my impossible crush
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well..i am just your regular nus undergraduate who just so happens to be in a faculty where i am constantlly surrounded by babes.Every day i would see ugly guys with beautiful girls and instead of making me feel bad, it actually motivates me into thinking that there is still hope for me.For me i am average looking meaning that the food stall auntie can still bear to look me in the eye when i place my orders and physically speaking ,i am quite okay being able to do pullups with 40kg makes some justification hence the nickname but ermmm...my BMI is a bit screwed up with my weight being 85kg and height at 1.74m.ok so now u have a rough picture of me i shall tell my ermm problem.I met this girl on an outing organised by the module i am taking and she was amazing in my eyes.As she began talking to her frens,her voice uplifted me and made me feel shy.What really attracted me was that she actually called out my name and asked me whether i wanted to have lunch with her and her frens.We ate at burger king and i found out that she was really friendly and nice but ermm..as wat my fren said to me when a girl likes u she will look u in the eye often.I kept looking out for that but it did not happen.The only time she looked me in the eye was when she asked me questions about my module selection and even then it was a friendly kind of look not the i admire u kind of look.So i was the only guy in the whole group and i was only interested in her.After the meal we went off on our separate ways and while doing so, she asked the others for thier hp numbers.There are a few who asked for mine but she of all of them never did.At this point u may think i am a sissy for not asking for her hp number but like wat my fren always tells me, a girl will deem a guy who asks for her number a desperate pervert.So to protect my image, i did not ask for her number for fear of being mistaken as a pervert.Another thing is that she is a christian while i am a buddhist so in addition to the hp problem, i feel that my crush is impossile and even though we attend the same module, her lecture is on mondays while mine is on fridays.....haiz so near yet so far.......hope to have some help but would also welcome some scoldings if u think i am that useless
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u in FASS?
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Go and ask her for her number dude... u dun wan ask, then u dun regret lor...
another thing is i have a fren who is Christian and his gf is Buddhist...
U never try, u never noe...
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hey how do u know i am in FASS??and ermm..i have this feeling that she just treats me as a fren so if i go up and ask..rejection is almost certain.it is like going to war in iraq knowing that a lot of ppl will die.ok ok i know that analogy sounds stupid but ermm i just have no other way of putting it
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Eh, usually Arts and Social Science have more girls than guys what ...Originally posted by Pullup Addict:hey how do u know i am in FASS??and ermm..i have this feeling that she just treats me as a fren so if i go up and ask..rejection is almost certain.it is like going to war in iraq knowing that a lot of ppl will die.ok ok i know that analogy sounds stupid but ermm i just have no other way of putting it
Not too hard to guess ...
As for rejection, you don't try, you wouldn't know.
Ai, to use back your analogy of going to war, simply put if someone attacks Singapore and our NS men just say why bother since we are all going to die and give up without a fight, then confirm SIngapore will be lost lah. At least, if we all put our hearts, mind and might together to defend our country, then whatever odds against us, at least there is that CHANCE to protect and save our families and our country right?
But back to your case, I am reminded of the words of the great ice hockey legend Wayne Gretzky who said that you will miss all the shots that you did not take at goal ...
So why think so much? Just do it ...
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my cousin a buddhist married his wife a stanch christian.
i now having a crush who is also a christian. i buddhist.
worse news u wan? she from China , i Singaporean.
well..go ahead n compare. she wans to return china after grad from poly. well crushes come n go lor. so i not thinking so much abt it.haha. -
Hey pullup addict, u asked for scolding, fine, you ass!! Go for it!! Ask her out and stuff but dun be too attached! U got nothing to worry about. i have a more impossible crush than you! I am in love with a female video game character ffs!!!
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hmmm...i got a crush on a gal when she came to gym on friday, realised she same lecture as me...heh...gonna approach her if she comes to gym on friday...or next saturday after lect will approach...
