Help me... i got anger problem
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I get real fustrated and angry so so easily these days... and no matter what, it just wouldnt go away... i tried the deep breathings, tried jogging and bursting my lungs, tried taking a nap, play games, watch movies to distract myself to no avail.... Its so bad that i had a real urge to beat up someone or destroy something... Cause of the problem is mostly quarrels with my gf... Tried real hard to communicate with her also no use... Help!! Can someone give me some advice? Got anything for me to meditate?
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hi..
i duno much abt buddhism actually..but u can try recitin of 'da ci da bei zou'..
it does hav 'magical effect'..and it works..trust mi..juz b patience..
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fren how was u when u get angry ???Originally posted by crescent:I get real fustrated and angry so so easily these days... and no matter what, it just wouldnt go away... i tried the deep breathings, tried jogging and bursting my lungs, tried taking a nap, play games, watch movies to distract myself to no avail.... Its so bad that i had a real urge to beat up someone or destroy something... Cause of the problem is mostly quarrels with my gf... Tried real hard to communicate with her also no use... Help!! Can someone give me some advice? Got anything for me to meditate?
dun u feel tired after u cool down .
You cannot meditate now .your mind is not cooling down good enuff
u should just get a sandbag and start beating till u cool down
well gf problem is quite hard to resolve , y not tell her you want to cool down period of your relationship .one of your have to give and take -
Are you a Buddhist?Originally posted by crescent:I get real fustrated and angry so so easily these days... and no matter what, it just wouldnt go away... i tried the deep breathings, tried jogging and bursting my lungs, tried taking a nap, play games, watch movies to distract myself to no avail.... Its so bad that i had a real urge to beat up someone or destroy something... Cause of the problem is mostly quarrels with my gf... Tried real hard to communicate with her also no use... Help!! Can someone give me some advice? Got anything for me to meditate?
For a start, you should chant Na Mo Guan Shi Yin Pu Sa, 108 times everyday.
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from http://buddhism.sgforums.com/?action=thread_display&thread_id=98448If anyone wants to hurt you and pushes you into a great fire-pit, if you contemplate the power of Avalokitesvara, the fire-pit will change into a pond. - Lotus Sutra
So, this is what the translation says. But my master explained that, the great-fire-pit refers to the fires of hatred and anger, while the pond, clear and pure, refers to our Buddhamind. This relates to a true story, or experience, back in Taiwan.
My master had once observed that one of his disciples will meet a tribulation in the coming days... He called him up, and advised him not to be moved away from the triple jems (buddha, dharma, sangha), CHANT Guan-Shir-Yin frequently, and never to be affected by any anger. Just next day, this disciple was working at the construction site (he is a construction worker). Then, he got into an argument with someone on who should use the machine first. Tension rosed, and finally they decided to "settle it" outside. Suddenly, this person remembered my master's words, and began to truly regrett his earlier harshness. He chanted Namo Guanshiryin Pusa, and became very peaceful and calm, and smiled happily. The other person then went there to "settle" the issue, but seeing that he was smiling, he walked away. He threw a vegetable knife he was hiding onto the table. On seeing this, the person (who chanted guanshiryin) was extremely shocked, and realised what could have happened if he had continued the conflict. He was without any weapons, how could he be able to survive, fighting him with a fist?
From this, we should chant, pay reverence, learn, and most importantly, Be Avalokitesvara Bodhisattva. We should learn to be compassionate in all situations, a Bodhisattva's compassion is selfless.
This is the testimonial to the "power of Avalokitesvara", of course, testimonials are really a lot, many people meeting disasters, car accidents, those that one definitely could not have survived, are saved miraculously by the Avalokitesvara Bodhisattva.
Those who suffers from bad temper and strong hatred can try chanting regularly.. perhaps, 108 times a day. Most importantly, when we chant, we must not let our mind wander, and practice Samadhi (concentration, one-pointedness) on the chanting. In this way, chanting works best to remove our minds of sentient, samsaric thoughts.
We should all learn to be compassionate like Avalokitesvara Bodhisattva.
