I lied! Now i wanna turn back...
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It's so so dumb of me 2 be in such a problem...
Im a uni student, n a few years bek, i had a crush on this gal A. Everythin went on well until da discovery of her bf at her hometown. I was so broken, n as soon as she guessed my intention of being more than a fren, she started steppin away frm me. I stil liked her so much dat i lied dat i also hav a gf at my hometown. N we got bek 2getha as very very close fren.
Time passed by, n i got over her. N my life was fine n i enjoyed da lie dat i hav a gf. But recently, i juz started liking another gal B in my class. Wen i was tryin 2 know her, i found out dat almost every1 think dat i really hav a gf at hometown, thanks to gal A!...
Thoughout da time of my lies, it started as a simple lie, n grew big. I feel so useless 2 hav bcome a real dumb ass lier. My lies were markin my relationship wif imaginary gf as great couples. Not easy 4 me 2 end my lie wif another lie like i broke up or somethin, cause i cont my lie life 4 years... but its possible... (sorry God, punish me wen its apporiate)
Now, i feel like i juz screwed myself frm any chance of gettin a any gf.
(my background: im known as kinda high iq cause i do relax alot but very good at my studies. easily i got a lots of frens frm da famous side of campus. i didn't lie anythin else at all, i neva wanted 2 lie at all.... its juz dat i wanted 2 b wif some1 i really loved a bit longer... gal A, B n all their frens r kinda close 2 me... im known as low profile, quiet but as very good fren n very independent n stable guy)
i dunno wut help 2 ask frm u guys.... juz giv me any idea... or scold me... or wateva.. i feel so lonely n pissed 2 c every1 else so lovey dovey aroun me... i screwed myself... -
just lie n say u broke up...
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1.Confess that U lied(not going to be easy on the ego)Originally posted by dumbme:It's so so dumb of me 2 be in such a problem...
Im a uni student, n a few years bek, i had a crush on this gal A. Everythin went on well until da discovery of her bf at her hometown. I was so broken, n as soon as she guessed my intention of being more than a fren, she started steppin away frm me. I stil liked her so much dat i lied dat i also hav a gf at my hometown. N we got bek 2getha as very very close fren.
Time passed by, n i got over her. N my life was fine n i enjoyed da lie dat i hav a gf. But recently, i juz started liking another gal B in my class. Wen i was tryin 2 know her, i found out dat almost every1 think dat i really hav a gf at hometown, thanks to gal A!...
Thoughout da time of my lies, it started as a simple lie, n grew big. I feel so useless 2 hav bcome a real dumb ass lier. My lies were markin my relationship wif imaginary gf as great couples. Not easy 4 me 2 end my lie wif another lie like i broke up or somethin, cause i cont my lie life 4 years... but its possible... (sorry God, punish me wen its apporiate)
Now, i feel like i juz screwed myself frm any chance of gettin a any gf.
(my background: im known as kinda high iq cause i do relax alot but very good at my studies. easily i got a lots of frens frm da famous side of campus. i didn't lie anythin else at all, i neva wanted 2 lie at all.... its juz dat i wanted 2 b wif some1 i really loved a bit longer... gal A, B n all their frens r kinda close 2 me... im known as low profile, quiet but as very good fren n very independent n stable guy)
i dunno wut help 2 ask frm u guys.... juz giv me any idea... or scold me... or wateva.. i feel so lonely n pissed 2 c every1 else so lovey dovey aroun me... i screwed myself...
2.Continue to lie that U have broken up.(be prepared to back it up with more lies.This theory U are already familiar with.)
3.Think about it and see that U actually wanted B because U are lonely and people around U are lovy dovey.U dont actually love B. -
+1Originally posted by HENG@:just lie n say u broke up...
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choice 1, no, i cant, scared, ego......Originally posted by Xcert:1.Confess that U lied(not going to be easy on the ego)
2.Continue to lie that U have broken up.(be prepared to back it up with more lies.This theory U are already familiar with.)
3.Think about it and see that U actually wanted B because U are lonely and people around U are lovy dovey.U dont actually love B.
choice 2, the most suitable thing i can do, easiest way out
choice 3, thanx Xcert, i shuld think bout it....
im not sure all this new feelings if they r actually luv... its been too long since im in this deep shit...
come 2 think bout it... now i mite wanna do choice 2 1st, n lie more until i can escape myself from this crap i started.. n about gal B.... errr... God! help me! -
u just say 'gei wo yi ge ji hui, wo xiang zhuo ge hao ren'....always work one
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Dear dumbme,Originally posted by dumbme:It's so so dumb of me 2 be in such a problem...
Im a uni student, n a few years bek, i had a crush on this gal A. Everythin went on well until da discovery of her bf at her hometown. I was so broken, n as soon as she guessed my intention of being more than a fren, she started steppin away frm me. I stil liked her so much dat i lied dat i also hav a gf at my hometown. N we got bek 2getha as very very close fren.
