Hey all you wonderful people,
I'm in poly year 2 right now, and I have this crush on a year 1. We met during an outside camp (not school organized) and talked quite alot on whatsapp until recently. I can tell she treats me merely as a friend, but obviously I want to be more than that.
My personality: introvert, i dun hang around in cliques and im not a party boy. I take relationships seriously, not looking for a fling. never had a relationship before
So current status: we don't know each other that well
Her b'day's comin up at the end of the month and I plan to get her a jewelry-type necklace, with the intention of going on 'real dates' after that rather than 'hanging out with friends session'. So question 1, is the necklace a good choice of a present?
Now, I told a friend of mine (from China) about this, she said the present is good but says I should give it to her acting 'as a friend'. That didn't go down too well with me for obvious reasons. I think that's the traditional way or whatever, be normal friends da da da then bring ur relationship up 1 level. Question 2, is there such a mindset (eg. traditional, westernized)
Problem is, I believe I'm more westernized and more direct. Not to mention, if I fail to bring the relationship up, I'll be considered friendzoned. I wouldn't mind giving her the present, ask her out (or maybe even confess?) even tho we don't know each other well and see how it pans out from there. Question 3, is this considered 'too rushing'? Question 4, will this scare her? that's all, cheers
i'd appreciate proper advice but wouldnt mind a little banter
no i wouldnt consider marriage given im only 17+
no i wouldnt consider sex before marriage, and im coping well with my studies with a 3.6 gpa
and no i wouldnt ask her that, it's too direct, even for me!
but thanks for ur opinion. cheers!
U snooze... u lose.