Will you ask your bf to throw away his ex gf photos?
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Just quarrelled with bf over this issue for the 3rd time. Its been 2yrs plus together. I ask him to throw cos i cant stand that he value these photos so much. He hid it in store room after promising to dispose & i discovered.
anyone here have similar story to share?
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let him haf some memories ba
tt`s all he`s left
he`s already all urs
or may i be wrong....
i know love is selfish...
i dont know what i`ll do if i`m in ur shoes..
i really don know -
i think it's a case of "the more u dun want me to do, the more i wanna do" kind of thing.
if u think he treasures these photos, it implies that his heart is not with u. it does NOT matter whether he's thrown them away or not.
u mean u will feel better if the photos are gone, but so is his heart? or perhaps it wasn't with u in the first place?
i dun mean to sound so harsh, but i think the more impt thing is whether he loves u. i mean, if possession of these photos means he still loves her, then THAT is the problem u need to look at, not the photos. -
yah, i was never like this. Just that after we started, his ex gfs stuff are still in the hse & photos are in living room n bed room cupboards. It jus annoy e. & i always threaten to break up if he never do anything abt it. So he chose to hide & i find out. I just thot, how come he will choose to risk our relationship for the photo.
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ahhahha.. u know wat.. he's prob asking the SAME question!!Originally posted by foolspoem00:yah, i was never like this. Just that after we started, his ex gfs stuff are still in the hse & photos are in living room n bed room cupboards. It jus annoy e. & i always threaten to break up if he never do anything abt it. So he chose to hide & i find out. I just thot, how come he will choose to risk our relationship for the photo.
you're cute. -
oh btw... welcome to sgforums.
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tks. hmmm its odd they have this rule abt new members needing 3 minutes in between their first 8 posts.
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oh yah.. hehe i remember that.. AGES ago..Originally posted by foolspoem00:tks. hmmm its odd they have this rule abt new members needing 3 minutes in between their first 8 posts.
very fast one lar 8 posts...
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Originally posted by foolspoem00:Just quarrelled with bf over this issue for the 3rd time. Its been 2yrs plus together. I ask him to throw cos i cant stand that he value these photos so much. He hid it in store room after promising to dispose & i discovered.
anyone here have similar story to share?
Selfish! Petty!!!
Everyone got his/her own right and decide wat to keep or throw..and it's his memories..pls respect that.
I never throw..I keep all...coz I cherish everything they gave me.. -
Originally posted by jOhO:ahhahha.. u know wat.. he's prob asking the SAME question!!
you're cute.
Funny..but then ya..should do some self-reflection..
How was the sentosa outing? -
yah lah, i stay with him most of the time...it hurts to see.
yah joho, can c u are a lao jiang here
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AT LEAST U CAN FIND IT NOW, HOW ABOUT HE KEEPS IN THE INTERNET , LOCK AWAY IN SOME SERVER, ONLY HE KNOWS WHERE AND HE CAN GO AND SEE ANYTIME HE WANTS WHEN HE IS ONLINE????????????????
JUST FOR YOR INFO
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wah kaoz.. this is wat i call BLATANT OTing...Originally posted by browniebaobao:
Funny..but then ya..should do some self-reflection..
How was the sentosa outing?
it's was good lar. check out the thank you thread, and the sentosa revived part 4 thread (in my siggy) -
u're not listening to me girl.Originally posted by foolspoem00: yah lah, i stay with him most of the time...it hurts to see.
yah joho, can c u are a lao jiang here
it hurts becos u THINK his heart is somewhere else. THAT is the prob, it's not the photos.
i mean even if the photos are gone, there's still her phone number in his hp, there's still a card that she wrote for his bday, her sms, her emails, her msn, icq contact...
SURE got something one.
u did mention it was annoying.. but i thot the photo is out of sight in the store room? so why is it annoying?
honestly, u have to come to terms with whether his heart is with u, and if u still think it is, then u have to swallow this. who knows, when u stop nagging about it, he'll forget that it was ever in the storeroom...
chill pill needed girl. chill! -
Originally posted by jOhO:wah kaoz.. this is wat i call BLATANT OTing...
it's was good lar. check out the thank you thread, and the sentosa revived part 4 thread (in my siggy)
What is BLATANT OTing?
Was at fren's 21st bday party..
Ya saw the thread..know u nosebleed..real or fake wan? and for wat reasons? kekeke..