Time passed by, n i got over her. N my life was fine n i enjoyed da lie dat i hav a gf. But recently, i juz started liking another gal B in my class. Wen i was tryin 2 know her, i found out dat almost every1 think dat i really hav a gf at hometown, thanks to gal A!...
Thoughout da time of my lies, it started as a simple lie, n grew big. I feel so useless 2 hav bcome a real dumb ass lier. My lies were markin my relationship wif imaginary gf as great couples. Not easy 4 me 2 end my lie wif another lie like i broke up or somethin, cause i cont my lie life 4 years... but its possible... (sorry God, punish me wen its apporiate)
Now, i feel like i juz screwed myself frm any chance of gettin a any gf.
(my background: im known as kinda high iq cause i do relax alot but very good at my studies. easily i got a lots of frens frm da famous side of campus. i didn't lie anythin else at all, i neva wanted 2 lie at all.... its juz dat i wanted 2 b wif some1 i really loved a bit longer... gal A, B n all their frens r kinda close 2 me... im known as low profile, quiet but as very good fren n very independent n stable guy)
i dunno wut help 2 ask frm u guys.... juz giv me any idea... or scold me... or wateva.. i feel so lonely n pissed 2 c every1 else so lovey dovey aroun me... i screwed myself...
Right now.. is not to debate.. whether you love gal b anot.. now is to solve your current situation.. Sometimes white lies are good.. but as it goes deeper its harder to get out of it.. and you jus have to stick your life with this lie.. Firstly you have to do.. is either you confessed to them that you never had a gf.. Yes.. ego and pride will go down.. but at least your conscience is clear.. you dun have to hide anything.. or worry anything any more..
Secondly.. jus carry on with your lie.. and said that you already broke up with your girl long time ago.. Like what others suggested! Guess youi jus have to live with it..
Thirdly.. you wan to be someone you love and be with her.. You see people so loving.. you feel so pissed jus be cos you got none!! Please make sure that when you say you like this girl.. make sure is really a liking.. and not someone who you find her a potential and feels that she can satisfied your loneliness... Someday somewhere you'll find your girl.. love this kind of thing cannot rush one.. When the time is ripe.. the girl will appear..
Whichever choice you chose.. you still have to move on.. Getting a gf.. is jus to show your friends.. that you have one too.. and you can also by telling them you can be so loving as the other couples too.. Your ego.. and self-esteem.. is so high up there.. is good.. cos of you believe in yourself.. and confident! but then when you fall hard.. its more diificult for you to pick up yourself again..
You can turn back.. but got to see how you wan to move..
Cheers..
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actually all love begins with nothing ... if you are ready for commitment, then i say go for it dude.. like su yong kang's song ~rang dong ni de ren ai ni~bei she bu de guo qu zhi wei liao ke xi ~ ai zhi yao you yi dian dian chong dong jui ke yi ~Originally posted by Xcert:1.Confess that U lied(not going to be easy on the ego)
2.Continue to lie that U have broken up.(be prepared to back it up with more lies.This theory U are already familiar with.)
3.Think about it and see that U actually wanted B because U are lonely and people around U are lovy dovey.U dont actually love B. -
a lie will lead to a even bigger lie, unless you confess.
high IQ get you no where in relationship by the way. -
Hi there,
If you are really true about someone, never lie to her.
Think about it, you would want her to treat you honestly too.
Don't let the ego thingy get you down, confess and admit that you lied.
Good luck, pal. -
DUMB A*SOriginally posted by dumbme:It's so so dumb of me 2 be in such a problem...
Im a uni student, n a few years bek, i had a crush on this gal A. Everythin went on well until da discovery of her bf at her hometown. I was so broken, n as soon as she guessed my intention of being more than a fren, she started steppin away frm me. I stil liked her so much dat i lied dat i also hav a gf at my hometown. N we got bek 2getha as very very close fren.
Time passed by, n i got over her. N my life was fine n i enjoyed da lie dat i hav a gf. But recently, i juz started liking another gal B in my class. Wen i was tryin 2 know her, i found out dat almost every1 think dat i really hav a gf at hometown, thanks to gal A!...
Thoughout da time of my lies, it started as a simple lie, n grew big. I feel so useless 2 hav bcome a real dumb ass lier. My lies were markin my relationship wif imaginary gf as great couples. Not easy 4 me 2 end my lie wif another lie like i broke up or somethin, cause i cont my lie life 4 years... but its possible... (sorry God, punish me wen its apporiate)
Now, i feel like i juz screwed myself frm any chance of gettin a any gf.
(my background: im known as kinda high iq cause i do relax alot but very good at my studies. easily i got a lots of frens frm da famous side of campus. i didn't lie anythin else at all, i neva wanted 2 lie at all.... its juz dat i wanted 2 b wif some1 i really loved a bit longer... gal A, B n all their frens r kinda close 2 me... im known as low profile, quiet but as very good fren n very independent n stable guy)
i dunno wut help 2 ask frm u guys.... juz giv me any idea... or scold me... or wateva.. i feel so lonely n pissed 2 c every1 else so lovey dovey aroun me... i screwed myself...
