ex problem
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hulo all, hope everybody is ok
this is not bike related, but pls read on, this problem has been bugging mi for days,
i dun want to post this in other forums coz i can only trust u guys here.
used to have a ex-gf that i love alot around 3 yrs ago, we been toghether for a couple of mths and then broken off coz she found a better guy,
last sat, i was at a chalet, and she was there too, was quite suprise to see her but then wad suprise mi more was her change, she used to be a nice and decent gal, wad i saw on sat was a horny and sex hungry bitch, i must admit she is quite chio, and she was pratically flirting with every guys there, dosen include me though, i m not jealous or anything, i have a stable GF now n i m happy wif that.
she was giving away kisses and being in guys arms all nite long, as the nite went by, she beacame a hot sex object every guy is talking about, i m really damn suprised by the change, but anyway, the sam grp of guys asked her out just nite, and they asked mi along, one of the guys pillion her and hell, look at the way she hugged my friend on the SP, i m seriously not jealous or anything but i dunno y she change until like that,
halfway thru the outing, a friend came n told mi that the others intend to duped her drink and then the rest u all shld know, i really dunno wad to do, but i was uneasy, very very uneasy, i left the grp early though, i dunno y i m showing some much concern to a person who is unfaithful to me 3 yrs ago, i really dunno how to describe my feelings, and one more thing my friends r not that evil, if any of guys were to know wad she is like, u all would surely say that she deserve it if she get raped,
seriously dunno how to put my feelings to words but i really got no more feelings towards her,
its like when u sell your used bike to someone and u see the new owner thrashing it but u cannot do anything that type of feeling lor... tel mi wad to do -
so late liao still haven slp ah... tinking abt tis kind of things... aiya... must try to understand lor... people do change... some to good, some to bad... so dun tink so much... if i were u, i oso will be very uneasy lor cos she is once ur ex mah... just try to imagine tat she is sumone else lor and not ur ex...
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cant, she made a deep impact in my life b4....really cant sleep..
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wat deep impact??? ur di yi ci give her ah??? hehe... jk nia... anyway she has change lor... its a fact lor u cannot do anything abt it... maybe u can try to call her n talk to her lor... just some friendly talk... den gei gei ask her y she change so much lor... haha... i tink maybe she also got her own problems lah... hai~ u cannot slp ah??? eat slping pills lor... hehe... i going slp liao... niteZzz Take Care!!!
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thanks, we r not on talking terms though, i dunno how to talk to her, sometimes when i talk to my friends, she would just cut in and pass some remarks to make me "pai say" so tell me how to talk to her ?
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better stop yr frens the next time...really condemn playing with drinks to get gals to bed.....if the ger commit suicide becuz of that u will have to live with guilt for the rest of yr life....just my experience and adviceOriginally posted by ah_tee:thanks, we r not on talking terms though, i dunno how to talk to her, sometimes when i talk to my friends, she would just cut in and pass some remarks to make me "pai say" so tell me how to talk to her ? -
The solution is ... let her do what she wants to do ... that's all ... if you are concerned to her very much, that may affect your relationship with your current gf ... that's not worthy at all...
As she choose her path to be (sorry... *kinda cheap girl*) .. then it is her own choice, maybe she enjoy it? maybe she is addicted to it? when she grow, she will eventually realize what she has done was bad(although maybe too late)... but, consider that a lesson to her ... everybody must learn to their live experiences. I am sure, that many of her friends already gave her advices. So even though you give her advice, it may worse the condition.
You can save so many people as you can, but you cannot make people accept your salvage...
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Laksa: even if she get rape, i doubt she will take it seriously, she is like the most horniest gal ever seen
Lex: dunno wad to do also, she is 20 this year and still dunno how to think, i really dun intent to talk to her actually and let alone the salvage thingy, just hope she will realize wad she is doing soon -
hi,i am sorry about your incident.5 years ago i break off with my gf,then she become a changed person,well for the worst.i feel very uneasy also.I find that you are a person with lots of feeling,and the only way is to have a talk with to tell her how you feel and you have done your part as a friend.Try to find out the problem behind and give her advices.Talk to your current gf so she will understand to prevent any misunderstanding,ok,have a nice day!!
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dun think too much..u oredi say its ur ex rite..so wat the point of bothering over this matter..juz have to pay full attention to ur gf u r wif nw n 4get abt the past although it might b quite difficult to do so.
if u r still thinkin of ur ex,it will b very unfair to ur gf u noe..
eemmm..if u feel uncomfortable n uneasy when u c ur ex..try to avoid the place when u wil c her loh..or u can bring ur gf along wif u so tat u wil not keep payin ur attention to ur ex liao..take care... -
hmm...jus giving my views..hope no offence in any way oki...
your ex is no longer the girl u used to know.... Wat u see on saturday is another girl with an undesirable personality and view of life. She is wat she choose to be...obviously, she's enjoying the attention she's getting and she likes it dat way.
