Advise?
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Can anyone help me? I have a problem and that is I just want to forget..as well as to see what is the opinions of others. I really do. Because of this problem, I cant concentrate on my studies and in the end, I din even study for my exams! Now I can only hope to pass. Anyway, here is what happen.
Recently, in June 2004 my mum rented out a room to 3 Malaysians - 2 males who are cousins and the third is the older cousin's mum. I am currently 18 and they are 19 and 21 respectively.
After a month or so after they moved in, I hit it quite well with the younger Malaysian guy the one who's 19. Soon, we were going out together. Nevertheless, I soon fell for him. I have also no idea why I liked him. At that time, since I did not know him so well, I did not tell him. Pretty soon, he was asking me to accompany him to buy handphone and he waited for me for over an hour to finish my work. A week later, he asked me to be his girlfriend. I had my reservations about it though I like him very much and told him no. But he persisted and on the 3rd day I accepted. I was very happy as he was very good towards me.
But one day, my world came crashing down when about 8 days after we were together, I saw a message for him that was from his hometown. I then found out that he had a girlfriend back home already. And that, they had been together for close to 3 years already! But he lied to me that He did not have a girlfriend from the start when he moved in. Anyway, as I was very angry I confronted him. He then said that it was nothing one. He is not very happy in that relationship, and that he no longer had any feelings for her. He asked me to give him some time when I demanded that sicne he did not have any feelings for her to break it off but he did not want to. My friends then told me to break it off with him.
But I did not. We went on like this for quite some timeÂ… quite happily and told me not to think so much about the Malaysia side as he really has no feelings for her and that he will no longer be going back there already. But, my pride got in my way again and This matter had then been weighing a lot on my mind and I broke up with him on the day when we went out happily to take a photo. I then told him I did not want to talk to him but he begged me to still remain as his friend. At last, I agreed. This was one day before national day.
On national day, I have tickets to the parade and I had also promised my friend to go. He begged me to remain with him at home as he will be alone at home but since I promised my friend, I did not want to. He then said he will wait for me to come home. Over at the stadium, I then received a message from him saying he likes me very much and wants me to be his girlfriend. Again, I hold on to my pride a I have very high pride and I told him no unless he broke up with his girlfriend. I guess things started changing from that day. When I got back home, I saw a note from him saying that he will not be waiting up for me and that he had went to bed early.
The next day after national day, I then realised that I really cannot donÂ’t have him and messaged him to be my boyfriend. But this time, he told me he does not want to bluff me anymore and told me that he still loves his girlfriend a lot and just asked me to be his best friend. As I was quite sad, I accepted. The next day, I smsed him again and this time he agreed to be my boyfriend on the condition that if one day I was to break up with him, we would still remain as friends. I agreed to that condition.
Things were back to normal and he went all out to make me happy. And I was really very happy and contended during that period that we were back together. But like what others always say, good times never last and things changed again. His girlfriend initiated a breakup with him. He then broke that news to me saying that he does not know if to me, itÂ’s a good thing or a bad thing. When he said that, I knew now for sure my relationship with him would also soon be over. This was on a Tuesday.
By Saturday time, he was really moody and he kept crying. When I saw him like that, my heart ached for him and I decided to contact his girlfriend for him. And got him to talk to his girlfriend. They did not patched up. But on Sunday, he then told me he wants to cool it off and temporary does not want to be in a relationship. He then told me to wait for him. I agreed.
On thurs when all of them were off to work, I went into their room and took back the note that I had written for him and kept it. Upon discovering it missing, he then asked me about it. I bluff him and told him I threw it away. He then asked me why. I said itÂ’s no longer important. He then proceed on to say that although itÂ’s not impt to me, it is very impt to him. As my mum was in the living room at that time, we ended the conversation. When I told my friends about this, they told me it was just sweet talk only.
Unknown to me, he suddenly went back to Malaysia without informing me at all. Suddenly insecure and also angry, I just assumed that he went back to find that girl. And so, I smsed him saying I will no longer be waiting for him anymore. After sending that message I wanted to retrieve it back but could not longer.
