give up or persist?
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dear people,
this is my story.. i confessed my feeelings to a gal whom i like just recently.
and was rejected initially cos she said she have no plans to go into a relationship at this age of 21.. i was sad but nevertheless on her birthdae i still got her a gift n a card. inside i wrote things like hoping still can be frens in spite of this rejection incident
then she said be closer frens first and let nature takes it course for this sort of thing to happen. and send me a message saying will not brush aside my confession to her and will cherish me as a fren. .. but will let nature takes course..
now i dunno whether as to i realli like her or not liao.. but if say dun like how come i can do so mani things for her and i last time in 17 already secretly like her then??
do u think that i shd just forget abt the idea or try to persist ?
also how do u touch a gal's heart to like a guy???
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my mama said
you can't hurry love
no you just have to wait
she said love don't come easy
it's a game of give and take
be her friend! her great friend!
and she said it herself... she would not brush your friendship aside and she's also said that she'll let nature take its course..
and love is sometimes not immediate... it takes time to nurture and develop.. nurture and develop that relationship, mayhap that little glow in her for you will turn into a roaring fire in the future!
good luck!
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persist untill u cant then go for another, this is what i did, but i still in love with the same girl that rejected me
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Looks like you are unsure of what you want.. Being rejected does not mean end of the world.. She has mentioned to you that she will not brush aside your confession to her.. That shows she has already know that you have feelings for her.. The part where she said lets be closer frens is a big hint that she will consider abt you..Originally posted by c2on2:dear people,
this is my story.. i confessed my feeelings to a gal whom i like just recently.
and was rejected initially cos she said she have no plans to go into a relationship at this age of 21.. i was sad but nevertheless on her birthdae i still got her a gift n a card. inside i wrote things like hoping still can be frens in spite of this rejection incident
then she said be closer frens first and let nature takes it course for this sort of thing to happen. and send me a message saying will not brush aside my confession to her and will cherish me as a fren. .. but will let nature takes course..
now i dunno whether as to i realli like her or not liao.. but if say dun like how come i can do so mani things for her and i last time in 17 already secretly like her then??
do u think that i shd just forget abt the idea or try to persist ?
also how do u touch a gal's heart to like a guy???
What you can do is continue to chase her.. That sign means you need to work hard to win her heart.. Its good that you have confess to her that you like her... work your way into her heart.. touch her heart..
Being rejected does nt mean giving up on her.. If you rush into things, and she agree with you in a haste manner, you 2 may not work things out.. Take it nice and slow.. and i believe she will be yours if things turn out right..
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people say dun wan means dnt wan.. y persist?
problem with guys these days is that they cnt tell wen a gal is politely tellg him to bugger off...
mus the gal get angry thn hapi.... -
But that's really because girls enjoy playing mind games too... I'm not saying all girls are this way but I certainly know some that were...Originally posted by skeujin:people say dun wan means dnt wan.. y persist?
problem with guys these days is that they cnt tell wen a gal is politely tellg him to bugger off...
mus the gal get angry thn hapi....
The problem thus is indentifying whether she's one of those girls...
For the threadstarter, my advice is continue and be her close friend and if a better girl happens to cross your path and she hasn't give any indication that she wants to develop things farther then... tell her your decision and for her blessings... -
when u like a person u respect her decision...Originally posted by c2on2:dear people,
this is my story.. i confessed my feeelings to a gal whom i like just recently.
and was rejected initially cos she said she have no plans to go into a relationship at this age of 21.. i was sad but nevertheless on her birthdae i still got her a gift n a card. inside i wrote things like hoping still can be frens in spite of this rejection incident
then she said be closer frens first and let nature takes it course for this sort of thing to happen. and send me a message saying will not brush aside my confession to her and will cherish me as a fren. .. but will let nature takes course..
now i dunno whether as to i realli like her or not liao.. but if say dun like how come i can do so mani things for her and i last time in 17 already secretly like her then??
do u think that i shd just forget abt the idea or try to persist ?
also how do u touch a gal's heart to like a guy???
try to understand why she made this decision...
By being her friend...u nt only get a second chance to know her more...but a 'comfortable zone' for her to know u more. You will also be able to find out if u really like her.
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maybe u should ask urself, wil u oni hav eyes for her, i mean r there other potential gals ard u..follow ur heart..i suggest remian as frds, who knows she wil feel somethg as time goes by..
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No such thing as nature takes it's course.
Work on it. To see the other side of the mountain, you got to climb over it. Lots of effort required.
Effort with skills would help. Need some cash too la.
1. long phones conversations (sharing of secrets) Feel closer ^^
2. Bring her out to a place with nice ambience for dinner.
3. send her home no matter what.
after which she should be yours already.
