How to win an INSECURED girl's heart ?
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Ok she was hurted in all her previous relationship. She is not a lesbian. She dun trust guy becos she is a very insecured girl. So how do i convince her that i can be a secure bf she is looking for ? I was told care, love and concern through sincerity. But i did alot of things for her. I treated her very good. When she was sick i bought her medicine to her, but she only get angry becos she thinks not worth it cause she doesnt deserve it.
For now i very scared of msging her. She told me she was also very scared msging me. But if i few days nv msg her, she will ask me where i am but after that we just stop there.
So How should i chase her ? I need help or else i going mad ! -
I would say give her ample of time. If she not ready for another r/s now DON"T force her. If you do, you will sure to be hit backfire by the problem later.Originally posted by december:Ok she was hurted in all her previous relationship. She is not a lesbian. She dun trust guy becos she is a very insecured girl. So how do i convince her that i can be a secure bf she is looking for ? I was told care, love and concern through sincerity. But i did alot of things for her. I treated her very good. When she was sick i bought her medicine to her, but she only get angry becos she thinks not worth it cause she doesnt deserve it.
For now i very scared of msging her. She told me she was also very scared msging me. But if i few days nv msg her, she will ask me where i am but after that we just stop there.
So How should i chase her ? I need help or else i going mad !
Trust me on this , i been there before.
Just try to accompany her and give her more freedom to do what she wanted . This action hopefully will help her recover faster and at the same time let you know more in-depth of her problem. -
For what i've read in your thread, I think you've got chance. Wait and see, if she's your's...you can feel it. But no matter what outcome it is, remember she's the one you wanna care for, even if she has someone else in her mind or whatever. Love someone no need return, when you see the opposite side happy, you will feel happy for them, and that's the return. I used to be selfish, stubborn, silly... Good luck and all the best.
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U need to give her LOTS AND LOTS of TLC.Originally posted by december:Ok she was hurted in all her previous relationship. She is not a lesbian. She dun trust guy becos she is a very insecured girl. So how do i convince her that i can be a secure bf she is looking for ? I was told care, love and concern through sincerity. But i did alot of things for her. I treated her very good. When she was sick i bought her medicine to her, but she only get angry becos she thinks not worth it cause she doesnt deserve it.
For now i very scared of msging her. She told me she was also very scared msging me. But if i few days nv msg her, she will ask me where i am but after that we just stop there.
So How should i chase her ? I need help or else i going mad !
U also need to give her LOTS OF TIME.
U need to let her know that u will ALWAYS BE THERE FOR HER.
Lastly, U have to be VERY PATIENT...
jus my 2 cts....
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My rule. Be very careful when getting into a relationship with girls with excess bagguage.
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She need to heal from the past r/s.. You must and make sure let her know that not all guys are like her exs.. I dunno what happen to her previous r/s.. It might be something very hurtful and pain.. that's why she has such a reaction toward guys.. INSECURITY.. What you have to do now.. is to break that barrier of communication between you and her.. It seems like you don't really know her too well.. YOu are too good to her.. that she fear that she might fall in love again and history repeats..Originally posted by december:Ok she was hurted in all her previous relationship. She is not a lesbian. She dun trust guy becos she is a very insecured girl. So how do i convince her that i can be a secure bf she is looking for ? I was told care, love and concern through sincerity. But i did alot of things for her. I treated her very good. When she was sick i bought her medicine to her, but she only get angry becos she thinks not worth it cause she doesnt deserve it.
For now i very scared of msging her. She told me she was also very scared msging me. But if i few days nv msg her, she will ask me where i am but after that we just stop there.
So How should i chase her ? I need help or else i going mad !
Be yourself.. no need to do extra things for her.. treat her as a normal friends.. now.. she's feeling uncomfortable with you... cos the psychology barrier in her is not open up.. she fear.. she hold back.. Moreover.. she's unstable to go into any r/s now.. SInce you wanna help her.. Treat her as a friend first.. once she learn how to open up.. let her share her problems and tells you what happen if she wish to.. Like this.. she'll be more confident of herself..
She needs much communication!
Cheers..
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just persist and dun push too hard..
sincerity and patience plays a big part here. -
I dunno whether she has interest in me or not
Actually We rarely meet becos she confessed to me that she scare falling in love with me and thus hurting me in the end if we broke up tt y we rarely meet.
On the phone i told her i am very scared to sms her or else i will think of alot of things if she nv reply.
Den she reply that she also scared of sms me.
But if i ever sms n asking where she is, who she going out with, guy or ger going where. SHe will promptly tell me all the ans i want to noe.
If i ask her to meet me, she will always say she busy.
Den will suddenly stop replying, den i will send a sms to her that how much i wan to go out with her and adding a I MISS U at the back.
SHe will apologise n say she was busy n no mood to meet me.
She rarely sms me but if she did, was always to ask where i am.
If for like 2 to 3 days nv sms hor, den at nite i sms her good nite n tell her how much i miss her, the next day she will msg me.
Got once we chat in the morning n she said will call me back asap. But she didnt. I also nv sms until at nite i send her another good nite msg n miss u.
She will immediately sms me say she was busy tt y nv call me back.
If i told her that she was the only ger i contact, she will say how many gers number i have in my SIM card, even pointed out one of her friend's friend number i saved in my SIM card. -
chop off ur DD, that'll show her u wont fool around
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Basiaclly.. she doesn't know what she wants.. too confused.. and try not to push her too much.. let her have some space tobreathe.. you msg her every time saying you miss her this and that.. how you wan her to react.. she's not even sure of her feelings for you.. Sometimes when doin too much of this.. or saying too many times.. it will be turn out to be worse.. rather than you wish that one day she'll be moved by that...Originally posted by december:I dunno whether she has interest in me or not
Actually We rarely meet becos she confessed to me that she scare falling in love with me and thus hurting me in the end if we broke up tt y we rarely meet.