Things started to change for the worse from that day onwards. When he came back from Malaysia on Monday, he moved back into his room to sleep, and ignored me, not even talking or looking at me. I was very hurt, very hurt.. but upon his good friend intervention (his good friend scolded him), he was back on talking terms with me, but still only a few words like hi Â… byeÂ…
anyway, this went on for the whole week and again on thurseday he went over to his good friendÂ’s house to stay. On Friday, I then realised that his girlfriend had came over to Singapore looking for him to patch things up with him. She called me many times and at last, out of frustration, I gave her his good friendÂ’s hp number. And from there, she asked him out and on that day itself, they patched up.
Things turned again after they patched up. And I only understand why when his good friend explained to me. It was that he did not want to patch up with that girl already, and that is why he went over to his good friendÂ’s house to stay not wanting her to find him. And also that week he went back to Malaysia is because of some family crisis and not because of her. When I heard that, I had many regrets over the things that I had done and said to him. But his good friend told me that she would help me in many ways she canÂ… but things would still be different as they patched back on conditions one.. and one of the condition is that he must not talk to me nor his good friend.
Our friendship then went on like that.. on just a hiÂ… bye basis. Until just recently, his girlfriend found out about mine and his relationship. As previously I had promised him I would not tell his girlfriend about this, and so, I had not. But when they had a quarrel, she brought this into their quarrel and told him that I had told her when I had not. I found out about this from his good friend. And when I confronted him with this, I told him I promised you and so I did not say.. want to believe or not is up to you.. and he replied me.. I am not angry la. DonÂ’t talk so much ok. From that reply, I knew that he had not belived me. I was very angry.
His friend then told me it does not matter who say one. Now what is important is that he is only waiting for November and that if his girlfriend carry on being so suspiscious of him, he would break it off with her. His friends advised me not to care so much about their relationship and let them work it out on their own. His friends said that if they were to break up, his girlfriend would think that he had patch up with me, and that it was all not her fault. From this I knew, I knew that even if they were to break up he would not return to my sideÂ…
From that day onwards, he was back on ignoring me. I was bewildered. My friends told me that from right from the start, he was just playing around with meÂ… never serious. They told me it could be that he sensed that I like him, and so had pursuit me.. what do you all think? Can love really vanish just like that? I had just broke up with him for 2 months and it was not my wish.. can he just donÂ’t care for me, donÂ’t even care about our friendship, forget on what he made me promise him when we patch up together? What do you all think? I want to chase him back but my friends advise me against doing so, as it is obvious he does not like me nowÂ… what do you think? Can someone give me some advise? -
whoa. And i thought that COld war politics and tension was hard to understand, wot, with stalin not knowing what roosevelt was thinking and mao not knowing what the yanks were doing..
Anywayz.. romance/love does not seem like love when u describe it.. with Conditions and stuff, like some kinda treaty.. So to me, its not really romance or love lor.
Also, u should know better not to get involved with someone who already has a girlfriend, and in further leading u on, tarnishes himself further by being a "cheater."
I agree with ur friends that he wasn't taking it on seriously. For instance, u say this guy is ur COUSIN!?!? Well i guess inter-same-dynastic r/s are ok.. between cousins.. but still gives me goosebumps. The fact he's ur cousin, seems to imply he wun take it seriously.
U ask if "love can vanish like that", it was never love to begin with i think.
Move on. Get out and meet more guys more, so that u won't keep falling for ur cousins or other male members of ur family, no matter how distant they may be, malaysia is not very far. -
no he is not my cousin... he is mi tenant lives with his cousin in my house...
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Wah.. Miss ah.. Your post hor.. I read till my eyes go blur manz.. I think i will analysis things for you in a pt form.. Or you will be blur by reading it also..Originally posted by wan2bet:Can anyone help me? I have a problem and that is I just want to forget..as well as to see what is the opinions of others. I really do. Because of this problem, I cant concentrate on my studies and in the end, I din even study for my exams! Now I can only hope to pass. Anyway, here is what happen.
Recently, in June 2004 my mum rented out a room to 3 Malaysians - 2 males who are cousins and the third is the older cousin's mum. I am currently 18 and they are 19 and 21 respectively.
