Help me... i got anger problem
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Consider this Mahany Text from the 8th Century:- If
somebody beats you with a stick, do you get angry with
the stick or the person ? The stick actually causes the
pain, but it is foolish to get angry at the stick. To
whom do we get angry ? We get angry at the person who is
beating us. But behind his action, there is always
motivation. Why do they beat you ? They beat you because
of their own anger. Their anger is motivating them to
beat you with the stick. Should you get angry at their
anger ? Because of causes and conditions, their anger
has arisen. But anger rises and falls. After a while
their anger will pass.
and this one:
''If someone beats you with a stick would you get angry at the stick? No.
Why? Because the stick has no control over its actions. In the same way the
person that doesn't love you, that abuses you, that hurts you, that person
is completely under the control of their anger. That person is a total
slave to anger. This person has no freedom. Therefore, the right response
is compassion. You must help the person find how to be free from their
anger. You must help the person find peace.'' -
My Taiwanese teacher said before some years ago... that this kind of 'love' is the most hardest thing to 'renounce'. He says that to solve this problem is not by completely getting rid of all the love and feelings for her. But it is allevating this smaller/selfish 'love' into a greater love. If you get what I mean
Let this love reach out to all the people, and not just stuck on one person and your own personal desires and interests and attachments.
Anyway both quotes from above contain important teachings on Emptiness