What shld i do ?
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Heya, just asking you guys smth.. what if the ger u're fond of say tht she likes u but she's having her exams now blah blah.. can't commit to this relationship and thus dunwan disappoint me. she contacts u as normal everyday like b4.. what shld i do ?
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love is patientOriginally posted by paradox86:Heya, just asking you guys smth.. what if the ger u're fond of say tht she likes u but she's having her exams now blah blah.. can't commit to this relationship and thus dunwan disappoint me. she contacts u as normal everyday like b4.. what shld i do ? 
wait for her examz to end loh..
love is kind continue to give her support & show her concern..
btw, are u juz fond of her? or, u like her as much as she likes u?
chillzzz
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Hmm...
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it meansOriginally posted by paradox86:Heya, just asking you guys smth.. what if the ger u're fond of say tht she likes u but she's having her exams now blah blah.. can't commit to this relationship and thus dunwan disappoint me. she contacts u as normal everyday like b4.. what shld i do ?
1. she's having her exams now blah blah
2. can't commit to this relationship
3. dunwan disappoint
just ask her again after the exam, ok? -
take things one step at a time
give her some personal space
once u commit u'd usually lose a lot of personal space and time etc...
so slow and steady's the way to go
dun rush into a relationship -
jus kept it friendly..at least she told u abt her feeling, u shld be "proud of "
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She probably regards you as a good friend or confidante. Do not jeopardise it by being too pushy....might scare her away.Originally posted by paradox86:Heya, just asking you guys smth.. what if the ger u're fond of say tht she likes u but she's having her exams now blah blah.. can't commit to this relationship and thus dunwan disappoint me. she contacts u as normal everyday like b4.. what shld i do ?
One thing you have to be very careful about though.....girls can talk to you everyday but that does not mean they are prepared to consider a BG type of relantionship with you. You can be the one they pour their troubles to or use as a listening ear but if u mention BGR....you may be surprised that it is the last thing they have in mind.
Take things easy and if it is meant to be it will be.
If it was not meant to be, it never will be. But the ocean is vast and there are many other fishes.......no such thing as the one and only. -
be as friends as usual...but to let u know...i wun say "i can't commit(mabe reasonable to say this) n DISAPPOINT(hmmmm.........)" to a person i TRULY like even if i have exams....think u ve already felt tt...Originally posted by paradox86:Heya, just asking you guys smth.. what if the ger u're fond of say tht she likes u but she's having her exams now blah blah.. can't commit to this relationship and thus dunwan disappoint me. she contacts u as normal everyday like b4.. what shld i do ? -
Wait for her Dude and ur time will come
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Like in this case has 2 meanings for her..Originally posted by paradox86:Heya, just asking you guys smth.. what if the ger u're fond of say tht she likes u but she's having her exams now blah blah.. can't commit to this relationship and thus dunwan disappoint me. she contacts u as normal everyday like b4.. what shld i do ?
1) She has that interest in you or,
2) she likes you as a fren for what you have done for her.
Be sure what she means. If its nos 1, good for you. If its nos 2, don't be dishearten.. You can continue to work your way to chase her.
As she mention, she said she is having her exams. Wait for her exams to be over and work things out frm there. -
yep, i had actually intended to keep her as a friend but she kept calling me dear when we go out.. say love me and all these type of mushy things..Originally posted by kaobeikaobu:be as friends as usual...but to let u know...i wun say "i can't commit(mabe reasonable to say this) n DISAPPOINT(hmmmm.........)" to a person i TRULY like even if i have exams....think u ve already felt tt... -
ask yourself if u intend to hav a relationship and then ask her if she intends too.
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she can't commit to the relationship part of it was because her parents are darn strict, exam period; can't go out, study study.. can hear her mum nagging frm behind the phone when shes on phone with me .. she hafta resort to meet me after her sch and tell her mum she's studying at friend's hse.. how pathetic ya?Originally posted by Fluffy.white.sheeP:ask yourself if u intend to hav a relationship and then ask her if she intends too. -
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hmm, pretty classical. I have PLENTY of friends with EXACTLY the same problem. To be blunt, no offense, but this seldom ends good. None of my friends got successful with girls who puts it this way. I dont think she's interested, I'm sorry to say.Originally posted by paradox86:Heya, just asking you guys smth.. what if the ger u're fond of say tht she likes u but she's having her exams now blah blah.. can't commit to this relationship and thus dunwan disappoint me. she contacts u as normal everyday like b4.. what shld i do ? 
just be friends with her.
dating should be the easiest step and the most fun part of a relationship, cos maintaining a relationship will DRIVE u crazy. -
Let her concentrate on her exams cos it is impt. Don't want her to blame u for not doing well. Try & give her support when she is feeling stressed.
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its all up to u actually.Originally posted by paradox86:she can't commit to the relationship part of it was because her parents are darn strict, exam period; can't go out, study study.. can hear her mum nagging frm behind the phone when shes on phone with me .. she hafta resort to meet me after her sch and tell her mum she's studying at friend's hse.. how pathetic ya?
depends how much u feel towards her n she feel towards u.
to be together, will be very very tough but nt impossible..
both of u havent even started, the "foundation" is nt even there...
so it will be doubly tougher. on the other hand, emotion detachment may be less painful. -
this post made me wana ask u d same old question..Originally posted by paradox86:yep, i had actually intended to keep her as a friend but she kept calling me dear when we go out.. say love me and all these type of mushy things.. are u juz fond of her? or, u like her as much as she likes u? -
Originally posted by sleepycat:
I really like her but our commucation became lesser and lesser due to her parents.
this post made me wana ask u d same old question.. [b]are u juz fond of her? or, u like her as much as she likes u? [/b]
Firstly, she can only call me for abt like an hr and her parents will start screaming, her sms exploded by me already; she can only meet me up when she's on the way to piano lessons or after her sch.
I could only wait for her phone call every night. Ahhhhh. i kept missing her .. sigh -
as i ve mentioned, it will be very very TOUGH...for u n for her as well to be together.Originally posted by paradox86:I really like her but our commucation became lesser and lesser due to her parents.
Firstly, she can only call me for abt like an hr and her parents will start screaming, her sms exploded by me already; she can only meet me up when she's on the way to piano lessons or after her sch.
I could only wait for her phone call every night. Ahhhhh. i kept missing her .. sigh
How old are both of u?
if u want to be with her...then u ve to take whatever COME with it, e.g. fustrating all the time for nt being able to communicate so often n a lot other restrictions, obstacles n difficulties that most normal relationship wld nt face.
COMMUNICATION is one of the most IMPORTANT elements when u start a relationship, or actually in a relationship all the time...Without MUCH communication, u can't get to know each other more and to build the feelings, eventually the bonding....
as i have said also, on the another hand, the emotion involved MAY nt be that DEEP afterall. The ties are lesser. Based on that, if u want to end it early, ask u urself wld u regret nw n down the road?
You have to make a decision. Know its definitely tough to decide now, but u ve to do this on your own.
I have gone thru what u are going thru now. I have heard countless advices n comments frm many ppl. But I made my own decision in the end n am now happily together with my present gf. Of cuz, after going thru many hard times...