After a month or so after they moved in, I hit it quite well with the younger Malaysian guy the one who's 19. Soon, we were going out together. Nevertheless, I soon fell for him. I have also no idea why I liked him. At that time, since I did not know him so well, I did not tell him. Pretty soon, he was asking me to accompany him to buy handphone and he waited for me for over an hour to finish my work. A week later, he asked me to be his girlfriend. I had my reservations about it though I like him very much and told him no. But he persisted and on the 3rd day I accepted. I was very happy as he was very good towards me.
But one day, my world came crashing down when about 8 days after we were together, I saw a message for him that was from his hometown. I then found out that he had a girlfriend back home already. And that, they had been together for close to 3 years already! But he lied to me that He did not have a girlfriend from the start when he moved in. Anyway, as I was very angry I confronted him. He then said that it was nothing one. He is not very happy in that relationship, and that he no longer had any feelings for her. He asked me to give him some time when I demanded that sicne he did not have any feelings for her to break it off but he did not want to. My friends then told me to break it off with him.
But I did not. We went on like this for quite some timeÂ… quite happily and told me not to think so much about the Malaysia side as he really has no feelings for her and that he will no longer be going back there already. But, my pride got in my way again and This matter had then been weighing a lot on my mind and I broke up with him on the day when we went out happily to take a photo. I then told him I did not want to talk to him but he begged me to still remain as his friend. At last, I agreed. This was one day before national day.
On national day, I have tickets to the parade and I had also promised my friend to go. He begged me to remain with him at home as he will be alone at home but since I promised my friend, I did not want to. He then said he will wait for me to come home. Over at the stadium, I then received a message from him saying he likes me very much and wants me to be his girlfriend. Again, I hold on to my pride a I have very high pride and I told him no unless he broke up with his girlfriend. I guess things started changing from that day. When I got back home, I saw a note from him saying that he will not be waiting up for me and that he had went to bed early.
The next day after national day, I then realised that I really cannot donÂ’t have him and messaged him to be my boyfriend. But this time, he told me he does not want to bluff me anymore and told me that he still loves his girlfriend a lot and just asked me to be his best friend. As I was quite sad, I accepted. The next day, I smsed him again and this time he agreed to be my boyfriend on the condition that if one day I was to break up with him, we would still remain as friends. I agreed to that condition.
Things were back to normal and he went all out to make me happy. And I was really very happy and contended during that period that we were back together. But like what others always say, good times never last and things changed again. His girlfriend initiated a breakup with him. He then broke that news to me saying that he does not know if to me, itÂ’s a good thing or a bad thing. When he said that, I knew now for sure my relationship with him would also soon be over. This was on a Tuesday.
By Saturday time, he was really moody and he kept crying. When I saw him like that, my heart ached for him and I decided to contact his girlfriend for him. And got him to talk to his girlfriend. They did not patched up. But on Sunday, he then told me he wants to cool it off and temporary does not want to be in a relationship. He then told me to wait for him. I agreed.
On thurs when all of them were off to work, I went into their room and took back the note that I had written for him and kept it. Upon discovering it missing, he then asked me about it. I bluff him and told him I threw it away. He then asked me why. I said itÂ’s no longer important. He then proceed on to say that although itÂ’s not impt to me, it is very impt to him. As my mum was in the living room at that time, we ended the conversation. When I told my friends about this, they told me it was just sweet talk only.
Unknown to me, he suddenly went back to Malaysia without informing me at all. Suddenly insecure and also angry, I just assumed that he went back to find that girl. And so, I smsed him saying I will no longer be waiting for him anymore. After sending that message I wanted to retrieve it back but could not longer.
Things started to change for the worse from that day onwards. When he came back from Malaysia on Monday, he moved back into his room to sleep, and ignored me, not even talking or looking at me. I was very hurt, very hurt.. but upon his good friend intervention (his good friend scolded him), he was back on talking terms with me, but still only a few words like hi Â… byeÂ…
anyway, this went on for the whole week and again on thurseday he went over to his good friendÂ’s house to stay. On Friday, I then realised that his girlfriend had came over to Singapore looking for him to patch things up with him. She called me many times and at last, out of frustration, I gave her his good friendÂ’s hp number. And from there, she asked him out and on that day itself, they patched up.
