What is she trying to imply ?
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Ok need some help here guys.
There this girl who i'm fond of alot, she told me she likes me too. She used to like this guy and tht guy liked her too. In da end it turned out tht the guy liked another ger more.
She told me about this recently and she said she gave up. Just yesterday, while we're on the phone; she told me tht guy whom SHE used to like (Da one i mention above) called her up and said the girl he likes more had ended up together with his friend instead n he had no one to talk to except her anymore.
Is tht guy back for my girl since the one which he's fond of had been taken away ?
The worst fact was that my girl didn't even koe tht guy in RL before! and she likes him ? What crap is this.
I felt like asking her why the hell you tell me all these n she knew tht guy thru gaming.
Someone who i known for 2 yrs in real life can't even be compared to someone she know Virtually.
tell me guys, what shld i do ? help is really appreciated
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Dear paradox86,Originally posted by paradox86:Ok need some help here guys.
There this girl who i'm fond of alot, she told me she likes me too. She used to like this guy and tht guy liked her too. In da end it turned out tht the guy liked another ger more.
She told me about this recently and she said she gave up. Just yesterday, while we're on the phone; she told me tht guy whom SHE used to like (Da one i mention above) called her up and said the girl he likes more had ended up together with his friend instead n he had no one to talk to except her anymore.
Is tht guy back for my girl since the one which he's fond of had been taken away ?
The worst fact was that my girl didn't even koe tht guy in RL before! and she likes him ? What crap is this.
I felt like asking her why the hell you tell me all these n she knew tht guy thru gaming.
Someone who i known for 2 yrs in real life can't even be compared to someone she know Virtually.
tell me guys, what shld i do ? help is really appreciated
Are you both in a r/s already?? if you are not.. then Don't get too paranoid over this.. maybe he jus wanna have a talk to someone he thinks he can trust and feel comfprtable with when talking to... I dun wish to see couples becos of this then start quarrelling.. thus possessiveness will soon take place in you.. even before you start you r/s..
She tells you things like that.. is becos she jus wanna share with you.. and let you know about it.. jus like a friend talking to you about some things.. If things only revolve around both of you.. won't it be too boring.. You leave your friends out when you are into a r/s.. and when you are not.. you come and find your friends back.. jus for the campanion.. She have her own social circle.. you have your own.. give each other your privacy..
You are jus afraid or dun wish to hear from her that she come telling you that she likes him AGAIN! You cannot accept the fact of this.. and also dun wan to face the reality.. If you aren't together.. you got a chance to win her.. if you know how to move your moves.. for what i think.. the guy.. is jus a crush she had on.. like you say.. he's virtual.. If you are afraid.. you already lost half of the battle... that makes her wanting the guy more than you..
"A woman can never be seduced if she's fully satisfied". Bear that in mind.. Don't let a little dispute injure the great relationship.. and also.. In disagreement.. deal only the CURRENT SITUATION, don't bury up the past...
Cheers..
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Originally posted by SunRisE:
Really appreciate for ur reply. We're still not in a r/s, she calls/sms me almost 24hrs a day everday. I just don't get it, she's the one who say she likes me, dated me out for movie.
Dear paradox86,
Are you both in a r/s already?? if you are not.. then Don't get too paranoid over this.. maybe he jus wanna have a talk to someone he thinks he can trust and feel comfprtable with when talking to... I dun wish to see couples becos of this then start quarrelling.. thus possessiveness will soon take place in you.. even before you start you r/s..
She tells you things like that.. is becos she jus wanna share with you.. and let you know about it.. jus like a friend talking to you about some things.. If things only revolve around both of you.. won't it be too boring.. You leave your friends out when you are into a r/s.. and when you are not.. you come and find your friends back.. jus for the campanion.. She have her own social circle.. you have your own.. give each other your privacy..
You are jus afraid or dun wish to hear from her that she come telling you that she likes him AGAIN! You cannot accept the fact of this.. and also dun wan to face the reality.. If you aren't together.. you got a chance to win her.. if you know how to move your moves.. for what i think.. the guy.. is jus a crush she had on.. like you say.. he's virtual.. If you are afraid.. you already lost half of the battle... that makes her wanting the guy more than you..
[b]"A woman can never be seduced if she's fully satisfied". Bear that in mind.. Don't let a little dispute injure the great relationship.. and also.. In disagreement.. deal only the CURRENT SITUATION, don't bury up the past...
Cheers.. [/b]
Now this guy is back for her again i suppose. I used to like this girl but when after i knew her. I fell for her instantly, it's not a crush.. it took me 2 mths to decide who shld i confide my love to. I dunwanna hold them both cuz tht will be selfish. She nv tell me she's like tht guy back thou after she gave up.