“The ultimate goal of teaching is that Emptiness whose essence is Compassion.” - Great Pandita Atisha
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Lastly, if you are not a Buddhist yet, you should take refuge in Three Treasures. You may also wish to learn Meditation from a qualified teacher. -
It's called Da Bei ZhouOriginally posted by simplified:hi..
i duno much abt buddhism actually..but u can try recitin of 'da ci da bei zou'..
it does hav 'magical effect'..and it works..trust mi..juz b patience..
all the best..
Also known as Great Compassion Mantra -
try zen meditation
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Break up with your girlfriend lah...
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hi ..cresent
as for bashin sth ..i would not recommend coz what if the nxt time ur problem is much much bigger? will u turn as to bashin someone up?Originally posted by bohiruci:u should just get a sandbag and start beating till u cool down
(dun intend to get a tree dun plant the seed..)
of course u can do other things like running etc..
i assume by posting here means u tat u would like to solve it in reglious ways rite..?
yes i agree..to curb anger, hatred, chanting (compasssion mantra) do 'remove them'..slowly but near complete..provided u hav the patience and the right mentality..nothing can be done if u not willing to help urslf in the first place..Originally posted by An Eternal Now:Those who suffers from bad temper and strong hatred can try chanting regularly
er mental illness like stress and depression oso help..
its all part and parcel of human life to encounter pbms..in fact u shld b glad that u went thru them cause u will gain wisdom..that allow u to tide over much moe diffculties in the future. big pbm gain big wisdom..
i thought its ' DA CHI DA BEI ZHOU'..name after DA CHI DA BEI GUAN SHI YIN POR SA'...?Originally posted by An Eternal Now:It's called Da Bei Zhou Also known as Great Compassion Mantra
sumtimes i feel that meditation is veri similiar to runnin long distances..coz both require breathin technique,same feelin ...maby i not tat pro yet..haaOriginally posted by dragg:try zen meditation
theres other meditation rite? can share wif mi? anyone?
erm...actually everyone can invoke communication with the unseen(spiritual)..
juz ned to improve ur sensitivity wif human beings first..coz spiritual will b close to those wo will tink like them.. (of course tis not the pirorty in buddhist practise...)
deliver without seek...shall gain..even more...
how to improve?
juz ned a silent prayin for the well-being for all human being...frm here u will gradually improve ur sensitivity and which will lead to many tings..a sincere heart will do..
but however this kind of tings might lead to some physology kind of things..so ned to b careful but if u can recover frm mental illness..it will b even best(hope can understand)....character oso play a part too..
im not in position to teach or watsoever..juz my thought ..to share wif u all...
hav a great day~ -
Originally posted by simplified:
Breathing Meditation in Buddhism is not like Yoga or Qi Gong, you don't purposely 'Huuuuuuu'... 'Xiiiiii', breathe in and breathe out. No. You simply remain focused and aware of your breathing. Breathe normally. And a person should learn Meditation from a qualified Buddhist teacher...
[b]hi ..cresent
sumtimes i feel that meditation is veri similiar to runnin long distances..coz both require breathin technique,same feelin ...maby i not tat pro yet..haa
theres other meditation rite? can share wif mi? anyone?erm...actually everyone can invoke communication with the unseen(spiritual).. juz ned to improve ur sensitivity wif human beings first..coz spiritual will b close to those wo will tink like them.. (of course tis not the pirorty in buddhist practise...)
Quite a lot of people can communicate with spirits. Even if a person has the abilities to communicate with the spiritual world, it may not be a very good thing, and does not mean a person has attained much. Because Spirit realm belongs to the 3 lower realms, it is not what we seek. Another thing is, a person can have 'Gui3 Shen2 Tong1' and able to see many things a normal person can't. This is not good, it is not the 'Shen2 Tong1' that great practitioners have. Gui Shen Tong has to do with the spiritual realm.
deliver without seek...shall gain..even more...
A person should have Enlightenment as his focus.how to improve?