On the phone i told her i am very scared to sms her or else i will think of alot of things if she nv reply.
Den she reply that she also scared of sms me.
But if i ever sms n asking where she is, who she going out with, guy or ger going where. SHe will promptly tell me all the ans i want to noe.
If i ask her to meet me, she will always say she busy.
Den will suddenly stop replying, den i will send a sms to her that how much i wan to go out with her and adding a I MISS U at the back.
SHe will apologise n say she was busy n no mood to meet me.
She rarely sms me but if she did, was always to ask where i am.
If for like 2 to 3 days nv sms hor, den at nite i sms her good nite n tell her how much i miss her, the next day she will msg me.
Got once we chat in the morning n she said will call me back asap. But she didnt. I also nv sms until at nite i send her another good nite msg n miss u.
She will immediately sms me say she was busy tt y nv call me back.
If i told her that she was the only ger i contact, she will say how many gers number i have in my SIM card, even pointed out one of her friend's friend number i saved in my SIM card.
Restrain yourself abit.. Let you and her start off slowly.. There's no need to rush.. Let her have more time to think.. and let yourself.. calm down.. don't keep thinking of how to get her only! Think of how you can progress.. and have a lasting one..
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you said: "So How should i chase her ? I need help or else i going mad !"
if you really want to get her, its actually quite simple.
first, you better wake up your own ideas!
second, don't listen to her bullsh*t such as afraid of getting hurt
third, tell her you don't take girlfriends who cannot give their heart fully. -
Like it or not, each failed relationship especially if there is deceit or abuse involved will take the person a long time to heal. it can take upwards of 2-5 years for a person to heal and she may need some degree of counseling too.
So the only way really is to remain yourself and be sincere, dont push nor threaten or give ulimatum and so on.. give her time and prepared that she will need quite a bit of time to work through the rubbish left on her by her ex -es
so guys, please dont abuse your other half and also please dont happy happy jump from relationship to relationships thinking that it harms no body or at least it does not harm you... guess again.. it harms both parties and belive it or not it harms you far deeper psychologically and emotionally than you will realise. -
yupx totally agree wit e others..
xcept e dumbass who said to chop ur bro off.. tt enternity now is one f-tard..jux ignore him lol...
well.. u shud jux treat her like a sis.. see how things work out..if u are meant to be together.. you'll click.. if u dun.. ur gone. simple as tt....
as simple as it sounds.. its contradictive and confusing to note tt love isnt tt all that easy =p -
You can't convince her that ur the one she is looking for. Just treat her like a friend and lend her a listening ear if she needs one. I think you overdid things by bringing meds to her, ...sweet but irritating. She doesn't want to feel obligated because it could make her guilty . You would rather have someone to like and love you for what you are , rather than being your gf out of guilt and obligationOriginally posted by december:Ok she was hurted in all her previous relationship. She is not a lesbian. She dun trust guy becos she is a very insecured girl. So how do i convince her that i can be a secure bf she is looking for ? I was told care, love and concern through sincerity. But i did alot of things for her. I treated her very good. When she was sick i bought her medicine to her, but she only get angry becos she thinks not worth it cause she doesnt deserve it.
For now i very scared of msging her. She told me she was also very scared msging me. But if i few days nv msg her, she will ask me where i am but after that we just stop there.
So How should i chase her ? I need help or else i going mad !
Don't ever ever push bf issue on her. U push , u fall. simple
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But i just want to do my parts for her. In the beginning she got very very angry over me bringing medicine to her especially when i just got out from wheelchair after an operation. Then at the end of the day when she cool down, she admitted to her friend that she was touched by what i had done which caused her to be guilty.Originally posted by SunRisE:Basiaclly.. she doesn't know what she wants.. too confused.. and try not to push her too much.. let her have some space tobreathe.. you msg her every time saying you miss her this and that.. how you wan her to react.. she's not even sure of her feelings for you.. Sometimes when doin too much of this.. or saying too many times.. it will be turn out to be worse.. rather than you wish that one day she'll be moved by that...
Restrain yourself abit.. Let you and her start off slowly.. There's no need to rush.. Let her have more time to think.. and let yourself.. calm down.. don't keep thinking of how to get her only! Think of how you can progress.. and have a lasting one..
Cheers..
But that was 1 month ago, i think she had just forgotten what i had done for her. She was suppressing her feeling for me all the while. When the moment she thought of the things we used to do together, she will try her best to stop thinking of it by being busy with something. Sighzz..
Maybe all the while she was trying to be hard to get. But i misintrepreted as she has feeling for me. Sighz.. -
Originally posted by december:But i just want to do my parts for her.
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You are scared of this, you are scared of that.Originally posted by december:Ok she was hurted in all her previous relationship. She is not a lesbian. She dun trust guy becos she is a very insecured girl. So how do i convince her that i can be a secure bf she is looking for ? I was told care, love and concern through sincerity. But i did alot of things for her. I treated her very good. When she was sick i bought her medicine to her, but she only get angry becos she thinks not worth it cause she doesnt deserve it.
For now i very scared of msging her. She told me she was also very scared msging me. But if i few days nv msg her, she will ask me where i am but after that we just stop there.
So How should i chase her ? I need help or else i going mad !
Ask her out, play in the day first; then sit down somewhere near the evening and discuss matters.
This way works, but it is up to your guts this time.