for ns guys... attached or single
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care to share ur relationships wif ur gf while in ns... , regardless broke up or still together...
IF broke up, y ur gf wans to break up wif u.....
IF still together, that is v gd...
if single, y dun wan to find gf while in ns? -
u make it sound finding a gf in ns is easy...Originally posted by -ohyeah-:care to share ur relationships wif ur gf while in ns... , regardless broke up or still together...
IF broke up, y ur gf wans to break up wif u.....
IF still together, that is v gd...
if single, y dun wan to find gf while in ns?
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pls explain.. -
hahaha coz in NS, its guys everywhere!
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in ns most of the time u see guys 24hrs, how to even find target? weekends so short unless u go clubbing n sian young meimeis but not all guys are into that so how to find gf during ns?Originally posted by -ohyeah-:
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do u all ever blame ns for breaking up relationship?
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No, I blame the girl for not being mature enough to understand that it's not her boyfriend's fault that he can't always be with her due to NS.Originally posted by -ohyeah-:do u all ever blame ns for breaking up relationship?
I've seen it happen too many times to my friends. Their girlfriends would get angry over their bfs not calling every night (they never heard of night training, I guess), their bfs not going out with them on weekends (they've never heard of extras and guard duties, I suppose).... the list goes on.
Besides, for every failed relationship, I also see relationships which grew stronger because of NS. As they say, absence makes the heart grow fonder, and this did apply to the relationships of some of my other friends.
Bottom line... it's not a matter of whether or not NS is the reason for the breaking-up of a relationship. Rather, it's a matter of how you react to the difficulty of having NS in the equation.
If the girl thinks that she can't live with having the guy stuck in NS, then seriously, the guy deserves better. -
well said fudgester.
if a relationship cannot even withstand such a small setback like NS, how are they gonna face greater challenges in life later on? -
*clapz*clapz*
Hmm... Does this mean Singaporeans girls cannot be trusted? Even for the NSFs themselves? -
well.... i had been wif my ex bf for 1 year since the day he entered ns. I nv complained when he couldnt go out wif me on weekends and while he was in taiwan for training. the only 1 time i complained was when the first time when he could not talk wif me for long, that was when his ns days were just started. after that time, i nv complained anything. i knew he tired, i let him to go and slept....
now he is still in NS.. -
I broke up just before I go NS.. so...
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to: off_service
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but y still breakup with him?Originally posted by -ohyeah-:well.... i had been wif my ex bf for 1 year since the day he entered ns. I nv complained when he couldnt go out wif me on weekends and while he was in taiwan for training. the only 1 time i complained was when the first time when he could not talk wif me for long, that was when his ns days were just started. after that time, i nv complained anything. i knew he tired, i let him to go and slept....
now he is still in NS.. -
Some things cock up.. nvm la.. over le..Originally posted by -ohyeah-:to: off_service
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BrUtUs,
it is a long story. anyway i did wan to patch up wif him but he didnt wan -
zao sai lor~ BMT time.. haiz~ one week see her 1 and a half day nia.. then come back home sure super tired.. lazy to go out.. go out also watch movie or what then go home sleep or piak piak.. haha.. then she bth.. so break lo~
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i aso broke wif my 1st gf during BMT. ended up misfire during range. dunno whether she's the cause. think so. kinda distracted.
she says xing ge bu he. NNB! then wait after i BMT then initiate lar, gong. hai lim pei misfire and kena extra. -
dun understand y many gers choose to breakup wif their ns bfs during BMT.....
i heard alot of stories.. the gfs always broke up during BMT or POP
I went through his BMT, overseas training (3wks) but now also broke... -
Mi stiLL with by bf.. fInally finish BMT liao.. But still Long LoNg wae to go.. Hop we can gO thru tis wHole N.S life tog..
oUr r/s changed aLot.. for tHe beTa.. hE LearNt to bE morE appreciative oF thE tiMe wE caN spend tog..
TrUe.. rEaLLi jIa lat.. OnLi caN meEt up oNce a wk.. esP daEs in BmT worst.. caN't msg.. eaRly Lights ofF.. etc.. cHat on tHe pHone He is daMn siaN & tIRed le..
dIn coMplaIn.. cOz i Noe he's sUpeR tIred.. cAN pEi mI cHat eVery nitE I'm hApI enOugH Le..
oMG.. oVersEAs trAinIN.. dIe lE.. Haha.. hIs fieLd caMp oNLi.. I'm dEAd le..
But it's nO woNDer wHy v HaRd suBstain r/s.. tHe laCk oF tIme tO speNd wiTh eacH otheR.. No eNergy.. etc.. v HaRd tOng.. UnLesS u LovE hIm aLOt aLot tO waNt go tHru iT wiT hIm bAh..