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Just put your status in Friendster as
'Single & Available'
I'm sure that will solve yr problem. -
Erm.. isn't that simple..
Just say we broke up..
long distance whatever..
BTW what does your high iq and popularity at uni gotta do with this..
Tsk tsk.. stop using this to boost your ego. -
LIE LIE LIE DAMNIT LIE!!! LIE YOUR ASS OFF!!! DUHHHHHHHHHHHHHH
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Yeah i can relate. This one time moma and i was drivin in da car, and she asked me for directions.. i lied to her so i could take a route that went past mcdonalds.. but after eating mac i was so remorseful about my weight i wanted to turn back too.Originally posted by dumbme:It's so so dumb of me 2 be in such a problem...
Im a uni student, n a few years bek, i had a crush on this gal A. Everythin went on well until da discovery of her bf at her hometown. I was so broken, n as soon as she guessed my intention of being more than a fren, she started steppin away frm me. I stil liked her so much dat i lied dat i also hav a gf at my hometown. N we got bek 2getha as very very close fren.
Time passed by, n i got over her. N my life was fine n i enjoyed da lie dat i hav a gf. But recently, i juz started liking another gal B in my class. Wen i was tryin 2 know her, i found out dat almost every1 think dat i really hav a gf at hometown, thanks to gal A!...
Thoughout da time of my lies, it started as a simple lie, n grew big. I feel so useless 2 hav bcome a real dumb ass lier. My lies were markin my relationship wif imaginary gf as great couples. Not easy 4 me 2 end my lie wif another lie like i broke up or somethin, cause i cont my lie life 4 years... but its possible... (sorry God, punish me wen its apporiate)
Now, i feel like i juz screwed myself frm any chance of gettin a any gf.
(my background: im known as kinda high iq cause i do relax alot but very good at my studies. easily i got a lots of frens frm da famous side of campus. i didn't lie anythin else at all, i neva wanted 2 lie at all.... its juz dat i wanted 2 b wif some1 i really loved a bit longer... gal A, B n all their frens r kinda close 2 me... im known as low profile, quiet but as very good fren n very independent n stable guy)
i dunno wut help 2 ask frm u guys.... juz giv me any idea... or scold me... or wateva.. i feel so lonely n pissed 2 c every1 else so lovey dovey aroun me... i screwed myself... -
ohh man... wut all of u told is rite... i always blame myself 4 all this. i din't want all this. n remind dat it all started cause of A. if she wuld juz distant herself or atleast inform me dat she had a bf at her hometown, i wuldn't get dat close 2 her till i lied. we enjoyed da days 2getha n i fell 4 her. but its all over wen my interest is known by her n i lied cause i was blinded!
even i scold myself, but as an option 2 tell myself its ok (juz 2 rebuild by tot), dun u guys think wut A did is not rite? she played me? we were so close, n she was so happy...
How i found out bout her bf :
i was about 2 let her know my feelings. 1 day i went shoppin wif my frens (A's housemates). dat day i wanted 2 buy a gift 4 her n tell her my feelings directly, n i was so confident. n wen i was deciding on a gift 2 buy, 1 of my fren suggested, "buy her a good photo frame la, her bf photo is layin beside her bed all da time".. n all of them laughed.
i laughed, i bought da photo frame. i was a super stable guy, but i almost teared. so broken, so disappointed.
n by time wen she knew my intention tru my behaviour n some frens... she starting pushin me away even as a fren... i couldn't take it... i LIED... juz 2 b wif her a little longer...
God damn it, i regret doin it now!!!
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my lies r juz plain lies? or im a victim of situation?
- i regret it, i know i made a mistake.... or is it crime?
(dat iq/pop stuf... i juz wanted 2 let know dat i culd hav got (intention 4 )another gf past few years... but i wasn't in flow... i didn't hav any other trouble in gettin a gf... other than my own damn lies) -
if u just lie now n say breakup, problem solved liao. whats your problem mannn?
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There's no time for regrets now.. what have been done is done.. all you can do is to.. either tell the truth.. or jus go on with your lies.. no use ranting now.. blaming yourself.. you need to get this solve and not delaying it any further..
You keep blaming yourself.. it won't solve also.. you only feel more guilty.. You wan your conscience clear.. you have to do something.. ACTION is the most effective way..
Take care..
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Doesn't matter. Start AFRESHOriginally posted by dumbme:my lies r juz plain lies? or im a victim of situation?
- i regret it, i know i made a mistake.... or is it crime?
(dat iq/pop stuf... i juz wanted 2 let know dat i culd hav got (intention 4 )another gf past few years... but i wasn't in flow... i didn't hav any other trouble in gettin a gf... other than my own damn lies)