got to try lah, if she attached or u ganna rejected then at least got try mah -
Originally posted by Pullup Addict:well..i am just your regular nus undergraduate who just so happens to be in a faculty where i am constantlly surrounded by babes.Every day i would see ugly guys with beautiful girls and instead of making me feel bad, it actually motivates me into thinking that there is still hope for me.For me i am average looking meaning that the food stall auntie can still bear to look me in the eye when i place my orders and physically speaking ,i am quite okay being able to do pullups with 40kg makes some justification hence the nickname but ermmm...my BMI is a bit screwed up with my weight being 85kg and height at 1.74m.ok so now u have a rough picture of me i shall tell my ermm problem.I met this girl on an outing organised by the module i am taking and she was amazing in my eyes.As she began talking to her frens,her voice uplifted me and made me feel shy.What really attracted me was that she actually called out my name and asked me whether i wanted to have lunch with her and her frens.We ate at burger king and i found out that she was really friendly and nice but ermm..as wat my fren said to me when a girl likes u she will look u in the eye often.I kept looking out for that but it did not happen.The only time she looked me in the eye was when she asked me questions about my module selection and even then it was a friendly kind of look not the i admire u kind of look.So i was the only guy in the whole group and i was only interested in her.After the meal we went off on our separate ways and while doing so, she asked the others for thier hp numbers.There are a few who asked for mine but she of all of them never did.At this point u may think i am a sissy for not asking for her hp number but like wat my fren always tells me, a girl will deem a guy who asks for her number a desperate pervert.So to protect my image, i did not ask for her number for fear of being mistaken as a pervert.Another thing is that she is a christian while i am a buddhist so in addition to the hp problem, i feel that my crush is impossile and even though we attend the same module, her lecture is on mondays while mine is on fridays.....haiz so near yet so far.......hope to have some help but would also welcome some scoldings if u think i am that useless
You didn't even move ANYTHING and you have already soak yourself with negativity.
Why?
Why do you choose to believe funny things like 'if a girl is interested in you, her eyes would be on you.' when in fact, you haven't even attempted anything in the first place (even though by doing so, it doesn't guarantee anything). How can you expect someone to fall for you instantaneously without any form of communication and contacts? (Unless the other reasons comes into picture)
P.S: Many things in life capture our eyes, but few capture our heart. Pursue those.
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haven even tried and u're giving up...
and u're still thinking about i'm a buddhist and she's a christian...so it's impossible...
give it a shot! it's better than doing nothing and lamenting at your "loss"
u'd nv know until u try, things could and usually turn out differently from your imagination! -
ok ok i will be asking for her hp number tml(pullup addict hides behind barricade to avoid the barrage )
Hope everything goes well...and ermm for men at arms...ermm the scolding part was just a figure of speech so i really did not expect u t really scold me but then again thank you and btw 24 pullups cant make me feel as good as getting her hp number -
Hey bro,I was your senior,now feel so wasted that I spent 4 years didnt do much there...
Seize the day! Good luck!
May the Faith be with you! -
Can try but don't pin too high a hope...?
And... You've got 'funny thinkings'.... You probably won't be able to manage a relationship like this too well... Especially if you're previously inexperienced.... -
i guess every one started out without any experience right so i guess i just have o take one step at a time.Hope to get her number and gradually get to know her over the course of 3 years.As for funny thinking, can anyone out there dare say that they did not have any weird fears or thoughts the first time they tried to get a girl's number.I know that people reading this might think of me as immature but with immaturity comes experience.No one came into this world knowing about the many ways of life.They know it through making mistakes and with time and hopefully if i cant manage to get her number, then i am going to treat it as an experience to improve my future chances with another girl.If my relationship with her does not last then so be it.It is better to experience it than to not experience it at all and relive the memories later in life
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say call me up when you have any course related problems then sure you will have her number liao lah haha
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learn to write with paragraphs..
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no leh, my intention is just to make friends, so bio cha.Originally posted by Pullup Addict:i guess every one started out without any experience right so i guess i just have o take one step at a time.Hope to get her number and gradually get to know her over the course of 3 years.As for funny thinking, can anyone out there dare say that they did not have any weird fears or thoughts the first time they tried to get a girl's number.I know that people reading this might think of me as immature but with immaturity comes experience.No one came into this world knowing about the many ways of life.They know it through making mistakes and with time and hopefully if i cant manage to get her number, then i am going to treat it as an experience to improve my future chances with another girl.If my relationship with her does not last then so be it.It is better to experience it than to not experience it at all and relive the memories later in life
No other intention!!! -
Yo pull-up addict.
Im here to offer u an alternative point of view.
First ask yourself, do u want to look for a r/ship tt can last or are u just out to have fun?
if u are just out to have fun, than just like the rest of the ppl, I would urge u to go for it and seize the opportunity if it arises.
But if u are looking for serious love with long term commitment, I urge u to think again. I do not have any particular issue about an average guy with a beautiful woman.. but i do feel something about her being a christian and you being a Buddhist.
Its not easy to maintain a relationship when a couple have different faith. It definitely takes more than just compromising each others. There are lots of sensitive issues involved.
