Is it that bus fans are easily being left alione, dumped?
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I think I have seen too much of such cases.
In one of the cases, a HK-based bus fan had split off with his girlfriend in June this year probably because of his hobby. (I knew of this thru his website.)
Well, now, I am very damn of my current unfortunate situation. Very damn of this! 
In my school, I could not explain why:
1) I was always left alone;
2) I could not and did not get the type of friends whom I had desired for;
(I would reveal what type of friends they are later in the private message.)
I FEEL I WAS ALWAYS SHUNNED BY THE ONES WHOM I DESIRED FOR!
3) I always encounter and be troubled by the undesirables (such as Jordan of DMSS S3E4/2005)
and 4) I was always left at risk of being helplessly bullied by the damn normal acads and my school's rugby team members.
And to make matters worse, I was spending each day in school lonely, no one to talk to me or to take note of me other than the damn undesirables.
Also, be it in Recess or after school or in class group works I was always left alone in numerous cases, some of them "even rejected me openly"!
And so, in the end, I did not get what I want; desired ones probably shunned me and got all their best positions i.e. the Singa award.
IF SUCH SITUATION DOES NOT IMPROVE (i.e. got the desired ones as my friends) BY NEXT YEAR'S CHINESE NEW YEAR I RATHER HAVE MYSELF CLOSED FROM THE UNDESIRABLES! by being a Christian or a Buddhist monk!
And so, I wanted to ask:
1) Is it because of my hobby as a general transportation fan, or my other characters, traits, or bad luck (I believe in superstition though.) that pulls/pulled and sunk me into my current damn unfortunate situation?
2) Is it very common that general transport fans and bus fans are always at risk of being shunned by others, left alone, and to face up all sorts of undesirables?
and 3) Is it there are any ways to help me out of my current damn unfortunate situation.
Thank you for saving me from the undesirables. -
wow seriously, u get ostracised in sch??
my friends think i have this extraordinary power of knowing everything abt sg's bus routes. my gf thinks it's good to have someone who knows his direction well. sometimes, when my gf and i dun hav a place to go to, we just take a pretty long bus and just sit down. recently done are 21, 65, 80, 88. fun wad... i dont get ostracised being a bus fan.
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Nt really the case.. for me.. Well.. i do have a large circle of friends around me.. be it chinese indians or malays.. They are all my friends.. It doenst mean that ocne you r a transport fan, you will lose all these thing.. the answer is NO..
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Originally posted by SGEMP:
I sympathise with your situation, but
I think I have seen too much of such cases.
In one of the cases, a HK-based bus fan had split off with his girlfriend in June this year probably because of his hobby. (I knew of this thru his website.)
Well, now, I am very damn of my current unfortunate situation. Very damn of this!
In my school, I could not explain why:
1) I was always left alone;
2) I could not and did not get the type of friends whom I had desired for;
(I would reveal what type of friends they are later in the private message.)
[b]I FEEL I WAS ALWAYS SHUNNED BY THE ONES WHOM I DESIRED FOR!
3) I always encounter and be troubled by the undesirables (such as Jordan of DMSS S3E4/2005)
and 4) I was always left at risk of being helplessly bullied by the damn normal acads and my school's rugby team members.
And to make matters worse, I was spending each day in school lonely, no one to talk to me or to take note of me other than the damn undesirables.
Also, be it in Recess or after school or in class group works I was always left alone in numerous cases, some of them "even rejected me openly"!
And so, in the end, I did not get what I want; desired ones probably shunned me and got all their best positions i.e. the Singa award.
IF SUCH SITUATION DOES NOT IMPROVE (i.e. got the desired ones as my friends) BY NEXT YEAR'S CHINESE NEW YEAR I RATHER HAVE MYSELF CLOSED FROM THE UNDESIRABLES! by being a Christian or a Buddhist monk!
And so, I wanted to ask:
1) Is it because of my hobby as a general transportation fan, or my other characters, traits, or bad luck (I believe in superstition though.) that pulls/pulled and sunk me into my current damn unfortunate situation?
2) Is it very common that general transport fans and bus fans are always at risk of being shunned by others, left alone, and to face up all sorts of undesirables?
and 3) Is it there are any ways to help me out of my current damn unfortunate situation.