Develope compassion and loving kindness for all beings, but not some kind of special abilities. Aiming to develope special abilities can be dangerous. A person should just sincerely practise the Dharma and not be too bothered about these kind of things...
juz ned a silent prayin for the well-being for all human being...frm here u will gradually improve ur sensitivity and which will lead to many tings..a sincere heart will do..
but however this kind of tings might lead to some physology kind of things..so ned to b careful but if u can recover frm mental illness..it will b even best(hope can understand)....character oso play a part too... -
btw, pls read my PM first
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"Cause of the problem is mostly quarrels with my gf... Tried real hard to communicate with her also no use..."Originally posted by simplified:hi ..cresent
sumtimes i feel that meditation is veri similiar to runnin long distances..coz both require breathin technique,same feelin ...maby i not tat pro yet..haa
theres other meditation rite? can share wif mi? anyone?
erm...actually everyone can invoke communication with the unseen(spiritual)..
juz ned to improve ur sensitivity wif human beings first..coz spiritual will b close to those wo will tink like them.. (of course tis not the pirorty in buddhist practise...)
deliver without seek...shall gain..even more...
how to improve?
juz ned a silent prayin for the well-being for all human being...frm here u will gradually improve ur sensitivity and which will lead to many tings..a sincere heart will do..
but however this kind of tings might lead to some physology kind of things..so ned to b careful but if u can recover frm mental illness..it will b even best(hope can understand)....character oso play a part too..
im not in position to teach or watsoever..juz my thought ..to share wif u all...
hav a great day~
Its girlfriend problem ...
I guess u are trying to share what u can , but u see the crux of the issue , crescent is u must try to talk to your gf ?
u get wat i mean ?
and simplified , may i ask are u referring to pyschic ?
first the root of crescent problem is bgr , must be resolved first
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hi bohiruci
yes i agree..
Oops, sorry..irrelvant..kinda confuse u ppl..sorry..Originally posted by crescent:I get real fustrated and angry so so easily these days... and no matter what, it just wouldnt go away...b][/quote]
frm an aunt agony point of view, no doubt its a bgr pbm..yes cressent muz tok to girlfriend all tat..but i believe..tese all goes down to common sense and i believe cressent would hav done tat..
sumtin like tis :
1)quarrel --> tok to gf --> pbm solved ...but then tis pbm will repeatin if sumtin else is not..and obviously anger and hatred arisis each time..addin on more burden
if in the first place anger and hatred is kept to the mininum..it wnt led to so much quarrel..sumtin like tis..
2)mantra ---> less anger and hatred ---> less quarrel ---> less repeatin of cycle 1
sumtimes when u r inside a circle..u realised the circle is big..
but if u stand outside the circle..u realised how small it actually is..
circle = pbm
and mantra do let u 'stand outside'..root of anger and hatred will b eliminated...and u will not meet wif pbms related to these two again in life..
juz to share..i live wif anger and hatred for many years..(of course not to the extent of hurting sumone)..its a accumulative effect..till i pick up recitin mantra..
[quote]Originally posted by bohiruci:
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and simplified , may i ask are u referring to pyschic ?
tis is redundant and treat it as rubbish..
sorry..
erms ..tink everyone hope best for cressent..i juz sharing my thoughts ..not to challenge anyone or critise whoever..
i may sound blunt ..but obivously i dun mean it..
or mayb cressent juz wan to find aplace to vent his frustration onli..so my points will b too serious and irrelevant...
nice to meet u bohiruci, hope to hear more frm ur expert views too on other threads..
all best~ -
hi eternal..
sorry i ned to spend time to read and analysis and ponder...i appreciated alot..thank you but i will get back soon...i got alot of question to ask..
thank you..
gd health~ -
i thought its ' DA CHI DA BEI ZHOU'..name after DA CHI DA BEI GUAN SHI YIN POR SA'...?
Sorry, missed out on this question. Yes, Da Bei Zhou originated from Avalokitesvara Bodhisattva while He is perceiving the Universal Sound. However, the name of the mantra is called Da Bei Zhou, or Great Compassion Mantra. Slightly different names.
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ic..k thanks..Originally posted by An Eternal Now:Sorry, missed out on this question. Yes, Da Bei Zhou originated from Avalokitesvara Bodhisattva while He is perceiving the Universal Sound. However, the name of the mantra is called Da Bei Zhou, or Great Compassion Mantra. Slightly different names.