So unless you are those outright confident guy who believes you are able to handle such a difficult situation well in your r/ship, if not, may i suggest that you dont sink into it first and end up struggling and giving yourself lots of heartache after you are into it.
To summarise.
Go for it only if you dont have any lingering doubt.
Stop now if you have any slight tinge of doubt.
The fact tt u posted this thread suggest that u do actually have quite abit of a doubt.
Im going to be honest with u. Yes you are right. Its an impossible crush.
Just move on....there are lots of wonderful girls out there who might be more compatible.
I am just speaking from experience. For your info, Me and my gf often goes praying together and it does help when a couple is in the same religion. -
u sound like u are going for "exams"...Originally posted by Pullup Addict:i guess every one started out without any experience right so i guess i just have o take one step at a time.Hope to get her number and gradually get to know her over the course of 3 years.As for funny thinking, can anyone out there dare say that they did not have any weird fears or thoughts the first time they tried to get a girl's number.I know that people reading this might think of me as immature but with immaturity comes experience.No one came into this world knowing about the many ways of life.They know it through making mistakes and with time and hopefully if i cant manage to get her number, then i am going to treat it as an experience to improve my future chances with another girl.If my relationship with her does not last then so be it.It is better to experience it than to not experience it at all and relive the memories later in life
amount of efforts or experiences dun do nt necessarily measure how much u going to get in a relationship. Dun always listen to ur friend words. A girl who like someone may nt look into his eyes often, but look at him when she's not looking... 
likewise for guys as well.... -
Nay... Nothing of immaturity...Originally posted by Pullup Addict:i guess every one started out without any experience right so i guess i just have o take one step at a time.Hope to get her number and gradually get to know her over the course of 3 years.As for funny thinking, can anyone out there dare say that they did not have any weird fears or thoughts the first time they tried to get a girl's number.I know that people reading this might think of me as immature but with immaturity comes experience.No one came into this world knowing about the many ways of life.They know it through making mistakes and with time and hopefully if i cant manage to get her number, then i am going to treat it as an experience to improve my future chances with another girl.If my relationship with her does not last then so be it.It is better to experience it than to not experience it at all and relive the memories later in life
It's good to have experience... Whatever the outcome's gonna be... Remember... It's just an experience....? -
yep i guess vroomvroom read my mind perfectly and understand wat i meant by impossible crush due to religious differences.well i went to her today and just said tat icould i have ur number and she just gave me saying tat she forgot to ask for mine on that day.
i am wat u call a realistic person and i have to decided to make her a good fren instead of a gf.if fate has it that we should be more than that than so be it regardless of differences. -
Yeah...Originally posted by Pullup Addict:yep i guess vroomvroom read my mind perfectly and understand wat i meant by impossible crush due to religious differences.well i went to her today and just said tat icould i have ur number and she just gave me saying tat she forgot to ask for mine on that day.
i am wat u call a realistic person and i have to decided to make her a good fren instead of a gf.if fate has it that we should be more than that than so be it regardless of differences. -
Alright pal.Originally posted by Pullup Addict:yep i guess vroomvroom read my mind perfectly and understand wat i meant by impossible crush due to religious differences.well i went to her today and just said tat icould i have ur number and she just gave me saying tat she forgot to ask for mine on that day.
i am wat u call a realistic person and i have to decided to make her a good fren instead of a gf.if fate has it that we should be more than that than so be it regardless of differences.
I went thru a couple of impossible crush myself as well.
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You think your crush is bad, think again. I am having feelings for a Malaysian Indian lady co-worker whose family is christian while I am a Singapore chinese whose parents are buddhist(I'm a freethinker). I think a positive outcome is really impossible for me but that does not stop me from liking her. Not sure how to woo her so now all I can do is being a friend with her and exchange sms greetings(still can't believe I pluck up the courage to ask her or hp no.). Thinking maybe once I have more free time(part time studies in NTU) I ask her out for a drink and chat. She admit she miss me now that we are working in different department, is that a good sign?
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1. Find another girl.
2. convert it to action. (get her)
If you choose option 1. then it's the-end of story.
option2. Well.... i do agree that it's very difficult for you especially when a girl is christian. Reason because some of them can be very very Christian. they wont want to have a BF who is from a different religion.
If she is fine with that then there is no problem at all. When it comes to girls, your looks isnt that important. Most importantly especially for girls your age would be your ability to express your feelings in a way where you dont put her off.
It has got to be subtle at the start... then slowly pick up positive hints and move on..... Sweet talk!!!! Come on..... your english is pretty decent i'm sure you can do it.
Start by saying... HI.. and the rest will come to you.