Things turned again after they patched up. And I only understand why when his good friend explained to me. It was that he did not want to patch up with that girl already, and that is why he went over to his good friendÂ’s house to stay not wanting her to find him. And also that week he went back to Malaysia is because of some family crisis and not because of her. When I heard that, I had many regrets over the things that I had done and said to him. But his good friend told me that she would help me in many ways she canÂ… but things would still be different as they patched back on conditions one.. and one of the condition is that he must not talk to me nor his good friend.
Our friendship then went on like that.. on just a hiÂ… bye basis. Until just recently, his girlfriend found out about mine and his relationship. As previously I had promised him I would not tell his girlfriend about this, and so, I had not. But when they had a quarrel, she brought this into their quarrel and told him that I had told her when I had not. I found out about this from his good friend. And when I confronted him with this, I told him I promised you and so I did not say.. want to believe or not is up to you.. and he replied me.. I am not angry la. DonÂ’t talk so much ok. From that reply, I knew that he had not belived me. I was very angry.
His friend then told me it does not matter who say one. Now what is important is that he is only waiting for November and that if his girlfriend carry on being so suspiscious of him, he would break it off with her. His friends advised me not to care so much about their relationship and let them work it out on their own. His friends said that if they were to break up, his girlfriend would think that he had patch up with me, and that it was all not her fault. From this I knew, I knew that even if they were to break up he would not return to my sideÂ…
From that day onwards, he was back on ignoring me. I was bewildered. My friends told me that from right from the start, he was just playing around with meÂ… never serious. They told me it could be that he sensed that I like him, and so had pursuit me.. what do you all think? Can love really vanish just like that? I had just broke up with him for 2 months and it was not my wish.. can he just donÂ’t care for me, donÂ’t even care about our friendship, forget on what he made me promise him when we patch up together? What do you all think? I want to chase him back but my friends advise me against doing so, as it is obvious he does not like me nowÂ… what do you think? Can someone give me some advise?
Firstly, these Malaysians come over to rent a place from you.. In a mth and you are attached to him.. Don you think is rather a fast step? Are you sure in the first place that you like him alot or is it because of his looks or something external charmed you?? You are taking a step way too fast...
Next, you mentioned that you found out that he has a gf that is in malaysia.. And they are attached for 3 years? is it not clear enough that he is trying to bluff you or rather play with your feelings?? ask yourself this.. IF you have a bf whom you have been together for 3 years.. and you go overseas to work.. A guy find you attractive.. He chases you.. He finds out that you have a bf back home... You tell him that you wanna break off with him.. knowing very very well that you love him still.. what happens after that?? (Its the exact senerio except that he is doing that to you now.. )
When I read the part on you standing firm that you did not wanna go back to him because of your pride.. I was abt to say.. you did a good job.. But i immediatly change my mind when i read on.. No matter what, you should not have given in so fast.. And you should stick to your mindset that if he really loves you and not his gf.. THan both of them should be seperated.. And he would rather give 100% of his heart to you.. Instead of giving you the excuse that he will break up with her etc...
Both of you are just like a comedy.. One day.. he beg you to go back to him.. and the next you beg to him to go back to you.. WASSSSUUUPPPP with both of you manz???
I believe that he is still with her now?? What i suggest you to do is to keep way out.. and i mean away from him and her.. If he or she contacts you to ask abt the other party's where abt, either don pick up the phone or if you wanna pick up the phone.. Just say you dunno..
This problem is not 100% is fault or yours.. Both of you have a role in making this r/s both successful and a failure... And it turn out the latter.. Learn from mistakes.. Its so obvious that he has been lying to you since day 1 that he is with you.. Wake up girl.. Don't fall into his lies any more..
Looks like there is no way you 2 could be back together.. Even if yes, things will not be the same.. As when a mirror is cracked, no matter what, the hair line crack will still be there..
Cheer up.. There are other nicer guys out there.
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That guy is a sleazebag. Dump him.
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That guy is a sleazebag. Dump him.
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you should know you don't want a guy who've betrayed you. what if he goes back to malaysia and hooks up another girl in the future?
you are just trying to find someone who can give you the green light and support you to get him back.
but deep down, it doesn't make any sense to you. think about the questions you asked yourself. you worrying this and that. so, what for? -
forget him la... go for locals...
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Dear wan2bet,Originally posted by wan2bet:Can anyone help me? I have a problem and that is I just want to forget..as well as to see what is the opinions of others. I really do. Because of this problem, I cant concentrate on my studies and in the end, I din even study for my exams! Now I can only hope to pass. Anyway, here is what happen.
