Like all normal human beings i would definitely want my relation to last... i am a very romantic and emotional person... But i am also very sensible person and i believe that i must be ready and matured enough to make any decision. I dont wan to end this now cuz exams are coming... i would rather suffer in silence now and tell her after exams rather than tell her now and affect her studies... she is talking to another guy now... how do u expect me to feel? And for any moment do not think tat i am possesive... for i am not.Originally posted by browniebaobao:She is still ur girlfren yet u call her 'shameless girl'.
Do u still love her? I think u have already decided to break up. There is no best time/right time...if she dun wana break up..
Since u think that ur studies are more important and u are already telling pple that u have a shameless gf, might as well call it off then hopefully she get somebody who really cherish and love her.
Originally posted by Sy_dreamer:Like all normal human beings i would definitely want my relation to last... i am a very romantic and emotional person... But i am also very sensible person and i believe that i must be ready and matured enough to make any decision. I dont wan to end this now cuz exams are coming... i would rather suffer in silence now and tell her after exams rather than tell her now and affect her studies... she is talking to another guy now... how do u expect me to feel? And for any moment do not think tat i am possesive... for i am not.
Another thing... don give me "hopefully she get somebody who really cherish and love her." I did, io have tried and she did not appreciate me... shouldn't it be "hopefully i get somebody who really cherish and love me."? Ya thanks a lot for yr help... no offence in wat i said... its juz my stand
Thanks for your reply... juz to let u noe i also feel the same way. But i really feel a lot of hurt if were to end the rel and wnt to do it only after my exams... ya... I kinda learnt not to rush into any rel again...Originally posted by klyde:Dear Sy_dreamer,
i would just like to comment that u are not even ready for any BGR. Neither is ur current so called GF.
x2....Originally posted by browniebaobao:
Did u ever try asking her how she treat the guy now? Are they juz frens? I mean tho she is attached, she still has the freedom of making frens. Well, I know how you feel, your fren looked up another guy's address and is actively chatting with him. U feel insecure and betrayed...if u wana noe something, ask! Guessing won't give u the truth.

He knows that we are together and she agrees to letting him see us together... I trust her but still bewildered at why she had to get to know that guy.. She the kind who needs a lot of security so maybe she using him as someone to fall back on we ever break... i don wnt say too much cuz maybe its juz tat she being friendly... But being friendly to he extent of purposely pulling another into yr life.. i donnoe if i can stand tat... thx for yr adviseOriginally posted by Poopie-Head:try to find a chance to let the guy see u and ur GF together. make sure he sees u holding her hands or wrap around her shoulders, etc. Make him know that u two are an item.
dittoOriginally posted by Sy_dreamer:
I had a talk with her yesterday... she told me v frankly that she was with him... I do trust her but this incident has almost destroyed the love i initially felt towards her...She told me tat guy is hitting on her... she don like it... but she don wnt to stay away from him cuz she don wnt to lose a friend.Don she think she's weird? Readers please tell me if i'm right, she is not ready for a rel cuz she only cares about her own feelings and do not bother about how the other party may feel.
Her reason for initially contacting him: "Cuz everytime i at bus stop keep ogling at him den is like quite perverse, so i had to get to noe him." Readers pls tell me if she is ready for a rel. No sensible person will go out hitting on other guys juz cuz they are cute and live near u. I feel very hurt over wat she did and she now expects me to allow her to be with that guy as friends.
He knows that we are together and she agrees to letting him see us together... I trust her but still bewildered at why she had to get to know that guy.. She the kind who needs a lot of security so maybe she using him as someone to fall back on we ever break... i don wnt say too much cuz maybe its juz tat she being friendly... But being friendly to he extent of purposely pulling another into yr life.. i donnoe if i can stand tat...[/quote]
you've already know that she's not really ready for a relationship when you listed the above-mentioned reasons and that. Talk to her and tell her how you feel about her suddenly getting fresh with another guy.