Thank you for saving me from the undesirables.[/b]
1) this may not be the best place to air your problems at all
2) you need to seek professional advice - and none of us are professionals in this area - you probably should see a psychologist, a psychiatrist or a counsellor. In the long run, you might end up suffering from depression. Speak to your parents or guardian or whoever. Talk to an adult.
3) i believe it's about your own character. Why dun you do a self reflection first?
4) Such things occur everywhere. Maybe ppl r jealous of you; maybe by your actions and stuff ppl misunderstand u. Someone once told me that there's always someone who will always be the butt of people's teasing & torment. Unfortunately for you, you happen to be the object of attention.
5) You can simply choose to ignore them, but at your age, it's difficult.
6) You can simply wreck revenge on them (not advisable), but then again, when you do so, make sure you do not flout the school rules or the law.
7) Most importantly, read Point 2 and think about it.
Well, no one can stop the bullying for you. You just have to make the best use of whatever situation you are in. -
I think you have a psychological problem - autophobia, or rather the phobia of being alone. Humans are innately defensive and from what I've read, you are putting the blame on your hobby just because "mommy, nobody wants to friend me".
1. In the first place, you didn't say anything about mentioning your hobby to your friends, so what makes you so sure that it is because of your hobby that your friends are shunning you? Could it be something that you can't possibly see on your own - your character?
2. In your views, it seems that you feel you are being ostracised by your "desired friends" but aren't you doing the same thing by ostracising your so-called "undesirables"?
3. Religion isn't something that you say you want to take up because you are being shunned. I sincerely hope that you will think about this seriously before you spout such stuff. Are you even prepared to be a monk?
4. You said you are superstituous. Perhaps reducing the number of "damn" will be beneficial to you? -
think i got better instead. my friends, they all will call me or sms me ask me about how to get to certain places. i found that it is an additional advantages to know about buses, mrt route. if all these fails i will recommend cab if the cost and time is needed to be in consideration. cheers. perhaps they are just not the friend for u yet.
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I dun have problems like that, if fact my friends find it very useful.
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Just stay cool or perhaps just treat whatever they said is a joke.I'm one of the bus fans too but still my Friends can accept me whoever i am!Futhermore i'm a father of two kids also It's better than beimg a cheapskate freeloader Troublemakers right?It's up to them to say whatever they want,It's their mind and brains,We can't stop them I agree with what Delon and Zilch says,Talk to an adult
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They may call names like bus freak and so on. If you dont like it, just give them a whacking or something. My friends and i did to one boy who crapped was we pushed him to a corner to the back of the bus and he missed his stop, so he had to find out how to go home and apologized, obvious.
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I really symphatise with u, sgemp...but for me, my friends like it. they find me unique and useful...even my teachers call me the bus guide.
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Maybe you might need counseling. You might want to ask a teacher or staff who you are comfortable with and might want to listen. But you don't have to name names.
I guess people at your age might always be seeking identity and they're those who are quick to make fun of people who are "different".
Ignore them, the faster they find that its no fun to ostracise you, the faster they find somebody else to make fun of. Also, once this die off, you can find some new people to hang around with who don't care about your hobbies or might even share it.
Maybe if you're forced to, you might have to keep this hobby to yourself and hidden.
Just be strong.
Anyway, at my age, I'm more likely to be pissed off by people who keep calling me to ask me how to get between places. I wouldn't mind a few times, but some people really treat me like a street directory or bus guide. -
Your behaviour is disgusting!Originally posted by SBS9889U:They may call names like bus freak and so on. If you dont like it, just give them a whacking or something. My friends and i did to one boy who crapped was we pushed him to a corner to the back of the bus and he missed his stop, so he had to find out how to go home and apologized, obvious. -
Sorry, but we do NOT advocate the use of violence.Originally posted by SBS9889U:They may call names like bus freak and so on. If you dont like it, just give them a whacking or something. My friends and i did to one boy who crapped was we pushed him to a corner to the back of the bus and he missed his stop, so he had to find out how to go home and apologized, obvious.
