Heart or Mind.
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Which would you follow in the search of a partner.
Example:
I really like her but there so much difficulties to overcome in order to be with her. And the worst part is that you are not sure if the feeling you have is mutual to her. No confession of love have been made yet cos the courting(friendship) is still at a very early stage.
The mind tells you 'Give it up its impossible or its not worth the effort cos there might not be a happy ending'.
The heart tells you 'If you don't try you never know or no matter how it turns up I still like her so does it matters if theres no happy ending. -
This depends on individual..Originally posted by pete98:Which would you follow in the search of a partner.
Example:
I really like her but there so much difficulties to overcome in order to be with her. And the worst part is that you are not sure if the feeling you have is mutual to her. No confession of love have been made yet cos the courting(friendship) is still at a very early stage.
The mind tells you 'Give it up its impossible or its not worth the effort cos there might not be a happy ending'.
The heart tells you 'If you don't try you never know or no matter how it turns up I still like her so does it matters if theres no happy ending.
But astrologically.. i heard from yunhaier.. that water sign people.. (Cancer, Pisces, Scorpio) They most probably go with their feelings.. which is the heart.. They will never think of the consequences that will happen in the future.. even if they know this wont last.. and they jus go with it..
Well.. even if that is the case.. Those times when you are together are happy.. but then it wont last.. at least you know that you wont regret..
Cheers..
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me a scorpio... and true enuff... me go with my feeling... not tat i dun think of the consequences tat will happen in future...just feel tat if nothing is done, nothing will happen... furthermore, nobody know wat will happen in future... good or bad, hard to say... do it... u may get rewarded... as the saying goes... no risk, no gain...Originally posted by SunRisE:This depends on individual..
But astrologically.. i heard from yunhaier.. that water sign people.. (Cancer, Pisces, Scorpio) They most probably go with their feelings.. which is the heart.. They will never think of the consequences that will happen in the future.. even if they know this wont last.. and they jus go with it..
Well.. even if that is the case.. Those times when you are together are happy.. but then it wont last.. at least you know that you wont regret..
Cheers.. -
One-sided track....Originally posted by pete98:Which would you follow in the search of a partner.
Example:
I really like her but there so much difficulties to overcome in order to be with her. And the worst part is that you are not sure if the feeling you have is mutual to her. No confession of love have been made yet cos the courting(friendship) is still at a very early stage.
The mind tells you 'Give it up its impossible or its not worth the effort cos there might not be a happy ending'.
The heart tells you 'If you don't try you never know or no matter how it turns up I still like her so does it matters if theres no happy ending.
Why not just let nature takes its course and see how it develops...? Else, you might like to try a mild approach...? -
i am a pisces...... but a ham ji one .... so going with feelings is one thing.. action is another >.<Originally posted by SunRisE:This depends on individual..
But astrologically.. i heard from yunhaier.. that water sign people.. (Cancer, Pisces, Scorpio) They most probably go with their feelings.. which is the heart.. They will never think of the consequences that will happen in the future.. even if they know this wont last.. and they jus go with it..
Well.. even if that is the case.. Those times when you are together are happy.. but then it wont last.. at least you know that you wont regret..
Cheers.. -
yea..I go with the feeling..even it hurts me..i a cancerian..
Sometimes i wish i not a cancerian..haha...
Pple who think much likely not to get hurt as much to pple who goes with their heart...true right.. -
What about Virgo and Aquarius?
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What do you mean mild approach?Originally posted by Devil1976:One-sided track....
Why not just let nature takes its course and see how it develops...? Else, you might like to try a mild approach...?
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:is another scorpio:
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Astrological thing i'm not too sure.. the master of astro not around leh.. hmm.. but i can help you ask..Originally posted by pete98:What about Virgo and Aquarius?
But anyway for this topic got nothing mcuh to do with astro.. i'm jus saying my point of view that's all.. hehehe.. -
Give yourself a timeframe to see whether u can get her to like u.
Be her friend first.
If after a while, she doesn't reciprocate, then u give up.
Tell yourself at least u tried. -
Something like the below...Originally posted by pete98:What do you mean mild approach? Originally posted by gerrykoh:Give yourself a timeframe to see whether u can get her to like u.
Be her friend first.
If after a while, she doesn't reciprocate, then u give up.
Tell yourself at least u tried. -
i follow my eyes....if she is attractive...damn i m hooked...
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tink both r impt, however, it's depends on URSELF, if u feel ur heart likes her then go for it, if ur mind tinks tat she's not the one, well, it's over..i suggest u make ur r/s wif her friendly...u wil get to know it sooner ort later
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here's what you get if you try:
- you will know what you did right/wrong, and you can apply it when you want to go into a r/s again.
- you will know what works on a girl or not.
- you will gain experience, and that will teach you to be smarter.
- with experience, you can ensure that you will woo a girl MUCH more easier; because now you know what they want.
here's what you get if you don't try:
- nothing.
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the choice is yours, buddy. -
A guy wouldn't launch his attacks on a lose-lose situation if he feels this way. Rejection maybe one of his worst fears. And many are "face" conscious.
I feel that you should work on communication and trust on a friend-friend basis. In my opinion, it is better to start off this way. The person maybe not be what she seems when you get to know her better. Happiness maybe short lived if expressing your feelings might frighten her away. But it boils down to how you want to perceive it.
I'm not really good in BGR stuff as I'm a rather High-Mach person.... Just hope it helps! GL -
Thanks for all the response. I decidedto carry on our friendship and see how it branches out from there.
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The heart doesn't play tricks, the mind does.
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Its hard to decide where to follow.Originally posted by pete98:Which would you follow in the search of a partner.
Example:
I really like her but there so much difficulties to overcome in order to be with her. And the worst part is that you are not sure if the feeling you have is mutual to her. No confession of love have been made yet cos the courting(friendship) is still at a very early stage.
The mind tells you 'Give it up its impossible or its not worth the effort cos there might not be a happy ending'.
The heart tells you 'If you don't try you never know or no matter how it turns up I still like her so does it matters if theres no happy ending.
I have experienced this b4. My heart tells me I like this person v much but responses from the girl tells my mind that she doesnt like me.
My heart tells me if i dun try i will nvr noe, my mind says u will be rejected and things will get worse.
I think it largely depends on the situation. There are times when i think i was getting closer to the girl and i stood a chance but in the end, it was a fluke. There are times when i was abt to give up, then her actions or hint somewat gave me a slight hope. I think this is wat we call "ming yun nong ren" (fate plays with us).
I suggest u can get closer with her or her buddies and see how she feels abt u. Then u can make a decision from there for urself. But do be sure that watever decision u make, u do not regret it. =)