I'm wondering..
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Heya guys, lets say your gf told you that she treat every of her guy friends very nice as in concerning and da guy frens told her tht it would lead to misunderstaning easily.
She told me about this, she felt it's noth wrong as it shows concern for frens.. how shld i react if she told me this ?
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why do you need to react? she is sharing with you right? not asking for your reaction right?
if you feel you should react.... i suspect this is what she wants to hear....
1. tell her you are proud that she is a real loyal friend and you love her more for it. (appreciation and declaration of love)
2. tell her you are confident that she knows where to draw the line (trust)
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Just tell her what you think. If you are uncomfortable, let her know. If you are totally alright, tell her you agree with her.Originally posted by paradox86:Heya guys, lets say your gf told you that she treat every of her guy friends very nice as in concerning and da guy frens told her tht it would lead to misunderstaning easily.
She told me about this, she felt it's noth wrong as it shows concern for frens.. how shld i react if she told me this ? -
yeah she had only 1 ex and she told me abt him, she knew him thru irc channel and somehow see him as harmless so she met him up. they went steady for 4 mths, in between she told me the guy didn't even bother to contact her for more than a MTH.
They broke up due to lack of communcation (well, wats r/s for if it's lidat rite hahaz), she thn told me they patched after a mth or so and tht the guy promised to change but his only talking, no action done. So after 3 weeks of patched up, they broke off and remain as friend.
I really wanted to tell her is tht what you called steady(maybe tht time she was still young?). Now that shes with me, she told me its so diff to be with me, she felt love is all ard when im not ard..
She's really tht nice and innoncent, easily get cheated if she had met the wrong guy which luckily she nv.
Sigh, how to tell her she shld set a limit of kindness or being too nice to people and thus get cheated.
I'm really worried, i duno how to talk to her abt this.. -
Different pple have different "levels" of kindess they can show... Don worry too much abt her.. More or less.. u are quite stable in ur r/s.. which is a good thing.. she is good enough to share her problems with you.. You can in turn share your thoughts with her.. In that way, both can benefit.
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yep, i'm just so glad she shared with me her everythingOriginally posted by Kennerve:Different pple have different "levels" of kindess they can show... Don worry too much abt her.. More or less.. u are quite stable in ur r/s.. which is a good thing.. she is good enough to share her problems with you.. You can in turn share your thoughts with her.. In that way, both can benefit.
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Well, she didn't know that as a gal, she cannot treat her guy friends too nicely. There has to be a line drawn. Tell her to wake up, and not create misunderstanding.Originally posted by paradox86:Heya guys, lets say your gf told you that she treat every of her guy friends very nice as in concerning and da guy frens told her tht it would lead to misunderstaning easily.
She told me about this, she felt it's noth wrong as it shows concern for frens.. how shld i react if she told me this ?
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Yeah but i can't tell her to wake up rite, not a nice way to say.Originally posted by SnowFlag:Well, she didn't know that as a gal, she cannot treat her guy friends too nicely. There has to be a line drawn. Tell her to wake up, and not create misunderstanding. 
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sounds like my ex gf...
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Just ask her to be careful..?Originally posted by paradox86:yeah she had only 1 ex and she told me abt him, she knew him thru irc channel and somehow see him as harmless so she met him up. they went steady for 4 mths, in between she told me the guy didn't even bother to contact her for more than a MTH.
They broke up due to lack of communcation (well, wats r/s for if it's lidat rite hahaz), she thn told me they patched after a mth or so and tht the guy promised to change but his only talking, no action done. So after 3 weeks of patched up, they broke off and remain as friend.
I really wanted to tell her is tht what you called steady(maybe tht time she was still young?). Now that shes with me, she told me its so diff to be with me, she felt love is all ard when im not ard..
She's really tht nice and innoncent, easily get cheated if she had met the wrong guy which luckily she nv.
Sigh, how to tell her she shld set a limit of kindness or being too nice to people and thus get cheated.
I'm really worried, i duno how to talk to her abt this..
Unless you wanna start to 'educate' and change her...
Then she would probably no longer be the 'nice and innocent' girl you currently know... Yeah? It's all up to you...? -
X2Originally posted by Devil1976:Just ask her to be careful..?
Unless you wanna start to 'educate' and change her...
Then she would probably no longer be the 'nice and innocent' girl you currently know... Yeah? It's all up to you...?
Education is somewhat I call brain washing.
Ok lar, influencing.
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if you have an offer to have a relationship with someone you like but only for a specified time (say 1 year) will you take it?
meanwhile you will be boyfriend & girlfriend and do all the BRG stuff but at the end of the year, this person will be out of your life. no contact, nothing.
you are not in a relationship. will you take the offer?
it happened to me - the person chickened out on the second date. hahaha..
p/s - this is not an offer, ok? -
sorry - a new thread ended with as a new reply.
can mr / miss moderator please help me out??? -
Just start a new thread on this topic if you want to. Ignore whatever's here.Originally posted by nuchio:sorry - a new thread ended with as a new reply.
can mr / miss moderator please help me out???