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hi pple, this is my new post here. i was dumped last week by my gf of one yr plus. though 1 yr plus is short but i do really love her a lot. the cause result becos of a qurallel. a qurallel i would say its my fault cos i blame her for not wanting to spend jus a 2 hr out of her busy time to have dinner with me.yes that time i admit i in the wrong,been impatient, xiao qi and not understanding.i realise all my faults but she would not wan to give me a chance.and told me tat she busy with her sch work and has no time for me.then ok i mean sch work busy but we can still work things out rite and i koe where i at fault. but she say she wanna freedom.yes indeed i may have been posseive in the pass but tat becos she my first gf so i been very possive ba.well jus confuse of y she would wan to give me a chance to prove tat i trying to improve.feeling vex and need someone to tok to
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well... i tink all words n no action is not enough... correct me if im wrong... u hav been possessive all e way since e beginnin ur together? i mean u hav to b understandin at times lar... each of ur hav ur own things to do... u can't possibly ask her to forget bout her studies to b with u rite? true enough, love is to sacrifice... but surely u wan her to excel in her studies rite? talk to her... tell her ur concerns... n ur reasons for possessiveness... tink ur gf is too stressed... on top of her pressure from her studies, she needs u to b there for her... not to add on to her pressure.... best way, talk to her, apologise... n do wateva u can to assure her to u will change... n MEAN it!!!
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All i could say is that she is not ready to have a BGR with you. The time come too early for her and now i guessed she must have regretted getting into this relationship and wana to back out of it now and focus on her own things, like studies and friendships?
So if you really love her and want to be back with her again, you have no choice but to be patient and see how things develop.
But take my advice, the success rate of getting her back is quite low at this moment, nevertheless you be heartbroken but what to do?
You must be prepared to undergo heartbreak if you get into relationship as you never knows how things migh turn out to be unless you get into relationship and try it out, but if it can't work out, then got to move on from it.
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You mentioned that its ur 1st r/s and such.. Frm where i am reading, i can see that although its a 1 yr r/s.. she does not feel comfortable with u cause of your possessivenes.. She has mentioned that she is busy with her school work.. If she is really busy, than let her be.. I agree that although she is your first love, she wants certain things to be her way and such..Originally posted by tian_xia81:hi pple, this is my new post here. i was dumped last week by my gf of one yr plus. though 1 yr plus is short but i do really love her a lot. the cause result becos of a qurallel. a qurallel i would say its my fault cos i blame her for not wanting to spend jus a 2 hr out of her busy time to have dinner with me.yes that time i admit i in the wrong,been impatient, xiao qi and not understanding.i realise all my faults but she would not wan to give me a chance.and told me tat she busy with her sch work and has no time for me.then ok i mean sch work busy but we can still work things out rite and i koe where i at fault. but she say she wanna freedom.yes indeed i may have been posseive in the pass but tat becos she my first gf so i been very possive ba.well jus confuse of y she would wan to give me a chance to prove tat i trying to improve.feeling vex and need someone to tok to
Sit down and think for yourself.. There may be other girls suitable still for u.. Leave ur options open.. let her concentrate on her studies.. If you really love her.. wait for her. -
Chill down a bit dude. Back off and give her some time and space for now. Maybe she will think things through and patch up with you. Trying to force a patch up now will show you being over possessivenes. Start by apologising for your past behavior, say you respect her decision but ask to remain as friends. Try rebuilding the relationship from this stage, showing you are capable of changing your nature. Show concern and care for her bit by bit but demand nothing from her. But you must really be capable of changes becos if you revert back to old ways, thing going to get real worse.
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hey thanks guys for ur advices.well i guess its that been first timer and inexperience in this love stuff lead to all the misunderstanding.cos been my first gf i tend to take things very serious and hold things tight tat y suffocating her in some sense.i realise my mistakes now and learn a lot of things the hard way.i going to change myself for the better,learning to let go a bit and stuff.i have apologise to her and wanna be friends with her and see how things goes. but well she been shutting me out, guess she wanna be alone and dun wanna give me wrong signal ba.