Tinking of changing tis new found fren? Do you tink she'll listen to you and be obedient, do wat u say? The most u can do is give her your advices and wake up her idea..wat else can u do? Lock her at home,forbid her to go out wif guys, wear a chastity belt?? She's old enuff 2 tink for herself and differentiate wat's rite and wrong. Unless u tell me she's below 16..... -
hach, i really dunno how to talk to her, i have neber seen her for 3 yrs and she is like a stranger to me but then wif a type of weird feeling, even if i were to talk, say what ? "eh, few yrs neber see u , u become so pua lok already ar" like that meh ?
bike lover, its not that i m thinking of her, it is more like a concern as a friend ,but i cant help feeling like that, my current GF dosent know anything, and i dun want her to know, she is abit of the assuming and emotional type, u know wad i mean? it would only be more problems if she were to know, just take them as bikes for awhile, think of wad i said earlier as someone thrashing your EX bike and u know wad i mean, just like 3 yrs ago u sold your bike, and then now when u see it, it is in a bad state, there rusty and here crack, and the current onwner is treating it like junk like that.. -
snowball, i dun get offended that easily, just post wad u think, its ok oneOriginally posted by snowball72:hmm...jus giving my views..hope no offence in any way oki...
your ex is no longer the girl u used to know.... Wat u see on saturday is another girl with an undesirable personality and view of life. She is wat she choose to be...obviously, she's enjoying the attention she's getting and she likes it dat way.
Tinking of changing tis new found fren? Do you tink she'll listen to you and be obedient, do wat u say? The most u can do is give her your advices and wake up her idea..wat else can u do? Lock her at home,forbid her to go out wif guys, wear a chastity belt?? She's old enuff 2 tink for herself and differentiate wat's rite and wrong. Unless u tell me she's below 16.....
i know she is my ex, and she is probably considered just a friend now, i really dun want to have anything to do wif her, yes, but then how to say we were together once b4, and it dosent make me feel gd, maybe i m really soft hearted.. -
If i sold off my bike three yrs ago and saw it in a wrecked state now, i won't feel anything. cos i already got some money back 3yrs ago. hehehe.
it's a very sad thing that she become like tat now. but, what can you do. dun stress urself so much on this matter liao la. no point thinking so much one. -
ah_tee,i guess i noe how u feel..
but anyway,if she really wan to behave the way she is,juz let be..
for example,if ur parents ask u not to ride a bike,would u listen to them?or would u juz ignore?u see,the things is the same.at the pt when she is so devoted n enjoy wat she is doin nw,she probably wont listen to anybody.she will oni learn her lesson when something bad falls on her.(sorry if i say something offensive)this is part of growing up u see..as wat shunli says he wont feel anything abt the bike sold 3 years ago..i quite agree wif him cos u must noe u oredi have a new bike rite..must really appreciate. -
I know how u feel.... My frens ex stead also when break of with him also change,
from a cute obedient gal to a chao ah lian...
Since u hav a stead now, forget about helping your ex lorz...
shuo nan ting yi dian larz, she not your stead now wat she do not your problem lorz... So dun no problem go find problem.
But if u really wan to help her, u muz be prepared to help her all the way lorz...
this kind of thing not juz call her and juz 1 chatting session can change her wan lorz.
Then if your present stead find out also muz be prepared to do some explanations....
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SMS her ... ask her to come out with you for lunch in modest place (burger king, mc donald, or pizza hut will do) ... but tell your current GF first that you will do this to *help* giving *enlightenment* to your ex, don't have motivation more than that...Originally posted by ah_tee:hach, i really dunno how to talk to her, i have neber seen her for 3 yrs and she is like a stranger to me but then wif a type of weird feeling, even if i were to talk, say what ? "eh, few yrs neber see u , u become so pua lok already ar" like that meh ?
bike lover, its not that i m thinking of her, it is more like a concern as a friend ,but i cant help feeling like that, my current GF dosent know anything, and i dun want her to know, she is abit of the assuming and emotional type, u know wad i mean? it would only be more problems if she were to know, just take them as bikes for awhile, think of wad i said earlier as someone thrashing your EX bike and u know wad i mean, just like 3 yrs ago u sold your bike, and then now when u see it, it is in a bad state, there rusty and here crack, and the current onwner is treating it like junk like that..
when you have lunch with your ex, tell your ex : "How are you" ... "Are you fine" .. chat-chat only ... don't ask abt her changed behaviour ... finish your lunch like a friend to friend relationship ...
then, after you go home, write e-mail to her ... say everything you want to say in the e-mail :
Dear ex,
Actually I wanted to talk with you abt this in our lunch just now ... but I dunno how to explain ... bla bla bla ...
bla bla... 100x
yours,
bla bla
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If you want to give advice, this is the best way ... ( for me )
btw, 20 yrs should be mature already ... it seems that she already choose her own *world* ... -
EH SIAL LAH~ Ur frenz got this dupe powder ah? hahaha powerl sial~ intro lehz~ hahaha joking nia~ but wasted leh, i was not there, if not can see free show, hahaha joking again~ hahaha
well u should stay behind mah, knn, see what they do... got witness mah~ hehe -
ah T sorrie to hear this....wat i can say is she choose this route...she has to lead it...
if she wanna be a lok chicken so be it...one day....juz one fine day...she will wake up...
ah T from the way i see yr postings....don tell me tt u don even feel for her...coz i won buy it.... ah T ppl change...may it b for the good or bad....u still haf to accept it...if she like this type of living...thn so b it...there is nuting much u can do
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dun be bothered by her ok ahT.. life must go on... when u got to go, u got to go...