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Mi stiLL with by bf.. fInally finish BMT liao.. But still Long LoNg wae to go.. Hop we can gO thru tis wHole N.S life tog..
oUr r/s changed aLot.. for tHe beTa.. hE LearNt to bE morE appreciative oF thE tiMe wE caN spend tog..
TrUe.. rEaLLi jIa lat.. OnLi caN meEt up oNce a wk.. esP daEs in BmT worst.. caN't msg.. eaRly Lights ofF.. etc.. cHat on tHe pHone He is daMn siaN & tIRed le..
dIn coMplaIn.. cOz i Noe he's sUpeR tIred.. cAN pEi mI cHat eVery nitE I'm hApI enOugH Le..
oMG.. oVersEAs trAinIN.. dIe lE.. Haha.. hIs fieLd caMp oNLi.. I'm dEAd le..
But it's nO woNDer wHy v HaRd suBstain r/s.. tHe laCk oF tIme tO speNd wiTh eacH otheR.. No eNergy.. etc.. v HaRd tOng.. UnLesS u LovE hIm aLOt aLot tO waNt go tHru iT wiT hIm bAh.. -
Go after the S1 or chief Clerk then (Usually female but of coz if unmarried)
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to: ahkico
i share the same feelings for you.
well, bf in Tekong for BMT.. today is his 6th day there. I don't know. I think i am matured enough to know what i want in a relationship. I believe he is faithful and me too. And yeah i am not an A level student as mentioned in the other post that A level girls tend to be unfaithful. But yeah you guys might say, Uni girls also can be unfaithful mah! I think people at my age date seriously as compared to people of the JC age (this is my personal opinion). Breaking up isn't just 2 words. It really involves a lot of pain, tears and time. You enjoy breaking up meh? i don't unless something is really wrong with the relationship.
NS i believe will make my dear more sensitive and responsible. I do believe the changes will be good. -
Props to you!Originally posted by artistic1:to: ahkico
i share the same feelings for you.
well, bf in Tekong for BMT.. today is his 6th day there. I don't know. I think i am matured enough to know what i want in a relationship. I believe he is faithful and me too. And yeah i am not an A level student as mentioned in the other post that A level girls tend to be unfaithful. But yeah you guys might say, Uni girls also can be unfaithful mah! I think people at my age date seriously as compared to people of the JC age (this is my personal opinion). Breaking up isn't just 2 words. It really involves a lot of pain, tears and time. You enjoy breaking up meh? i don't unless something is really wrong with the relationship.
NS i believe will make my dear more sensitive and responsible. I do believe the changes will be good.
Well, your chap should appreciate you and your commitment.Give him lots of support when training is tough yeah 
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Haha before BMT everything was fine,after 2 weeks confinement got a broken leg and a broken heart.But anyway now think back also consider as an experience loh,haha guys aga aga also will not lose out much
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i was a jc guy.. in fact last yr im still one. so, naturally i heard lots of jc gals who ran away, or break off.
first of all.. i will take the assumption of 'jc gals always break off with guys during ns' true.
now, have u ever put in mind. why will the relationship with these young ladies b more fragile as compared to poly or other counterparts?
to acknowledge this problem, u have to look into the background of these ppl.
of course i'm one of those sad souls who r now unattached. i will still speak for them into some extent. those ex-jc girls, are normally in universities, working part-time when their bf are in army. so as to say, they are actually proceeding with another stage of their life. a stage of life when they begin to realise what theyy wan and dun wan. university is often the place where ppl meet their lifelong partner.
and when u are getting on with ur life. in this newly unexplored, more advanced level. u bound to see guys who have better qualities, character.. who have matured tru the yrs and the ns-term. these young man who just ord-ed normally have in mind what they want. they normally have a greater insight than man who haven't served.
jc relationships are often like not as sturdy.
becoz, u know that u will still have another level to carry up to. and yes, u need someone to share the pain and tears of studying with u, so when u find someone who matches u. why not?
pardon me for my stereotyping and over-generalising.
but on the other hand, the poly girls having a more sturdy relationship.
why? becoz they are still in an unchanged environment... whereas they r still in poly. the ppl are more or less.. the same lv. environment is still status quo.
even for poly graduates, more or less.. the relationship is expected to last into working environment. which is normally hostile to fresh bloods. simply becoz of the age-difference in ppl. which keeps these young adults to their own clique. and it is harder to penetrate into the hearts of these pppl.
another thing is... just like dilution
u put ppl into the society, it is 'harder' for ppl to match. becoz of the age difference. company size. the approachability of ppl.
in U its difference la.. in the same fac there are just hundreds. which u see daily... there's orientation.. cca. most important of all .. it's a new environment..
just my 5 cent worth.