I gave her pressure

• december

  15 Oct 04, 18:52

  I asked for a patchup from my ex.
  She said my constant persuasion has given her alot of pressure
  She claimed that the feeling after patchup will never be the same.
  Why is that so which i dun understand ?
  She said she doesnt have confidence in trying a r/s with me again.
  What should i do ?
• An Eternal Now

  15 Oct 04, 18:58

  pee in her butt
• red_tide24

  15 Oct 04, 19:00

  move on....
• Sagara

  15 Oct 04, 19:04

  move on... she already meant u bugging her..
  
  sry if i was too direct
• 101wish

  15 Oct 04, 19:04

  if ur ex doesn't wan to patch up, i tink nothg u can do abt it..come on, surely there r other gals out there for u
• JiAnReN

  15 Oct 04, 19:09

  since she already said that... then i think you should leave.... cos if a ger can say that they really mean it... But if you really love her then no matter wat we say also no use... i know it's painful to let someone you love to go... but somethings things are just not right... ask yourself this question... is this girl the girl you want to be forever... once you got your answer... you will know wat to do... Anyway all the best to you.... Even you can't get her... one day the "one" you love will come out.... dun rush...
• C-100

  15 Oct 04, 19:14

  Originally posted by december:

  I asked for a patchup from my ex.
  She said my constant persuasion has given her alot of pressure
  She claimed that the feeling after patchup will never be the same.
  Why is that so which i dun understand ?
  She said she doesnt have confidence in trying a r/s with me again.
  What should i do ?

  Ask urself, wat have u done to leave her in e 1st place?
• Kennerve

  15 Oct 04, 19:17

  Originally posted by december:

  I asked for a patchup from my ex.
  She said my constant persuasion has given her alot of pressure
  She claimed that the feeling after patchup will never be the same.
  Why is that so which i dun understand ?
  She said she doesnt have confidence in trying a r/s with me again.
  What should i do ?

  How often have you persuaded her to go back to you? Does she show any signs that she likes or wants you to go back to her? What causes the breakup back than?? Will she be afraid that you will do all these back to her?? These are some questions that maybe running through her head..
  
  A patch up in most cases, will never be the same.. "A crack in the mirror.. No matter how much you do to it to cover the crack, the crack will still be there.." From what u mention in ur post.. Its pressure and she did not 100% reject you.. You can choose to:
  
  1) Stop pressuring her and let nature takes it course... if fate brings u 2 back, you will be back.. or;
  2) Give up on her and get on with life.. And don repeat the same things with ur next gf..
  
  Good Luck
• december

  15 Oct 04, 19:42

  Originally posted by Kennerve:

  How often have you persuaded her to go back to you? Does she show any signs that she likes or wants you to go back to her? What causes the breakup back than?? Will she be afraid that you will do all these back to her?? These are some questions that maybe running through her head..
  
  A patch up in most cases, will never be the same.. "A crack in the mirror.. No matter how much you do to it to cover the crack, the crack will still be there.." From what u mention in ur post.. Its pressure and she did not 100% reject you.. You can choose to:
  
  1) Stop pressuring her and let nature takes it course... if fate brings u 2 back, you will be back.. or;
  2) Give up on her and get on with life.. And don repeat the same things with ur next gf..
  
  Good Luck

  I think the main problem is she scare the feeling will never be the same again. I know my mistakes and i know what i should do. I neglected her alot becos of my army obligation. But now i have ORD i am ready to commit. But she just say the feeling will never be the same again even if we get together. Anyway she is a very insecured ger.
  I believe that when she says she is facing alot of pressure.
  Could it be she want to patch back but she having mixed feeling cos she scare we will not be be the same again. She has no confidence
• Xcert

  15 Oct 04, 19:52

  Originally posted by december:

  I asked for a patchup from my ex.
  She said my constant persuasion has given her alot of pressure
  She claimed that the feeling after patchup will never be the same.
  Why is that so which i dun understand ?
  She said she doesnt have confidence in trying a r/s with me again.
  What should i do ?

  she made it clear that she is not interested in patching.
  Stay away from her and move on.
• Devil1976

  16 Oct 04, 10:15

  Originally posted by december:

  I asked for a patchup from my ex.
  She said my constant persuasion has given her alot of pressure
  She claimed that the feeling after patchup will never be the same.
  Why is that so which i dun understand ?
  She said she doesnt have confidence in trying a r/s with me again.
  What should i do ?

