Should i accept her for who she is oris it time to move on?
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Sori for this kind of like a cross post...
I am currently reaching two months with my gf. I still love her and am willing to accept her for who she is even though we have a lot of differences. One thing about her is tat she is very weird.
When i talk to other girls she gets angry and all... but its alright for her to talk to other guys and recently i am now very angry. Exes should nev be mentioned or maybe only a little... She has this ex crush who lives opposite her condo... she recently used the website wholivesnearyou.com to locate him keep say want to talk to him.. She keep denying that she likes him ok den i trust her..
Yesterday, I suspected she was with him at clubhouse the whole day. It turned out to be true.
I had a talk with her yesterday... she told me v frankly that she was with him but claims they are juz friends which I believe... I do trust her but this incident has almost destroyed the love i initially felt towards her... I trust her and I noe she will not do anything but wat concerns me is why she had to meet tat guy in the first place and why she still wants to meet him nowÂ… its weird and her answers are more weirdÂ…
She told me tat guy is hitting on her... she don like it... but she don wnt to stay away from him cuz she don wnt to lose a friend. Don she think she's weird?
Readers please tell me if i'm right, she is not ready for a rel cuz she only cares about her own feelings and do not bother about how the other party may feel though she claims she knows but still does it.
Her reason for initially contacting him: "Cuz everytime i at bus stop keep ogling at him den is like quite perverse, so i had to get to noe him." Readers pls tell me if she is ready for a rel. No sensible person will go out hitting on other guys juz cuz they are cute and live near u. I feel very hurt over wat she did and she now expects me to allow her to be with that guy as friends. Does she give any respect for how I feel at all? Its alright but she tells me tat guy hits on her den she will freak out... but she don wnt lose friend so wont stay away from him.
Ok people, wat i really feel is that she has been too pampered all her life and now she expects me to accept tat guy whom she forced into her life on her own acccord... wtf... pls tell me wat i should do now... beginning to feel this is becoming an abusive rel now... -
wah piang u have to make 2 posts about it?
and also made 2 accounts?
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Use a different nick to post is also cross posting hor!
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end the relationship
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hmmmm ... get a tub of yummylicious ben & jerry's chocolate chip cookie dough ice cream & chillzzz o'er d horizon @ changi beach (more bo lang)..
.. when d choco has gotten into ya blood, u'll feel a lil sleepy.. take a sloOow walk / jog home.. sweat sweat sweat.. then lie on d bed.. switch oOn sOme wOrld music & concentrate on yOur breathing.. iN.. oUt..iN oOoUt.. focUs..
.... wheN yOu regain yOur consciousness agAin, repeat the abOve when yOu still have nO tutorials to do or lectUre nOtes Or no wOrK to dO / read.............
tiLL d day, you...................
(1) aRe sUre U want your life bacK & nothing's gonna stop you from gEtting it..
(2) feel d words come & yOu know whAt & how you're going to tell hEr that she's jUz a frieNd / familiar strAnger for liFe.. bUt do tis clOsure nicely lah & u'll neeD d calm to knOw wat U're sayiNg lOh... (oNli farkeRz leave their passenger stranded on d highway in d middle of nowhere....)
... when all else fail, there's always tiMe... try & try .....& there's always d chaNce that she'll act & react / chaNge before you aCt.. theN u jUz react accordingly loh..
P/S: d above wOn't work if yOu still clUtter yOur thoughts & yOur calls/sms with her.
bEst wishes hoh...
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look on a brighter side. after all, she did confess to you that she was indeed with him, and not like trying to deny the whole thing. this shows she's honest with you... try giving yourself and her some time... if she truthful and realli like you, she'll not leave you. but if she leave you for him, then move on. she can do this to anybody else...
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oh baby u dispense the greatest advice! but i would recommend changing the ice cream to a nice hagen daz strawberry ice cream. or better still, dreyers strawberry creamcheese cake ice cream!Originally posted by sleepycat:hmmmm ... get a tub of yummylicious ben & jerry's chocolate chip cookie dough ice cream & chillzzz o'er d horizon @ changi beach (more bo lang)..
.. when d choco has gotten into ya blood, u'll feel a lil sleepy.. take a sloOow walk / jog home.. sweat sweat sweat.. then lie on d bed.. switch oOn sOme wOrld music & concentrate on yOur breathing.. iN.. oUt..iN oOoUt.. focUs..
.... wheN yOu regain yOur consciousness agAin, repeat the abOve when yOu still have nO tutorials to do or lectUre nOtes nO no wOrd to dO / read.............
tiLL d day, you...................
(1) aRe sUre U want your life bacK & nothing's gonna stop you from gEtting it..