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hmm.......
As a stranger I also feel that you shld take her away from what's going to happen to her.....jeez....what's wrong with you man?? Even as a person, if you know that a girl is going to be gang rape, you will also feel the urge to help her.......darm it man.....you're going to regret it......believe me your going to regret it. In anyway, she's still a person........YOU MUST HELP HER............BUT u didnt......
You are such an ar se hole..........sorry for my prudence, but i'm truly angry at what you didnt do -
ah t... within tis 3 yrs u never c even once?Originally posted by ah_tee:hulo all, hope everybody is ok
this is not bike related, but pls read on, this problem has been bugging mi for days,
i dun want to post this in other forums coz i can only trust u guys here.
used to have a ex-gf that i love alot around 3 yrs ago, we been toghether for a couple of mths and then broken off coz she found a better guy,
last sat, i was at a chalet, and she was there too, was quite suprise to see her but then wad suprise mi more was her change, she used to be a nice and decent gal, wad i saw on sat was a horny and sex hungry bitch, i must admit she is quite chio, and she was pratically flirting with every guys there, dosen include me though, i m not jealous or anything, i have a stable GF now n i m happy wif that.
she was giving away kisses and being in guys arms all nite long, as the nite went by, she beacame a hot sex object every guy is talking about, i m really damn suprised by the change, but anyway, the sam grp of guys asked her out just nite, and they asked mi along, one of the guys pillion her and hell, look at the way she hugged my friend on the SP, i m seriously not jealous or anything but i dunno y she change until like that,
halfway thru the outing, a friend came n told mi that the others intend to duped her drink and then the rest u all shld know, i really dunno wad to do, but i was uneasy, very very uneasy, i left the grp early though, i dunno y i m showing some much concern to a person who is unfaithful to me 3 yrs ago, i really dunno how to describe my feelings, and one more thing my friends r not that evil, if any of guys were to know wad she is like, u all would surely say that she deserve it if she get raped,
seriously dunno how to put my feelings to words but i really got no more feelings towards her,
its like when u sell your used bike to someone and u see the new owner thrashing it but u cannot do anything that type of feeling lor... tel mi wad to do
mayb somthing happened in tis 3 yrs dat changed her? or wat she did wat to make u jealous? coz u were there....and u say when she topang the sp hold until very tight or she will make u pai seh by cuttin in... is she tryin to get ur atention? if u rule all tis out den i think she really changed alreadi lorz... its her life she wans it tis way let it b.....if wat she did is to make u jealous..den the desision is up o u alreadi lorz... c wat u wanna do.. k? dun think so much la..bad for health one -
hmm....the problem now is that, if there's a gang rape, it has alredy happen......haiz....dunno why, I have a very strong feeling about this matter.....Originally posted by ZecHs:alreadi lorz... its her life she wans it tis way let it b.....if wat she did is to make u jealous..den the desision is up o u alreadi lorz... c wat u wanna do.. k? dun think so much la..bad for health one -
First of all, sorry to be hearing this.
Well, most of the responds I saw thinks that the way she is behaving is being "lok".
But I think there's more to that. Who likes to have a reputation damaged, not to mention its a girl, which is most important to her. Even for girls who work in postitution centres, I don't think that when they are young, they dreamed of becoming prostitudes. Most of the time its circumtances which forced people to do things which they never intended to. For example, for three meals a day?
Well, for your situation, your ex-girlfriend may have suffered blows emotional, which has made her lose her interest in life, not to mention reputation. Family problems may contribute greatly to that, or maybe its because she wants to spite you and make you jealous, cause she can't forget you, and hopes to see you care for her again? It's hard to say what is happening, and its even harder to read a girl's mind. But from my point of view, no girl wants to be "lok" in nature. When someone suffers from heavy emotional blows, and loses his/her interest in life anymore, I don't think she would even be rational about things going on around her, would she even think so much as to what she is doing? her reputation?
I think the best way is to talk to her, show her some concern, show her that even though that you may have broken up with her, you still care for her even as a friend. Ask for your current girlfriend for her understanding on this, as you would not want to be caught in between.
Ps: I'm relativly new here, and do not know much about any of you guys. But this is just my 2 cents worth. Hope I had not offended anyone of you guys here with my comments.
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aiya some ppl cheebai itchy.. cannot help one lah.
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