PCG here? help!
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My bf is a PCG, we have been together about half a year. I found something strange..
We only meet each other once a week, because his work is busy (that what he said). his hp is off often when i call him, the reason he give me is he can not receive call when on boat. Is it true?
Sometimes he even work whole night. Is it normal for PCG? -
yes...sometimes there is nite- shift too.Depend on which area he is on board.Maybe if near to Malaysia then probably won't be able to get to him bah!
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S0....it means he can receive phonecall if not near Malaysia.
BTW, how do you know it, a you a PCG? -
Well, I suppose some understanding might just help to lighten the situation here. Why not ask him what his job scope is really like, what his working hours is, and where he usually operates from, if he is comfortable to reveal? It helps alot more for you to grasp his responsibilities and foster understanding and compassion (for both sides, in fact. I suppose he will be glad to know that you care enough to ask), then to ask us who might not know exactly what conditions he is operating in.
And as far as mobile receptions are concerned, it is indeed true that problems arise, depending also on which operator you are talking about. For example, a distance from the mainland to Pulau Ubin can already result in zero reception. Let alone further out into the seas around Singapore.
But better yet.....ask him about it!
Just my 2 cents.
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hmmm PCG is crap lah...they only sleep in the boat..Originally posted by joyce80:My bf is a PCG, we have been together about half a year. I found something strange..
We only meet each other once a week, because his work is busy (that what he said). his hp is off often when i call him, the reason he give me is he can not receive call when on boat. Is it true?
Sometimes he even work whole night. Is it normal for PCG?
.. ok lah back to the real thing... they work one day rest one day....if i am not wrong.. hp is switch off probably cause it might interfere with the equipments on board plus if you near malaysia you be paying foreign rates. work whole night is normal for shift workers... esp police officers..dont worry he aint cheating you... -
Wrong! PCG also have the same same working pattern as yours.... except STS....Originally posted by houndy:hmmm PCG is crap lah...they only sleep in the boat.... ok lah back to the real thing... they work one day rest one day....if i am not wrong.. hp is switch off probably cause it might interfere with the equipments on board plus if you near malaysia you be paying foreign rates. work whole night is normal for shift workers... esp police officers..dont worry he aint cheating you...
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Dear Joyce,Originally posted by joyce80:My bf is a PCG, we have been together about half a year. I found something strange..
We only meet each other once a week, because his work is busy (that what he said). his hp is off often when i call him, the reason he give me is he can not receive call when on boat. Is it true?
Sometimes he even work whole night. Is it normal for PCG?
I cant tell you is PCG officer's life is as what you have just described.... But even police officers do have different way of working. Just take an example, I have a friend from XXX NPC, he usually go back from NPC at around 9 plus after work.... as for another friend from YYY NPC, his supervisor actually can have debriefing till at least 10 plus every work shift.... Both are NPCO but due to different supervisor, they work differently....
As for not having his handphone on during work, can due to alot of reasons. For eg.
1) Switching on HP might cause interference with equipments
2) Supervisor does not allow their "men" to carry hp while working
3) Officer does not have the habit of using hp while work, so he switch off
4) Some area might needs auto roaming as the reception might be poor
5) He might be from STS and hp needs to be off during work
etc etc.....
Perhaps, you can ask in nicely why he cant be contacted during work.... or you can actually know more of his colleagues so you can ask them in the future? Or you MIGHT want to get help from forumites whom are from PCG?
Hope my reply do clear your doubt in some way, do post more question if you are unsure.... But you can at the same time can ask him more if you are not comfortable about his job scpoe as its a form of respect in a relationship.... -
Thanks!Originally posted by huaiwei:Why not ask him what his job scope is really like, what his working hours is...
I did ask him, but he always give me different answers. He told me his working hour is one day work one day off, but somtimes he changed his 'answer' to office hour when i want to meet him at my off day.
that is why i wondering and ask you guys here. -
Originally posted by houndy:they only sleep in the boat..
heard about that before, but my bf told me it is not true. -
quzplm, thanks for your reply, it is very details.
did ask, but he say cant use hp during work, or cant reveice call, or have to switch off hp.... every time different answer. hazi...Originally posted by qazplm:Perhaps, you can ask in nicely why he cant be contacted during work....
Yes, this is what i want.or you can actually know more of his colleagues so you can ask them in the future? [/quote]
can not ask his colleagues lah, his colleagues will wondering why i do not trust my bf (even though i really do not trust him very much ), then it is not good to my bf, right?[quote]Or you MIGHT want to get help from forumites whom are from PCG? -
so, PCG or POLICE OFFICER, how is your job? is it interesting?
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and btw, i went into one of teir boats recently.. their toilet is very cramp.. wonder how they pang sai.. And they also have catered food.Originally posted by joyce80: heard about that before, but my bf told me it is not true.
Free food! -
good life sia....Originally posted by qazplm:Wrong! PCG also have the same same working pattern as yours.... except STS.... -
bluff...Originally posted by joyce80: heard about that before, but my bf told me it is not true. -
well....it is a normal job...Originally posted by joyce80:so, PCG or POLICE OFFICER, how is your job? is it interesting?
interesting wise...ok lah...you see things people dont see -
you mean my bf bluff or ' sleep on boat" is bluffOriginally posted by houndy:bluff... -
Like what? say lah... btw, are you a PCG?Originally posted by houndy:you see things people dont see
my bf dont like to talk about his job. but he tould me once he saw e body....e
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Not surprising that your bf dosent like to share his work experiences. Not everyone are quite comfortable about revealing too much on what they do while on duty...because some topics are just too sensitive to reveal as as far as the jobscope is concerned, or maybe the topics can freak out their loved ones?Originally posted by joyce80:Like what? say lah... btw, are you a PCG?
my bf dont like to talk about his job. but he tould me once he saw e body....e 
For example, I am definitely not going to tell my mum that I had to escort a mental patient from one hospital to another recently, coz she has very little tolerence for danger and deviancy in general? I have not seen a dead body yet...muahahah. 
