Originally posted by fett:
how come all over the world, people talk about the Prince but no one talk about the Princess and the child they had? read an article about it some months bad. it really is unfair to her and the child siddhartha leave behind.
Your statement seems all too familiar...
It was not unfair. Prince Siddhartha could have became a Universal Monarch as prophecised by some ascetics (many ascetics prophecised that he will either become a universal monarch or Buddha, with one ascetic prophecising that he WILL certainly attain buddhahood). He is the greatest hope for his father, his father intends to give him the throne and let him rule his lands. However, after seeing that things are impermanent, after seeing the 4 sights - old age, sickness, death and the holy person, he has convinced himself that he could not bring true happiness to people around the world if he could not find the truth to end birth and death. He could give gold to poor, he could sacrifice what he has for his people, but he could not liberate them from sufferings ultimately. He has thus set out his quest for the Buddhadharma so that he will be able to save sentient beings from all directions on Earth. This, is more important than being a universal monarch for him.
When Buddha left his palace, he tried to bring his son secretly without letting his wife know. However, because his son was tightly held by his wife, and it's too dangerous for him to grab the baby or else it will certainly wake his wife. So, he had no choice but to leave the palace without the baby.
Buddha said that he will only return when he had found the truth to liberation. When he became a Buddha, he sent his disciple to ask his wife to allow his son to renunce, saying that he intends to bring him to the path of Sainthood. The wife detested at first, but when Buddha appeared in front of her miraculously (Buddha seldom appear in this way but only in special instances), and explained to her about impermanence and the futility of samsaric relation and talked about their history in previous life and the pointlessness of it, that his wife has been liberated from her sorrows and to allow Rahula to be ordained.
Lord Buddha received from his father a message asking him to visit his native place, so that he might see him once more before he died. Buddha accepted his invitation gladly and started for Kapilavastu. He stayed in a forest outside the city. His father and relatives came to see him, but they were not pleased with their ascetic Gautama. They left the place after a short time. They did not make any arrangement for his and his followers' daily food. After all, they were worldly people. Buddha went to the city and begged his food from door to door. This news reached the ears of his father. He tried to stop Gautama from begging. Gautama said: "O king, I am a mendicant - I am a monk. It is my duty to get alms from door to door. This is the duty of the Order. Why do you stop this ? The food that is obtained from alms is very pure". His father did not pay any attention to the words of Gautama. He snatched the bowl from his hand and took him to his palace. All came to pay Buddha their respects, but his wife Yasodhara did not come. She said, "He himself will come to me, if I am of any value in his eyes". She was a very chaste lady endowed with Viveka (discrimination), Vairagya (dispassion) and other virtuous qualities. From the day she lost her husband she gave up all her luxuries. She took very simple food once daily and slept on a mat. She led a life of severe austerities. Gautama heard all this. He was very much moved. He went at once to see her. She prostrated at his feet. She caught hold of his feet and burst into tears. Buddha established an order of female ascetics. Yasodhara became the first of the Buddhistic nuns.
Yasodhara pointed out the passing Buddha to her son through a window and said, "O Rahula! That monk is your father. Go to him and ask for your birthright. Tell him boldly, 'I am your son. Give me my heritage'". Rahula at once went up to Buddha and said, "Dear father, give me my heritage". Buddha was taking his food then. He did not give any reply. The boy repeatedly asked for his heritage. Buddha went to the forest. The boy also silently followed him to the forest. Buddha said to one of his disciples, "I give this boy the precious spiritual wealth I acquired under the sacred Bo-tree. I make him the heir to that wealth". Rahula was initiated into the order of monks. The King, discovering that now his grandson and a number of young men in the royal family had requested ordination, asked the Buddha only to ordain a minor with the consent of his parents or guardian. The Buddha assented. This rule was expanded to include the spouses of those intending to join the Order of monks and nuns. The Venerable Rahula was known for his humility and his desire for spiritual learning. He shunned any special consideration as the son of the Awakened One, and was noted for his high standard of discipline. Eventually, he realized Enlightenment. The Venerable Rahula predeceased the Buddha.Rahula entered into the Sangha and became the youngest disciple. He became one of the top 10 disciples of Buddha and have attained Arhatship and Nirvana. His wife, Yasodhara, also attained Arhatship and Nirvana.
Not everyone is so fortunate to have a Father that could bring his son to Liberation from Samsara! He has liberated his wife from the samsaric cycle of their relationships and cleared her sorrows, bringing an end to all her sufferings! So yes, maybe, it's a little unfair that not everyone has an enlightened one as their relative.