Ask urself, wat have u done to leave her in e 1st place?Originally posted by december:I asked for a patchup from my ex.
She said my constant persuasion has given her alot of pressure
She claimed that the feeling after patchup will never be the same.
Why is that so which i dun understand ?
She said she doesnt have confidence in trying a r/s with me again.
What should i do ?
How often have you persuaded her to go back to you? Does she show any signs that she likes or wants you to go back to her? What causes the breakup back than?? Will she be afraid that you will do all these back to her?? These are some questions that maybe running through her head..Originally posted by december:I asked for a patchup from my ex.
She said my constant persuasion has given her alot of pressure
She claimed that the feeling after patchup will never be the same.
Why is that so which i dun understand ?
She said she doesnt have confidence in trying a r/s with me again.
What should i do ?
I think the main problem is she scare the feeling will never be the same again. I know my mistakes and i know what i should do. I neglected her alot becos of my army obligation. But now i have ORD i am ready to commit. But she just say the feeling will never be the same again even if we get together. Anyway she is a very insecured ger.Originally posted by Kennerve:How often have you persuaded her to go back to you? Does she show any signs that she likes or wants you to go back to her? What causes the breakup back than?? Will she be afraid that you will do all these back to her?? These are some questions that maybe running through her head..
A patch up in most cases, will never be the same.. "A crack in the mirror.. No matter how much you do to it to cover the crack, the crack will still be there.." From what u mention in ur post.. Its pressure and she did not 100% reject you.. You can choose to:
1) Stop pressuring her and let nature takes it course... if fate brings u 2 back, you will be back.. or;
2) Give up on her and get on with life.. And don repeat the same things with ur next gf..
Good Luck![]()
she made it clear that she is not interested in patching.Originally posted by december:I asked for a patchup from my ex.
She said my constant persuasion has given her alot of pressure
She claimed that the feeling after patchup will never be the same.
Why is that so which i dun understand ?
She said she doesnt have confidence in trying a r/s with me again.
What should i do ?
Hmm... Is this the same girl you're talking about... Or is it a different one...? http://www.sgforums.com/?action=thread_display&thread_id=96554Originally posted by december:I asked for a patchup from my ex.
She said my constant persuasion has given her alot of pressure
She claimed that the feeling after patchup will never be the same.
Why is that so which i dun understand ?
She said she doesnt have confidence in trying a r/s with me again.
What should i do ?
yes its weird, jz wait n STOP pressuring her or else its reali the end... hv patience...Originally posted by december:I asked for a patchup from my ex.
She said my constant persuasion has given her alot of pressure
She claimed that the feeling after patchup will never be the same.
Why is that so which i dun understand ?
She said she doesnt have confidence in trying a r/s with me again.
What should i do ?
IQ of genius : 180Originally posted by An Eternal Now:pee in her butt
Originally posted by the.raven:IQ of genius : 180
IQ of average person: 110
IQ of stupid person: less than 100
IQ of An Eternal Now: 5
ya.. its weird as in ?Originally posted by BrUtUs:yes its weird, jz wait n STOP pressuring her or else its reali the end... hv patience...
yaOriginally posted by Devil1976:Hmm... Is this the same girl you're talking about... Or is it a different one...? http://www.sgforums.com/?action=thread_display&thread_id=96554![]()
You may feel that you are ready to commit into another r/s.. You have realised your mistakes etc.. But question is.. Is she ready.. You mentioned that she has mixed feelings and that she cannot decide whats best for her.. Is neglection the main cause of the break up or is it also due to other factors which leads up to it?Originally posted by december:I think the main problem is she scare the feeling will never be the same again. I know my mistakes and i know what i should do. I neglected her alot becos of my army obligation. But now i have ORD i am ready to commit. But she just say the feeling will never be the same again even if we get together. Anyway she is a very insecured ger.
I believe that when she says she is facing alot of pressure.
Could it be she want to patch back but she having mixed feeling cos she scare we will not be be the same again. She has no confidence
pressure = F/AOriginally posted by december:I asked for a patchup from my ex.
She said my constant persuasion has given her alot of pressure
She claimed that the feeling after patchup will never be the same.
Why is that so which i dun understand ?
She said she doesnt have confidence in trying a r/s with me again.
What should i do ?
Mayb u should give each other more time n space before decidin to be back tog again? Absence makes the heart grow fonder... Who knows, mayb the time apart makes u realise tat u both were made for each other... luck!Originally posted by december:I asked for a patchup from my ex.
She said my constant persuasion has given her alot of pressure
She claimed that the feeling after patchup will never be the same.
Why is that so which i dun understand ?
She said she doesnt have confidence in trying a r/s with me again.
What should i do ?
Do not believe her when she says things will never be the same.Originally posted by december:I asked for a patchup from my ex.
She said my constant persuasion has given her alot of pressure
She claimed that the feeling after patchup will never be the same.
Why is that so which i dun understand ?
She said she doesnt have confidence in trying a r/s with me again.
What should i do ?
Did u make the effort to understand in the first place why she will feel this way? Think about what you have done in the past that causes to r/s to break. Solve the problems within yourself before you start to drag someone else with you.Originally posted by december:I asked for a patchup from my ex.
She said my constant persuasion has given her alot of pressure
She claimed that the feeling after patchup will never be the same.
Why is that so which i dun understand ?
She said she doesnt have confidence in trying a r/s with me again.
What should i do ?
You think that the problem is she scare the feeling will never be the same again? Did you confirm this with her? I hope that you are not puting what you thinking she is meaning into her mind.Originally posted by december:I think the main problem is she scare the feeling will never be the same again. I know my mistakes and i know what i should do. I neglected her alot becos of my army obligation. But now i have ORD i am ready to commit. But she just say the feeling will never be the same again even if we get together. Anyway she is a very insecured ger.
I believe that when she says she is facing alot of pressure.
Could it be she want to patch back but she having mixed feeling cos she scare we will not be be the same again. She has no confidence
If she doesn't have any confidence in a r/s with you, you will want to make her have the confidence. So show it! Don't just talk... You having the confidence alone is of no point. She needs to have the confidence in it too and the source must come from you. Just show her what you can do for her and build the confidence in her. Do not mention about patchup at all.Originally posted by december:When she said she doesnt have any confidence
She means she doesnt have any confidence that when we together, that type of feeling will go away. After so many bad experience in relationship, she didnt want to try. She has no confidence to try. When i tried telling her that i will make the efforts and i have the confidence that that so called feeling will go away and we will be happy in the end. She got so pressured by the things that i said she cried and insisted on me not to mention any patchup then. She cannot handle my constant persuasion.