sep 04, 08:56

  Remain as friends.
• Saggice

  7 Sep 04, 09:32

  Remain as frens...
  Stay happy...
  
  sometimes its isnt abt couple or bf/gf tat can bring happiness...
  
  I tink frens are more carefree... no commitments
• keuriseudo

  7 Sep 04, 12:28

  Originally posted by Saggice:

  Remain as frens...
  Stay happy...
  
  sometimes its isnt abt couple or bf/gf tat can bring happiness...
  
  I tink frens are more carefree... no commitments

  Hmm, I agree too.
  
  I also believe that sometimes.. u don't need to be together with her, but still, as a very good friend be able to love her the way she is. It's just being there for her and that's one way... i feel.
  
  True, you don't need commitments in this case. And well... the bad side of it is that it's a one-sided love. Kinda hurts by the way... but what to do? I couldn't just ignore the feeling, can I?
• patientsg

  7 Sep 04, 13:10

  agree
  
• Devil1976

  7 Sep 04, 13:19

  Originally posted by keuriseudo:

  For me, I think I'll still remain friends with her and at the same time being there for her whenever she's in need and continue to be kind. I feel that this is the only way I could shower my love in this situation.

  X 2.
• hopy

  7 Sep 04, 13:23

  life is so short, y dwell on smthing tt u jolly well know nothing is gonna come out of it?
• crazy_prata

  7 Sep 04, 13:25

  agree... love not equal to possession
• Estee

  7 Sep 04, 13:28

  sometimes confession ain't the best thing.... cos things might change after a confession. so just be there for her/him.... although it's one-sided..... at least u can be 'close' to him/her bah....
• av98m

  7 Sep 04, 15:14

  Originally posted by Kenashi:

  If u love her make her happy.
  Even if she is not interested in u.
  Nowaday I practise that, I rather be able to care for the one I love than to have her avoid me like a pest...
  

  Ahh....the sad story of my sorry life....
• nuchio

  7 Sep 04, 19:35

  Originally posted by hopy:

  life is so short, y dwell on smthing tt u jolly well know nothing is gonna come out of it?

  i totally agree. move on. staying friends is just an excuse to be with her without being with her.
  
  how much of a friendship can 2 persons have when 1 is in love with the other? this is not a true or equally-intentioned friendship.
  
  whatever it is that you think - to stay on by her side.. come on man! that is tv/fantasy and not reality. can you honestly say you can do it without feeling the heartache and pain????????? does it hurt you when you see or talk to her and care for her at the same time think you cannot be with her?
  
  you both can be friends - later, when things have cooled down a bit. meanwhile you should not see her.
  
  when you stay on, you are making yourself unavailable to other possibilities. you cannot go on to love someone else if you stay by her side, loving her. dont sabotage your love life for someone you cannot have.
  
  you need to get used to the idea that things are NOT going to happen and have the courage to go on. dont be a fool.
  
  
• larry_longwei

  7 Sep 04, 19:37

  Originally posted by keuriseudo:

  Have you ever had this experience whereby deep down you love this person. And you love her so much even though u know that it's a very slim chance for 2 of u to be together due to certain factors, for instance 'age', 'status'..or whatever u can name of. What would u do?
  
  For me, I think I'll still remain friends with her and at the same time being there for her whenever she's in need and continue to be kind. I feel that this is the only way I could shower my love in this situation.

  ^5
• larry_longwei

  7 Sep 04, 19:39

  It's easier said than done.. i'm struggling with dat atm.. when i get thru, u'll post the outcome..
  
  Wish me Strength...
• RaTtY81

  7 Sep 04, 19:49

  wish her all the best n hope tat she will be happy forever...
• Ito_^

  7 Sep 04, 19:56

  be frens can le lar, she will get a good fren for life. lucky person eh?
• Lingos

  7 Sep 04, 20:14

  All the time..
  Can i respond since i'm a girl and i haven't exactly been asked this question.
• Ito_^

  7 Sep 04, 20:31

  Originally posted by Lingos:

  All the time..
  Can i respond since i'm a girl and i haven't exactly been asked this question.

  of cuz u can, u noe those for gals oni topic? most of em replies r from guys.
• Lingos

  7 Sep 04, 20:37

  Originally posted by Ito_^:

  of cuz u can, u noe those for gals oni topic? most of em replies r from guys.

  HEhhe... I'm always after people that are beyond my league.
  What's the point of going for someone beneath? Ya know what i mean.
  Anyway we always want the things that we cannot have. It's a challenge. I guess if the other person is mature .. these things do not matter. "Different class", age isn't at all an issue.
• keuriseudo

  7 Sep 04, 22:19

  Originally posted by Lingos:

  HEhhe... I'm always after people that are beyond my league.
  What's the point of going for someone beneath? Ya know what i mean.
  Anyway we always want the things that we cannot have. It's a challenge. I guess if the other person is mature .. these things do not matter. "Different class", age isn't at all an issue.

  What does maturity means to u?
  
  Age, status, condition... etc, are not very important criteria, however, they can be secondary criteria when wisdom is applied in selecting the one u wanna be together with.
  
  I find that the girl i love actually has certain differences in one area which makes it impossible for us to be together. Nevertheless, I'll not give up on the friendship like that, but still showing her the love I could give.
• Ogbunwezeh

  8 Sep 04, 01:29

  Build a gd foundation with her first, after u think the time is correct or "ripe" den u can start to take action.