Recently, in June 2004 my mum rented out a room to 3 Malaysians - 2 males who are cousins and the third is the older cousin's mum. I am currently 18 and they are 19 and 21 respectively.
After a month or so after they moved in, I hit it quite well with the younger Malaysian guy the one who's 19. Soon, we were going out together. Nevertheless, I soon fell for him. I have also no idea why I liked him. At that time, since I did not know him so well, I did not tell him. Pretty soon, he was asking me to accompany him to buy handphone and he waited for me for over an hour to finish my work. A week later, he asked me to be his girlfriend. I had my reservations about it though I like him very much and told him no. But he persisted and on the 3rd day I accepted. I was very happy as he was very good towards me.
But one day, my world came crashing down when about 8 days after we were together, I saw a message for him that was from his hometown. I then found out that he had a girlfriend back home already. And that, they had been together for close to 3 years already! But he lied to me that He did not have a girlfriend from the start when he moved in. Anyway, as I was very angry I confronted him. He then said that it was nothing one. He is not very happy in that relationship, and that he no longer had any feelings for her. He asked me to give him some time when I demanded that sicne he did not have any feelings for her to break it off but he did not want to. My friends then told me to break it off with him.
But I did not. We went on like this for quite some timeÂ… quite happily and told me not to think so much about the Malaysia side as he really has no feelings for her and that he will no longer be going back there already. But, my pride got in my way again and This matter had then been weighing a lot on my mind and I broke up with him on the day when we went out happily to take a photo. I then told him I did not want to talk to him but he begged me to still remain as his friend. At last, I agreed. This was one day before national day.
On national day, I have tickets to the parade and I had also promised my friend to go. He begged me to remain with him at home as he will be alone at home but since I promised my friend, I did not want to. He then said he will wait for me to come home. Over at the stadium, I then received a message from him saying he likes me very much and wants me to be his girlfriend. Again, I hold on to my pride a I have very high pride and I told him no unless he broke up with his girlfriend. I guess things started changing from that day. When I got back home, I saw a note from him saying that he will not be waiting up for me and that he had went to bed early.
The next day after national day, I then realised that I really cannot donÂ’t have him and messaged him to be my boyfriend. But this time, he told me he does not want to bluff me anymore and told me that he still loves his girlfriend a lot and just asked me to be his best friend. As I was quite sad, I accepted. The next day, I smsed him again and this time he agreed to be my boyfriend on the condition that if one day I was to break up with him, we would still remain as friends. I agreed to that condition.
Things were back to normal and he went all out to make me happy. And I was really very happy and contended during that period that we were back together. But like what others always say, good times never last and things changed again. His girlfriend initiated a breakup with him. He then broke that news to me saying that he does not know if to me, itÂ’s a good thing or a bad thing. When he said that, I knew now for sure my relationship with him would also soon be over. This was on a Tuesday.
By Saturday time, he was really moody and he kept crying. When I saw him like that, my heart ached for him and I decided to contact his girlfriend for him. And got him to talk to his girlfriend. They did not patched up. But on Sunday, he then told me he wants to cool it off and temporary does not want to be in a relationship. He then told me to wait for him. I agreed.
On thurs when all of them were off to work, I went into their room and took back the note that I had written for him and kept it. Upon discovering it missing, he then asked me about it. I bluff him and told him I threw it away. He then asked me why. I said itÂ’s no longer important. He then proceed on to say that although itÂ’s not impt to me, it is very impt to him. As my mum was in the living room at that time, we ended the conversation. When I told my friends about this, they told me it was just sweet talk only.
Unknown to me, he suddenly went back to Malaysia without informing me at all. Suddenly insecure and also angry, I just assumed that he went back to find that girl. And so, I smsed him saying I will no longer be waiting for him anymore. After sending that message I wanted to retrieve it back but could not longer.
Things started to change for the worse from that day onwards. When he came back from Malaysia on Monday, he moved back into his room to sleep, and ignored me, not even talking or looking at me. I was very hurt, very hurt.. but upon his good friend intervention (his good friend scolded him), he was back on talking terms with me, but still only a few words like hi Â… byeÂ…
anyway, this went on for the whole week and again on thurseday he went over to his good friendÂ’s house to stay. On Friday, I then realised that his girlfriend had came over to Singapore looking for him to patch things up with him. She called me many times and at last, out of frustration, I gave her his good friendÂ’s hp number. And from there, she asked him out and on that day itself, they patched up.