Let's see what you will do if you are alone and a group pushes you to a corner. -
In my school, my classmates know that I am a bus fan. They are ok with it. Everytime I talk about bus things to them, they won't mind at all but sometimes they will not listen to it. I rarely speak those to them. How about trying talking on topics that suits everybody??? Then everybody will join in the discussion. Like go where and eat, BGR and .................... But sometimes when talking to them, you also must have precaution don't anyhow blast your words out as some are sensitive to some people and they may don't like it. Try mixing around from friends, teachers, toilet cleaners, workers, security and so on and not focusing on one group only. So like that would better and there is at least somebody there for you to talk Take care But don't result to violence, if they disturb you just ignore them like me or else tell it to the teachers can already
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Originally posted by SGEMP:
I really feel sorry for you.. I can understand and emphatise how you feel.
I think I have seen too much of such cases.
In one of the cases, a HK-based bus fan had split off with his girlfriend in June this year probably because of his hobby. (I knew of this thru his website.)
Well, now, I am very damn of my current unfortunate situation. Very damn of this!
In my school, I could not explain why:
1) I was always left alone;
2) I could not and did not get the type of friends whom I had desired for;
(I would reveal what type of friends they are later in the private message.)
[b]I FEEL I WAS ALWAYS SHUNNED BY THE ONES WHOM I DESIRED FOR!
3) I always encounter and be troubled by the undesirables (such as Jordan of DMSS S3E4/2005)
and 4) I was always left at risk of being helplessly bullied by the damn normal acads and my school's rugby team members.
And to make matters worse, I was spending each day in school lonely, no one to talk to me or to take note of me other than the damn undesirables.
Also, be it in Recess or after school or in class group works I was always left alone in numerous cases, some of them "even rejected me openly"!
And so, in the end, I did not get what I want; desired ones probably shunned me and got all their best positions i.e. the Singa award.
IF SUCH SITUATION DOES NOT IMPROVE (i.e. got the desired ones as my friends) BY NEXT YEAR'S CHINESE NEW YEAR I RATHER HAVE MYSELF CLOSED FROM THE UNDESIRABLES! by being a Christian or a Buddhist monk!
And so, I wanted to ask:
1) Is it because of my hobby as a general transportation fan, or my other characters, traits, or bad luck (I believe in superstition though.) that pulls/pulled and sunk me into my current damn unfortunate situation?
2) Is it very common that general transport fans and bus fans are always at risk of being shunned by others, left alone, and to face up all sorts of undesirables?
and 3) Is it there are any ways to help me out of my current damn unfortunate situation.
Thank you for saving me from the undesirables.[/b]
Personally for me, I will not be discriminated due to my liking of buses. I don't think superstition plays a part in this. To your second question, no. There is no reason whatsoever why transportation fans are always being ostracised.
As for the resolution, I suggest:
1: Ask yourself if you've done anything wrong unknowingly. Speak to a teacher whom you can rely on and ask him/her what are your flaws. Try to improve on them. Nothing is perfect.
2: Perhaps you don't even need to bother about those "friends" of yours at all. If they are just a bunch of undesirable people, just try your best to ignore them! They'll get tired of that. Rule of the thumb: Stay NONCHALANT.
3: I know it is not that easy, but why don't you try to make new friends? I believe that at least there can be a few loyal friends waiting to be found in your school!
4: Whatever the case, just do what YOU want to do. Do not drop this unique hobby of yours due to peer pressure, etc.
Thats all. I really hope you will find your true friends and be a joyful person. Jia you! -
well, as the topic starter mentioned this, i have to agree partly on his statements. theres another trait i observed among most people in this forum here as well, tho attitude and behaviour is unrelated to this observed "trait".
not to be on of "them", i will eradicate myself very soon~ -
Originally posted by SGEMP:
To be honest, I also have this kind of feeling mentioned by SGMEP when I am in my primary school. It is like I have discovered that I am interested in bus routes, in roads and currently now trying to recognise landmarks and scenary in Singapore and this thing or talent that we have is very different from others. So, I do not talk much of this with my friends.
I think I have seen too much of such cases.
In one of the cases, a HK-based bus fan had split off with his girlfriend in June this year probably because of his hobby. (I knew of this thru his website.)
Well, now, I am very damn of my current unfortunate situation. Very damn of this!
In my school, I could not explain why:
1) I was always left alone;
2) I could not and did not get the type of friends whom I had desired for;
(I would reveal what type of friends they are later in the private message.)
[b]I FEEL I WAS ALWAYS SHUNNED BY THE ONES WHOM I DESIRED FOR!
