supposedly you ask someone out for a drink,...
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the other party agrees to come out but hopes that the 'date/outing' will not end too late because there are things he/she wants to complete before the end of the day.
would you feel disappointed that the other party is seemingly trying to "ying4 chou2" you when he/she is obviously busy? shouldnt be too difficult to say "im busy. how about another day?" right?
what do you think should be the right way to interpret such an exchange of conversation? -
be flattered...
instead of saying no, she made time for you!
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I think it's ok.....Maybe you think too much....
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yah mai think too much.
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Ya I think so as wellOriginally posted by the Bear:be flattered...
instead of saying no, she made time for you!
Since she is busy she is still making time for you
If you prefer a long outing, let her know and ask her when she is free -
Yup. Dont think too much. The fact that the other person is busy and still made time to have drinks with you, you should be happy.
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X2!Originally posted by the Bear:be flattered...
instead of saying no, she made time for you! -
Originally posted by simulacrum:the other party agrees to come out but hopes that the 'date/outing' will not end too late because there are things he/she wants to complete before the end of the day.
would you feel disappointed that the other party is seemingly trying to "ying4 chou2" you when he/she is obviously busy? shouldnt be too difficult to say "im busy. how about another day?" right?
what do you think should be the right way to interpret such an exchange of conversation?Originally posted by the Bear:
be flattered...
instead of saying no, she made time for you!
THIS is the difference between positive and negative attitude. You can chose which preception you want to keep - bear in mind, regardless of how you think, your situations will still be the same. Think about which will do you better in the long run.
Cheers -
be nice and say
"i would love to, but i need to leave early as i have other commitments, u won't mind rite?" -
Be happyOriginally posted by simulacrum:the other party agrees to come out but hopes that the 'date/outing' will not end too late because there are things he/she wants to complete before the end of the day.
would you feel disappointed that the other party is seemingly trying to "ying4 chou2" you when he/she is obviously busy? shouldnt be too difficult to say "im busy. how about another day?" right?
what do you think should be the right way to interpret such an exchange of conversation?
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hmm...is it quite obvious which is positive and which is negative?Originally posted by Yunhaier: THIS is the difference between positive and negative attitude. You can chose which preception you want to keep - bear in mind, regardless of how you think, your situations will still be the same. Think about which will do you better in the long run.
Cheers
knowing what happened between us and where i stand, i struggle to be positive between us. perhaps subconsciously, whenever anything, however small, happened us, my negative attitude never fails to knock my head and reminds me of reality...
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seems that the reality is that people tend to want to be negative... because it is less painful to not hope...
if you aim low, you will not be disappointed.. and if you are not disappointed, you will not be hurt..
but then, if you do not risk anything, is it worth it?
ultimately, "reality" is that you can be miserable and be negative...
or your reality can be positive thinking, be positive and be happy
i choose to be happy.. for ultimately, people are only as happy as they decide to be
be wellOriginally posted by simulacrum:hmm...is it quite obvious which is positive and which is negative?
knowing what happened between us and where i stand, i struggle to be positive between us. perhaps subconsciously, whenever anything, however small, happened us, my negative attitude never fails to knock my head and reminds me of reality... -
tell him/her that its OK if he/she wants to go off early and mean it.Originally posted by simulacrum:what do you think should be the right way to interpret such an exchange of conversation? -
Simple.Originally posted by simulacrum:the other party agrees to come out but hopes that the 'date/outing' will not end too late because there are things he/she wants to complete before the end of the day.
would you feel disappointed that the other party is seemingly trying to "ying4 chou2" you when he/she is obviously busy? shouldnt be too difficult to say "im busy. how about another day?" right?
what do you think should be the right way to interpret such an exchange of conversation?
If he/she is willing to go out with you..
Why dun u just ask him/her? -
Yes, I agree with Bear as well.Originally posted by the Bear:be flattered...
instead of saying no, she made time for you! -
i told the other party we need not meet up since there were more important things to be done and i do mean itOriginally posted by Xcert:tell him/her that its OK if he/she wants to go off early and mean it.
i'm just wondering if i should had asked in the first place and whether i should be asking a second time on another day -
haha last time i said dat oso...but yea, you shud be glad dat she/he makes time for you lor...!Originally posted by simulacrum:the other party agrees to come out but hopes that the 'date/outing' will not end too late because there are things he/she wants to complete before the end of the day.
would you feel disappointed that the other party is seemingly trying to "ying4 chou2" you when he/she is obviously busy? shouldnt be too difficult to say "im busy. how about another day?" right?
what do you think should be the right way to interpret such an exchange of conversation? -
It is hard to know for sure what the situation is because all we get is a second hand account filtered through your perception.
I for one don't believe in deluding yourself. If a girl ain't very interested, you gotta accept that, and re-strategise accordingly.
However I do believe in making the most of your chances, especially while she has not out-right rejected you.
Since this appointment is called off, you should ask her then to set a date when she's free. And before the date ends, try to secure a second date.Originally posted by simulacrum:i told the other party we need not meet up since there were more important things to be done and i do mean it
i'm just wondering if i should had asked in the first place and whether i should be asking a second time on another day -
go with the flow n enjoy the company within the specified timeframe