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Haha.. isn't it ironic? You encouraged Joyce to ask her bf about his jobscope and now you are saying many are not comfortable abt sharing. And now you yourself not comfortable about telling your mom.Originally posted by huaiwei:Not surprising that your bf dosent like to share his work experiences. Not everyone are quite comfortable about revealing too much on what they do while on duty...because some topics are just too sensitive to reveal as as far as the jobscope is concerned, or maybe the topics can freak out their loved ones?
For example, I am definitely not going to tell my mum that I had to escort a mental patient from one hospital to another recently, coz she has very little tolerence for danger and deviancy in general? I have not seen a dead body yet...muahahah.
There are many things that are sensitive due to the nature of the job. So how and where do you draw the line? What can be said what can't? -
there mus be a lotta understanding and tolerance....
i neber ask him abt work......he will tell me if he wants to tell me......which are usually the farnie things tt happened at work.....
i oso dun call him when he is at work.......i oni sms him......i believe if he is free or not busy he will call me or reply my sms....
btw, he not from PCG -
Haha.....its not exactly a contradiction lah. I would think it helps alot to understand things from both perspectives? Being willing to ask is one thing loh. Knowing why and what he might want to reveal, and then knowing what kind of questions to ask first before getting to the root of the issue might be a good strategy to take loh.Originally posted by malcolmloke:Haha.. isn't it ironic? You encouraged Joyce to ask her bf about his jobscope and now you are saying many are not comfortable abt sharing. And now you yourself not comfortable about telling your mom.
There are many things that are sensitive due to the nature of the job. So how and where do you draw the line? What can be said what can't?
Not easy lah, but no one ever said a relationship has to be an easy walk in the park thingy right? -
Ya but still.. where to draw the line of what can be said what cannot?Originally posted by huaiwei:Haha.....its not exactly a contradiction lah. I would think it helps alot to understand things from both perspectives? Being willing to ask is one thing loh. Knowing why and what he might want to reveal, and then knowing what kind of questions to ask first before getting to the root of the issue might be a good strategy to take loh.
Not easy lah, but no one ever said a relationship has to be an easy walk in the park thingy right? -
well all i can say is that, just ask... and understand, learn more about what he's doing... or just notice the pattern of the work hours...
i work shifts, i'm not in SPF btw. and i won't know my timing until the day before. But there is a certain timing... i won't say mine is that complicated to understand, but i do tell my gf what time i start daily... what time i finish i can't confirm also. I am also recallable too.
sometimes during work i can't pick up the phone either, i put it to silent and i check it end of work...
well i guess its up to ur bf whether he wants to let u know more or not. -
Hmm...personally I would consider two things. OSA (plus PGO, PPPO, and all that kind of stuff), and the person I am talking to in the first place loh (as in, in terms of trust, how receptive he/she is to the information given, and what he wants to know it for, etc). Obviously there is no hard and fast rule as to where the line is drawn, and whether one actually wishes to stick more to one or the other of the above two factors is a matter of personal integrity and accountability with regards to his profession, yet knowing that he has to reassure his loved ones and manage his private life at the same time?Originally posted by malcolmloke:Ya but still.. where to draw the line of what can be said what cannot?
It is as much a struggle for the officer as it is for his/her loved ones, obviously. -
cant help but reply to this topic...after reading much, i guess dat joyce, u r selfish lor...
1st: u SHOULD trust ur bf...if u dun trust him, i dun tink dere's any point being together lor...
2nd: being a police officer or PCG or wadeva job in SPF, dun tink the fella can tell u much abt his job...cos its all confidential....
3rd: he's oready been working like so long hrs, tink if u were him, i dun tink u wanna tok abt ur job-of-the-day...i tink he wld wanna spend a peaceful day wif u rather den keep telling u wad's gg on during work today...i mean, working hrs r over..im sure when u r out to work, u'll be the same lor...after working hrs is happy hrs...
4th: turning on the fone, den how's he gonna concentrate on his work? keep tokin to u n let the criminal run away den kena sack? u wanna see dat? dun tink so rite? wad if turnin on the HP n the radio cause smtng bad to the machines he's using? dun tink u wanna lose him IF u love him...
so my main pt here is, the real reason for u to start a topic regarding ur bf's job is dat u dun wanna noe abt his job...u only wanna noe abt his routine every work day so dat u noe when's his brk, when he can turn on his fone so u can call him...
and im sure even if u tink he's flirting wif his female colleagues while working... think again.....
juz trust him wif his work...n do note dat uniform jobs r now not metal ricebowl anymore...its more like toiletbowl now... (sorry folks~)
like wad some of dem said...diff divisions, diff sups...diff jobscope, gets diff timing of wadeva (brk time, knockoff time, start work time)
lastly, flame me if u wanna... but trust someone who been dere, done dat....
my words may seems too harsh to anyone.... but juz wan joyce to tink abt the r/s