3) I always encounter and be troubled by the undesirables (such as Jordan of DMSS S3E4/2005)
and 4) I was always left at risk of being helplessly bullied by the damn normal acads and my school's rugby team members.
And to make matters worse, I was spending each day in school lonely, no one to talk to me or to take note of me other than the damn undesirables.
Also, be it in Recess or after school or in class group works I was always left alone in numerous cases, some of them "even rejected me openly"!
And so, in the end, I did not get what I want; desired ones probably shunned me and got all their best positions i.e. the Singa award.
IF SUCH SITUATION DOES NOT IMPROVE (i.e. got the desired ones as my friends) BY NEXT YEAR'S CHINESE NEW YEAR I RATHER HAVE MYSELF CLOSED FROM THE UNDESIRABLES! by being a Christian or a Buddhist monk!
And so, I wanted to ask:
1) Is it because of my hobby as a general transportation fan, or my other characters, traits, or bad luck (I believe in superstition though.) that pulls/pulled and sunk me into my current damn unfortunate situation?
2) Is it very common that general transport fans and bus fans are always at risk of being shunned by others, left alone, and to face up all sorts of undesirables?
and 3) Is it there are any ways to help me out of my current damn unfortunate situation.
Thank you for saving me from the undesirables.[/b]
During secondary school, during that one lesson conducted by my geography teacher, she talked about Singapore, about taking bus 80 and that took about one hour plus from Sengkang to Chinatown. Then I don't know what spurs me to say something like "Taking bus 147 to Chinatown is faster" but in actual fact I don't know which is faster. Then that teacher just tested me in front of the class on some services like 196, 2, 197 and a few more which most of them are plying in eastern towns.
Many of my classmates and friends know that I am a bus freak or rather a bus route freak as I insist on taking only bus to my destination. Some of them are really happy for me and some even advise me to become a bus captain. Heheh. I start to talk more and more about buses when my friends ask me how I get home because they are surprised by my answers I gave them. There are so many ways to get from one destination to another destination by bus only and it is really challenging to keep on searching new ways. (most preferably if you have concession bus stamp)
So, what I have learnt is that don't be afraid to say it out. This is a talent, a hobby and a passion. If you really like the joy of memorsing bus routes or knowing the types of buses or engines of the buses and so on, develop this flame that is burning within you. I believe that friends will not isolate you just because there is a "freak" among them.
I believe that my interests in buses has spurred my interests in numbers too. I use to study for patterns of buses by looking at the regos before I know of this forum. Like SBS 94xx has yellow bars at the entrance and exit doors and the seats are red. SBS 90xx to 93xx have blue seats. That helps me to find new number patterns and be really sensitive with numbers. -
i only can say one thing.
examine yourself before you examine other people.
and also, it could be your ability to socialise that causes the problem or strain or what have you. It'd be advisable to seek professional help if this continues.
for my case, friends who know me would contact me if they are lost or need to enquire about certain things related to bus routes and stuff. The MOST common question other than the "getting from pt A to pt B" type of question is the "first/last Bus" question.
so u see, having superior knowledge in this field does help in the long run. Well.. only as long as your friends dont buy any car or own vehicle that is. it is definitely a plus point.
if they are mature enough, talk things out one-on-one to find out the root of the problem. if you have good buddies in your school, ask them first.
as for now, take care and good luck.
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Kk, let me put in something as well.
Firstly, our interest in buses is unique. My friends, teachers, facilitators and mentors find it strange yet a useful interest.
When they got to know about my interest, they thought i was weird and then they tested my knowledge to see whether what i said was true.
They didn't make fun of me, I made fun of myself. I called myself bus freak, bus fanatic....its kinda like reverse psychology...dey understand...so in the end, they label me...
in fact, my frens are gonna go on a bus ride with me durin the Dec holidays.
You can't blame your interest, its how you express yourself which matters.
Violence does not help.
Be brave...good luck and welcome to sgForums
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Quit whining about such things and move on with life~~~~
Put it this way, you can't please everybody. There are people who will take to you, and there are people who will dislike you for the slightest reason.
And I don't think it's because that you have a particular interest that will make you unpopular with the other people.
Once again, I advise you to seek professional help. Period.
Topic is now closed.