Things turned again after they patched up. And I only understand why when his good friend explained to me. It was that he did not want to patch up with that girl already, and that is why he went over to his good friendÂ’s house to stay not wanting her to find him. And also that week he went back to Malaysia is because of some family crisis and not because of her. When I heard that, I had many regrets over the things that I had done and said to him. But his good friend told me that she would help me in many ways she canÂ… but things would still be different as they patched back on conditions one.. and one of the condition is that he must not talk to me nor his good friend.
Our friendship then went on like that.. on just a hiÂ… bye basis. Until just recently, his girlfriend found out about mine and his relationship. As previously I had promised him I would not tell his girlfriend about this, and so, I had not. But when they had a quarrel, she brought this into their quarrel and told him that I had told her when I had not. I found out about this from his good friend. And when I confronted him with this, I told him I promised you and so I did not say.. want to believe or not is up to you.. and he replied me.. I am not angry la. DonÂ’t talk so much ok. From that reply, I knew that he had not belived me. I was very angry.
His friend then told me it does not matter who say one. Now what is important is that he is only waiting for November and that if his girlfriend carry on being so suspiscious of him, he would break it off with her. His friends advised me not to care so much about their relationship and let them work it out on their own. His friends said that if they were to break up, his girlfriend would think that he had patch up with me, and that it was all not her fault. From this I knew, I knew that even if they were to break up he would not return to my sideÂ…
From that day onwards, he was back on ignoring me. I was bewildered. My friends told me that from right from the start, he was just playing around with meÂ… never serious. They told me it could be that he sensed that I like him, and so had pursuit me.. what do you all think? Can love really vanish just like that? I had just broke up with him for 2 months and it was not my wish.. can he just donÂ’t care for me, donÂ’t even care about our friendship, forget on what he made me promise him when we patch up together? What do you all think? I want to chase him back but my friends advise me against doing so, as it is obvious he does not like me nowÂ… what do you think? Can someone give me some advise?
You nick seems like you are betting with your friends whether who's wrong or right about chasing him back.. whether he's geniune or not.. But then again.. this is no playing matter.. Yes, love is blind.. Anyone can do anything jus for the sake of love..
Well.. in certain ways i do agreed with what your friends told you.. From the way how you post.. very obvious that this guy doesn't really love you at all.. Both hit well from the start.. He lied to you that he had no gf is becos he wants to have the best of both world.. one over in sg.. one over in m'sia.. Have you ever wondered that all the while he take you as a substitute to fulfil he needs from a gf???
Being cold towards you maybe he got his own reasons.. like the gf has forbid him to talk to you.. that's nothing you can do much... but about the matter on your r/s with him found out by his gf.. he should have trust you.. he should know what kind of person you are.. But he choose not to.. Promise?? never promise anything if you ain't able to do it.. then what's the point of promising an empty promise??
You wanna chase him back for?? Reason?? For love?? But where's the love?? arent't you afraid that one day if he ever go back to m'sia.. he wont find another girl..?? Telling the other girl that he doesn't have any gf.. Do you really wan that to happen AGAIN?? Think about you r/s with him.. Should you stick with as friends better.. or rather a r/s that i know it wont last long.. jus becos at this point of time.. you fallen for him.. and wan him back..
I have encounter and experience this before.. this is very hurtful and pain in the heart.. I found out that he did has a gf.. then after.. we all 4 confronted to each other.. and the so-called "original" gf.. undrestands the whole situation that it wasn't our fault.. is the guy.. cos we know nothing about his 1st gf and him.. In the end.. of cos everyone cried.. this and that.. the guy apologised.. but never again.. i believe what he says.. never i wan him back too.. He cannot promise.. i cannot promise that such things wont happen again.. Time heals.. Slowly i lost contact with him.. but then i regard him as jus a friend.. no more feelings.. deleted his contact from my hp.. din talked to him for years...