  Hmm... Is this the same girl you're talking about... Or is it a different one...? http://www.sgforums.com/?action=thread_display&thread_id=96554
• BrUtUs

  16 Oct 04, 10:18

  Originally posted by december:

  I asked for a patchup from my ex.
  She said my constant persuasion has given her alot of pressure
  She claimed that the feeling after patchup will never be the same.
  Why is that so which i dun understand ?
  She said she doesnt have confidence in trying a r/s with me again.
  What should i do ?

  yes its weird, jz wait n STOP pressuring her or else its reali the end... hv patience...
• the.raven

  16 Oct 04, 10:32

  Originally posted by An Eternal Now:

  pee in her butt

  IQ of genius : 180
  IQ of average person: 110
  IQ of stupid person: less than 100
  IQ of An Eternal Now: 5
• pie

  16 Oct 04, 10:38

  Originally posted by the.raven:

  IQ of genius : 180
  IQ of average person: 110
  IQ of stupid person: less than 100
  IQ of An Eternal Now: 5

  
• december

  16 Oct 04, 12:23

  Originally posted by BrUtUs:

  yes its weird, jz wait n STOP pressuring her or else its reali the end... hv patience...

  ya.. its weird as in ?
  
• december

  16 Oct 04, 12:27

  When she said she doesnt have any confidence
  She means she doesnt have any confidence that when we together, that type of feeling will go away. After so many bad experience in relationship, she didnt want to try. She has no confidence to try. When i tried telling her that i will make the efforts and i have the confidence that that so called feeling will go away and we will be happy in the end. She got so pressured by the things that i said she cried and insisted on me not to mention any patchup then. She cannot handle my constant persuasion.
  
  
• december

  16 Oct 04, 12:36

  Originally posted by Devil1976:

  Hmm... Is this the same girl you're talking about... Or is it a different one...? http://www.sgforums.com/?action=thread_display&thread_id=96554

  ya
• Kennerve

  16 Oct 04, 20:38

  Originally posted by december:

  I think the main problem is she scare the feeling will never be the same again. I know my mistakes and i know what i should do. I neglected her alot becos of my army obligation. But now i have ORD i am ready to commit. But she just say the feeling will never be the same again even if we get together. Anyway she is a very insecured ger.
  I believe that when she says she is facing alot of pressure.
  Could it be she want to patch back but she having mixed feeling cos she scare we will not be be the same again. She has no confidence

  You may feel that you are ready to commit into another r/s.. You have realised your mistakes etc.. But question is.. Is she ready.. You mentioned that she has mixed feelings and that she cannot decide whats best for her.. Is neglection the main cause of the break up or is it also due to other factors which leads up to it?
  
  Relieve her of her pressure for the time being.. See how she is towards you.. If somehow, along the way, she has the feelings back for you.. I believe.. Both of you will be back together.. Relieve her pressure not till the extend of not talking or smsing her.. There are many things to talk abt other than relationship.. Let her feel comfortable back with you first..
• usck

  16 Oct 04, 20:48

  Originally posted by december:

  I asked for a patchup from my ex.
  She said my constant persuasion has given her alot of pressure
  She claimed that the feeling after patchup will never be the same.
  Why is that so which i dun understand ?
  She said she doesnt have confidence in trying a r/s with me again.
  What should i do ?

  pressure = F/A
  where F is in newton
  A is in m^2
  
  or in bar where u need to Xbar * 10^5
  and u get N/m^2
  
  thank u
• ahkico

  16 Oct 04, 20:49

  Originally posted by december:

  I asked for a patchup from my ex.
  She said my constant persuasion has given her alot of pressure
  She claimed that the feeling after patchup will never be the same.
  Why is that so which i dun understand ?
  She said she doesnt have confidence in trying a r/s with me again.
  What should i do ?