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Dear c2on2,Originally posted by c2on2:dear people,
this is my story.. i confessed my feeelings to a gal whom i like just recently.
and was rejected initially cos she said she have no plans to go into a relationship at this age of 21.. i was sad but nevertheless on her birthdae i still got her a gift n a card. inside i wrote things like hoping still can be frens in spite of this rejection incident
then she said be closer frens first and let nature takes it course for this sort of thing to happen. and send me a message saying will not brush aside my confession to her and will cherish me as a fren. .. but will let nature takes course..
now i dunno whether as to i realli like her or not liao.. but if say dun like how come i can do so mani things for her and i last time in 17 already secretly like her then??
do u think that i shd just forget abt the idea or try to persist ?
also how do u touch a gal's heart to like a guy???
You already confessed to her.. ANd got rejected.. Now wat you can do is to be friends with her first.. At least she din back off when she knows that you like her.. And she's still willing to be friends with you.. You can secretly like her since young.. but how much have you know about her..
Start off from friends first.. get to know and understand her better.. Like what she says.. Let nature take its course.. She's giving you and herself a chance.. But this takes time.. there's no rush for all this.. Anyway.. i don't believe by doing alot of things for a girl.. she will be touched or moved by what you did.. I rather you be YOURSELF.. and lead the normal life you always do..
Does no need to do extra or purposely do something for her.. like buying gifts.. etc.. But of cos bday is ok.. Jus treat her as normal friends.. like how you treat your other gal-friends too.. Like that she feel more comfortable when you both are out..
CHeers.. -
Yes, don't give up so fast.
Remain frens & get to know each other better -
You've got your answer..... Let nature take its course...Originally posted by c2on2:dear people,
this is my story.. i confessed my feeelings to a gal whom i like just recently.
and was rejected initially cos she said she have no plans to go into a relationship at this age of 21.. i was sad but nevertheless on her birthdae i still got her a gift n a card. inside i wrote things like hoping still can be frens in spite of this rejection incident
then she said be closer frens first and let nature takes it course for this sort of thing to happen. and send me a message saying will not brush aside my confession to her and will cherish me as a fren. .. but will let nature takes course..
now i dunno whether as to i realli like her or not liao.. but if say dun like how come i can do so mani things for her and i last time in 17 already secretly like her then??
do u think that i shd just forget abt the idea or try to persist ?
also how do u touch a gal's heart to like a guy???
Love is a 2-way thing.... -
hmm wat do u pple think that can help a guy attract the gal that he targetted into liking him arr?
ani tips ? -
there are tips on that.
But the base criteria is got to be tat - she feels attracted towards you. Little or lots. Doesn't matter.
What i could see is that. You lack that base. And it would only stay as friends for a long long time.
Be a friend to her, look for other options as the same time.
Cheers -
Guess he's just having a one-way thoughts...?Originally posted by M©+square:there are tips on that.
But the base criteria is got to be tat - she feels attracted towards you. Little or lots. Doesn't matter.
What i could see is that. You lack that base. And it would only stay as friends for a long long time.
Be a friend to her, look for other options as the same time.
Cheers
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Ok you could do a few things:Originally posted by c2on2:dear people,
this is my story.. i confessed my feeelings to a gal whom i like just recently.
and was rejected initially cos she said she have no plans to go into a relationship at this age of 21.. i was sad but nevertheless on her birthdae i still got her a gift n a card. inside i wrote things like hoping still can be frens in spite of this rejection incident
then she said be closer frens first and let nature takes it course for this sort of thing to happen. and send me a message saying will not brush aside my confession to her and will cherish me as a fren. .. but will let nature takes course..
now i dunno whether as to i realli like her or not liao.. but if say dun like how come i can do so mani things for her and i last time in 17 already secretly like her then??
do u think that i shd just forget abt the idea or try to persist ?
also how do u touch a gal's heart to like a guy???
1. Brad pitt make over
2. Get a boyband
3. Be a movie star
4. GET RICH QUICK
Or at least appear to do so.. but since most of us guys CANNOT. Lets talk more realistically..
*opens textbook on attraction*
The way to attract most women is to not give a shit about them, coz its unattractive for a women to be romanced by a wussy man who does the usual NICE stuff..
(I guess that's why jerks get women better )
But even i find it difficult to be a BALL BUSTER to girls..
so i guess you should forget about chasing this woman, but keep her in your thoughts or your list, but u should move onto other women, coz perhaps this woman will like u later on. U never know -
GIVE UP!
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My simple advice,
Keep in contact with her while keeping options open
That was what I did that time...