why m i lyk dis..

o(O.o)o

1 Oct 04, 16:54

can sum1 plz tell me y i always feeling tt i'll lose my stead to other ppl... like kana poach u noe wat i mean?

i'm always feeling so inferior to her guy frenx... hear tt they together in a group onli i jealous (mixture of boys and gurls).....

can sum1 plz tell me y im feeling so insecure...... i tot guys nt supposed to feel dis way...

p.s.esp................................ bear plz advise...

Kenashi

1 Oct 04, 17:02

lack of confidence in yrself.....
need to be more confident, always hold yr head high, don't look down
there is no gold on the ground waiting for u to pick up

Kennerve

1 Oct 04, 20:34

Its your thinking that makes yourself think you are not as good as her guy frens.. They have your strength, you have your strengths.. Just that maybe you did not utilise your strength well enough and tat makes you think that you are weaker that her guy frens..

Don worry too much.. Be yourself.. You will be fine. Wink

Quinsy

1 Oct 04, 21:02

u should feel confident that ur stead chose u. She chose u becasue she like u and not other guys right? so be happy and confident adn do not worry.

SunRisE

2 Oct 04, 09:52

You are lacking of self confidence and your trust in her and yourself.. Dont be so negative.. Open your heart.. Don't ever let possessiveness take over control!! This will result in quarrelling and break-ups..

Is not that guy wont feel this way.. they do sometimes.. is jus how much they showed to others.. Never let the fear of striking out get in your way.. Go out and widen your social circle.. If you are so afraid.. next time ask her whether you could join her out for her gathering for once..

Don't be inferior.. Learn to see things as it is.. Too much wild imgainations can kill..

Cheers.. Wink

shade343

2 Oct 04, 10:29

You seriously need a boost of self esteem. I wonder why your feelings of lousiness exist in the first place.Perhaps there is a stimulus in your body that triggers a release of certain hormones in your brain that makes you feel lousy whenever you see your girl's guy friends. Consult your local GP for help.

Devil1976

2 Oct 04, 12:10

......

An Eternal Now

2 Oct 04, 13:41

if u really love her u wont mind even if she leaves u so that she can be happier.

Fluffy.white.sheeP

2 Oct 04, 14:18

the_don

2 Oct 04, 14:29

yoz BEARIE!!!!!!!! u got secret admirer!!! and it's a GUY........ Confused

the_don

2 Oct 04, 14:35

Dear o(O.o)o

most pple would feel like this at some point in their relationship. try to think about the possible reasons that triggered your insecurity. has your gal done anything that shows she values other guys more than as a fren? has she done anything that shows u are nothing more than a fren to her? if yes, try to find out why and maybe u gotta rethink about your r/s. but if these insecurities are just your own, then u gotta learn to trust your gal. everybody need their own space and being a couple does not mean losing your individuality. hope you learn thru this experience ya? Wink

men_@_arms

3 Oct 04, 21:28

Coz u prolly will??? And ur afraid of your relationship reaching its breakeven point peak of Law of Diminishing Marginal returns?

BaByBoY

3 Oct 04, 21:52

Dear o(O.o)o,

I believe you`re suffering from the symtoms of loving too much and wanting too see her too much. Naturally, you`ll be afraid that you`ll lose her to other ppl.
I can say you really cherished her, so much so to the extent you`re over possesing he..

What you felt is naturally, i do believe you`re newly coupled? or that ur gf have a very big circle of friend that u may not know of all even.
tt`s why you feel insecure, cuz u don kow who she maybe goin out w and wat they may be doin..
you could haf tried to `tag` along her whle she go out w her friends if she allows u to. make frens w her frens let her fren know she haf a BF aka YOU.
i believe that will ease the uneasiness in you, so you`ll feel more secured as she`ll appear `booked` by you.

well who says guys can feel insecure too??
guys are afterall humans and made of blood..
even superman cries once ni a while

well, afterall it still boils down to how much trust you give her
If you love her, TRUST her
tt`s what i believe LOVE is all about..
Be more confident of yourself, most gals like confident man.
if you think this way, as time passes, your actions will revael ur insecurity to her and she may even change opinion of you

PS. if you really don feel secure and such
i find it reasonable to talk to her direct also
let her know how you feel, u too should know how she feels..
Don suffocate her..

All the best,
Stay natural and be confident
she`d chosen you for a reason and you know it Wink

BaByBoY

rainysun

3 Oct 04, 23:32

Agree with babyboy. i used to think that all that i had done are acts of love, but come to realise that in the end, im the most unhappy party in the whole picture. why throw urself into a deep hot well and suffocate u and her? its not easy, but learn to let go and see the whole picture with a different perspective. if she is meant to be urs, whatever happens, you two will be together. if in the course of relationship, u realise that she is straying off, be glad that u koe that before marriage.. cos, it is a total different thing after marriage.. so treasure her and at the same time, be confident of urself.. confidence is not something that jus come overnight, but u have to give urself that..

i wish u happiness and learn to stay happy.. u be glad that u found a whole new you...

cheerio
rainy.

Ito_^

3 Oct 04, 23:40

i noe a guy who was so jealous dat he screwed up his possible relationship (becuz of me actually) with a gal, i feel sorry for him.

so no matter how hard, or how illogical, have faith in her ok? guys oso can feel insecure de, after all, we're all humans. so x2 to babyboy. secondly, she is only your stead, even if she decide to break up with u someday, u oso cannot do anything bout it, she got her freedom to choose her happiness. simple as that.

usck

4 Oct 04, 11:13

u how old?

Devil1976

4 Oct 04, 13:02

People are hitting on the spot... If you feel inferior, then improve yourself... Gain more confidence... Have more faith in her....

Jealousy of such is actually quite meaningless... If she really wanna escape from you, what ya gonna do about it...?