I'm tinking of whether i shld pop out tht question whether she really gave up anot. -
think the guy she's interested in is trawling...
and she has no idea what she wants...
you, are just the convenient person to turn to...
until she figures what she wants, everything is in limbo...
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Guess she can feel what's my intention cuz we're so closed for the past 2 mths. she told me she can't get to slp if i didn't call her up to talk to her.Originally posted by the Bear:think the guy she's interested in is trawling...
and she has no idea what she wants...
you, are just the convenient person to turn to...
until she figures what she wants, everything is in limbo...
btw, does she know of your intentions?
I just can't accept the fact tht she like someone who she has nv seen in real life.
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until you tell her, she's guessing...
guessing is never concrete..
looks like the both of you need to meet somewhere quiet and talk about this face-to-face..Originally posted by paradox86:Guess she can feel what's my intention cuz we're so closed for the past 2 mths. she told me she can't get to slp if i didn't call her up to talk to her.
I just can't accept the fact tht she like someone who she has nv seen in real life. -
Well Written SunRisE,
esp this
A Satisfied Woman Can Never Be Seduced
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haiz, how i wish she didn't tell me the guy had called her up back again.. but one thing she trusted me alot; she told me almost everything abt her daily life.Originally posted by the Bear:until you tell her, she's guessing...
guessing is never concrete..
looks like the both of you need to meet somewhere quiet and talk about this face-to-face.. -
dude, ignorance is NEVER bliss...
better you should know...
but trust is good... still, i think it's best for both sides to lay everything on the table in a face-to-face and heart-to-heart talk with her...Originally posted by paradox86:haiz, how i wish she didn't tell me the guy had called her up back again.. but one thing she trusted me alot; she told me almost everything abt her daily life. -
i really duno whether to face-to-face to talk with her now, even if i am, what shld i say ? she knew i like him.. the only choices is all up to her.. i'm really really afraid i'll lose a battle and worse .. someone virtually!Originally posted by the Bear:dude, ignorance is NEVER bliss...
better you should know...
but trust is good... still, i think it's best for both sides to lay everything on the table in a face-to-face and heart-to-heart talk with her...
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you like him? typo right?
anyway, if you lose, you lose... beats being in limbo and unable to move on...
i wish you well...Originally posted by paradox86:i really duno whether to face-to-face to talk with her now, even if i am, what shld i say ? she knew i like him.. the only choices is all up to her.. i'm really really afraid i'll lose a battle and worse .. someone virtually! -
yup, typo. thank you bear for ur timeOriginally posted by the Bear:you like him? typo right?
anyway, if you lose, you lose... beats being in limbo and unable to move on...
i wish you well...
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hey.. i hope i helped...
but really, take the initiative instead of waiting in the wings, afraid of what will happen...
go find out from her... maybe a nudge by you will get her to think about things and get out of the inertia... to see that you care... and you're real..
mayhap, she'll grow to like you even more
i hope so.. for there are too many broken hearts in the world... any success story is wonderful!
Originally posted by paradox86:yup, typo. thank you bear for ur time -
yeah sure u did, i certainly shld really ask her whether she still have feeeling for tht guy.. whats the point of telling me all these ..etc etc.. im doing it later on wish me luck!Originally posted by the Bear:hey.. i hope i helped...
but really, take the initiative instead of waiting in the wings, afraid of what will happen...
go find out from her... maybe a nudge by you will get her to think about things and get out of the inertia... to see that you care... and you're real..
mayhap, she'll grow to like you even more
i hope so.. for there are too many broken hearts in the world... any success story is wonderful! -
great luck!Originally posted by paradox86:yeah sure u did, i certainly shld really ask her whether she still have feeeling for tht guy.. whats the point of telling me all these ..etc etc.. im doing it later on wish me luck!
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Originally posted by paradox86:Ok need some help here guys.
There this girl who i'm fond of alot, she told me she likes me too. She used to like this guy and tht guy liked her too. In da end it turned out tht the guy liked another ger more.
She told me about this recently and she said she gave up. Just yesterday, while we're on the phone; she told me tht guy whom SHE used to like (Da one i mention above) called her up and said the girl he likes more had ended up together with his friend instead n he had no one to talk to except her anymore.
Is tht guy back for my girl since the one which he's fond of had been taken away ?
The worst fact was that my girl didn't even koe tht guy in RL before! and she likes him ? What crap is this.
I felt like asking her why the hell you tell me all these n she knew tht guy thru gaming.
Someone who i known for 2 yrs in real life can't even be compared to someone she know Virtually.
tell me guys, what shld i do ? help is really appreciated 
Sometimes is not about looking near - its about you not doing anything to let her know. Passive mode don't work all the time, strong chase don't work all the time - you have to understand your situations so well that you know what to apply during different cirumstances.