I believe in myself.. that i don't deserve a guy like this.. and he don't deserve to him me too.. I know i will find my true love one day.. is jus a matter of when.. And yes! i found.. mine! Now happily together with my present one.. for 3 years now.. and still going sttrong.. Well.. girl.. i know you can too... Let go of him.. give yourself a chance to other people.. open your heart.. i know it hurts.. But this is where you'll learn.. and pick up yourself from falling.. if you insist on goin with him.. i believe you fall even more pain when the time comes.. Why not settle it once and for all..
At least still can be friends.. even though is jus a hi-bye one.. Let him know that he make the wrong choice.. and that you can still live without him.. -
Dear SunRise, thanks for your response.. I have been using this nick for many years and hence I did not want to change it.
Actually that is what his uncle told me too. He said that Ming only wants to have the best of two worlds, but when it comes down to a choice, he will pick his malaysian gf. But Ming told me that he lied to me cuz' he was interested in me from the start.. and he knows that I will not take notice of him if I know he has a gf. To tell the truth, I have always wodnered about that as soon as I found out that he had a gf. But somehow or rather, I did not want to admit that to myself.
When I promise someone anything, I always keep it. As in this case, it is also the same.. I promised him before I will not tell his gf, and Hence I did not do so. I did not know who did so. But somehow, his gf told him that I was the one. I don't know why also. Perhapes for revenge against me? I am not sure. But it is very hurtful esp. when I regard both of them as my friends.
I am afraid of that. But I don't know what to think. I am just very confused right now. I can't concentrate on my work, neither on my studies. I don't know what I want either. It's really very hurting when he did not trust me, thinking that I am a worse person.. and that cuz' of this, he did not want to be friends with me again. One of my friend told me to chase him back AFTER he broke up with his gf.. i also duno
Anyway, thanks for your advise. I will try. Right now, I have already tried to stop smsing him and stop talking to him. And I was successful for 4 days. Hopefully I can do it. Right now, I still cant decide if he was playing with me or if he truely wants to have a fall back relationship jsut in case his gf wants to break off with him.
Right now I am just convincing my mum to move. If my mum really decides to move, then I will have no more contact with him. and i think that will be the best way. Thanks for your advise sunrise. I will try to forget him and just immerse myself into my work. ciaos -
Wan2bet... You sounds like someone who cannot handle a complicated situation... And complicated the whole thing is... I would advise you to let the whole thing go as you probably won't be able to handle it well...
If he's true of sincerity and it's meant to be, things won't end from there... But another piece of advice for you.. If any further options come in even after you try to end it... Beware of 'unfinished' business... Meaning perhaps not a clean cut between him and his gf, his emotion stir ups or even his true intention... Yup... The situation can be complicated as it is... Simply because it has never started simple in the 1st place...? -
err. devil... can you elaborate further? I don't really understand what you mean?Originally posted by Devil1976:If he's true of sincerity and it's meant to be, things won't end from there... But another piece of advice for you.. If any further options come in even after you try to end it... Beware of 'unfinished' business... Meaning perhaps not a clean cut between him and his gf, his emotion stir ups or even his true intention... Yup... The situation can be complicated as it is... Simply because it has never started simple in the 1st place...? -
Sometimes a better way to love is to leave the person. Your situation justify this course of action. There is no point holding on to something that you already knew right from the start that there will nv be a happy ending. Grow out from it and in turn you will be more mature next time round in handling relationships.
Cheers -
What he means is that things may not end even when you think that things have "ended" between you 2.. You may think that he and his gf have a "clean cut" break.. But it may turn out other wise..Originally posted by wan2bet:err. devil... can you elaborate further? I don't really understand what you mean? -
sighs.. i see. .Originally posted by Kennerve:What he means is that things may not end even when you think that things have "ended" between you 2.. You may think that he and his gf have a "clean cut" break.. But it may turn out other wise..
so it's really true that he just wanted to play around and perhapes even take me as his gf's subsitute while he's in singapore...
so.. i will just go and forget him... guess that will be the best course of action..
thanks to those who replied, btw! =) -
~good luck?Originally posted by wan2bet:sighs.. i see. .
so it's really true that he just wanted to play around and perhapes even take me as his gf's subsitute while he's in singapore...
so.. i will just go and forget him... guess that will be the best course of action..
thanks to those who replied, btw! =)