[quote]Originally posted by Poopie-Head:
from then on, its up to u - whether u chose to believe her or not. do u love her enough? trust her enough? if u chose to trust her, dont suspect anymore.
End the relationship. For the good of both of you....Originally posted by Sy_dreamer:I am now and i realise that i am too young to have a rel. In jc and v busy. This girl has been my stead for almost two months liao.. I currently believe that seh is seeing another guy who stays near her.. He was her former crush.. I dont wnt to say this but she shamelessly looked up his add and made friends with him... Now they like chatting everyday i think... usually she will miss call me like crazy but today she did not even contact me at all.
Cuz she normally stay at home to study but today suddenly go clubhouse to study... for the whole day some more... Weird cuz she hates to be alone... so i suspect that she studying together with this guy.
She keeps telling me that she is not interested in him. But would yr gf be so shameless... go make new friend and chat with him on msn for an hour yesterday and then today will suddenly stop contacting u... even when she's alone and she's the kind who needs a lot of security?
I am quite an indepentdent person and now noe that this is not the relationship for me... she took up too much of my time when i really loved her... and now cuz i need to study for exams also she look up this guy and i suspect she with him now..
Think i should talk it out with her and meet this guy or should i juz give up this relationship in which i have no intention of continueing since she is like this...
Also her actions are very mixed... she is still very touchy with me till the extent that i don noe if she is really two timing me... I am having the feeling that she is betraying me and i dont like that..
If i want the relationship to end i want it to end cuz we do not match each others characters... not cuz she went after another guy but continues to lie to me... i am a guy and i have pride... i will not take it lying down if she had indeed betrayed me...
If we really break up... when would be the best time for it... Cuz even after my exams i still have many things on... so ya... pls coment
Erm, just concentrate on your "A" Level, get some good results. Enjoy your JC life and peers while u can, u might not know there may be some better gals that comes along your way in the later stage of your life.Originally posted by Sy_dreamer:I am now and i realise that i am too young to have a rel. In jc and v busy. This girl has been my stead for almost two months liao.. I currently believe that seh is seeing another guy who stays near her.. He was her former crush.. I dont wnt to say this but she shamelessly looked up his add and made friends with him... Now they like chatting everyday i think... usually she will miss call me like crazy but today she did not even contact me at all.
Cuz she normally stay at home to study but today suddenly go clubhouse to study... for the whole day some more... Weird cuz she hates to be alone... so i suspect that she studying together with this guy.
She keeps telling me that she is not interested in him. But would yr gf be so shameless... go make new friend and chat with him on msn for an hour yesterday and then today will suddenly stop contacting u... even when she's alone and she's the kind who needs a lot of security?
I am quite an indepentdent person and now noe that this is not the relationship for me... she took up too much of my time when i really loved her... and now cuz i need to study for exams also she look up this guy and i suspect she with him now..
Think i should talk it out with her and meet this guy or should i juz give up this relationship in which i have no intention of continueing since she is like this...
Also her actions are very mixed... she is still very touchy with me till the extent that i don noe if she is really two timing me... I am having the feeling that she is betraying me and i dont like that..
If i want the relationship to end i want it to end cuz we do not match each others characters... not cuz she went after another guy but continues to lie to me... i am a guy and i have pride... i will not take it lying down if she had indeed betrayed me...
If we really break up... when would be the best time for it... Cuz even after my exams i still have many things on... so ya... pls coment
Hi Sy_dreamer,Originally posted by Sy_dreamer:Thanks for your reply... juz to let u noe i also feel the same way. But i really feel a lot of hurt if were to end the rel and wnt to do it only after my exams... ya... I kinda learnt not to rush into any rel again...
Juz wanna ask... will a childish and cutish girl ever grow up and mature? And rreally.. reallly... was it wrong for her to go look up and talk to tat guy.. or was I being overly sensitive... Cuz i need to noe if it was alright for her to do tat.. Thx