Of course she wouldn't look at you as someone she might fall for. (Worst if she is a Pisces/Aquarius involving in virtual love) cause you are a good friend and never had you attempt to cross the boundary. In fact, there's a note - there are times when friends are SO friends that a relationship cannot begin. Although it's not very common, but occasionally such cases do take place. Knowing a friend too well may not be a good ground for relationship to foster. That's why if your chase is drawn on a graph, it will NOT look like a straight line graph - it will zigzag along the imaginary line. Your optimum time to act is when the zigzag hits a relatively high peak and tada!
It seemed to me that you are a guy who is quiet about your passion and weep at home for her lack of response. Then, seriously, who should share the 'blame' if we were to be calculative?
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It's her call. You can show more actions if you want to?Originally posted by paradox86:Ok need some help here guys.
There this girl who i'm fond of alot, she told me she likes me too. She used to like this guy and tht guy liked her too. In da end it turned out tht the guy liked another ger more.
She told me about this recently and she said she gave up. Just yesterday, while we're on the phone; she told me tht guy whom SHE used to like (Da one i mention above) called her up and said the girl he likes more had ended up together with his friend instead n he had no one to talk to except her anymore.
Is tht guy back for my girl since the one which he's fond of had been taken away ?
The worst fact was that my girl didn't even koe tht guy in RL before! and she likes him ? What crap is this.
I felt like asking her why the hell you tell me all these n she knew tht guy thru gaming.
Someone who i known for 2 yrs in real life can't even be compared to someone she know Virtually.
tell me guys, what shld i do ? help is really appreciated -
go beat tat guy up....
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As you have heard from others b4, it is best to clarify things asap.
Its useless to get advice/vent out here in the forums when the girl dun even know what you are thinking.
At least when everything is out in the open, she can make the choice, the real you or the virtual person (Who I think is obviously keeping her only as a spare tire). If she decides not to pick you, then at least you can get on with your life...
I have a friend who is like this as well, the girl have alot of other suitors, but always contact my friend (who she very well knows is very interested in a serious r/s with him). In the end, many times, my fren is being made to feel like he is just a spare tire for her. When she is down because of her other r/s, then she will turn to my fren. I dont mind it that she treat my fren only as a fren, but she seems to lead him on otherwise. aiyah, eventually i think my fren finally had enuff and made a clean break. Good for him
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All those calling and SMSes.. doesn't mean anything.. she can tells you she likes you.. but what does this lead to?? You said you took 2 months to decide.. But are you really certain about that.. You know her long enough.. Too well..Originally posted by paradox86:Really appreciate for ur reply. We're still not in a r/s, she calls/sms me almost 24hrs a day everday. I just don't get it, she's the one who say she likes me, dated me out for movie.
Now this guy is back for her again i suppose. I used to like this girl but when after i knew her. I fell for her instantly, it's not a crush.. it took me 2 mths to decide who shld i confide my love to. I dunwanna hold them both cuz tht will be selfish. She nv tell me she's like tht guy back thou after she gave up.
I'm tinking of whether i shld pop out tht question whether she really gave up anot.
She dunno what she wants.. you dunno what you want.. Both are heading to nowhere.. You need to make a decision.. and move.. She need to know what she wants too.. If noone decide what's the next move.. all 3 will suffer.. in the end.. you won't get what you want.. and plus.. you think will this friendship still carry on??
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Originally posted by BaByBoY:Well Written SunRisE,
esp this
A Satisfied Woman Can Never Be Seduced
BaByBoY
In red.. not by me.. taken out from a text by someone who told me! hhhehee -
Another prob here is she's having her prelims now, shld i just wait or smth ? Be it the result positive/negative, it'll have a impact on her and thus her prelims ?Originally posted by SunRisE:All those calling and SMSes.. doesn't mean anything.. she can tells you she likes you.. but what does this lead to?? You said you took 2 months to decide.. But are you really certain about that.. You know her long enough.. Too well..
She dunno what she wants.. you dunno what you want.. Both are heading to nowhere.. You need to make a decision.. and move.. She need to know what she wants too.. If noone decide what's the next move.. all 3 will suffer.. in the end.. you won't get what you want.. and plus.. you think will this friendship still carry on??
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Yun's CLOUDISM..Originally posted by SunRisE:
In red.. not by me.. taken out from a text by someone who told me! hhhehee 
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not even ur gf U already call her "my gal"...wake up lar ...either U make ur intentions clear or get out of other people's way.Originally posted by paradox86:We're still not in a r/s, she calls/sms me almost 24hrs a day everday. -
Wah Gui ar! HOW YOU KNOW?Originally posted by Devil1976:Yun's CLOUDISM.. 
P.S: Actually it came from the Art of Seduction.
Cheers