Saw the part 4 thread too..but can't make it too..having tests and exams for these two months.. -
oh.. so funny!!! i laff until wanna die.Originally posted by wonderwoman913:AT LEAST U CAN FIND IT NOW, HOW ABOUT HE KEEPS IN THE INTERNET , LOCK AWAY IN SOME SERVER, ONLY HE KNOWS WHERE AND HE CAN GO AND SEE ANYTIME HE WANTS WHEN HE IS ONLINE????????????????
JUST FOR YOR INFO 
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blatant = intentionally obviousOriginally posted by browniebaobao:
What is BLATANT OTing?
Was at fren's 21st bday party..
Ya saw the thread..know u nosebleed..real or fake wan? and for wat reasons? kekeke..
Saw the part 4 thread too..but can't make it too..having tests and exams for these two months..
OT = off topic. -
Originally posted by jOhO:blatant = obvious
OT = off topic. 
make me paisei...
dun talk to u liao.. -
my ex-es keep more than photos of their ex-es. don't see what's wrong unless they they have a panick attack every time you go near them.
my suggestion:
accept that those pics are gonna be ard and live with them or help 'spring clean' his room, store room, etc and just say "oops!" to those pics or just leave the loser who don't value your feelings as much as he does to some colored paper
hope things go well ya -
Originally posted by foolspoem00:Just quarrelled with bf over this issue for the 3rd time. Its been 2yrs plus together. I ask him to throw cos i cant stand that he value these photos so much. He hid it in store room after promising to dispose & i discovered.
anyone here have similar story to share? You got worked up over mundane issue and even if she didn't post a threat, you requested something that says alot about your preception of love. Indirectly, you are to demand 100% attention/love/concern/care from your boyfriend and to consciously root out all possible leakage of this quality - this problem lies with your thoughts and not entirely the photos.
You probably sees love as a form of material possession, in which everything is black and white. In simple, the things you see, you dread. You didn't really accepted him, as a whole package, picking out certain aspects you dislike and wants to phrase them out. Jealousy transformed into petty anger and quarrelling occurs.
If you know your bf's heart is with you - allow him to keep pieces of his past memory. He will be lying if he tells you he has completely forgotten about his past - nobody will. People moved on, but they don't erase memories like the DELETE button on your keyboard. The real solution lies in how you want to shift your preception. You can be very picky about food, then at the end of the day when everyone is enjoying their meal - you discover that you are the only one who is 'working' on the food, removing pieces of thingy that looks funny to you.
Learn to compromise and accept. It will definitely serve you longer in the future.
Cheers -
the same thing happened to my ex n his current gf....
she will ask him certain questions, like how long we were together... and a lot more...when he told her that we were actually together for 3years plus before we broke up, she threw a tantrum.. he had to pacify her by sayin we broke up over a year ago when it was actually 5 months ago
he could not mention my name, nor mention anything that is associated to me in any way... she will blow her top........same goes everytime i msg him via msn or icq....or when i call him.. when all i wanna do was ask a few questions... now, he's scared of receivin calls from me...
is there a need to make things like this?? i'm attached, n he's attached to her.... is there a need to be so.......insecure??
she doesn trust him? or do i trust my guy too much to feel insecure??
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if that ex is there to stay she will be there to stay.. no matter how many tangible stuffs u throw awayOriginally posted by foolspoem00:Just quarrelled with bf over this issue for the 3rd time. Its been 2yrs plus together. I ask him to throw cos i cant stand that he value these photos so much. He hid it in store room after promising to dispose & i discovered.
anyone here have similar story to share? -
But really this are just photos and stuff like that, not the real person wat. My ex used to tell me that since his ex trusted him to give him the photos, he couldn't just throw or destroy, just keep it loh. As long as it's not enlarged into half-door size and hanging over his bed, then ok liao lah. No matter wat, they have been thru some time together, not easy to just throw away.Originally posted by foolspoem00:Just quarrelled with bf over this issue for the 3rd time. Its been 2yrs plus together. I ask him to throw cos i cant stand that he value these photos so much. He hid it in store room after promising to dispose & i discovered.
anyone here have similar story to share?
How would you feel if 1 day ur bf becomes ur ex and just throw away your photo when his gf suggest it? Painful rite? -
lots of photo papers wastted like that...
all boys and girls
please do not throw them all away....
try recycling for a change. -
hhmm........nope......
but i swear im innocent if they "accidentally" caught fire one day