  Mayb u should give each other more time n space before decidin to be back tog again? Absence makes the heart grow fonder... Who knows, mayb the time apart makes u realise tat u both were made for each other... luck!
  
• RETARDED_MORON

  30 Dec 04, 18:22

  Originally posted by december:

  I asked for a patchup from my ex.
  She said my constant persuasion has given her alot of pressure
  She claimed that the feeling after patchup will never be the same.
  Why is that so which i dun understand ?
  She said she doesnt have confidence in trying a r/s with me again.
  What should i do ?

  Do not believe her when she says things will never be the same.
  
  What does she know?
  
  She does not know anything.
  
  She just does not want to reaccept you for some reason.
  
  And I am sure this reason is related to why you guys broke up.
  
  Go sort out your personal issues.
• Burgerking

  30 Dec 04, 18:53

  Go after her best friend.
• Canavaro

  30 Dec 04, 19:09

  People just don't understand, when is time to leave, means you have to leave.
  
  So simple.
  
  
• UHU

  30 Dec 04, 21:35

  Originally posted by december:

  I asked for a patchup from my ex.
  She said my constant persuasion has given her alot of pressure
  She claimed that the feeling after patchup will never be the same.
  Why is that so which i dun understand ?
  She said she doesnt have confidence in trying a r/s with me again.
  What should i do ?

  Did u make the effort to understand in the first place why she will feel this way? Think about what you have done in the past that causes to r/s to break. Solve the problems within yourself before you start to drag someone else with you.
  
  

  Originally posted by december:

  I think the main problem is she scare the feeling will never be the same again. I know my mistakes and i know what i should do. I neglected her alot becos of my army obligation. But now i have ORD i am ready to commit. But she just say the feeling will never be the same again even if we get together. Anyway she is a very insecured ger.
  I believe that when she says she is facing alot of pressure.
  Could it be she want to patch back but she having mixed feeling cos she scare we will not be be the same again. She has no confidence

  You think that the problem is she scare the feeling will never be the same again? Did you confirm this with her? I hope that you are not puting what you thinking she is meaning into her mind.
  
  You say that you have army obligations and so you neglected her, but now you are out of army you are ready to commit. Are you sure? Won't you have other commitments later in life? Job, studies? If so will you neglect her again?
  
  As you said she is insercure, then you should know what is the thing she scares the most. The inability for you to commit in the past definitely has made her not wanting to get into a r/s with you again.
  
  You say you can commit. Don't just say, do it and show it to her. You said she is insercure, so you need to prove it by action. But you said she is pressured by you. So just show her what you can do for her without persuading her to get back into a r/s with you again. Only ask her that when you think she is feeling more comfortable with you in the future.
  
  You said you know your mistake, but from your reply, it seems that you have projected all your mistakes to other things beside yourself. The army, and your ex. Do pay attention to this.
  
  

  Originally posted by december:

  When she said she doesnt have any confidence
  She means she doesnt have any confidence that when we together, that type of feeling will go away. After so many bad experience in relationship, she didnt want to try. She has no confidence to try. When i tried telling her that i will make the efforts and i have the confidence that that so called feeling will go away and we will be happy in the end. She got so pressured by the things that i said she cried and insisted on me not to mention any patchup then. She cannot handle my constant persuasion.

  If she doesn't have any confidence in a r/s with you, you will want to make her have the confidence. So show it! Don't just talk... You having the confidence alone is of no point. She needs to have the confidence in it too and the source must come from you. Just show her what you can do for her and build the confidence in her. Do not mention about patchup at all.
  
  However, if you think that all these are too much for you, you still have the second option... respect her decision and give up.
  
• junk

  3 Jan 05, 19:20

  Let the time do all the things