Cure for stupidity???

• pete98

  9 Sep 04, 19:27

  Is there a cure for saying stupid things in front of pretty girls? Stupid words like fat, short or 'No, I didn't notice anything different about you' just keep poping out of my mouth. I think I am doom to be a hermit if this goes on.
• BaByBoY

  9 Sep 04, 19:28

  i tink there`s no cure for this
  but practice does help
• the Bear

  9 Sep 04, 19:34

  would you rather lie?
  
  

  Originally posted by pete98:

  Is there a cure for saying stupid things in front of pretty girls? Stupid words like fat, short or 'No, I didn't notice anything different about you' just keep poping out of my mouth. I think I am doom to be a hermit if this goes on.

• pete98

  9 Sep 04, 19:43

  Originally posted by the Bear:

  would you rather lie?
  
  

  No, and I sucks at flattery. I have problem saying things like 'wow you looks great today', 'you look thinner, have you lost weight', etc. I hate it when my friend says that to the lady and all I say is stupid jokes like 'Hes saying you looks thinner now that means he thinks you looks fat in the past'. That sound bad, right?
• larry_longwei

  9 Sep 04, 19:45

  Keep quiet & juz nod or shake head lor..
• pete98

  9 Sep 04, 19:51

  Then she will ask why I am so quiet.
• the Bear

  9 Sep 04, 20:31

  engage them intellectually instead
  
  respect ladies and converse with them... not just flatter and all that..
  
  

  Originally posted by pete98:

  No, and I sucks at flattery. I have problem saying things like 'wow you looks great today', 'you look thinner, have you lost weight', etc. I hate it when my friend says that to the lady and all I say is stupid jokes like 'Hes saying you looks thinner now that means he thinks you looks fat in the past'. That sound bad, right?

• RaTtY81

  9 Sep 04, 20:35

  sha ren you sha fu....hokkien ppl like to sae ti gong tia gong lang...
• Whistar

  9 Sep 04, 20:42

  Dun say anything if its not gg to sound nice.......
  
  You dun have to flatter a lady.......but u definitely dun have to insult her with your remarks though.....
  
  Next time e.g. if she ask if this dress looks nice but u dun think so....u dun have to tell her that it looks horrible and terrible on her....just put it in nicer terms...like "I think it doesn't suit you maybe u can suggest another dress etc"
  
  If she ask u if she is fat.....even if she is.......U dun have to agree immediately and say unconstructive stuffs....maybe just say if u wanna lose weight...maybe we can go play some games/exercise together.....it would definitely sound much better than "I THINK U ARE VERY FAT LOR"
  
  
• idiotboi89

  9 Sep 04, 20:45

  i nid to cure for sure
• taipeiy

  9 Sep 04, 22:56

  Hey pete98,
  
  Just be yourself and don't have to crack for words to flatter the ladies. You just reply those questions as you feel, don't have to use big word or "smart" words.
  
  Same thing as how you would start a conversation, just let your words flow out of your mouth as you feel like letting the other party to know.
  Most important is to Respect the other party in every aspect of your words that you bring across.
  
  Conversation allow you to bring your perceptions and ideas across to another party that's all. There's no right or wrong to it (you may have heard such talks a lot of time already but its true) you merely express your view. So you are not stupid and no one is born to be smart either. We learn along the way, thats part of growing up.
• dead_clone

  9 Sep 04, 23:02

  chun3 bing4 mei2 yao4 yi1
• ooh_lala

  9 Sep 04, 23:03

  It's normal for u to feel uncomfortable lah... don't stress out, worrying or thinking too much.... end up feeling uncomfortable... be ur self... be confidence..
  
  
• joker105

  9 Sep 04, 23:06

  Originally posted by pete98:

  Is there a cure for saying stupid things in front of pretty girls? Stupid words like fat, short or 'No, I didn't notice anything different about you' just keep poping out of my mouth. I think I am doom to be a hermit if this goes on.

  tats not stupid la...
  u just dont noe how 2 put it in a nicer way..
  
• gerrykoh

  10 Sep 04, 09:57

  It is being tactful. U don't have to use insincere flattery but don't say the wrong things & provoke the girls.
  If u don't think she has lost weight, keep it to yourself.
  How would u feel if someone says something rude to u?
• Enilec

  11 Sep 04, 11:11

  Originally posted by Whistar:

  Dun say anything if its not gg to sound nice.......
  
  You dun have to flatter a lady.......but u definitely dun have to insult her with your remarks though.....
  
  Next time e.g. if she ask if this dress looks nice but u dun think so....u dun have to tell her that it looks horrible and terrible on her....just put it in nicer terms...like "I think it doesn't suit you maybe u can suggest another dress etc"
  
  If she ask u if she is fat.....even if she is.......U dun have to agree immediately and say unconstructive stuffs....maybe just say if u wanna lose weight...maybe we can go play some games/exercise together.....it would definitely sound much better than "I THINK U ARE VERY FAT LOR"
  
  

  ur e say-wat-comes-into-ur-mind kinda guy... well, if u really feel e heat of not makin a stupid joke... try to phrase ur joke in another way tt seems like "flattery" but its actually suanin in a jokin manner... haha... if she ask u whether she is fat, den say yar loh... zhu dou mei you ni fei... den u juz laugh... after e laughter (dun luff too long ), den add "if ur size means fat den my size will mean giantic lia0z loh.... dun insult me okie" den laugh (this time u can luff longer)... heee.... but in this case, it only applies to girls tt r actually smaller in size den u....