(2) feel d words come & yOu know whAt & how you're going to tell hEr that she's jUz a frieNd / familiar strAnger for liFe.. bUt do tis clOsure nicely lah bUt u neeD d calm to knOw wat U're sayiNg lOh... (oNli farkeRz leave their passenger stranded d highway in d middle of nowhere....)
... when all else fail, there's always tiMe... try & try .....& there's always d chaNce that she'll act & react / chaNge before you aCt.. theN u jUz react accordingly loh..
P/S: d above wOn't work if yOu still clUtter yOur thoughts & yOur calls/sms with her.
bEst wishes hoh...
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I see Heng@ trying to hit on a feline from london haha.Originally posted by HENG@:oh baby u dispense the greatest advice! but i would recommend changing the ice cream to a nice hagen daz strawberry ice cream. or better still, dreyers strawberry creamcheese cake ice cream!
Anyway, from what you said, i think u oredi know what u wanna do. u just cant make up ur mind to break up wif her or let her continue and hoping that she chooses u in the end... -
No wonder the post so familiar.. Mod, can close topic?
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Originally posted by Axelheat755:I see Heng@ trying to hit on a feline from london haha.
Anyway, from what you said, i think u oredi know what u wanna do. u just cant make up ur mind to break up wif her or let her continue and hoping that she chooses u in the end... -
Well... i dunno the characteristics of ur gf so can't be sure whats she's trying to do...
it might be a crush, so she felt she have to get to know this guy..otherwise it will keep bugging her and she cannot concentrate on you. And they stay so close together, the urge will keep getting stronger lo.U should remember the last time u have a crush on someone else... its those kind of feeling lo. Keep trying ways and means to try to know that person, and stealing glances. As she says it a crush, her interest for him might fade after she knows him. OR she might felt this other guy might be more suitable or she likes him more.
Anyway, it's only 2 months into your relationship. I bet both of you have never discuss is this for real ? For long term commitment? If so, then i would say both of your options are still open. Cause the understanding between the both of you are still not strong enough. If you decide that you want to be a stayer, you have to make your intentions really clear to her. otherwise she might also think that you are still shopping around.
You have to relax... If the guy is hitting on her, she decided to go, then wish her all the best and be happy for yourself. Cause you did not waste a lot of time. 2 months to know that she's fickle-minded is not long actually.
At least she's being honest with you, or she's trying to make you jealous. Some gals likes to do that .. make their guy jealous and stuff... Cause they are craving for attention... making the guy worried a bit..
Mayb it's just really friendship. Anyway, before you guys are together, is she a very friendly and sociable person? I felt she is.. thats y she could make friends with people so easily... if thats the case, dun fret. Cause u know she's friendly even before you are together with her. So whats the big deal of her making 1 new friend? She won't think she's wrong.. she will feel that y r u so petty and unreasonable.. -
Originally posted by watdoido:
you have no life.
Sori for this kind of like a cross post...
I am currently reaching two months with my gf. I still love her and am willing to accept her for who she is even though we have a lot of differences. One thing about her is tat she is very weird.
When i talk to other girls she gets angry and all... but its alright for her to talk to other guys and recently i am now very angry. Exes should nev be mentioned or maybe only a little... She has this ex crush who lives opposite her condo... she recently used the website wholivesnearyou.com to locate him keep say want to talk to him.. She keep denying that she likes him ok den i trust her..
Yesterday, I suspected she was with him at clubhouse the whole day. It turned out to be true.
I had a talk with her yesterday... she told me v frankly that she was with him but claims they are juz friends which I believe... I do trust her but this incident has almost destroyed the love i initially felt towards her... I trust her and I noe she will not do anything but wat concerns me is [b]why she had to meet tat guy in the first place and why she still wants to meet him nowÂ… its weird and her answers are more weirdÂ…
She told me tat guy is hitting on her... she don like it... but she don wnt to stay away from him cuz she don wnt to lose a friend. Don she think she's weird? Readers please tell me if i'm right, she is not ready for a rel cuz she only cares about her own feelings and do not bother about how the other party may feel though she claims she knows but still does it.
Her reason for initially contacting him: "Cuz everytime i at bus stop keep ogling at him den is like quite perverse, so i had to get to noe him." Readers pls tell me if she is ready for a rel. No sensible person will go out hitting on other guys juz cuz they are cute and live near u. I feel very hurt over wat she did and she now expects me to allow her to be with that guy as friends. Does she give any respect for how I feel at all? Its alright but she tells me tat guy hits on her den she will freak out... but she don wnt lose friend so wont stay away from him.
Ok people, wat i really feel is that she has been too pampered all her life and now she expects me to accept tat guy whom she forced into her life on her own acccord... wtf... pls tell me wat i should do now... beginning to feel this is becoming an abusive rel now...
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