i am very worried about the rest of my life in ns
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it has been 2 and a half months already going to pop soon but majourity of my platoonmates and bunk mates don't like me the probblem is i am quite shy and softspoken
and they say i very blur some say i am very slow in doing things why they like to judge people so much
some people even bully me ask me to do things for them how can i be more socialble
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Once you POP, you will be assign to another unit and life will start again. A new enviornment, give yourself a new start.
Don't worry so much and try your best to be more sociable in your new unit and make more friends. Talk to people, everyone is as blur as you in a new unit so you should be able to make some friends. Areas where you already know you can be improved try to.
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u have to be brave and dont be shy............shyness is what people look down on u
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You can kiss them goodbye. Most or all or you would be in different unit and vocation so you do not have to care after you POP...
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BMT sucks! Just wait for your POP to come asap.
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at least you love milk. Milk are good for your bone and overall health.
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if you think this sucks, wait until you get into real life..
if you really want to widen your social circle, learn how to be "more sociable" then do something about it..
damn it, stop bloody thinking the world will come to you... you FORCE yourself to go speak to people.. don't bloody clam up.. talk.. even if it's something silly, TALK!!!
nothing pisses people off more than talking to a bloody statue..
so stop being a statue..
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Originally posted by iluvmilky:
it has been 2 and a half months already going to pop soon but majourity of my platoonmates and bunk mates don't like me the probblem is i am quite shy and softspoken
and they say i very blur some say i am very slow in doing things why they like to judge people so much
some people even bully me ask me to do things for them how can i be more socialble
Hi TS, I also a very blur and very slow in doing things person. I also a bit shy and softspoken, that's why even I PES E, assigned to clerical, also kena bullied by colleagues, superiors and even NSmen who come in for ICT. Therefore I can understand almost very clearly what you have been going through.
Shyness is not necessary something you have to be ashamed of unless it's the extreme kind: you cannot even look at people when you are talking to them or they are talking to you. You try to stay in one corner even when people try to be friendly towards to you. That's extreme.
You can learn to become sociable but I hope you also learn not to come across as desperate in wanting to be friends with everyone and you are willing to do anything to earn their friendship. That's dangerous. Cos I'm speaking from experience.
Of course, I have not yet achieved the right balance to doing the above yet. I'm still falling very often as I try to achieve this goal of making friends and finding true friends who practises mutual respect and love for one another.
I wish you all the best for your POP, your future unit and your ORD. I also wish you all the best for your future after ORD.
Take care, iluvmilky. :)
P.S: A shy guy can have friends. A shy guy can find true friends. You have to believe in that. You have to believe that it will happen one day if you don't give up.
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once u're posted out, u will hav new frens..
try to tok more to ppl la
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open up...
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Once you POP, most of your platoon mates will probably be in different vocation from you. Just treat it as a brand new start, a brand new way to know other people better.
If people say u slow in doing things, tell them that at least you will do it slow and right, because if do fast and wrong, who is gonna get blamed?
When u go to ur new unit, u can open up more by taking the initative to make new friends. A "Hi" or smile always do wonders to humans.
Just be more confident in urself, and u will be suprise just how different you can be.
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who knows next time TS become officer and his ex-bmt mates become his kah kia :p
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in unit, u have to learn to stand up on ur own and not like others bully u.
the more shy u are, the higher chance u gonna get eaten up by pple in NS.
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Hey i was once like u...always shy shy hide 1 corner wait for ppl to come and talk to u...but if you take the initiative to talk to someone, you will find it a piece of cake when making new friends in future. If ppl cant b bothered wif u, den fu.ck them la. you got tons of ppl out there waiting to make friends wif u. The most important thing is to take the initiative. I'm speaking from experience since i'm not enlisted yet, maybe this year.
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ok change all the negative thing you say about yourself and try to be more positive in life be more confidence don't care about what other say.their comment is their problem,you live your life and there have their?
is just thought,you can be as good as other too.i use to think i am shy,less sociable but if you think positive you will attract good thing.
cheers!
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ok lah, when u just enlist into army is like tat one. u have to get used to many things, when i just enlisted, i hate it to fall in and march everywhere, greet sergeants and officers like ur their slaves, basically BMT.
but after u get out of BMT, and get posted to unit life, after a while it gets different, partly when u have more or less adapted to the so-called army life.
it happens to many others too, so dont worry, just do ur best u will be fine. most important is to make some friends u can talk to. =)
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Originally posted by iluvmilky:
it has been 2 and a half months already going to pop soon but majourity of my platoonmates and bunk mates don't like me the probblem is i am quite shy and softspoken
and they say i very blur some say i am very slow in doing things why they like to judge people so much
some people even bully me ask me to do things for them how can i be more socialble
Fuck care them.Just concentrate on POP.
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Hello TS just want you to know that being shy is not really a bad sign, shy people are generally good listener and very polite but however you still have to lighten up yourself and be brave enough to converse with people so that people can take notice of you and be your friend. The most important thing to counter your problem is to ignore what others thinks about you. You need to know that no one is perfect and entirely loved/hated by everyone.
All the best in your NS Life. :).
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TS:
Learn to make conversation.
Don't tai chi work to others, do your share of the work.