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Also, I hope you do not get offended by my previous posts
nono..Originally posted by An Eternal Now:Also, I hope you do not get offended by my previous posts
i more than welcome all comments..be it gd or bad..
juz b frank in ur views..its ok..dun hold back...
sumtimes i ned some time to reply..sorrie
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boundless sea of knowledge..
do i ned a float or a guide or in fact.. -
borrow a book on meditation from the library.
it really helps. -
There are many books on meditation around, but nothing is as good as learning from a teacher directly.Originally posted by dragg:borrow a book on meditation from the library.
it really helps. -
Recommend read:
Still Water Pool - Achan Cha
Heart to Buddhist Meditation - nera...
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unless he learn it from someone face to face otherwise the best and clearest way is to follow the book.Originally posted by An Eternal Now:There are many books on meditation around, but nothing is as good as learning from a teacher directly. -
Yes.Originally posted by dragg:unless he learn it from someone face to face otherwise the best and clearest way is to follow the book. -
errr..the message tat i wan to get across here is to put urslf in other ppl in all circumstances, always try to noe wat they r tinkin. by doin tis u will understand their point of view and the problem they face..then wif their views and the problem, u will b able to analysis tings better and offer a better solution. this is to b sensitive...at the same time ur wisdom will b double , thriple coz...u get to expose to more pbm which will gain u more wisdomOriginally posted by simplified:how to improve?
juz ned a silent prayin for the well-being for all human being...frm here u will gradually improve ur sensitivity and which will lead to many tings..a sincere heart will do..
hav a great day~
juz my rumblin thoughts.. -
Sorry, I seem to have mistaken what you meant. You were talking about being sensitive to spirits previously, so it was sort of confusing.Originally posted by simplified:errr..the message tat i wan to get across here is to put urslf in other ppl in all circumstances, always try to noe wat they r tinkin. by doin tis u will understand their point of view and the problem they face..then wif their views and the problem, u will b able to analysis tings better and offer a better solution. this is to b sensitive...at the same time ur wisdom will b double , thriple coz...u get to expose to more pbm which will gain u more wisdom
juz my rumblin thoughts.. -
Originally posted by simplified:
sensitivity with ppl is always top priorty..
erm...actually everyone can invoke communication with the unseen(spiritual)..
juz ned to improve ur sensitivity wif human beings [b]first..coz spiritual will b close to those wo will tink like them.. (of course tis not the pirorty in buddhist practise...)
deliver without seek...shall gain..even more...
how to improve?
juz ned a silent prayin for the well-being for all human being...frm here u will gradually improve ur sensitivity and which will lead to many tings..a sincere heart will do..
but however this kind of tings might lead to some physology kind of things..so ned to b careful but if u can recover frm mental illness..it will b even best(hope can understand)....character oso play a part too..
im not in position to teach or watsoever..juz my thought ..to share wif u all...
hav a great day~
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my spiritual = guardian angels
my thoughts.. -
It is not important either. If you are a very virtuous person, naturally good spirits, and even deva (celestial beings) if you are a very very virtuous person, will protect you. But being a Buddhist, we don't really deal with these beings. Unless we are enlightened beings, then it is another matter. If we deal with such beings it would be for the purpose of liberating them.Originally posted by simplified:sensitivity with ppl is always top priorty..
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The Buddha said, life is suffering, one can suffer mentally and physically.Originally posted by crescent:I get real fustrated and angry so so easily these days... and no matter what, it just wouldnt go away... i tried the deep breathings, tried jogging and bursting my lungs, tried taking a nap, play games, watch movies to distract myself to no avail.... Its so bad that i had a real urge to beat up someone or destroy something... Cause of the problem is mostly quarrels with my gf... Tried real hard to communicate with her also no use... Help!! Can someone give me some advice? Got anything for me to meditate?
anxiety and worry are twin evils, so is anger and so forth.
can someone post what the Buddha taught on anger so that he can understand anger is nothing more than a negative mental state.
you can change your mental state by being positive, the choice is yours, whether to suffer or to enjoy life.
anger is poison to mind, when one is angry, ur body releases endorphins, which is like a poison, thats why when you are angry, you dun feel good. try eating chocolates or ice cream therapy, sing at ktv or exercising cos these activities will release a chemical that makes you happy in your body.